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Woman Gets Reported To HR For Being On Her Period, Decides To Share Her Full Story Online
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Woman Gets Reported To HR For Being On Her Period, Decides To Share Her Full Story Online

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As if women in the corporate world needed something else to worry about, it is now apparently inappropriate for co-workers to know that you’re on your period, especially if they’re male.

An office worker in the UK recently anonymously discussed an ordeal she endured on Mumsnet, a British parenting site. A male co-worker, hereby known as ‘Guy,’ noticed that she had a hot water bottle nestled into her lap, and jokingly asked about it. Anyone who has ever experienced the searing pain of period cramps would know why it was there, but poor Guy was out of the loop, and had to be politely informed. The man, clearly offended by the thought of a woman (gasp) menstruating in front of him, reported her to the HR department. What followed was an embarrassing conversation that we wouldn’t wish on our worst enemy.

The Internet is now outraged, mostly because none of us were aware that having a uterus was considered a medical condition. Scroll down to read the whole story for yourself, find out how people reacted, and add your own 2 cents at the end. Just make sure none of your male peers are watching, as they might assume that you, too, are suffering from the notorious period.

More info: mumsnet.com

A UK woman working in an office recently shared this outrageous story on a parenting website

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People went berserk after reading it, and the replies they posted pretty much hit the nail on the head

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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm honestly more angry at the HR person (who is also a woman!), because she took his side. She should've told him to grow up and get over it.

BREAK YOUr perceptions
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

as a male. this is disgustingly stupid of that company. she wasn't exposing herself. she wasn't making it overtly obvious. and she didn't state anything clearly until an HR admin contacted her. its absolutely wrong how the company handled this and is an absolute ethics violation. (at least it would be in the US)

Max Alberts
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So many of these comments, it turns out, are NOT from the U.S. and come from countries where women have no remedies.

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Petra Christovová
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, this "Guy" person seems like a huge jerk having some serious problem with women. Generally there is lack of personal approach in work, I hate how someone has problem with colleague and instead of talking to the person, he/she just goes to the person´s boss or HR. This is quite unsettling, because something similar happened to me more times too and it seems that is it more of a norm than exception. I personally prefer to discuss anything with concerned person even when it is not pleasant, to do otherwise is just cowardly and immature imho.

Eva Tóthová
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know what? i think, that this story is about Daniel Losinger as he denies that story so much :D

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Sarah Maslowski
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This 'Guy' person must have never seen a woman, or have a girlfriend... My job is mostly with men. And when I was feeling very bad because of my periods and my colleagues noticed it and asked me what was wrong, I honestly said : "Oh, sorry it's just... THAT time of the month". ALL were saying to me : " I understand. My wife/girlfriend has also a lot of problems and feels so much pain during her periods... " I was sooo surprised to see men paying attention so nicely to me... I never felt ashamed with them. Strangely, more with women...

Daria B
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My closest new colleague got hers on the very first day of work. We went to the bathroom together and she was like "oh no!" I offered her a menstrual pad. I make sure to have some in my drawers and in my bag in case of emergencies.

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Adriana E. Henricy
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok so, the guy is a child and the HR departmen is SUPER unprofessional. If the blood isnt on your chair, you dont have to feel uncomfortable about someone having her period, PLUS she didnt told him explicitly she was menstruation she just said "for the pain". Nice thought about maybe her needing time off bc of pain, but you ask her "do you need a pill or to go home? we can call HR and tell them if you are not feeling well today", thats just it. THATS IT. I cant really think what type of relationship he has with women.

Cat Meow
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am baffled. And I'm not sure which I find worse, Guy's ignorance of HR's response. Okay, scratch that, HR's response is even worse because it was a woman siding with Guy on this when she should know better.

Mike Miller
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm an older male. I had a mother and two wives, I have two sisters, two daughters, and a daughter-in-law. I also have female friends, many of whom share their discomfort with me. What is the big deal with "Guy"? How can he be that terrified of a woman during her time of the month that he has to call HR? The medical issue here is non compos mentis on the part of the "Guy". I definitely this this is lawsuit material. But only because murder is illegal.

serena
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not just when confronted with an employee on their period but I have seen firsthand how pregnant women can be unfairly treated due to the fact that ignorance of the opposite sex poses a certain lack of sympathy from our male supervisors. My boss grew very impatient with my increasing need for time off for doctor's visits, even though I told him they would want to see me more frequently as my pregnancy got further along. When my doctor begged me to go on sick leave due to all the problems I was having, I refused for weeks because I was so afraid of pissing off my boss. I put my health at risk to appease my boss who simply did not have the patient or sympathy he should have had for a pregnant employee. When I finally did go on leave I was the happiest I have ever been. And we only get 6 weeks postpartum maternity leave. So when I called him to let him know I would be using my vacation time to have just one more week with my first child before handing her over to a babysitter,

serena
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

he said it was selfish not to think of my coworkers but to do what I wanted. My job is solitary and no one depends on me to relieve them in any way. My absence does not hurt anyone. What did hurt was I had full respect for this man before his reaction to my medical and emotional needs as a pregnant woman. No woman should be made to feel guilty for creating life.

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Cassie
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did Guy actually realize she was on her period or did he assume she had some gastro issue and worried that she might be contagious? It sounds to me like this whole thing could just be a communication failure surrounded by faulty assumptions.

Rafaella Bueno
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's what I thought too, when I actually read the conversations. She never said it was for menstrual cramps, she just said "pain". Even the HR response doesn't really mention it, and while she does say "I explained exactly what happened" she again doesn't say whether she clearly mentioned her period to the HR lady. Everybody else's lines sound a lot like they think she's actually sick. Need more info to know what to really make of this.

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Klas Josefsson
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I sincerely hope you forward this entire thread to HR. Ignore Guy, he's just a wanker, but HR seriously f****d up and need to learn their lesson.

Brigitte Munsterman
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it very telling that everyone saying "there's no evidence this even happened" is a male. Just an observation.

Star
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am 90% sure Daniel Losinger is "Guy". Awaiting comment...

Kathleen Fink
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Are you kidding? I am more angry at the HR person too. It's NONE of anyones business. Guy must have hatched out of an egg.

Helen Cheung
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Am I reading it correctly? It seems like she didn't even tell her supervisor, Guy, that she's having cramps - She mentioned it was for pain relief. She only told the HR admin that she was having cramps, who then went missing after the conversation. Then she was contacted by the HR Director about her disclosure of her menstrual cramps to Guy, which made him feel uncomfortable. So, doesn't it seem like it was the HR Admin who told her supervisor of her actual condition? Shouldn't that be a bigger issue to address, the fact that HR openly disclosed the information? If anything it was HR that should be reprimanded for making the supervisor feel uncomfortable. Just an additional thought. I wholeheartedly agree that it's sexual discrimination and the supervisor should grow up about the situation, but thought I'd point out that part as well since it doesn't seem to have came up in the discussion...

danielw
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I suspect that Guy figured it out on his own. or maybe he goggled it. It seems to have escalated quickly once the HR-minion got involved. Checking in to see if somebody is okay, is one thing. reminding that individual they can take a personal day might be pushing that thing a little far. calling an individual into the office because some guy got weirded out by a reply to a (potentially) inappropriate joke to keep their (fairly routine) medical conditions private is... excessive.

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Ntosh
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, both Guy and HR dealt with this in a very Weird way. It must be both infuriating and a little bit embarrassing, I mean to receive calls and be called into an office for something so natural and normal is beyond me. Don't they have better things to deal with? If it was me and they told me to go home, I would have switched off my computer, take my bag and say "Thank you, I will see you after 5 days". Then I would go home and spend time with my baby who will make me forget about all these crazy people in an instant.

