NTA, and I seriously have no idea why everyone is saying YTA??? She inherited money from her grandfather passing. That money is hers, and has nothing to do with her boyfriend.. She’s paying her half of the rent. His half is his problem. Also a year is still a fairly new relationship, and they could absolutely break up. Then what if she gets into another year long relationship? Should she pay their half of the rent, too. She shouldn’t have even told him the full amount. Then again, now she knows that he feels entitled to her money!

With that kind of money, I agree with another post from above; buy a home.

Wow, even my friend who I rented with at one point paid more rent so we could live in a great place, and I took the less nice room as I was earning less. But when he was poor, I lent him money, and now he’s wealthy and I’ve fallen on hard times, he’s offered me a free holiday in his new holiday home. But I guess that’s why we’ve been friends for over twenty years.

Even if they were married... inheritance is not communal property. If they were to divorce, she'd get to keep whatever inheritance was squirreled away and not tied into the marriage home. So the fact that they're not even married at this point, it is 100% hers to do with as she pleases. She could work part time and live off that and never touch a cent of the inheritance - if that's what she wanted to do. Buying a home as an investment would be wise - or hell buy an apartment BUILDING and live in one unit and rent out the rest for income. She may choose to be gracious and allow him to live with her there. Or she could still charge him rent - WHATEVER SHE WANTED.

Ah, now this is a good AITA post. Has some reasonable points in the various verdicts.

4 million is a lot at retirement. If OP plans on children and buying a house the accounts will start draining without proper investment.

Your BF may not have seemed like a golddigger when there was no gold, but now that there is, suddenly there's a shovel in his hands. Have the "where is this relationship going" discussion with him WITHOUT talking about money. It's your separate property, but once you commingle it, that makes him entitled to a share. Also, talk to both a financial planner AND an estate planner to make sure that money is working for you and will be protected. As much as we hate to admit it, money changes things.

NTA and it's weird to even consider OP the a*****e here. BF calls her selfish, demands all expenses paid, and a joint account, etc. They aren't married. Who cares if this is a long term relationship and it's irrelevant whether she would eventually marry this person. Granted, if I were the BF I might feel some kind of way about things being 50/50 if my GF could easily afford it. But that would be something for me to come to terms with, not my GF. So weird

Who the hell would feel entitled to another persons money?? They are not married! I think people think 4 million is a lot of money. Yes it is but not if you want to keep it for a lifetime and do things you want or if you have kids. If they were married I'd feel a little different bc there's a prenup that would protect both people.

One reaction was: buy the placs, stop paying rent. Clever. Sit on your a*s playing gamen burning through money. Dumb.

NTA. They're not married, legally he's not entitled to anything. It is up to her and her alone what to do with the money. If they were married, the situation might be different. Plus the relationship is 1.5 years old. It's not like they've been together for a super long time.

Now I aint saying he's a gold digger... but he totally is. Op is NTA.

So, there was a AITA from a young woman about her boyfriend who asked her to move in with him. And he wanted for 50:50. But he made a lot of money and she doesn't. Everybody here were - "Well, he makes a lot of money, let him pay everything". And now "It's her money, not his, he must pay his part". And if this is not a sexism...

ditch boyfriend . it's that simple . he's gonna take your money and run

NTA. your money your rules

HELLZ, NAAH on paying for anything. Yeah, sure thing, "boyfriend" who suddenly thinks your money is his. Hire a financial advisor and a lawyer, immediately. Make every dollar of your inheritance yours and yours alone, and make sure it and you are legally protected in every way. Then cancel the lease on your apartment and buy a house. Boyfriend can stay in the apartment or pay you rent in your new house, if he likes. Your inheritance is YOURS. And no one. No boyfriend, no sport-effer, no rando is entitled to anything you don't award willingly. And your obligation to share it with anyone is zero. If anyone doesn't like it, they can take it up with your grandfather's corpse. "Joint account." The literal nerve.

No one is the a*s. She needs to sort it out with a financial advisor, then figure out the boyfriend situation.

