Your wedding day is meant to be one of the most special moments of your life, filled with joy, love, and memories you’ll cherish forever. And for this bride, it was almost perfect—except for one small hiccup. Her teenage niece turned up wearing a white dress.

Instead of making a scene, the bride decided to quietly photoshop the dress to a different color in the family photos. What seemed like a simple solution, however, sparked a whole new family drama.

Read the full story below, and don’t miss our conversation with world-leading etiquette expert Jo Hayes on how delicate occasions like these can be handled with grace.

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The bride’s special day took a hit when her niece wore white to the wedding

Image credits: Juliano Astc / Pexels (not the actual photo)

So, she photoshopped the outfit in the family photos—but not without drama

Image credits: Yan Krukau / Pexels (not the actual photo)

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Expert advice

Jo Hayes, a world-leading etiquette expert, consultant, lifestyle commentator, and founder of EtiquetteExpert.Org, spoke with Bored Panda about how to approach occasions like these with care and thoughtfulness.

“This is something of a challenging situation to call, etiquette-wise, but I will make a call, erring towards the side of the bride,” she said.

In many cultures, it’s considered both poor manners and disrespectful for guests to arrive in white at a wedding. This isn’t just tradition; it’s a fundamental rule of wedding etiquette. “The bride wears white—this is her day, and the groom’s, of course. Guests do not want to steal an inch of her spotlight,” Hayes explained.

Image credits: Omelnickiy / Envato (not the actual photo)

“Now, we must not be legalistic here—elements of white in a guest’s outfit are completely fine. White panelling on a dress, for instance, is absolutely acceptable. Just as long as it’s not all white, and doesn’t resemble, in any way, a bridal gown, you’ll be good,” she clarified.

However, in this case, the niece’s choice of an all-white dress was clearly a misstep. “Surely she knew about the ‘don’t wear white to a wedding’ rule,” Hayes remarked. “In cultures where it’s a ‘rule,’ it’s widely known—even among teenagers.”

“Did this teen not discuss her outfit with another member of the family before the big day, such as her own mother, and have one of them advise her against it? Given that she’s a teenager, I find this a little difficult to believe. If they knew what she was planning to wear, someone should have intervened,” she noted.

Hayes suggested the bride could have approached the situation differently by having a conversation with her niece about what happened. “She could sit down with her niece—and possibly the niece’s mother—and explain kindly, calmly, but clearly, why the choice of a white dress was upsetting,” she said.

“She could explain that this is a well-known, though often unspoken, wedding etiquette rule that guests shouldn’t wear white, and that she didn’t want the photos to reflect this,” Hayes added.

“She could have told the niece that she would be photoshopping the color of her dress in the photos and perhaps ask if the niece had a preference for the new color,” Hayes said. “That way, it could be a collaborative approach, hopefully satisfying for everyone.”

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But what if the niece wasn’t willing to cooperate? Hayes reassured that the bride would still have the right to move forward with her decision. “If the niece is resistant and refuses to come on board, I would encourage the bride to go ahead and photoshop anyway. She’s done all she can to inform the niece of her intentions and invite her to be part of the solution. If the niece doesn’t agree, so be it.”

In this disagreement, Hayes would like the niece to remember that this is the bride’s special day, not hers. “I’d advise the niece to offer grace and acquiesce to her aunt’s desires in this instance. Perhaps there’s a gorgeous color on the Photoshop app that would make the dress look even better,” she said.

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For the bride, Hayes offered a valuable perspective: “Hold this situation very loosely. In the grand scheme of things, this is not a big deal. It’s in holding things, situations, people, and expectations too tightly that causes human misery.”

“Don’t let this small annoyance ruin what was, I’m sure, a beautiful occasion. Focus on the joy of marrying the love of your life—choose joy, and keep choosing it.”

In the replies, the woman shared that she was ready to let it go—until she saw the photos

Many readers sided with the bride, praising her for how she handled things

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Others, however, felt she overreacted

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