Caitlin Percy
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unfortunately I haven't met an HR person who is sane enough to know what is normal. Not sure what kind of person wants to be in HR but they don't seem rational

Francis Peirce
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a manager in an office HR should have told the guy that it was improper for him to ask why she had a hot water bottle.

Gilcinei Leonel Pires
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What this guy did is moral harassement, also the HR did, it´s crime in Brazil.

frank0ys
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

...As a son and a brother, Guy disgusts me and HR disappoints me. Instead of being concerned about her welfare, they think it is unprofessional for a woman to have menstruation. What the hell is that about?

Shruti
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Manager " are you on your period " Me (on top of lungs) did you release your bowels today?

DopethronePunkUK
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a man i can assure you ladies this f****n troglodyte does not represent me or most men i know, this is disgraceful, grow the f**k up "guy". If i saw you in work with your hot water bottle i would know you are on your monthly and i wouldn't mention it, instead i would ask you if you needed anything and then be on my way, why bring attention to something that doesn't need attention?. With regards to HR, i am confident that all you woman (my wife included) know exactly how to handle your period and don't need any s****y advice from "Guy" or that awful waste of time HR advisor.

Pat
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She did specifically say she had cramps. When a woman says she has cramps, most people understand it is period related. Guy is an idiot but the HR lady is an absolute moron.

SnoopyCereal
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hello if anyone is wondering, I am "Guy" and I would also like to say if it is you-know-when, that is gross and you should take the day off ew girl cooties.

Bipin Gaur
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is plain stupid. HR should have pulled up the guy instead for wasting everyone's time.

Diana Hockley
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a disgusting attitude to take over a woman who has a hot water bottle in her lap! HR should be ashamed of their attitude and told this idiot to mind his own business.

Hollie Newton
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is c**p she did nothing wrong all she said was she had pain, she didn't use the word period and what was she supposed to say oh no I'm just weird oh its nothing don't worry y'know let's talk about guy over here laying on the floor and s**t in front of clients why isn't he being told off or sent home that is inappropriate not having a water bottle for pain. As for HR she could get them in trouble because now guy complained she had to go through humiliation of telling higher ups she is on a period only for them to be like well can you not, like take it out of work if its a problem which it wasn't until guy stuck his nose in.

Jennifer Hood
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He asked her, she did not offer up the information. She was in the privacy of her office. Does he not have a wife or girlfriend that has a period? Was he perhaps gay and not in any way prepared to deal with the natural female cycle? He apparently wasn't too uncomfortable as he was able to contact HR and discuss with them. UGH> people are so awful sometimes.

Karen Minser
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tell Guy to get over it. My granddaughter has such severe cramps she gets sick and vomits. Ask Guy how babies are born.I get annoyed because guys call in with the runs. That grosses me out but I keep quiet.

Jeannette Rose
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Our culture is such, that a man's comfort is put above a woman's. The office temperature is regulated for men's comfort. School dress codes target young girls with the admonition, "it distracts the boys", chairs are designed for men's bodies, 'standard' is for average height, average weight male but a woman needs 'woman's sizes', gym machines are designed with men in mind, and a unisex name is for both sexes if its a girl name (shannon, alex, kelly) but it's a girl with a boy's name if its, charlie, bobby, danny....well...you get it.

Carol Bradley
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The fact that he asked about the hotwater bottle on her LAP is questionable. I mean why was he looking there. He has issues that should be addressed. This world makes me sick. Stick up for yourselves ladies because HR and the rest of humanity aren't going to. DANG!

Nora H.
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hmm I'd say i's pretty hard NOT to notice, if the person you're talking to has a hotwater bottle on their lap.

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blugeagua
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, what a dumbass Guy is. And an immature brat to boot. What the hell is it with some men still being "shocked" and "scared" over periods? They are a completely natural part of the human female anatomy. That's like being shocked, appalled and scared over the fact that men have semen floating around in their testicles.

Katie Pepin
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here in the states I have found that guys do not need to be told. Todays male that I have worked with is apologetic that they made the female say what is wrong. And all that grade school nonsense is gone. They were all adults.

Katie Pepin
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For me..... Now back in the 70's and 80's..... different story.... I worked for men that thought you shouldn't be there or you are there to work and be played with. People who have not had this happen have no idea..... But I am so GLAD that the younger folks are changing the workforce attitudes against females. Just my personal experience ....

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Caroline Pitts
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree, she didn't even say what the problem was, she could have IBS!!! He is the one who got it in his head to have a baby boy fit!!!! Typical English Male! Still trying to control everything about a woman. Honestly, we have a*s--- here in the US asking about "being on the rag" but they don't throw us out of the office for having cramps. AND, HR shold have supported her not his hissy fit. He's totally unprofessional and I don't care what kind of performance eval he's given before, he's maneuvering to get her out of that job. Maybe he has a friend that want's it. No other reason to pull HR into the situation immediatly with his damn nose firmly in the air! (Hope he drowns)!

Kaye Johnson
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How Stupid of HR. I had serious problems before my hysterectomy and had to use a hot water bottle at work and I worked in a mans world !! Nothing was ever said, yes they knew i am sure but so what the bottle helped. Like this lady if clients came in it wasnt there, HR are so in the wrong here,,, and personally I would make a formal complaint...

Martina Třešková
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Freaks me out to hear that in 2017 this can happen. If Guy is uncomfortable, that's his problem. Extremely unprofessional? You're talking about him complaining to HR that one of the ladies in the office has menstrual cramps and uses a water bottle for relief? 'Cause I don't see anything else extremely unprofessional happening in this story. I can't believe the woman who took his side. WTF is wrong with her?

Peter Ferdinand
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once upon a time I was dating a very nice lady who had an occasionally crippling cycle. We're talking ER visit bad. If I were working in an office and supervising a female co-worker and she was using a water-bottle for pain relief I'd offer her the option of burning a sick/vacation day if she wanted. That said I wouldn't involve HR.

Casandra Ladd
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My boss says "hi"... All i have to do is grumble in his general direction and he gets it. I'm a damn hard worker, but a couple days a month I'm a mess. Any MAN that has been NEAR a woman KNOWS... It's not easy! Even for the toughest of us!!

Nora H.
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe true for some, not all. Women are different. I do get cramps, but it never affects my mood.

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Shay Hartless
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

After having to take a day each month off for 5 months in a row for intense bleeding, terrible cramps and an accompanying migraine... with an on going doctors note i night add, my boss yelled at me he never would've hired me if he had known i had so many "health problems." Mind you he manages about 150 women a day but having a uterus is a health problem??

Katinka Min
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey, this is actually cool: A company that allows you to take sick days whenever you are menstruating! As for 'Guy': since he is so horrified about a woman's reproduction system he'll clearly never be able to live with a woman and hence will never procreate. Problem solved, at least int the long run.

Dianne Morris
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Very simple. Gentlemanly behaviors, good manners practiced by everyone, male, female or child should eliminate this type of thing. Lack of manners, on the other hand, leaves the door open for anything becoming an issue. Very simple behave in a mannerly way. Behave with good manners. One never goes wrong when good manners rule. Now, you could be like me and ignore good manners and call the guy the schmuck he is. Oh, the word schmuck? A rude reference to the male member....you know, the male private part.

Helena Denel
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Know I'm about 7 years late BUT............. Why hasn't someone kicked this guy in his penis so he could even vaguely understand what chronic period pain feels like?

