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Woman Finds Out Why BF Doesn’t Want To Introduce Her To His Friends, Considers Ending Everything
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Woman Finds Out Why BF Doesn’t Want To Introduce Her To His Friends, Considers Ending Everything

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Sooner or later, there comes a time in a relationship when you must ask yourself, “Now what?”

A woman who goes online by the whimsical nickname Burritowrap had progressed with her boyfriend to the point where the next logical step seemed to be meeting his buddies.

However, as she explained on the lifestyle and parenting forum Mumsnet, he wasn’t ready for it.

What’s more, after being pressed to explain why, the guy spit out a hurtful barrage that made the woman question why they were together at all.

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    And his explanation as to why only made things worse

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    In some circles, the term for the guy’s behavior is called pocketing. Simply put, it’s a situation where a person you’re dating avoids or hesitates to introduce you to their friends, family, or other people they know, in-person or on social media, even though you’ve been going out for a while. It’s as if your relationship is non-existent to the public eye.

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    To learn more about it, we contacted Jourdan Travers, LCSW, a licensed clinical therapist and Clinical Director of Awake Therapy, a telehealth company that provides online psychotherapy, counseling, and coaching to individuals, couples, families, and organizations in over 40 countries worldwide.

    “There are various reasons why someone might choose to keep their partner separate from their family and friends, including concerns about the commitment level in the relationship, embarrassment about what their partner might think of [them], or vice versa, and how their family might feel about their partner,” Travers told Bored Panda.

    “They could also be uncomfortable attending family gatherings and have decided to spare their partner from feeling the same way.”

    Another possible explanation is that someone might not be entirely truthful about themselves and keep the person they’re dating away in an attempt to protect the facade they’ve created. By avoiding introductions, they might maintain the fragile image of themselves that attracted their romantic interest in the first place.

    Plus, if someone is going out of their way to keep your presence a secret, there’s also a chance they might be hiding you from someone else — perhaps an ex, another person they’re seeing, or a friend they hope to date in the future.

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    “A key here is to get curious about it and communicate that with your partner,” said Travers, who also contributes to the website Therapy Tips, a news and publishing division of Awake Therapy. “A good place to start is, ‘I wonder why…’ For example, ‘I wonder why I have yet to meet one of your friends?’ or ‘I wonder why you haven’t invited me to come with you when you go to your parents’ house for a family dinner?'”

    “These questions inevitably lead to more questions [which, in turn], can lead to answers about the relationship or to have a deeper, more intimate conversation about where the relationship is at the present moment and the timeline your partner might have in mind before formal introductions are made.”

    Even though the experience was awful, at least the author of the post learned that she and the guy are after different things in life.

    Judging from her words, it was him, and not her, so hopefully the woman can move forward knowing she deserves someone who values and respects her presence.

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    As the woman’s story went viral, she provided more information on their relationship

    Most people suggested she run as far away from him as she can

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    Rokas Laurinavičius

    Rokas Laurinavičius

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    Rokas is a writer at Bored Panda with a BA in Communication. After working for a sculptor, he fell in love with visual storytelling and enjoys covering everything from TV shows (any Sopranos fans out there?) to photography. Throughout his years in Bored Panda, over 300 million people have read the posts he's written, which is probably more than he could count to.

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    Rokas Laurinavičius

    Rokas Laurinavičius

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Rokas is a writer at Bored Panda with a BA in Communication. After working for a sculptor, he fell in love with visual storytelling and enjoys covering everything from TV shows (any Sopranos fans out there?) to photography. Throughout his years in Bored Panda, over 300 million people have read the posts he's written, which is probably more than he could count to.

    Gabija Saveiskyte

    Gabija Saveiskyte

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    Hi there! I am a Visual Editor at Bored Panda. My job is to ensure that all the articles are aesthetically pleasing. I get to work with a variety of topics ranging from all the relationship drama to lots and lots of memes and, my personal favorites, funny cute cats. When I am not perfecting the images, you can find me reading with a cup of matcha latte and a cat in my lap, taking photos (of my cat), getting lost in the forest, or simply cuddling with my cat... Did I mention that I love cats?

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    Gabija Saveiskyte

    Gabija Saveiskyte

    Author, BoredPanda staff

    Hi there! I am a Visual Editor at Bored Panda. My job is to ensure that all the articles are aesthetically pleasing. I get to work with a variety of topics ranging from all the relationship drama to lots and lots of memes and, my personal favorites, funny cute cats. When I am not perfecting the images, you can find me reading with a cup of matcha latte and a cat in my lap, taking photos (of my cat), getting lost in the forest, or simply cuddling with my cat... Did I mention that I love cats?

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    09iskyla_isotop@icloud.com
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Giving your age difference and his behaviour I'd say this guy is already married to someone else.

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    09iskyla_isotop@icloud.com
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Giving your age difference and his behaviour I'd say this guy is already married to someone else.

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