That poll was missing the correct answer: he is a delusional weirdo.

I absolutely believe this can happen. I worked with a man, he was late 40’s, I was early 30’s. We were workplace cordial, but that’s it. We did not flirt, we did not see each other outside of work, we weren’t even friends, just coworkers. One day, I get into work and he’s not there, he quit. No big deal, coworkers come and go. A couple weeks later I receive a letter. The letter is from my former coworker, and he says that he’s in love with me. He also says that he quit the job because he “felt himself losing control around me”. Again, we were not even friends!

My freshman year of college, Chemistry class was kicking my butt. So I asked a guy in my class to help me a couple of times - but not like a date - we sat *in the classroom* & he briefly helped me. I found out later that he had threatened self harm, locking himself in the bathroom & shouting, "If you want to know why I'm k1lling myself, just ask [my name]. She'll tell you!" I felt awful, & I had no idea why he said that. I was just glad he hadn't done it.

I can see how this might happen without the boy being delusional, just mistaken. Once in uni, I asked a boy I hardly knew to be my lab partner - I could see he didn't have one, and the friend I had gone with clearly wanted to change lectures when he saw what was involved. As a lab partner, he was superb and as we spent a lot of time together - just the 2 of us, but entirely academic work. Soon our friendship groups merged. One evening, I flirted a little with a friend of his and his group got really weird. Next day the boy came to tell me we needed to brake up. At no point had I flirted with him or had any physical contact. When I said we had never been dating, he was actually relieved - said that made more sense of my behaviour, he had been feeling very upset about our relationship. Turns out his friends had all told him we were dating and lack of experience that comes with youth he had believed them. I wonder if the man in this story has been swept along with his friends thoughts

Ugh... Was friends with a guy for a whole 2 weeks before he asked me out on text and i responded that i wasn't interested in dating at that time but prefer it if we remain friends. Needless to say he was very unhappy and said he had enough friends and wants me as his girl. Whenever this memory rears its ugly head I'm still doing mental gymnastics as to the logic behind this and i couldnt be arsed to reach out and figure out his reasoning. Thank you for reading about my experience in navigating (ab?)normal human interaction

honestly this happened to me. not the proposal part tho. wen i was in college me and my best friend would go to these college bars near the campus. our friend group grew to a nice size and wed all go together. one of the guys in our group was like a brother figure to me and i trusted him completely. i never showed signs of being interested or went on dates with him. hell i never hung out just me and him. our schedules were super different. one day we r at the bar and we all made a couple new friends and he introduced me as his girlfriend. me and everyone else in our group was so confused. i looked at him and asked y he said that and he responded with "cuz u r". he never asked me to b his girlfriend or showed signs of being interested. the closest sign would b him telling me i looked beautiful but hed say that to all the girls in our friends group. i ended up taking him outside to talk to him and had to tell him how i see him as a brother and dont have romantic feelings for him. the worst part of it all was that a select few girls in my friends group knew i was in a relationship with someone at my job. so i had to tell him about that too. he how long and wen i said a year and a half i could see the gears in his head turning. he was realizing i was in this relationship before we even met. he asked y i didnt tell him wen we met or after he became like a brother to me. i told him quite honestly cuz he wouldnt like the guy i was dating. he got super jealous of sucessful already have a career guys and naturally hated them. my boyfriend was a chef and ran his own restaurant and i was a waitress. it was originally his fathers but it was a very successful steak house and he was older and already out of culinary school. but ya as soon as i told him that he was a chef and said he owned the place he flipped out. it was the exact reaction i was expecting. he just ran back inside and ended up sitting at the bar all night drinking the night away. i learned that night that my other guy friends were interested in me but never went for it cuz they assumed i was already taken and no way i could b single. they were kinda relieved they never tried. they tried talking to him the next day but he just ranted on and on about how a successful guy got to me first so they didnt get answers out of him until a few weeks later. he just assumed i was his girlfriend bc i told one of the newer ppl previous to the new friends that night that they can trust him hes a gentle giant. he was 6'5. he just assumed me calling him gentle giant was my pet name for him. i wasnt the only person who called him that. my best friend called him that way before i did. some ppl unfortunately see things the way they want it not how it actually is. my friendship with him ended that night. he also ditched the friend group all together cuz everyone reminded him of me. i ran into him years later and he apologized for how he acted and asked if id b willing to give him an actual chance. unfortunately it was like a rerun of back then. it was 2018 and i had gotten proposed to by my boyfriend that very same day. i ran into him at a bar/venue where my now husbands band was playing. he didnt react the same considering it was 10 years later. we did become friends again and he did attend my wedding. the guy i married wasnt the chef we broke up a year after that whole thing but stayed friends after the break up. i normally dont do that but it was a mutual break up due to him moving across the country for a mega job oppertunity. these days idk wat my friend is up to cuz he kinda dropped off the map. ive asked the ppl who stayed friends with him all this time and they dont even kno. but like i said ppl just assume things or see only wat they want and then it becomes a very akward and friendship ruining situation. i mean ive also had an ex who wouldnt understand that i broke up with him. he thought i was lying or joking around. his clingy nature is y it ended. got to restraining order point too. so ya this happens both assuming in a relationship and not accepting break ups. unfortunately it can b dangerous in some cases. if someone is extremely in their own little world being told otherwise can make them act out. the ppl who suggested the OP talk to him in a public place were absolutely right. u dont kno exactly how they will react even if u trust them completely. i got lucky and figured the talk wouldnt go well cuz he was kinda a hot head but never did anything to back up his anger except rant about it. if the situation is completely unknown like it was for the OP then it could possibly b dangerous. especially at a the person is proposing lvl. that means the OP's friend assumed theyve been in a relationship for most of their friendship. that is a very risky private conversation. to him it would b like he wasted his emotions and time add the depression and humilation he felt on top of that it could get dicey.

sooo, where is the update? Normally it will be included, or BP writers will reach out to op for additional info, or add "the account is now suspended and we wont hear any more updates.

I can't believe she even CONSIDERED responding to his long text (other than to say, "Let's talk in person.") That is not a conversation that should be had over text.

Do not propose in public.

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I feel for them both as it sounds like they both missed signals from each other. This is not as uncommon as we'd all like to think. OP laughing was unfortunate because it sounds like he's not had much experience with relationships and he may not developed the think skins relationships sometimes need. I hope they can talk it out and maintain their friendship. I really don't people should be saying either side is TA, it definitely soubds more of pa miscommunication

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Not a plot plot twist, but a plot twist twist. Let's twist again...this is all in her head.

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Don't blame that man. This is normal. He only try to get the best woman. If you found no romance on him, then let him try the other. I have proposed to 3 girls in the past.. One of them is legit my girlfriend at that time.. But all reject except the last one. Sure the rejection felt not great... But, hey.. That is life.. May be someday you will regret to reject him, may be you not.. But again, that is just how life goes..