David Brumbley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This can't be real? Are you f@%kin kidding me ? What an absolute jackazz, his dumbazz got here from a woman that went through the same thing, I'm sorry that this beautiful woman got any kind of punishment for being a woman and having to deal with cramps , I guess if some ignorant fool like this co-worker asks a stupid question about your monthly ordeals just tell him to mind his own business because people have just gotten to be really dumb here lately

Angel LaChance
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She didn't even say she was on her period. Guy asked her what the water bottle was for and she said it was for pain. There was nothing explicit, unprofessional, or otherwise wrong with that. There was no reason for HR to get involved at all. But since HR did get involved, and there may have been a concern that she wasn't feeling well, they should have just let it go after she said she was fine in the email.

Remy Ellis
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Okay dude, listen up. I have a special medical condition called 'I have a uterus.' If you would like to file a complaint, go ahead and talk to half the world to complain about me having a hot water bottle in my lap due to period cramps. I bet all the women in the world would LOVE to hear about that!"

Angela Botros
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 22 and having intense cramps every month is one of the reasons I'm afraid to apply for a full time job...well done 21st century 😒😒

Terrill Searle
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If the stupid a*s didn't want to hear the truth, why did he ask her the question? This is not only sexual discrimination. It's sexual harassment too.

Sam Winchester
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Guy" was an idiot, but the HR person should be fired. They're lucky it wasn't me they spoke to or I would have threatened a discrimination lawsuit right there in the meeting room before I demanded an apology.

Annie Lo
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

eat ALMOND and WALNUT to get over the pain of period cramps No eating or drinking cold foods/water

Annie Lo
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

eat WALNUT and ALMOND to get over the pain of period cramps, NO sweet foods and cool water/foods (eg.ice)

Ann Rippel
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is thre a Labor Relations Board in England. You may need some legal advise. Some c**p never changes. Human relations class when I was in USAF, women are just for secretaries and they are always having their period. I thought I would explode. I wish you well.

Wombat34
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Guy is pathologically sexually repressed if the chain of associations 'hot water bottle'->'period pains'->menstruation->'women have hoo-has!' makes him feel significantly embarrassed. That's his problem to deal with, not anyone else's.

James Gitsas
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope "Guy" gives you an appropriate performance report relative to your accomplishments - NOT YOUR PERIOD! Keep notes for possible Legal Action - PERIOD!

Eirin Orum
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Guy is extremely uncomfortable, and it's unprofessional." The HR chick is right, Guy is behaving extremely childishly, and should be told to act like a professional!

Mark Wease
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I commented like 20 people commented back but. Can't find my comment to see what they said ? WTF??

Jo Kotylak
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It got to the point at my work where I was taking 3 days off a month for leakage and pain. I saved up my rostered days off, and sick leave for this, and went to the Dr for a certificate. After about the 5th month I myself spat the dummy, had a talk with my GP and organised it so I didn't get periods anymore. I'd have flung the damned heat pack at his stupid head. He should go home and whinge to his Mummy! Males like that drive me NUTS, he's not a man, just a being who has no common sense or empathy!

Margie Lazou
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"As if women in the corporate world needed something else to worry about, it is now apparently inappropriate for co-workers to know that you’re on your period, especially if they’re male." :D :D :D Sister, it's cause it turns them on! You go giving them the weird walk lady!

Brian Freed
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Guy Lesson number one. When a woman is either PMS or on her periods stay the hell away. Try to be sympathetic without being patronizing A woman's periods are as natural as the sun rising in the east, And then comes menopause, wise up ol fruit you may eventually die of old age.This is supposed to be the age of enlightenment.

Jimmy Rustled
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is the kind of stupidity that is becoming more and more common in this country...

Kelly
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From my point of view, Guy was unpolite, he shouldn't have asked any question.

Vicky Witter
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Guy" seems like the type male that thinks women pooping is a myth

Jane Lawhead
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good grief! Wait until he encounters a woman going through menopause symptoms! What a f*****g asshat and what a horrible way HR dealt with it.

Tracey Holahan
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So sad but unfortunately there are BROWN NOSES in all workforce thinking that if they tell tails it would look good for them, Well we have news for you you to can be replaced in a heart beat

David Poppy G
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think a woman should have a day off for the first day, but on full pay. They deserve it for putting up with it whilst we men just winge.

Tracey Holahan
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are BROWN NOSES in all work places , they think its ok but little do they know they can be replaced in a heart beat x

Diana Jacob
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was in High School (many, many years ago) I had menstrual pains so bad that I could not physically get out of bed. I had a doctor's note to excuse me from school. But the Dean tore it up right in front of my face and said I was faking it. 25 years later i had a hysterectomy for endometriosis. FU Dean!! Sexual harassment at it's finest.

Jackie Phillips
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seems oddly consistant everytime during a conversation between a male and a female one of them expresses what may be a legitimate concern for the others well being it gets twisted into an HR issue by one of them. This could have been a caring question and she gave a professional answer and that should have been it---but nooooo somebody had to make something of it.

Karina Tan
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like proclaiming to this man, "Mate, I hate to burst your bubble but you exist because your mum was fertile and had a fully functioning uterus that came complete with a menstrual cycle!" 😛

Jen S. Jones
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where does this story come from? Planet Saturn?? Seems so unreal, like we are dealing with zombies from planet Alcatraz or Saturn. Hopefully the giant spaceship will come back and pick up their moronic alien robots who are definitely not human nor are earthlings. Please go back to your zombie world. This is for the man who complained and the moronic alien HR department.

Patrick Fenton
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The HR rep and Guy should have common sense beaten into them!!!! Why don't people just mind their own business??? Certainly looks like a serious lawsuit waiting to happen!!

Innah Kostova
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The whole interpretation is wrong. Guy was clearly worried and he didn't feel he has the authority to let her go home so he passed that on HR team. HR team were the idiots in this situation.

Kelsey Simmons
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously guys should be used to this stuff by now,this guy acted like kids used to when they were in elementary school not wanting to get cooties.

Kelsey Simmons
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously guys should be used to this by now,he acted like how kids used to be in elementary school not wanting to get cooties.

Lilach Loughead
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

good ones, sometimes it look like people forget where the come from.... and yeah that she got pains means she is not pregnant... and will stay at work.....

Sheralyn
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would be the first to admit that a man talking about his erectile dysfunction would make me uncomfortable, but having your period is hardly a medical condition.

Krista Leary
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This 'Guy' needs to have a vagina for a few months....See how he feels about a hot water bottle after that.

Nova Jane Ogoc
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so immature.. He needs to grow an learn more in life.. Not only his profession

Bill Furnish
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Probably never had a live in girlfriend, so totally unaware of the normal processes a woman goes through on a monthly basis whe her "friend" comes to visit for a week or so!

Maria Lieske
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Makes me wonder if this "guy" ever grew up around any females in his lifetime, or the HR grew up around any "males" in her lifetime??!! Hmmmm??!!! Makes ya wonder now, doesn't it?!

Vera Deme
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, I would definitely change my working place. I am having headaches, pre-, menstrual and post-menstrual pains and and extremely painful ovulation that usually last 2-3 days as well. No medication has a real effect. All this taught me to be strong, no matter what to smile and I keep being not less professional than anyone else. There are days when even driving in that condition is an extreme effort for concentration. If that was not normal I would have be in sick leave for 90% of my time.

Deb Fletcher
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This group's HR are a bunch of PC crazy snowflakes that obviously lack in degrees in their own field.

Jessica Stohr
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Idk the labor laws in England but this was def. handled poorly! I think they should have a class for the males in the office to acclimate them to reality of women's cycles. :) If she can work through the pain than surely you can handle the sight of a hot water bottle!

Ed Wilson
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the "guy" is an asshat. plain and simple. he needs to woman up next time.

Olivia W
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's like he had never heard of periods and thought she had some medical condition. Crazy.

