Ah c'mon... he just scared her once and was drunk. He even said he was sorry!! Besides her knowing he has a temper he's a REALLY good guy. He will not do anything like that again... Me: 🤦‍♀️ He has an anger issue and being that out of control by a commercial, how will he be with screaming babies and so on? 🚩🚩🚩

The part about how males wait until children are involved in a relationship to become abusive is so true and honestly not talked about enough. I've seen so many women stay with abusive males who babytrapped them just for the kids' sake. It's so sad.

I'm sorry, but I am raising three boys, and the first time they do this to a partner, male or female, I feel like that partner has the right to walk away. "Boys will be boys" is supposed to mean they do silly, stupid things, not hurt others. Not sure why some people are ok with abuse.

"Other than his tendency to bite faces off, this leopard is a wonderful fur-ever friend!"

She really wrote "outside of the anger bursts"... No. Just, NO! I have never laid my hands on a woman. Ever. Period. Even when one tried to hit me for keeping her from drunkenly walking into traffic. Even when one slapped me because she "was frustrated" (never spoke to her again). Bursts of anger are when people are beaten or worse. He needs to get himself sorted mentally before she should even consider going back. If I were her, I wouldn't ever go back.

OP absolutely did the right thing by leaving. Frankly, the first red flag was screaming at OP during the commercial, even before punching a wall. That ex-boyfriend earned his prefix, with "honors," so to speak. That said, how irresponsible/short-sighted was Tubi for making that commercial? The Super Bowl often is the catalyst for a perfect storm of toxic masculinity, alcohol abuse, and rabid fanaticism. And to joke about ripping it away? I sincerely doubt this was an isolated incident, and I'm shocked there hasn't been a more serious DV incident reported. Not that the prevalence of DV incidents gets the attention it deserves, sadly...

"Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft. It gets suggested a lot for these things alongside "The Gift of Fear." I also inherently do not trust people who get this angry over a game - any game, including video games.

My ex flipped out when I referred to their rugby team as the pink cows, instead of the blue bulls, when the team debuted pink kit - it was a red flag added to the many so far

I feel so validated. My mom's a yeller, when I lived at home we did not have a good relationship. She'd fly off the handle, tell me she hated me, and this always came with terrifying amounts of manic yelling. Her and I are fine now, we've both grown and developed and our relationship is awesome. BUT, anyone yelling makes me very very nervous and upset. I've dated two men who have gotten wildly upset at TV shows/commercials. As soon as I saw that I started to shut down and the relationships ended shortly after. It's just completely unnecessary and sickening to me. Thank goodness there wasn't a freak power outage or something - we might've found this woman's dead body the next day.

Most abusers and manipulative people can act nice when they want something. As soon as they get the person back, they're back to their old ways. Living with someone involves a lot of trust- hope she listens to her instincts and dumps him, but the fact that she's talked to him so much, shows she's not willing to leave.

I'm actually amazed at the amount positive support I'm has been showed. Sometimes a person really doesn't see the abuse until it's long into the relationship or it is so insidious, it's the whole "oh I support you ,but you know you could never manage it that job. Or but everyone knows you're terrible with money " when he's spent all the money on drink and drugs, or calm down you're to emotional don't cause a fuss. Or the worst using your own children to belittle you and to skew the way they are you. It doesn't have to be physical, emotional pain kills too. But to be fair men suffer the same type of abuse and have far fewer resources available to them. For those in Britain Alex Skeel ( I'm sorry if I've spelt it incorrectly) was literally days from death and still didn't understand he was in such a bad way. Please don't think I'm trying to minimise domestic violence on women, having survived DV myself, but please men are victims too, please help them become survivors too.

I'm more disgusted at her parents saying she "overreacted". He punched a hole in the wall!!!! Wtf is wrong with them? They should be supporting their daughter! And yet they don't even care.

I finally asked for a divorce after a similar incident where my husband screamed at me because he believed I had turned the TV off. It had just gone to black for a few seconds. My mother also said the wrong thing "Oh, honey - that's just what men do sometimes". This woman needs to realize that this is a violent pattern, and it will happen again - even worse. Especially if he punches a hole in the wall.

Please, please, find somewhere to live. Do not tell him or your parents where. Get friends to get your stuff and meet them somewhere so they don't know either. When/if he starts anger management, insist he sign a release that you can be told his attendance and progress and agree he may only call you once a week. If he won't do that for you, he doesn't deserve you. Meanwhile, join a support group if you can't afford counseling. If, after 6 months, he has attended every session unless he was hospitalized, and he is reported as making appropriate progress, agree to meet only in public once a week for 3 months, and then include at friends' places. His issues are not easy, and he needs to concentrate on them without trying to maintain a relationship. I'm sorry your own parents don't have your back. Groups and/or counseling can advise you on dealing with them. Be careful about invites from them, they may invite him under their belief they're helping. Be safe, be well, be happy.

can you imagine what he would have done if it actually was her changing the channel?

She had the right initial response. It's just so worrying that her parents, the very people who should have her best interests at heart, are minimizing his behaviour and telling her it's no big deal.

100% right move - yes people lose their temper but if you lose it towards someone you love, or even people in general you need some help. He needs some help.

I had two really bad volatile relationships before I got with my now husband. One was straight up a bad drunk and was very physically abusive (once) I left that day and never went back when he showed up at my house and kicked the door in I put a gun in his face and said if I see you again next time I pull the trigger...never saw him again. Second loser never physically abused me but damn he would break everything in his reach during a disagreement. After 2 sets of dishes in a month l left him too...please don't put up with any form of abuse in your relationships this applies to women and men!

I feel like there's way too much focus on him hitting the wall and not enough on the verbal abuse. I mean sure there's the idea of, "What if he had hit her?" but the fact is he didn't. Yet he DID verbally abuse her, and it's like people are more concerned with what could have happened than what actually did happen.