This woman is a nightmare. My first period came when I was at my dad's house- all I wanted was my stepmother. She hugged me, gave me one of her pads to use, then went right out and got me my own supply (it was quickly becoming apparent that what she was using wasn't adequate) plus came back from the store with some cute jammies for me to wear because "it's important to be comfortable at that time".

YTA. Why couldn't you share? Why not buy her some of her own and why the HELL did you make such a big deal out of it. Stepdaughter is very young and probably embarrassed and feels insecure. Definitely YTA.

1) Dad is a jerk for not being comfortable discussing menstruation, even with a child he helped create. Dude, grow up. 2) Stepmom is either a jerk or is incredibly immature. Discovering that a young girl who you cohabitate with has just gotten her period isn't the time to accuse her of stealing. Two years ago would have been a great time to make sure the girl had a stash of products available to her whenever she might need them, or a friend visiting might need them.

The woman is obviously failing at being step-mother or best friend, otherwise her step-daughter would have felt comfortable enough to be able to go to her. For goodness sake, "I don't like to share" how ridiculous can you get. It's an unspoken rule that you help someone out with sanitary towels or tampons in their hour of need, even if they are a stranger.

I'm really happy that for once, I can clearly answer this post with YTA. I know sanitary products aren't giveaway but come on - surely a box of pads won't cost that much?!

OP missed a real bonding moment with her stepdaughter. First periods are once-in-a-lifetime moments, and now this poor kid will grow up knowing she was shamed during hers, and by another woman. YTA, OP.

I agree with the comment about sharing with strangers in the bathroom if needed. I would. I even keep a box at our house for the few days a year our niece visits just in case. And I haven't needed them for 6 years now. Still keep them on hand

YOU LIVE WITH A 16F AND DONT STOCK HER BATHROOM WITH ANY PRODUCTS FOR PERIODS? YTA YTA YTA

If that's OP treating her step-daughter like "best friend" I don't want to know how she treats regular acquaintances, lol.

holy heck.. girl code.. we share those things with anyone that needs them.

I asked my husband to grab me a snack when he went into a garage the other day, he came out with the smallest sushi box and a tub of melon and grapes - I was starving - both my daughters piped up and wanted a bit of sushi each, there were a whole 4 bits in the packet, and then the youngest asked for the grapes from the fruit - this was minutes after I bought a 4 pack of chocolate bars and my husband, daughters and son ate them. Did I "want" to share? Did I hell, but I did because they're kids (although my oldest daughter is now 18) and how am I meant to encourage them to share and be kind if I'm not. And that's just snacks - there's zero's chance I'd be arsey and deprive any person from hygiene products whether they're my kid, step kid, acquaintance or stranger - it's a bloody pad (literally) not her diamond earrings or something personal like a vibrator - she needs to get a grip

You don't like to share?!? Grow the F up, you selfish, immature child. That poor girl needed help, not for you to have a temper tantrum over a PAD. In case it's not obvious, you a huge-fing-a$$hole!!

She would still BTA even if the girl had taken ALL of her pads! I had no idea what to do with pads/when to toss them when I started using them. No one really explained how long you were to wear them, how much blood they could hold, etc., so it's not surprising if this poor girl didn't know how many she'd need either and took them in a panic. I love how the "stepmom" tried using her own time of the month as an excuse to be shitty to this young woman but WOW.

HUH??? You never had to share! Give her a clean unused one! If he father had any sense he'd chuck YOU out of his house.

"I'll pay extra for gas and groceries to 'save' Ukraine, but that whore of a teenage stepdaughter better not touch my pads!" That's you, lady, that's what you seem like. Good job, I hope you get divorced.

Lol she seriously thought someone would say she would be NTA?? What planet is she coming from...

I do not like this woman. I feel so bad for her stepdaughter. I could just feel how humiliating and painful this is for her. What the hell is wrong with this woman not entirely preparing herself that her husband’s daughter is a minor and once in a while she will be in need of an advice/ support that only women can provide.