Emmanuel
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The GUY needs to mentally evaluated. I can only imagine what Guy's wife goes through at home when on her period.

Tracy Moorhead
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I honestly didn’t know these issues still exist! I would have to seriously compose myself before talking to anyone of authority. When I was in the Army I had a major issue while we playing Soldier right next to camp (which contained portables, however, I was never received from my foxhole! I was really embrassed explaining that the higher ups!!

John Louis
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I admit my comment was an exaggeration to effect. I obviously have not taken a public opinion poll. Nevertheless period shaming is a very real phenomenon. As for working to make society better on the topic here is a newsweek article: http://www.newsweek.com/2016/04/29/womens-periods-menstruation-tampons-pads-449833.htmlhttp://www.newsweek.com/2016/04/29/womens-periods-menstruation-tampons-pads-449833.html

Ted Harding
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Guy was just concerned that his colleague was unwell and shouldn't be at work. He probably didn't even think about the cause. Not all men are focussed all the time about that part of women's anatomy. Some of us just have 'colleagues'; male or female, black, white or Asian don't come into it! Get a life!!! Be thankful he was concerned for you.

Krystine Patterson
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ladies, you don't have to have searing pain of period cramps, use Ponstan (google it), it blocks the prostaglandins that cause the womb to cramp. And no this isn't an ad, it's just a bit of advice from a fellow lassy. Guy is a tool btw.

Celeste Spaniel
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It doesn't work for everyone, and shouldn't be taken long term as it can cause complications, unfortunately.

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Malcontent
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

maybe if she actually said to the HR people 'I'm on my period, not ill, no medical issues', they wouldn't have over-reacted the way they did; you'll notice not once did she actually explain the hot water bottle, just made vague remarks for why she had it. A little explanation goes a long way and stops people leaping to conclusions. Nothing like inviting questions and not giving answers just so you can b***h and whine about it on twitter 5 minutes later.

MaLinda L Stevens
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey if she wanted she could have complained about him looking in places that he shouldn't have been looking. Had hit eyes not been in her lap he wouldn't have seen the hot water bottle. Not like she was waving it over her head while giving a whooping cry like a drunk girl at a party once she starts yanking clothing off.

John Louis
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is a testimony to the human condition and especially the male gender that the vast majority of men have a complete and total psychological, creative, sociological, emotional, cognitive, spiritual, anthropological, interactive apocalyptic breakdown when there even a hint of the topic of menstruation arises.

Adam Havlík
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A lot of guys, but 'vast majority' is amassive exaggeration. Most guys have bought tampons without needing a trip to the psychologist ;-)

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senbon zakura
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

read this story and I wasn't even mad...I just want to make this clear before I write anything else: 1) It's not like she was fired 2) she is really playing up the whole "female on rag" stereotype which doesn't really help us females. 3) She's actually not helping her own situation at this point asides from complaining about first world problems My two cents: The article highlights a male coworker basically got her in trouble with HR because she told him she's not feeling well due to her menstrual cramps. It painted a mysogenic facade onto the male coworker in question.... It even implies that men should stay in their lane when it comes to these things since they're "ignorant" when it comes to stuff like Menstruation. However some men out there REALLY actually don't know what it's like to have cramps. Its not their fault and they should not be blamed for not being mind readers.... She did not consider perhaps the guy was honestly concerned about her wellness and decided to talk to HR

Donna Hagen
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She doesn't say, but I wonder if Guy happens to be Muslim? They have real problems with women, especially menstruating women.

Nora H.
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh come oooon..! Always someone who has to turn ANY subejct into a muslim issue.. *eye rolling*

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Tinfoil Hatter
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7 years ago

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PANDA PROPAGANDA .... next on panda there will be a male-female issue with not such a clear side-line ....

Stephen Rifkin
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7 years ago

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And if HR didn't pat her on the head she'd sue for discrimination.

Jan Coleman-Balch
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7 years ago

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Hey this manager is not so bad...with an attitude like that, every women on earth would be getting paid holidays every month for 7 days. Not that bad really, when you think about it...it was actually a law in the dark ages. ;)

Brian Lami
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7 years ago

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Look, I'm in NO WAY condoning what HR did, but in Guy's defense, it is still a recent, and not universal, thing that males are told anything more than, "Stay back, and throw chocolate," when it relates to the female body's natural processes. And a lot of guys still have a hard time comprehending that just because you're bleeding doesn't mean you're injured.

Σ. Δράκων
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7 years ago

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What if she talks with strange pronunciation and everybody thought she was saying "crabs" instead of "cramps"?

Necee Lynn
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7 years ago

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"Its for the pain" said a girl in a work environment where it is not uncommon to warm yourself by personal innovation ( awful workplace) . .. I think he thought it was full of vodka . Not thinking about period cramps, hence HR being told to look into it.

Ben Smith
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7 years ago

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Yet more Panda click-bait. Yes, Guy isn't too bright, but how do we KNOW that he didn't assume that she had the stomach flu?? Sure, he over-reacted even if it was the stomach flu, but everyone is jumping all over him and HR when, in fact, we don't know NEARLY enough to accurately judge what really happened.

Full Name
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Notice how the people who are saying this are all men? I find that interesting. It's true though, until we hear the other side of the story we can't play executioner here. It probably did happen just as she says it did, and for the same reasons, but until we KNOW we shouldn't be calling for people's heads. I think the women are more furious because they do face some serious male idiocy about their baby-making parts and are so fed up they are (for good reason) out for blood now. No pun intended.

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William Teach
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I'm sorry, but, in today's society of attempting to be a Victim to garner support, I have a hard time believing this. First of all, people keep making all sorts of things up, and there's no way to verify if any of this even happened. In the days of social media rule, people can, and do, say anything in order to be a Victim. 2nd, the guy, Guy, would have to be a complete idiot to bring this to HR, especially in a place like England, where people get prosecuted for saying Mean Things. And, HR wouldn't be stupid enough to bring this up in this way. Sure, there's always that chance that this was real, but, I just have my doubts. Let the scoldings begin. PS: People are still entirely too sensitive.

Jan Foster
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know of one HR manager who, if they didn't like a person (there didn't have to be a reason) they would gossip about them and spread malicious stories, usually to the top people, and then would start undermining that person which involved refusing them things like training, special leave, etc., until that person became so anxious they couldn't work. After taking a week or two off sick, on their return to work they would be called into the HR office and castigated for taking sick leave. There was no point in complaining to the Chief Executive as he was totally in with the scheme as were all of the senior staff and some of the other staff jumped on the bandwagon because they thought it would gain them brownie points. These things do happen and unfortunately it's accepted that, these days, this is how corporate organisations can be run, and no-one dared to speak out.

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Trisha Dragon
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Guy could be a well meaning nitwit. HR knows better.

William Morales
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7 years ago

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This is what happens when you can be offended by anything and will take advantage of it.

Royal_Emperor
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7 years ago

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ok I don't understand the complete outrage. This is a good guy as per the lady herself (because she has no problems with him). We don't know how he described or talked to the HR about her situation.why is everyone judging him ? maybe he just conveyed to the HR that someone is having menstrual cramps and if she could go home and rest. He is just a co worker, he may be comfortable talking about periods with women he knows, but she is his coworker and his junior from the context. so if he is uncomfortable talking to a junior coworker about period problems it is justified because any conversation (medial or otherwise) related to genitals with strangers can suddenly be construed as sexual harassment. I know i may be coming off as a horrible sexist and a jerk with my comment but i am not trying to be one. ladies of boredpanda can you help me out? If such situation arises what would be the most appropriate response for a guy?this is not a rhetorical or sarcastic question.