NTA He will NEVER be entitled to a dime of YOUR inherited money EVER! We, family, went through this and legally no spouse or anyone is entitled to it. Your relationship i m afraid is in deep dip. Find a really good reputable financial advisor immediately. Don’t delay…

Context and details matter. How did the conversations start? If it is an issue, are you both in it for the long term? It easily could be gold digging. But it also could be concern about building something together for the long term. How has it been up until now? Does he willingly and unthinkingly share everything? Basically, has his behavior been that you're a team together? Or is it always just two individuals that happen to live together? Is it always 50/50? If always split I'd be concerned. You need 2 plans. One for you. Another for the both of you as a couple. Does his past behavior prove he would share if situations were reversed? Not what is claimed now. How have things progressed previously? And before, were you planning on committing 100%? Money will normally just amplify the issues and divisions.

I can't say YTA for putting up firm boundaries about money that is very much legally her own. It is healthy to set financial boundaries. When reading this, my interpretation is that she isn't planning a future with him, therefore not seeing the money as 'ours'. If the guy is demanding she does something with HER money, that's just wrong. Demanding her to do something with her money that exclusively benefits him? He's the ahole.

I mean, i get supporting each other & all that but asking or expecting is a bit much on his end. Ive been married 15yrs. He makes more than me & has better credit (thank you Sallie Mae!) & we still try to do what we can to pay our bills & save. I dont (never have) expected him to pay my bills from before him & neither did he, even after we married. We recently purchased a house & its in his name, etc. Since i cant pay a mortgage, i cover the little things. Groceries, cable, things that come up for our kid, gas for my car, etc. We're looking into ways to add me to it but its more for the fact that he wanted to buy a house for all of us & if something were to happen to him, he wants to make sure we dont have a ton of hurdles to stay here. If he didnt agree w/ that, it would be his choice & im ok with that

She's not wrong, she's just an a-hole. He's not entitled to her money, but imo what she's doing isn't right. She's just chilling at home, while he still busts his a*s working and she won't even cover rent or help save anything for their future. She's certainly lazy and not very bright. Paying rent when you have the funds to buy your own home without having to pay a mortgage is basically pissing your money away. And if she bought her own house she wouldn't be having this argument with her boyfriend, because neither of them would have to pay rent anymore. Then she should invest whatever is left into something sensible, so her money can work for her and multiply. She also shouldn't stop working, but find a job she likes or start her own business. 4 mil is really not that much if you plan on starting a family, it will drain out really fast.

There are issues not discussed here. In some States, these two ARE MARRIED By virtue of COMMON LAW. For all we know, the Common Law Husband (her BF) has legal claims on that money. I am assuming that is NOT the case but this is why people living together should have a contract defining what they are to each other and if you aren't engaged, for heaven's sake don't say a couple unless you want to have a divorce lawyer involved. If one of them needed health insurance and the other one was dumb enough to sign a "spousal equivalent" paper so they could be covered, then that too means they are the same as MARRIED. LIving together may seem cool but then somebody inherits money and THIS happens. Know the laws in your STATE before shacking up and if it is not a common law state, still be very careful about things you do to save money. Many websites have legal forms you can fill out to create a "living together" agreement or "Roommate" agreement

WHOOOAA,at the amount of entitled arrogant ppl telling her she should support him! No she doesnt have to,no matter how much money she has! Especially when he had the audacity to ask her! If she wanted to support him in any way,she would,but as man,demanding her to do it,thats gross :/ Op ,time for some time alone,get a new bf later ,never look back on this one. He will keep asking you for money and most probably leave you if he dont get what he wants.Also,the best idea for the future? dont talk about your inheritance :-)

YNTA, stop wasting money on rent and invest in a condo. Your BF needs to keep paying his share of rent/utilities etc. When I got divorced my ex tried to go for my inheritance, he lost his claim.

If you are paying half already, YANTA, He just wants you to support him. Buy a house for yourself. I came into some inheritance, which surprised me, but my husband never asked for a cent. I do buy things for him sometimes, but not because he asked. We are building a new home and he is paying mostly everything for that, as well as doing most of the work himself. I tell him that I will buy or pay for something for the house. Sometimes he will let me.

It looks like they haven't been together terribly long, and they certainly have lived together for less time. Even though she is living frugally, she likely has spent more money than she normally would have since the inheritance. And bf has enjoyed a lot of what she has spent the money on. Birthday present and Xmas presents are much nicer, now. And a housekeeper coming in twice a week. I wonder if the hesitation at paying more based on her higher financial resources is based on her feelings regarding the seriousness of their relationship. She said as much by clearly stating they are not married. When one of a couple pays more proportionally for shared expenses, they feel it to be an investment in the relationship. Bf actually worried her more by requesting that he invest less in their relationship. This is a life altering event to suddenly be given so much wealth all at once. Bf should be wary of pressuring her financially right now.

