Aaannnddd…block them all. NC is the only way to go. You’re done doing their bidding.

As a former foster child, I speak from painful experience when I say that there is only one mature response to the foster parents' request for financial assistance--FÙCK OFF. I spent nine years in that hellhole known as the foster care system, and OP nailed it down pat. Not all foster homes are like Devil's Island, but too many of them are. The foster parents are sweet as pie the first month you're there, so you'll let your guard down. After that, the masks come off: you automatically become the unpaid domestic, any phone calls to relatives are monitored on an extension, letters are "screened" before mailing, and corporal punishment is introduced (which, by the way, is illegal). You'll never see a cent of the monthly allowance you are supposed to receive from the county; it automatically goes into guess who's pocket. You get the absolute minimum in everything. The best day you'll have is getting out of foster care, once and for all.

Foster parents get paid for the kids they take in, OP dosen't own them a godamn thing. Zip, zero nada!

They get paid by the state every month for every foster they have. They were paid to treat her like a slave and to her knowledge none of the other kids were. She needs to report these jerks for their treatment so they can be investigated and find if there were any other kids it happened to. There is a big NO as to giving them a single penny. Like I said they were paid by the state for her.

No one owes someone else for raising them. The foster parents made the choice to foster her. It was literally the job they signed up for, and the job they didn’t do.

Sometimes you have to set boundaries to protect yourself, even if it hurts.

Foster parents get PAID to house and feed those kids. She owes them nothing, and should send a bill for all the work she did for them.

Just this year a couple was arrested for using their foster kids as farm hands (free labor/slavery) . They also locked them up and barely fed them. Hateful people. I suspect this is occurring more than we know.

When they only inquire about you when it's about money...

A chance to make amends?! Are you HIGH? Demanding free money isn't making amends; it's being a selfish POS who clearly regrets nothing! As we used to say when I was a kid, "up yer bum and around the corner". Sheesh.

To that last poster who thought that since OP was doing well financially she should help out the foster parents who treated her as an indentured servant: If OP had decided to help the "parents" out ONCE, they'll keep on coming to her for help because they're "family", even though they treated her as less than! Better she send them an invoice for services rendered and demand payment for the years owed.

OK, these were foster parents. They treat her like a slave. They did not let her have fun in her young life and they were very cruel to her. I know this can be true because I’ve seen it happen to people I’ve known in the past. Why again why would she help her foster parents who didn’t give a damn about her own life when she was growing up. Now that she’s successful she worked hard for what she got. She was uses a slave, not a member of the family. Maids have time off, have weekends off and can enjoy their life. She was treated as a slave and used by the system. I feel sorry for this young woman and these foster parents should’ve been reported a long time ago. They did not accept this child to live a good life. They accepted this child to do all the chores why they enjoy their own precious life. Karma is a b***h now they’re getting their in return. So happy life, foster parents.

This family was PAID a monthly stipend to essentially have a live in maid. You're doing the right thing. Tell them they should've saved the money they made off of your blood sweat and tears.

The family are lucky OP didn't murder them in their beds. Asking for money is ludicrous.

You are a survivor and you thrived away. You don't owe them a thing whether biological or adoptive parents. They sound like my bio family although, they just wanted me to continue enslaving me. They were filthy, I was the only one that cared. So I moved too far to drive over. Congratulations on your success and I wish you a long guilt free life. Keep thriving

She owes the foster parents NOTHING except some prison time. Get a new phone number. You deserve a good life free of the leeches. God bless and keep you strong and safe

Do not be surprised when the children you treat like s**t want nothing to do with you later in life. The ONLY reason they even reached out was because they heard s/he was financially well off.

Send them a quarter so they can call someone who'll care. You are NTA

First call or send them a message telling them you forgive them for how they treated/abused/used you while living with them. Then let them know you will not be assisting them in any way. Also tell your foster siblings to jointly contribute to the parents that neglected you and if any of them were a part of the household at the time you were there and benefited from this abuse forgive them also for not saying something when it was happening. Then they can just eat bricks. The act of forgiveness is for your sake and then go on with your life. Be blessed and full of love, peace, happiness, joy and prosperity.

NTA What nerve to say you owe them because their "tough love" made you who you are today! Tough love my *** - it was unforgivable cruelty (not to mention involuntary servitude) & neglect.YOU made yourself who you are today, despite them & I hope you have a very happy life now. But you owe them absolutely nothing - not even the time of day. If you gave them anything now, they'd be back later for more, maybe even want to move in with you. The children who were treated well seem to think highly of these scum - they should be happy to "help out." But please don't you do it.

Maybe they should have saved up the money they got for fostering.

No ma'am,you owe them nothing .By God's grace you made it out and are now successful. Forgive them,yes,for your peace but set boundaries. Tell the parents not to contact you again and block them. Tell your siblings, if they continue to pressure you after you gave your answer they can join the block list. Your better cared for siblings can care for them.

This is crazy. You cannot expect assistance from a foster child you treated like that! Maybe just ask them to do something like that for what, at least 5 years? Because that's at least what's happened for the poster. And it's highly unfair.

Adopting and fostering are 2 different things. Please learn the difference before using the terms interchangeably.