Daria B
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In fact, it's the HR department here to blame, for not managing the situation professionally, by taking their time to hear and listen from both sides. However, I personally am a bit annoyed about all the taboo surrounding menstruations. Sure, you don't need to proudly display it (which she didn't do, btw), but it shouldn't be something to hide that much either. Besides that, it might even have not been from menstruation, cramps can come after eating something wrong too....

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Anne Collier
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7 years ago

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Oh no - someone said something to a woman that she didn't like - how awful.

Daniel Losinger
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7 years ago

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There is no evidence that this actually happened.

Nora H.
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Which is the case for most of the stories on BP. Better get busy posting your clever observation 8-10 times in the comment section on all of them too.

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Panda
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm honestly more angry at the HR person (who is also a woman!), because she took his side. She should've told him to grow up and get over it.

BREAK YOUr perceptions
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

as a male. this is disgustingly stupid of that company. she wasn't exposing herself. she wasn't making it overtly obvious. and she didn't state anything clearly until an HR admin contacted her. its absolutely wrong how the company handled this and is an absolute ethics violation. (at least it would be in the US)

Max Alberts
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So many of these comments, it turns out, are NOT from the U.S. and come from countries where women have no remedies.

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Petra Christovová
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, this "Guy" person seems like a huge jerk having some serious problem with women. Generally there is lack of personal approach in work, I hate how someone has problem with colleague and instead of talking to the person, he/she just goes to the person´s boss or HR. This is quite unsettling, because something similar happened to me more times too and it seems that is it more of a norm than exception. I personally prefer to discuss anything with concerned person even when it is not pleasant, to do otherwise is just cowardly and immature imho.

Eva Tóthová
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know what? i think, that this story is about Daniel Losinger as he denies that story so much :D

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Sarah Maslowski
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This 'Guy' person must have never seen a woman, or have a girlfriend... My job is mostly with men. And when I was feeling very bad because of my periods and my colleagues noticed it and asked me what was wrong, I honestly said : "Oh, sorry it's just... THAT time of the month". ALL were saying to me : " I understand. My wife/girlfriend has also a lot of problems and feels so much pain during her periods... " I was sooo surprised to see men paying attention so nicely to me... I never felt ashamed with them. Strangely, more with women...

Daria B
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My closest new colleague got hers on the very first day of work. We went to the bathroom together and she was like "oh no!" I offered her a menstrual pad. I make sure to have some in my drawers and in my bag in case of emergencies.

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Adriana E. Henricy
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok so, the guy is a child and the HR departmen is SUPER unprofessional. If the blood isnt on your chair, you dont have to feel uncomfortable about someone having her period, PLUS she didnt told him explicitly she was menstruation she just said "for the pain". Nice thought about maybe her needing time off bc of pain, but you ask her "do you need a pill or to go home? we can call HR and tell them if you are not feeling well today", thats just it. THATS IT. I cant really think what type of relationship he has with women.

Cat Meow
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am baffled. And I'm not sure which I find worse, Guy's ignorance of HR's response. Okay, scratch that, HR's response is even worse because it was a woman siding with Guy on this when she should know better.

Mike Miller
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm an older male. I had a mother and two wives, I have two sisters, two daughters, and a daughter-in-law. I also have female friends, many of whom share their discomfort with me. What is the big deal with "Guy"? How can he be that terrified of a woman during her time of the month that he has to call HR? The medical issue here is non compos mentis on the part of the "Guy". I definitely this this is lawsuit material. But only because murder is illegal.

serena
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not just when confronted with an employee on their period but I have seen firsthand how pregnant women can be unfairly treated due to the fact that ignorance of the opposite sex poses a certain lack of sympathy from our male supervisors. My boss grew very impatient with my increasing need for time off for doctor's visits, even though I told him they would want to see me more frequently as my pregnancy got further along. When my doctor begged me to go on sick leave due to all the problems I was having, I refused for weeks because I was so afraid of pissing off my boss. I put my health at risk to appease my boss who simply did not have the patient or sympathy he should have had for a pregnant employee. When I finally did go on leave I was the happiest I have ever been. And we only get 6 weeks postpartum maternity leave. So when I called him to let him know I would be using my vacation time to have just one more week with my first child before handing her over to a babysitter,

serena
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

he said it was selfish not to think of my coworkers but to do what I wanted. My job is solitary and no one depends on me to relieve them in any way. My absence does not hurt anyone. What did hurt was I had full respect for this man before his reaction to my medical and emotional needs as a pregnant woman. No woman should be made to feel guilty for creating life.

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Cassie
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did Guy actually realize she was on her period or did he assume she had some gastro issue and worried that she might be contagious? It sounds to me like this whole thing could just be a communication failure surrounded by faulty assumptions.

Rafaella Bueno
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's what I thought too, when I actually read the conversations. She never said it was for menstrual cramps, she just said "pain". Even the HR response doesn't really mention it, and while she does say "I explained exactly what happened" she again doesn't say whether she clearly mentioned her period to the HR lady. Everybody else's lines sound a lot like they think she's actually sick. Need more info to know what to really make of this.

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Klas Josefsson
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I sincerely hope you forward this entire thread to HR. Ignore Guy, he's just a wanker, but HR seriously f****d up and need to learn their lesson.

Brigitte Munsterman
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it very telling that everyone saying "there's no evidence this even happened" is a male. Just an observation.

Star
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am 90% sure Daniel Losinger is "Guy". Awaiting comment...

Kathleen Fink
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Are you kidding? I am more angry at the HR person too. It's NONE of anyones business. Guy must have hatched out of an egg.

Helen Cheung
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Am I reading it correctly? It seems like she didn't even tell her supervisor, Guy, that she's having cramps - She mentioned it was for pain relief. She only told the HR admin that she was having cramps, who then went missing after the conversation. Then she was contacted by the HR Director about her disclosure of her menstrual cramps to Guy, which made him feel uncomfortable. So, doesn't it seem like it was the HR Admin who told her supervisor of her actual condition? Shouldn't that be a bigger issue to address, the fact that HR openly disclosed the information? If anything it was HR that should be reprimanded for making the supervisor feel uncomfortable. Just an additional thought. I wholeheartedly agree that it's sexual discrimination and the supervisor should grow up about the situation, but thought I'd point out that part as well since it doesn't seem to have came up in the discussion...

danielw
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I suspect that Guy figured it out on his own. or maybe he goggled it. It seems to have escalated quickly once the HR-minion got involved. Checking in to see if somebody is okay, is one thing. reminding that individual they can take a personal day might be pushing that thing a little far. calling an individual into the office because some guy got weirded out by a reply to a (potentially) inappropriate joke to keep their (fairly routine) medical conditions private is... excessive.

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Ntosh
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, both Guy and HR dealt with this in a very Weird way. It must be both infuriating and a little bit embarrassing, I mean to receive calls and be called into an office for something so natural and normal is beyond me. Don't they have better things to deal with? If it was me and they told me to go home, I would have switched off my computer, take my bag and say "Thank you, I will see you after 5 days". Then I would go home and spend time with my baby who will make me forget about all these crazy people in an instant.

Caitlin Percy
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unfortunately I haven't met an HR person who is sane enough to know what is normal. Not sure what kind of person wants to be in HR but they don't seem rational

Francis Peirce
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a manager in an office HR should have told the guy that it was improper for him to ask why she had a hot water bottle.

Gilcinei Leonel Pires
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What this guy did is moral harassement, also the HR did, it´s crime in Brazil.

frank0ys
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

...As a son and a brother, Guy disgusts me and HR disappoints me. Instead of being concerned about her welfare, they think it is unprofessional for a woman to have menstruation. What the hell is that about?

