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Funeral Causes Family Drama After Sister Follows Her Atheist Brother’s Last Wish
While each person is free to choose what religion, if any, to follow, some are strongly influenced by the customs rooted in their countries or their families, which can become a cause for conflict.
In this redditor’s family, differences in views towards religion resulted in her atheist brother being excluded from the family, and her kin calling her a disgrace for respecting his wishes after his death.
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This woman was condemned by her religious family for respecting her atheist brother’s wishes
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Christianity is reportedly the most popular religion worldwide
According to World Population Review, as much as 85% of the population identify themselves with a religion. Statistics reveal that the most popular one, practiced by nearly 2.4 billion people worldwide, is Christianity, followed by Islam (1.91 billion followers), Hinduism (with 1.16 billion) and Buddhism (507 million) respectively. Data also suggests that close to 1.2 billion people consider themselves nonreligious or have Atheist beliefs.
The OP’s brother was seemingly an atheist in a world surrounded mostly by Christians, as Catholicism, which the OP pointed out to be the most prevalent religion in her country, is one of the main branches of Christianity. According to World Population Review, numerous nations, such as Armenia, Greece, Peru, and Venezuela, just to name a few, boast a population where more than 93% people consider themselves Christian.
As for atheists, countries where they seem to comprise the largest part of the population include Estonia, the Czech Republic, Japan, and China, where more than three-quarters of the population do not follow any religion.
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Religious beliefs tend to differ depending on people’s age
The OP shared that her 91-year-old grandmother was distraught over the lack of traditional Catholic ceremony and feared that her late grandson would go to hell, as he was not blessed by a servant of her religious faith. While people’s views on the existence of hell or heaven differ with each religion, or lack thereof, a 2023 study of religious beliefs across the world found that in 26 surveyed countries, roughly half of respondents believed in the former existing (and just slightly fewer believed in the latter).
According to said study, younger people in most of the surveyed countries are less likely to identify themselves as Christian, especially Catholic, seconding the OP’s point that the youth nowadays tends to stray from religion. In the majority of surveyed Catholic countries, the percentage of Gen Z identifying as Catholic is lower than the percentage of Boomers who identify as such.
In the OP’s case, the generation gap and the strong influence stemming from following religious practices resulted in conflict among family members, as well as uneasiness the redditor felt over the entire situation. Addressing the online community, she said she needed to hear whether or not she was in the wrong for following her brother’s wishes, and fellow redditors made sure she knew she was not.
Fellow netizens supported the young woman, they didn’t think she was a jerk to her family
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ADZ 8 months ago
If hell is real you gotta feel bad for Satan. Stuck down there with all these devout Christians thinking "now these are some evil mother f*ckers"
Nitka Tsar 8 months ago
There is a joke about someone getting into hell and Satan shoeing them around. „The is the beach, there is the bar etc etc“ and the person thinks „oh this is nice“ but then they see a pit with people being tortured snd screaming in it and they ask the devil about it. Devil sais: „oh, those are the catholics. They want it that way“
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Tamra 8 months ago
I knew a man named Larry, who was a recovering alcoholic with over 30 years of hard-won sobriety. He was not religious, but was an incredibly selfless, kind, and patient man who ended up helping dozens of other suffering and struggling alcoholics. He died in February, and his religious wife decided to have his service at her church. At the service, a few recovering alcoholics spoke about Larry and how he helped them to change their lives, helped them find hope and healing. After this, the pastor then preached for an hour and a half and concluded with saying that it wasn't Larry who really helped anyone, that he didn't help anyone heal, but that it was Jesus. He basically s**t on this man's life's work in order to sell Jesus to the people in attendance. I guess my point is yeah, sure, I guess the funeral is for the living, but a person's last wish should be honored. And I really wish religious people would give it a damn rest, already.
𝐆𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐦-𝐏𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐚 8 months ago
Now that is immensely disrespectful... to Larry AND his friends. If I'd been one of them, I'd have stood up and confronted the pastor. "How DARE you take Larry's accomplishments away from him!? He was an open atheist. And he didn't need your religion to do good and save lives. He did it all on his own. You should be ashamed of yourself."
Load More Replies... Secret Squirrel 8 months ago
I would agree with the idea that the funeral is for the living, for the partner and son, and for the sister who kept in touch. Family that thought he was a disgrace should not be prioritised. It's so important for his son and partner to celebrate who he was, and that is an atheist. He was shunned by family due to those beliefs and that takes courage to stand by it. His son should be able to celebrate and remember that courage, I'm sure it was a huge part of who his dad was. People who ignored and insulted the deceased in life, should be upset and heartbroken that they ostracised him, they forfeited the right to decide his services. Good for OP for doing right by her brother's family in a difficult time.
ADZ 8 months ago
If hell is real you gotta feel bad for Satan. Stuck down there with all these devout Christians thinking "now these are some evil mother f*ckers"
Nitka Tsar 8 months ago
There is a joke about someone getting into hell and Satan shoeing them around. „The is the beach, there is the bar etc etc“ and the person thinks „oh this is nice“ but then they see a pit with people being tortured snd screaming in it and they ask the devil about it. Devil sais: „oh, those are the catholics. They want it that way“
Load More Replies... Tamra 8 months ago
I knew a man named Larry, who was a recovering alcoholic with over 30 years of hard-won sobriety. He was not religious, but was an incredibly selfless, kind, and patient man who ended up helping dozens of other suffering and struggling alcoholics. He died in February, and his religious wife decided to have his service at her church. At the service, a few recovering alcoholics spoke about Larry and how he helped them to change their lives, helped them find hope and healing. After this, the pastor then preached for an hour and a half and concluded with saying that it wasn't Larry who really helped anyone, that he didn't help anyone heal, but that it was Jesus. He basically s**t on this man's life's work in order to sell Jesus to the people in attendance. I guess my point is yeah, sure, I guess the funeral is for the living, but a person's last wish should be honored. And I really wish religious people would give it a damn rest, already.
𝐆𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐦-𝐏𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐚 8 months ago
Now that is immensely disrespectful... to Larry AND his friends. If I'd been one of them, I'd have stood up and confronted the pastor. "How DARE you take Larry's accomplishments away from him!? He was an open atheist. And he didn't need your religion to do good and save lives. He did it all on his own. You should be ashamed of yourself."
Load More Replies... Secret Squirrel 8 months ago
I would agree with the idea that the funeral is for the living, for the partner and son, and for the sister who kept in touch. Family that thought he was a disgrace should not be prioritised. It's so important for his son and partner to celebrate who he was, and that is an atheist. He was shunned by family due to those beliefs and that takes courage to stand by it. His son should be able to celebrate and remember that courage, I'm sure it was a huge part of who his dad was. People who ignored and insulted the deceased in life, should be upset and heartbroken that they ostracised him, they forfeited the right to decide his services. Good for OP for doing right by her brother's family in a difficult time.
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