Dear god yes, YTA lady! Who the hell does that to a kid who just started her period and is probably a little freaked out, and obviously embarrassed, by it already. They are only pads and you bought 2 boxes of them anyway!

Look up stingy in the dictionary and this woman's picture will be there as the definition.

Yes you are smh

finally an "AH" in one of these posts lol

I agree with pretty much everyone. Maybe the whole period experience was a celebration to you and who cares mentalities. These past few years have taught me how bad depression is these days for ,this young generation. Laughing or treating one's insecurities as insignificant is cruel, periods aside. Now, involving periods that's worse. Getting angry and verbal about pads taken is ridiculous. I would have been guilt ridden that I missed the signs and didn't plan ahead for support. Some dads are all over it but it doesn't sound like that's the case here, in fact it sounds like this is a very insecure child though16, with little or no support from anyone. Your reaction was cruel and thoughtless. Your stepdaughter isn't messed up , she clearly has no support. You will learn here there are far more horror stories about periods than , happy ones. You need to grow up and apologize. Adulting isn't supposed to be easy.

Wow... Just wow. I use a cup and some pantyliners but, I have a drawer in the guest bathroom with all manner of products just in case one of my guests need something. Geez, this woman is the embodiment of evil step mom...Especially since this was the girls first time!! Way to stigmatize her!!

I didn't even read the text. I was just like, "Yep. You are absolutely, positively, the hugest a*s." Then I read it and I was right.

You are the woman in the family, you should have empathy for your stepdaughter, not treat her like she's a stranger stealing your stuff. No wonder she's afraid to come to you. You are a selfish person, I feel sorry for your stepdaughter and you are TA.

"I just don't like to share" what, are you toddler or something?

On top of everything else, this woman also broke a sacred rule among women everywhere: need a pad/tampon? No questions asked, I got you, fam. Even if it's someone I hate, you just do it. But, no, this woman is very selfish and childish. I really hope the MUCH older husband divorced her, or is in the process of it and finds someone who is not only closer to his own age, but actually respects his child.

Yes you are a complete a*s hole.

YTA.

COME ON. If you go to a public toilet and a stranger (or even your worst enemy) walks in and ask for a pad/tampon you give them what you have. Every woman knows that. This is more about wife not wanting to take responsibility for her husbands child in any way and while I can get that - then she shouldn't have decided to stay in the relationship or get married. No one is expecting her to act like mom against her wishes but if you decide to stay with a partner who has kids they are in your life too. It's a package deal and you are expected to be a trusted ADULT in their life.

She broke girl code. I gave my enemy an extra pad the other day. GIRLS HELP EACH OTHER. I hate this woman, she sounds like an absolute f*****g nightmare

I'm guessing she has zero parental role with this girl, probably bordering on roommates. She reacted accordingly: like she would with a roommate who stole her stuff. Her reaction seems based more on 1) the girl snuck into her private bathroom, where she wasn't supposed to be, 2) didn't inform anyone of the situation so they could make proper arrangements for her, 3) flat out lied to her face, multiple times, when asked, even though confirming would have enabled her to go buy stuff to help the girl 4) took an entire box, half of the supplies she purchased for herself, 5) is annoyed at the implication that it's her job to purchase and supply this girl with (expensive) sanitary products, rather than the actual parent, and, biggest of all, 6) her husband just gave his daughter permission to steal her stuff. I think she is way more pissed off at her husband than the girl. With the girl she seemed annoyed that she wouldn't just tell her what she needed, but it didn't escalate until hubby showed up and hand wavedly dismissed it all as nothing and commanded her to be fine and share.

wtf I would give a sanitary pad to a homeless stranger on a street if she asked. she is your daughter and you had two packs what is wrong with you

Without even reading the posts, the question itself just screams that the person asking it is an a*****e.

When I first got my period I was 11, and my stepmom (who might as well be my real mom) was a straight up MVP about it because I didn't know what was going on and got scared. She immediately gave me a pack of her pads and showed me how to put one on. This was about 4 years after she came into my life. This woman is a terror and I hope this girl's dad kicks her to the curb for this childish, selfish nonsense.