Shruti
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Manager " are you on your period " Me (on top of lungs) did you release your bowels today?

DopethronePunkUK
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a man i can assure you ladies this f****n troglodyte does not represent me or most men i know, this is disgraceful, grow the f**k up "guy". If i saw you in work with your hot water bottle i would know you are on your monthly and i wouldn't mention it, instead i would ask you if you needed anything and then be on my way, why bring attention to something that doesn't need attention?. With regards to HR, i am confident that all you woman (my wife included) know exactly how to handle your period and don't need any s****y advice from "Guy" or that awful waste of time HR advisor.

Pat
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She did specifically say she had cramps. When a woman says she has cramps, most people understand it is period related. Guy is an idiot but the HR lady is an absolute moron.

SnoopyCereal
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hello if anyone is wondering, I am "Guy" and I would also like to say if it is you-know-when, that is gross and you should take the day off ew girl cooties.

Bipin Gaur
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is plain stupid. HR should have pulled up the guy instead for wasting everyone's time.

Diana Hockley
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a disgusting attitude to take over a woman who has a hot water bottle in her lap! HR should be ashamed of their attitude and told this idiot to mind his own business.

Hollie Newton
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is c**p she did nothing wrong all she said was she had pain, she didn't use the word period and what was she supposed to say oh no I'm just weird oh its nothing don't worry y'know let's talk about guy over here laying on the floor and s**t in front of clients why isn't he being told off or sent home that is inappropriate not having a water bottle for pain. As for HR she could get them in trouble because now guy complained she had to go through humiliation of telling higher ups she is on a period only for them to be like well can you not, like take it out of work if its a problem which it wasn't until guy stuck his nose in.

Jennifer Hood
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He asked her, she did not offer up the information. She was in the privacy of her office. Does he not have a wife or girlfriend that has a period? Was he perhaps gay and not in any way prepared to deal with the natural female cycle? He apparently wasn't too uncomfortable as he was able to contact HR and discuss with them. UGH> people are so awful sometimes.

Karen Minser
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tell Guy to get over it. My granddaughter has such severe cramps she gets sick and vomits. Ask Guy how babies are born.I get annoyed because guys call in with the runs. That grosses me out but I keep quiet.

Jeannette Rose
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Our culture is such, that a man's comfort is put above a woman's. The office temperature is regulated for men's comfort. School dress codes target young girls with the admonition, "it distracts the boys", chairs are designed for men's bodies, 'standard' is for average height, average weight male but a woman needs 'woman's sizes', gym machines are designed with men in mind, and a unisex name is for both sexes if its a girl name (shannon, alex, kelly) but it's a girl with a boy's name if its, charlie, bobby, danny....well...you get it.

Carol Bradley
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The fact that he asked about the hotwater bottle on her LAP is questionable. I mean why was he looking there. He has issues that should be addressed. This world makes me sick. Stick up for yourselves ladies because HR and the rest of humanity aren't going to. DANG!

Nora H.
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hmm I'd say i's pretty hard NOT to notice, if the person you're talking to has a hotwater bottle on their lap.

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blugeagua
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, what a dumbass Guy is. And an immature brat to boot. What the hell is it with some men still being "shocked" and "scared" over periods? They are a completely natural part of the human female anatomy. That's like being shocked, appalled and scared over the fact that men have semen floating around in their testicles.

Katie Pepin
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here in the states I have found that guys do not need to be told. Todays male that I have worked with is apologetic that they made the female say what is wrong. And all that grade school nonsense is gone. They were all adults.

Katie Pepin
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For me..... Now back in the 70's and 80's..... different story.... I worked for men that thought you shouldn't be there or you are there to work and be played with. People who have not had this happen have no idea..... But I am so GLAD that the younger folks are changing the workforce attitudes against females. Just my personal experience ....

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Caroline Pitts
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree, she didn't even say what the problem was, she could have IBS!!! He is the one who got it in his head to have a baby boy fit!!!! Typical English Male! Still trying to control everything about a woman. Honestly, we have a*s--- here in the US asking about "being on the rag" but they don't throw us out of the office for having cramps. AND, HR shold have supported her not his hissy fit. He's totally unprofessional and I don't care what kind of performance eval he's given before, he's maneuvering to get her out of that job. Maybe he has a friend that want's it. No other reason to pull HR into the situation immediatly with his damn nose firmly in the air! (Hope he drowns)!

Kaye Johnson
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How Stupid of HR. I had serious problems before my hysterectomy and had to use a hot water bottle at work and I worked in a mans world !! Nothing was ever said, yes they knew i am sure but so what the bottle helped. Like this lady if clients came in it wasnt there, HR are so in the wrong here,,, and personally I would make a formal complaint...

Martina Třešková
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Freaks me out to hear that in 2017 this can happen. If Guy is uncomfortable, that's his problem. Extremely unprofessional? You're talking about him complaining to HR that one of the ladies in the office has menstrual cramps and uses a water bottle for relief? 'Cause I don't see anything else extremely unprofessional happening in this story. I can't believe the woman who took his side. WTF is wrong with her?

Peter Ferdinand
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once upon a time I was dating a very nice lady who had an occasionally crippling cycle. We're talking ER visit bad. If I were working in an office and supervising a female co-worker and she was using a water-bottle for pain relief I'd offer her the option of burning a sick/vacation day if she wanted. That said I wouldn't involve HR.

Casandra Ladd
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My boss says "hi"... All i have to do is grumble in his general direction and he gets it. I'm a damn hard worker, but a couple days a month I'm a mess. Any MAN that has been NEAR a woman KNOWS... It's not easy! Even for the toughest of us!!

Nora H.
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe true for some, not all. Women are different. I do get cramps, but it never affects my mood.

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Shay Hartless
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

After having to take a day each month off for 5 months in a row for intense bleeding, terrible cramps and an accompanying migraine... with an on going doctors note i night add, my boss yelled at me he never would've hired me if he had known i had so many "health problems." Mind you he manages about 150 women a day but having a uterus is a health problem??

Katinka Min
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey, this is actually cool: A company that allows you to take sick days whenever you are menstruating! As for 'Guy': since he is so horrified about a woman's reproduction system he'll clearly never be able to live with a woman and hence will never procreate. Problem solved, at least int the long run.

Dianne Morris
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Very simple. Gentlemanly behaviors, good manners practiced by everyone, male, female or child should eliminate this type of thing. Lack of manners, on the other hand, leaves the door open for anything becoming an issue. Very simple behave in a mannerly way. Behave with good manners. One never goes wrong when good manners rule. Now, you could be like me and ignore good manners and call the guy the schmuck he is. Oh, the word schmuck? A rude reference to the male member....you know, the male private part.

Helena Denel
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Know I'm about 7 years late BUT............. Why hasn't someone kicked this guy in his penis so he could even vaguely understand what chronic period pain feels like?

David Brumbley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This can't be real? Are you f@%kin kidding me ? What an absolute jackazz, his dumbazz got here from a woman that went through the same thing, I'm sorry that this beautiful woman got any kind of punishment for being a woman and having to deal with cramps , I guess if some ignorant fool like this co-worker asks a stupid question about your monthly ordeals just tell him to mind his own business because people have just gotten to be really dumb here lately

Angel LaChance
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She didn't even say she was on her period. Guy asked her what the water bottle was for and she said it was for pain. There was nothing explicit, unprofessional, or otherwise wrong with that. There was no reason for HR to get involved at all. But since HR did get involved, and there may have been a concern that she wasn't feeling well, they should have just let it go after she said she was fine in the email.

Remy Ellis
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Okay dude, listen up. I have a special medical condition called 'I have a uterus.' If you would like to file a complaint, go ahead and talk to half the world to complain about me having a hot water bottle in my lap due to period cramps. I bet all the women in the world would LOVE to hear about that!"

