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“I Didn’t Feel Anything”: Woman Refuses To Attend Dad’s Funeral, Is Shocked After Reading His Will
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“I Didn’t Feel Anything”: Woman Refuses To Attend Dad’s Funeral, Is Shocked After Reading His Will

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Cutting off contact with a parent is one of the hardest choices a person can make. But it doesn’t happen without reason.

This Redditor’s father abandoned her and her mom when she was just 10 years old, making little effort to be in her life after that. So when she became an adult, she chose to distance herself completely, and by the time he passed away, she felt no need to attend his funeral.

What she didn’t expect, however, was for him to leave her everything in his will as a final attempt to make amends. Now, shocked and conflicted, she’s struggling to figure out how to handle it all.

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    After her father walked out on her as a child, the woman cut all ties with him the moment she became an adult

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    So when he passed away, the last thing she expected was to inherit everything he left behind

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    One quarter of adult children are estranged from a parent

    In an ideal world, parents provide unconditional love and remain a constant presence in their children’s lives. But in the real world, relationships are complicated, and family bonds don’t always last. Sometimes, they become so strained that children choose to cut ties entirely.

    A 2023 study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that 26% of adult children reported being estranged from their fathers, while a much smaller percentage—just 6%—had cut ties with their mothers.

    “I think it relates to this new desire to have healthy relationships,” Rin Reczek, a sociology professor at Ohio State University and lead author of the study, told The Hill. “There might be some cultural shifts around people being allowed to choose who is in your family. And that can include not choosing to have the person who raised you be in your family.”

    Reczek’s research shows that fathers are estranged from their children far more often than mothers. This is partly due to divorce, where children typically stay with their mothers, and partly because of the emotional distance that often forms between fathers and their children.

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    “A lot of the adult children I talk to, they don’t really know their fathers,” Reczek explained. “They don’t have a really close relationship with them. And that leads to estrangement.”

    Some may argue that cutting ties with family is extreme, pointing to past generations where conflicts were endured rather than leading to complete separation.

    However, context matters. For many, estrangement isn’t a rash decision—it’s a necessary step to protect their well-being after years of dealing with neglect, cruelty, or toxic dynamics. While the pain of that choice lingers, it often leads to a healthier and more fulfilling life.

    Still, estrangement isn’t always permanent. Some adult children eventually choose to reconnect, and when they do, the results are often positive.

    Karl Pillemer, a Cornell University sociologist and author of Fault Lines, studied parents and children who had reconciled after long periods of estrangement. He found that almost none regretted making the effort.

    “Even after 10 or 20 years, virtually everyone who reconciled after a long estrangement was very glad they did, and almost all of them found it was a very powerful engine for growth,” he said.

    “Even if the resulting relationship wasn’t perfect, they were still glad they’d done it.”

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    In the replies, the woman added that her dad never made an effort to support her and her mom after he left

    Some readers reassured her that she shouldn’t feel guilty about inheriting his estate

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    Others, however, were baffled by her choice to give it all away

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    Poll Question

    How would you handle an unexpected inheritance from an estranged parent?

    Keep it and move on

    Give some to the other family members

    Return everything to the family

    Seek legal advice first

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    KatSaidWhat
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    4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd keep the money and give them back the assets (car, house, etc)

    Petra Peitsch
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    4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me too. For sure won't sell the house over their heads, and I wouldn't want to have any object what he had. The money I would take for the years missing child-support.

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    Annik Perrot
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    4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Here in France, it's impossible to disinherit your kids. You and your half-siblings would have each one quarter. Only the last quarter can be left as he wished. Of course, after his wife got half, or whatever she was entitled to, according to the marriage contract. The default contract gives the surviving one half of what was acquired during the marriage. But there are less favorable ones.

    Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo
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    3 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In Canada, under the Family Law Act, the wife could also appeal, for herself and the children. Aint no way the OP would inherit all of the family home, for example. (Of course its a fake story but) It's for the best the OP just rejected it. Whatever you think of it morally, the court fees would not be worth it

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    lenka
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    4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This scenario sounds like a first year estates law exam question. Depending on where the OP lives, it is unlikely the court would allow two minor children and a spouse to walk away with nothing.

    Ashlie Benson
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, I know for a fact that in several states in the US you are allowed to exclude family. Usually it is noted by your lawyer that in order for it to go through without problem, you need to do one of two things in your will: 1. Explicitly state you do not want X to receive anything. 2. Leave them $1 so they cannot dispute they were accidentally left out.

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    KatSaidWhat
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    4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd keep the money and give them back the assets (car, house, etc)

    Petra Peitsch
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me too. For sure won't sell the house over their heads, and I wouldn't want to have any object what he had. The money I would take for the years missing child-support.

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    Annik Perrot
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Here in France, it's impossible to disinherit your kids. You and your half-siblings would have each one quarter. Only the last quarter can be left as he wished. Of course, after his wife got half, or whatever she was entitled to, according to the marriage contract. The default contract gives the surviving one half of what was acquired during the marriage. But there are less favorable ones.

    Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In Canada, under the Family Law Act, the wife could also appeal, for herself and the children. Aint no way the OP would inherit all of the family home, for example. (Of course its a fake story but) It's for the best the OP just rejected it. Whatever you think of it morally, the court fees would not be worth it

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    lenka
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This scenario sounds like a first year estates law exam question. Depending on where the OP lives, it is unlikely the court would allow two minor children and a spouse to walk away with nothing.

    Ashlie Benson
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, I know for a fact that in several states in the US you are allowed to exclude family. Usually it is noted by your lawyer that in order for it to go through without problem, you need to do one of two things in your will: 1. Explicitly state you do not want X to receive anything. 2. Leave them $1 so they cannot dispute they were accidentally left out.

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