Calling social services doesn't immediately cause trouble for anyone. Just explain the entire situation, how troubled you are about all this and how it is putting you in a situation you should not be involved in. Those parents keep leaving their special needs daughter alone, ignore the fact that she is massively overweight and basically make her your responsibility, which is not only dangerous, but a legal nightmare.

You know why the parents are fine with walking all over OP? Because OP is letting them. First time that woman showed up at my door saying parents were gone and she was scared and hungry would have had me calling the police. She is not OP's responsibility whatsoever. But until she gets a spine it's not going to stop.

They must be getting some form of government pay to take care of their daughter, as they clearly don't care about her but perhaps money, otherwise they would hand her over to some type of facility.

I want to add to my last comment that I have a special needs kid who is now 100lbs larger than me and had a huge problem with being violent to other family members. I had to call the police to help a few times when home alone and you can have the police put a flag on your address (at least in the US) where when a 911 call is made they know they are responding to a person with some sort of disability and not come in guns a blazing if the person is still violent when they arrive. They are trained to try and deescalate and even came to my house after the flag (before I needed to make my first call for assistance) and met my son and chatted with him when he was calm. Don’t be ashamed to call for help if safety is an issue and yea weight does matter. I’ve been there trying to hold down a giant boy taller and heavier than me so he doesn’t harm himself or others.

You should not be held responsible for the behaviour of a 500lb woman with a childs mental age. Tell the parents never again.

Neglect needs to be reported to the authorities. Also, do not open the door.

Oh, how heartbreaking for Mary. Lots of advice from people in original comments about contacting adult protection services and other agencies, but no advice on how she will cope with feeling abandoned by someone who seems to care for her more than her own parents based on how kind she has been to this point—which is probably more the root of not escalating this to the proper organization than not wanting to get the parents in trouble. No one needs to be in jail, but interventions are overdue for identifying suitable care for Mary, who is a victim here.

1. I have a 20-year-old son with autism. He cannot be left home alone. He can also get violent. 2. Legally speaking, if you continue to open your home you are creating a pattern of behavior wherein Mary's parents are relying upon you. In American law, when you help out, you are, in a way, creating an atmosphere wherein others no longer need to help - and it CAN be argued that you may be liable. This is SCREWED up. I would NEVER leave my son and hope that someone else picks up the slack for me. Your situation has gone way beyond common courtesy. It's literally a matter of life and death. Mary could easily die if she wanders away or easily be the cause of someone else's death. Your help is only enabling the parents to expose their daughter and the community to risk. Call the law immediately and keep her, yourself, and the community safe.

As a mother of a special needs adult, that can become violent I would never do this to someone. Op needs to contact APS immediately. And to the person that made the comment about this person eating themselves into being 500# is making assumptions. She may be that heavy due to other health issues or psych meds. As both can cause extreme weight gain.

she has to keep the door shut and tell M to go away. the gonad donors have been warned. they need an additional one. M shows up one more time, the policer will be called. you withdraw taking care of her. you can quit a job. this is just lazy greedy breeders taking advantage.

Call adult protective services. Leaving this person alone constitutes neglect. Then, call the police if she shows up. Let the neighbors know that you will do that. It's very unfortunate but it sounds like she maybe should be in an institution that can figure out how to deal with her and possibly medicate her.

APS NEEDS to be involved because a vulnerable adult is not being properly cared for. Perhaps the parents are deliberately neglectful. Perhaps they're simply burnt out. It doesn't matter. What matters is that a vulnerable adult who is a danger to both herself and others is not being properly cared for. What if she gets out, gets angry, and beats on a child? What if she picks a fight with a gun-toting criminal? She is not safe as things are, and that is all outside of the way the OP is being manipulated. Mary's safety and wellbeing is far more important than her parents' feelings. If Mary is violent, there are meds to resolve that. It's responsible and compassionate to medicate someone incapable of understanding the consequences of their actions to prevent them from violence.

First of all u arent an idiot for helping. However you have let it go on 4 so long, it would appear that you're ok with it. U r being taken advantage of for sure. As eleanor roosevelt said.."no one can take advantage of u without your consent". If u want to continue tell the parents u want X amount of dollars for payment. If u dont then tell them which is going 2 be difficult after doing it 4 a long time AND how the child/woman is going 2 take it as shes used to parking herself @ your house.

If this woman does not want to involve social services, then she's got to put up with this nonsense. And not write about it.

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I often wonder if these posts are fake. It is blatantly obvious that they are not the AH but for some reason need to seek the approval of total strangers.