Angela Botros
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 22 and having intense cramps every month is one of the reasons I'm afraid to apply for a full time job...well done 21st century 😒😒

Terrill Searle
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If the stupid a*s didn't want to hear the truth, why did he ask her the question? This is not only sexual discrimination. It's sexual harassment too.

Sam Winchester
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Guy" was an idiot, but the HR person should be fired. They're lucky it wasn't me they spoke to or I would have threatened a discrimination lawsuit right there in the meeting room before I demanded an apology.

Annie Lo
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

eat ALMOND and WALNUT to get over the pain of period cramps No eating or drinking cold foods/water

Annie Lo
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

eat WALNUT and ALMOND to get over the pain of period cramps, NO sweet foods and cool water/foods (eg.ice)

Ann Rippel
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is thre a Labor Relations Board in England. You may need some legal advise. Some c**p never changes. Human relations class when I was in USAF, women are just for secretaries and they are always having their period. I thought I would explode. I wish you well.

Wombat34
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Guy is pathologically sexually repressed if the chain of associations 'hot water bottle'->'period pains'->menstruation->'women have hoo-has!' makes him feel significantly embarrassed. That's his problem to deal with, not anyone else's.

James Gitsas
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope "Guy" gives you an appropriate performance report relative to your accomplishments - NOT YOUR PERIOD! Keep notes for possible Legal Action - PERIOD!

Eirin Orum
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Guy is extremely uncomfortable, and it's unprofessional." The HR chick is right, Guy is behaving extremely childishly, and should be told to act like a professional!

Mark Wease
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I commented like 20 people commented back but. Can't find my comment to see what they said ? WTF??

Jo Kotylak
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It got to the point at my work where I was taking 3 days off a month for leakage and pain. I saved up my rostered days off, and sick leave for this, and went to the Dr for a certificate. After about the 5th month I myself spat the dummy, had a talk with my GP and organised it so I didn't get periods anymore. I'd have flung the damned heat pack at his stupid head. He should go home and whinge to his Mummy! Males like that drive me NUTS, he's not a man, just a being who has no common sense or empathy!

Margie Lazou
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"As if women in the corporate world needed something else to worry about, it is now apparently inappropriate for co-workers to know that you’re on your period, especially if they’re male." :D :D :D Sister, it's cause it turns them on! You go giving them the weird walk lady!

Brian Freed
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Guy Lesson number one. When a woman is either PMS or on her periods stay the hell away. Try to be sympathetic without being patronizing A woman's periods are as natural as the sun rising in the east, And then comes menopause, wise up ol fruit you may eventually die of old age.This is supposed to be the age of enlightenment.

Jimmy Rustled
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is the kind of stupidity that is becoming more and more common in this country...

Kelly
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From my point of view, Guy was unpolite, he shouldn't have asked any question.

Vicky Witter
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Guy" seems like the type male that thinks women pooping is a myth

Jane Lawhead
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good grief! Wait until he encounters a woman going through menopause symptoms! What a f*****g asshat and what a horrible way HR dealt with it.

Tracey Holahan
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So sad but unfortunately there are BROWN NOSES in all workforce thinking that if they tell tails it would look good for them, Well we have news for you you to can be replaced in a heart beat

David Poppy G
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think a woman should have a day off for the first day, but on full pay. They deserve it for putting up with it whilst we men just winge.

Tracey Holahan
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are BROWN NOSES in all work places , they think its ok but little do they know they can be replaced in a heart beat x

Diana Jacob
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was in High School (many, many years ago) I had menstrual pains so bad that I could not physically get out of bed. I had a doctor's note to excuse me from school. But the Dean tore it up right in front of my face and said I was faking it. 25 years later i had a hysterectomy for endometriosis. FU Dean!! Sexual harassment at it's finest.

Jackie Phillips
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seems oddly consistant everytime during a conversation between a male and a female one of them expresses what may be a legitimate concern for the others well being it gets twisted into an HR issue by one of them. This could have been a caring question and she gave a professional answer and that should have been it---but nooooo somebody had to make something of it.

Karina Tan
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like proclaiming to this man, "Mate, I hate to burst your bubble but you exist because your mum was fertile and had a fully functioning uterus that came complete with a menstrual cycle!" 😛

Jen S. Jones
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where does this story come from? Planet Saturn?? Seems so unreal, like we are dealing with zombies from planet Alcatraz or Saturn. Hopefully the giant spaceship will come back and pick up their moronic alien robots who are definitely not human nor are earthlings. Please go back to your zombie world. This is for the man who complained and the moronic alien HR department.

Patrick Fenton
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The HR rep and Guy should have common sense beaten into them!!!! Why don't people just mind their own business??? Certainly looks like a serious lawsuit waiting to happen!!

Innah Kostova
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The whole interpretation is wrong. Guy was clearly worried and he didn't feel he has the authority to let her go home so he passed that on HR team. HR team were the idiots in this situation.

Kelsey Simmons
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously guys should be used to this stuff by now,this guy acted like kids used to when they were in elementary school not wanting to get cooties.

Kelsey Simmons
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously guys should be used to this by now,he acted like how kids used to be in elementary school not wanting to get cooties.

Lilach Loughead
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

good ones, sometimes it look like people forget where the come from.... and yeah that she got pains means she is not pregnant... and will stay at work.....

Sheralyn
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would be the first to admit that a man talking about his erectile dysfunction would make me uncomfortable, but having your period is hardly a medical condition.

Krista Leary
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This 'Guy' needs to have a vagina for a few months....See how he feels about a hot water bottle after that.

Nova Jane Ogoc
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so immature.. He needs to grow an learn more in life.. Not only his profession

Bill Furnish
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Probably never had a live in girlfriend, so totally unaware of the normal processes a woman goes through on a monthly basis whe her "friend" comes to visit for a week or so!

Maria Lieske
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Makes me wonder if this "guy" ever grew up around any females in his lifetime, or the HR grew up around any "males" in her lifetime??!! Hmmmm??!!! Makes ya wonder now, doesn't it?!

Vera Deme
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, I would definitely change my working place. I am having headaches, pre-, menstrual and post-menstrual pains and and extremely painful ovulation that usually last 2-3 days as well. No medication has a real effect. All this taught me to be strong, no matter what to smile and I keep being not less professional than anyone else. There are days when even driving in that condition is an extreme effort for concentration. If that was not normal I would have be in sick leave for 90% of my time.

Deb Fletcher
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This group's HR are a bunch of PC crazy snowflakes that obviously lack in degrees in their own field.

Jessica Stohr
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Idk the labor laws in England but this was def. handled poorly! I think they should have a class for the males in the office to acclimate them to reality of women's cycles. :) If she can work through the pain than surely you can handle the sight of a hot water bottle!

Ed Wilson
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the "guy" is an asshat. plain and simple. he needs to woman up next time.

Olivia W
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's like he had never heard of periods and thought she had some medical condition. Crazy.

Emmanuel
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The GUY needs to mentally evaluated. I can only imagine what Guy's wife goes through at home when on her period.

Tracy Moorhead
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I honestly didn’t know these issues still exist! I would have to seriously compose myself before talking to anyone of authority. When I was in the Army I had a major issue while we playing Soldier right next to camp (which contained portables, however, I was never received from my foxhole! I was really embrassed explaining that the higher ups!!