This is up to you. Your money is your money. In my opinion I'd seek financial advice and potentially seeking therapy with your partner about how to effectively handle this kind of money.

NTA and I would suggest you to reconsider the relationship. I mean it is your money and year and a half of dating is not that long. You have the opportunity to improve your life so make the best of it.

NTA, but she might want to think about getting a part time job or even volunteering, so she gets out of the house more. Or, rather, apartment. She really should buy a home, if for no other reason than it's equity. Heck, buy a couple and earn rental income.

You are definitely NTA. If you break up will he ever pay you back? If I were in that situation I would get my own studio and see of he still wants to date you. If not, let him go.

DONT MAKE A JOINT ACCOUNT. That money is not his will never be his has never been his. This is a new relationship and he is expecting you to pay all the rent? You are paying to get the house cleaned. You are paying your half he should pay his. NTA he isn’t entitled to the things you inherit. That would be sort of like saying that if you inherited a ring from someone you should sell it and split the money. Or not sell it and give him it. He just wants the money NOW. Not saying that he went into it for the money but he’ll stay in it for the money. 4 million is good enough to set you for life but not if you’re paying for that cleaning and all the rent and the food and eventually everything else because “you can afford it” that guy wants you to make a joint account so he can use that money then buy things he wants. Tell him you didn’t have a joint account before you don’t need one now. Also I have a funny feeling that the rent money would disappear from that account…..

No, no, no,no,no,no. A year and a half? 18 months? He ain't entitled to a plug-ged nickel. Even if you were married and didn't feel like you were going to spend your futures together, that conversation should be 'My money is not your money, honey. Sorry.' I don't know where the rest of the people are conjuring up this expectation that she should share the wealth with this guy. She shouldn't even be sharing an apartment with the guy. 18 months isn't enough time to share a toothbrush without hesitation and trauma much less 4 Million dollars.

Hey bored Panda I have a question for you...Why do you find postings from 2 years ago and post them. It is completely irrelevant now. You only drudge up s**t from the past for these people. Good god, leave the dead buried. Go find more recent stuff to post. You know it's out there.

You could tell him you didn't take him to raise. Because you're rich doesn't mean you're responsible for his bills.

He’s not entitled to it and they’re not married so I can see why she’s NTA. However, quitting your job and hiring a housekeeper so you can be a professional couch potato right in front of him makes YTA. If you had no intention of sharing it, then why make it known to him that you have it? I wouldn’t be pissed if my SO came into some money, but I’d be pissed if they rubbed it in my face like that.

nta. and...RUN! this guy sounds like he found the golden goose and wants to squeeze the bird. as for her...sure, take a year off but also invest and look for a job that you love. taking time off is great to rest, recharge, pursue interests, etc. but as someone who no longer works it gets boring. would love to go back to work. it was nice in the beginning but gets pretty bland unless you plan to pack that year with life adventures.

Even if you were married he still isn't entitled to it and if after a year and a half he has that state of mind then you should rethink the relationship.

If I were him I would take my leave of her. If she explained that she had plans to invest it that’s one thing. But if she’s flaunting her Wealth and acting like Paris Hilton she’s too immature to have a relationship with a grownup man. Apparently, she can’t help him get caught up on bills or put aside some savings by paying a greater share. If she’s worried he’ll quit his job she needs to tell him that she’s not going to support him and that’s a dealbreaker. Who wouldn’t want to give a bit more? What kind of person is she showing herself to be? Seems like a greedy one.

NTA. I do question her referring to the 1.5-year relationship as "dating" when they are actually living together! The BF is absolutely an AH for jumping right up and essentially saying she should pay ALL their living expenses! A joint savings account using her money! That wreaks of entitlement. I'd want more info such as, why were they living together? Was it because neither could afford their own place? I could see offering to contribute more. Maybe 60/40 instead of 50/50 but that's it. However, that's not what her gold-digging BF wants. He wants a FREE ride. If she was going to pay all living expenses then she should get her own place without him and not invite him in either.

Grandpa is the AH for dumping a life-changing amount of cash on someone who doesn't appear to have been prepared to manage it. The folks saying to invest it and live off the investment income are the smart ones. Grandpa could have set something up for her, instead of taking a gamble that he wouldn't kick the bucket when she was perhaps in a position like a soon-to-end marriage that would have immediately lost her $2million.