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Woman Gets Accused Of ‘Publicly Humiliating’ The Mother Of Her Daughter’s Bully, Asks People Online If She Was Wrong
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Woman Gets Accused Of ‘Publicly Humiliating’ The Mother Of Her Daughter’s Bully, Asks People Online If She Was Wrong

Woman Gets Accused Of ‘Publicly Humiliating’ The Mother Of Her Daughter’s Bully, Asks People Online If She Was WrongMom Whose Daughter Has Been Bullied Tries To Contact Bully’s Mom And Gets No Help From Her, Confronts The Woman In Parent Group ChatWoman Wants To Know If She's The Bad Guy For Shaming Her Daughter's Bully's Mom In A Group Chat After She Refused To Handle This Situation In PrivateWoman Gets Blamed For ‘Publicly Humiliating' The Mother Of Her Kid’s Bully, Wants To Know If She Was WrongWoman Wants To Know If She’s Wrong For Shaming Her Kid’s Bully’s Mom In A Parent Group Chat After She Declined To Handle The Situation In PrivateMom Who Finds Out That Her Daughter Was Bullied Tries To Reach Out To Bully’s Mom And Gets No Help From Her, Confronts The Woman In Parent Group ChatWoman Gets Accused Of ‘Publicly Humiliating’ The Mother Of Her Daughter’s Bully, Asks People Online If She Was WrongWoman Gets Accused Of ‘Publicly Humiliating’ The Mother Of Her Daughter’s Bully, Asks People Online If She Was WrongWoman Gets Accused Of ‘Publicly Humiliating’ The Mother Of Her Daughter’s Bully, Asks People Online If She Was WrongWoman Gets Accused Of ‘Publicly Humiliating’ The Mother Of Her Daughter’s Bully, Asks People Online If She Was Wrong
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Bullying is one of those problems that we often hear about. It is especially common during the school years when kids tend to make fun of each other for various reasons, and one of them is a lack of attention from parents who should teach their kids manners and explain why they shouldn’t push other kids around. However, not every parent is capable of making sure that their kid behaves nicely with adults as well as other kids.

One Reddit user who is a 26-year-old mom to her 8-year-old daughter shared the situation that started in her daughter’s school, asking people for their opinion on whether what she did was wrong. The situation involved another girl and her mom who wouldn’t agree on taking some measures after being told that her kid is being a bully.

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The woman started her story by telling that her daughter B has a classmate H who bullies the little girl. The woman revealed that H calls her classmate various insulting names and makes fun of her choices and things that she takes interest in. Every day the little girl would come home crying, so the mom decided to do something about it. At first, she contacted the teacher who agreed to do something from her side. That was talking with her class and reading them a story that would teach them that bullying is a bad thing. This did not help to stop H from making fun of B. Things did not get better even after the teacher talked with H. After this, the teacher tried to contact H’s parents and make sure that the kids’ parents would have an opportunity to talk things out. This all ended in H’s parents disagreeing to have the talk.

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One mom decided to share a situation she encountered when she found out that her daughter was continuously bullied at school by another girl

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After this, the narrator decided to take matters into her own hands. She contacted H’s mom asking her to interfere and talk to her kid, but the woman replied that “This is normal kid behavior and you’ll see it when you have more parenting experience.” Even after this message, B’s mom didn’t stop and tried all possible ways to have a conversation with the bully’s mom.

The mom talked with the teacher about this and wanted to try all of the possible solutions to end this bullying

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When nothing seemed to work, the narrator tried to talk to the bully’s mom, but the woman wasn’t very interested in sorting this thing out

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Things took a more serious turn when despite all of her efforts, the user couldn’t get a hold of H’s mom, so she decided to write about this situation in a parents’ group chat where H’s mom was also present. The group was created for various logistic purposes, but the woman decided to share her concerns. After this, a lot of parents were expressing their support and asked to say if it was their kid who bullied her daughter. In the story, the woman added that she hadn’t written the name of the kid who bullied her daughter, as well as didn’t indicate the parent who was ignoring this problem.

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The mom then decided to share this situation in a group chat for the class’ parents and the situation escalated to a point where everyone found out who the bully and her mom was

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H’s mom wrote to B’s mom saying that they’d already talked about this, while at the same time replying in the parents’ group chat that “Bullying is never okay.” This is what made the narrator lose it, so she wrote a message that allowed others to understand who was the bully’s parent. After this, H’s mom blamed the woman for “publicly humiliating” her and making it hard for her daughter to continue going to this school.

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The bully’s mom got angry at the woman because she humiliated her and ruined her and her daughter’s reputation

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Now the woman felt guilty for allowing this to go as far as everyone knowing who the bully and her parents were. The opinions in the comments varied from stating that it wasn’t the woman’s fault because H’s mom was the one who brought his upon herself to people who thought that this situation was mishandled. Some users gave advice on how such things should be handled, stating that the school could’ve done more about this. What do you think about this situation? Don’t forget to leave your thoughts in the comments down below!

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Some people online were quick to notice where this bully’s behavior was coming from

Others also gave some advice on how this situation should be dealt with

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Some people found the narrator’s behavior to be out of line as well as the other parent

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Sarah
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes being an a**hole on your child's behalf is the only way to protect and help them. Don't let niceties get in the way of advocating for your kid!

Bobby
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree, and just because YTA in a situation doesn't mean you were wrong

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Tracy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The bully's mother left herself open to what happened. OP indicated that the parent was part of the group chat by saying "you know who you are" but didn't say who the bully was. OP only took that step after the bully's mom publicly offered hypocritical sympathy. I would say that at that point, she deserved it.

Kay blue
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My child was bullied at school, in every way possible. It got so bad that at age 8 she stopped eating because her mental health deteriorated so badly. I had spoken to the school frequently and nothing was ever done. I went to the headmistress and was told that the bully didn't have the best home life as her parents were poor and had a lot of children. I was told it would be unfair to penalise the child further. I wasn't having it and told the head that if she wouldn't do anything then I would speak to the child's mother myself and involve the school governors. It's amazing how quickly things got sorted out after that.

Stoopham McFernybabes
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a lot a lot a lot of sympathy for a child with a poor home life. But that can’t been the end of it. The poor kid is never going to learn alternative ways of coping and managing their behaviour if they aren’t guided and if they aren’t being guided at home this is where school can step in.

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Sarah
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes being an a**hole on your child's behalf is the only way to protect and help them. Don't let niceties get in the way of advocating for your kid!

Bobby
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree, and just because YTA in a situation doesn't mean you were wrong

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Tracy
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The bully's mother left herself open to what happened. OP indicated that the parent was part of the group chat by saying "you know who you are" but didn't say who the bully was. OP only took that step after the bully's mom publicly offered hypocritical sympathy. I would say that at that point, she deserved it.

Kay blue
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My child was bullied at school, in every way possible. It got so bad that at age 8 she stopped eating because her mental health deteriorated so badly. I had spoken to the school frequently and nothing was ever done. I went to the headmistress and was told that the bully didn't have the best home life as her parents were poor and had a lot of children. I was told it would be unfair to penalise the child further. I wasn't having it and told the head that if she wouldn't do anything then I would speak to the child's mother myself and involve the school governors. It's amazing how quickly things got sorted out after that.

Stoopham McFernybabes
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a lot a lot a lot of sympathy for a child with a poor home life. But that can’t been the end of it. The poor kid is never going to learn alternative ways of coping and managing their behaviour if they aren’t guided and if they aren’t being guided at home this is where school can step in.

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