John Louis
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I admit my comment was an exaggeration to effect. I obviously have not taken a public opinion poll. Nevertheless period shaming is a very real phenomenon. As for working to make society better on the topic here is a newsweek article: http://www.newsweek.com/2016/04/29/womens-periods-menstruation-tampons-pads-449833.htmlhttp://www.newsweek.com/2016/04/29/womens-periods-menstruation-tampons-pads-449833.html

Ted Harding
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Guy was just concerned that his colleague was unwell and shouldn't be at work. He probably didn't even think about the cause. Not all men are focussed all the time about that part of women's anatomy. Some of us just have 'colleagues'; male or female, black, white or Asian don't come into it! Get a life!!! Be thankful he was concerned for you.

Krystine Patterson
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ladies, you don't have to have searing pain of period cramps, use Ponstan (google it), it blocks the prostaglandins that cause the womb to cramp. And no this isn't an ad, it's just a bit of advice from a fellow lassy. Guy is a tool btw.

Celeste Spaniel
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It doesn't work for everyone, and shouldn't be taken long term as it can cause complications, unfortunately.

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Malcontent
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

maybe if she actually said to the HR people 'I'm on my period, not ill, no medical issues', they wouldn't have over-reacted the way they did; you'll notice not once did she actually explain the hot water bottle, just made vague remarks for why she had it. A little explanation goes a long way and stops people leaping to conclusions. Nothing like inviting questions and not giving answers just so you can b***h and whine about it on twitter 5 minutes later.

MaLinda L Stevens
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey if she wanted she could have complained about him looking in places that he shouldn't have been looking. Had hit eyes not been in her lap he wouldn't have seen the hot water bottle. Not like she was waving it over her head while giving a whooping cry like a drunk girl at a party once she starts yanking clothing off.

John Louis
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is a testimony to the human condition and especially the male gender that the vast majority of men have a complete and total psychological, creative, sociological, emotional, cognitive, spiritual, anthropological, interactive apocalyptic breakdown when there even a hint of the topic of menstruation arises.

Adam Havlík
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A lot of guys, but 'vast majority' is amassive exaggeration. Most guys have bought tampons without needing a trip to the psychologist ;-)

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senbon zakura
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

read this story and I wasn't even mad...I just want to make this clear before I write anything else: 1) It's not like she was fired 2) she is really playing up the whole "female on rag" stereotype which doesn't really help us females. 3) She's actually not helping her own situation at this point asides from complaining about first world problems My two cents: The article highlights a male coworker basically got her in trouble with HR because she told him she's not feeling well due to her menstrual cramps. It painted a mysogenic facade onto the male coworker in question.... It even implies that men should stay in their lane when it comes to these things since they're "ignorant" when it comes to stuff like Menstruation. However some men out there REALLY actually don't know what it's like to have cramps. Its not their fault and they should not be blamed for not being mind readers.... She did not consider perhaps the guy was honestly concerned about her wellness and decided to talk to HR

Donna Hagen
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She doesn't say, but I wonder if Guy happens to be Muslim? They have real problems with women, especially menstruating women.

Nora H.
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh come oooon..! Always someone who has to turn ANY subejct into a muslim issue.. *eye rolling*

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Tinfoil Hatter
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7 years ago

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PANDA PROPAGANDA .... next on panda there will be a male-female issue with not such a clear side-line ....

Stephen Rifkin
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7 years ago

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And if HR didn't pat her on the head she'd sue for discrimination.

Jan Coleman-Balch
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7 years ago

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Hey this manager is not so bad...with an attitude like that, every women on earth would be getting paid holidays every month for 7 days. Not that bad really, when you think about it...it was actually a law in the dark ages. ;)

Brian Lami
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7 years ago

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Look, I'm in NO WAY condoning what HR did, but in Guy's defense, it is still a recent, and not universal, thing that males are told anything more than, "Stay back, and throw chocolate," when it relates to the female body's natural processes. And a lot of guys still have a hard time comprehending that just because you're bleeding doesn't mean you're injured.

Σ. Δράκων
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7 years ago

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What if she talks with strange pronunciation and everybody thought she was saying "crabs" instead of "cramps"?

Necee Lynn
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7 years ago

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"Its for the pain" said a girl in a work environment where it is not uncommon to warm yourself by personal innovation ( awful workplace) . .. I think he thought it was full of vodka . Not thinking about period cramps, hence HR being told to look into it.

Ben Smith
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7 years ago

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Yet more Panda click-bait. Yes, Guy isn't too bright, but how do we KNOW that he didn't assume that she had the stomach flu?? Sure, he over-reacted even if it was the stomach flu, but everyone is jumping all over him and HR when, in fact, we don't know NEARLY enough to accurately judge what really happened.

Full Name
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Notice how the people who are saying this are all men? I find that interesting. It's true though, until we hear the other side of the story we can't play executioner here. It probably did happen just as she says it did, and for the same reasons, but until we KNOW we shouldn't be calling for people's heads. I think the women are more furious because they do face some serious male idiocy about their baby-making parts and are so fed up they are (for good reason) out for blood now. No pun intended.

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William Teach
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I'm sorry, but, in today's society of attempting to be a Victim to garner support, I have a hard time believing this. First of all, people keep making all sorts of things up, and there's no way to verify if any of this even happened. In the days of social media rule, people can, and do, say anything in order to be a Victim. 2nd, the guy, Guy, would have to be a complete idiot to bring this to HR, especially in a place like England, where people get prosecuted for saying Mean Things. And, HR wouldn't be stupid enough to bring this up in this way. Sure, there's always that chance that this was real, but, I just have my doubts. Let the scoldings begin. PS: People are still entirely too sensitive.

Jan Foster
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know of one HR manager who, if they didn't like a person (there didn't have to be a reason) they would gossip about them and spread malicious stories, usually to the top people, and then would start undermining that person which involved refusing them things like training, special leave, etc., until that person became so anxious they couldn't work. After taking a week or two off sick, on their return to work they would be called into the HR office and castigated for taking sick leave. There was no point in complaining to the Chief Executive as he was totally in with the scheme as were all of the senior staff and some of the other staff jumped on the bandwagon because they thought it would gain them brownie points. These things do happen and unfortunately it's accepted that, these days, this is how corporate organisations can be run, and no-one dared to speak out.

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Trisha Dragon
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7 years ago

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Guy could be a well meaning nitwit. HR knows better.

William Morales
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7 years ago

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This is what happens when you can be offended by anything and will take advantage of it.

Royal_Emperor
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ok I don't understand the complete outrage. This is a good guy as per the lady herself (because she has no problems with him). We don't know how he described or talked to the HR about her situation.why is everyone judging him ? maybe he just conveyed to the HR that someone is having menstrual cramps and if she could go home and rest. He is just a co worker, he may be comfortable talking about periods with women he knows, but she is his coworker and his junior from the context. so if he is uncomfortable talking to a junior coworker about period problems it is justified because any conversation (medial or otherwise) related to genitals with strangers can suddenly be construed as sexual harassment. I know i may be coming off as a horrible sexist and a jerk with my comment but i am not trying to be one. ladies of boredpanda can you help me out? If such situation arises what would be the most appropriate response for a guy?this is not a rhetorical or sarcastic question.

Daria B
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In fact, it's the HR department here to blame, for not managing the situation professionally, by taking their time to hear and listen from both sides. However, I personally am a bit annoyed about all the taboo surrounding menstruations. Sure, you don't need to proudly display it (which she didn't do, btw), but it shouldn't be something to hide that much either. Besides that, it might even have not been from menstruation, cramps can come after eating something wrong too....

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Anne Collier
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7 years ago

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Oh no - someone said something to a woman that she didn't like - how awful.

Daniel Losinger
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7 years ago

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There is no evidence that this actually happened.

Nora H.
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7 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Which is the case for most of the stories on BP. Better get busy posting your clever observation 8-10 times in the comment section on all of them too.

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