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Woman Wonders If She Was Wrong To ‘Upstage’ The Bride In A Very Informal Wedding
It’s no secret that no matter what a wonderful and once-in-a-lifetime experience weddings may be, they often snowball into huge stress balls for the newlyweds, planners and guests alike. Many of these ensued family drama stories end up on the r/AITA subreddit, where people seek to check if their moral high ground is really that shaky.
This post is no exception. Coming from a woman who got invited to a small wedding for her cousin whom the author hasn’t met before, it serves as an example of how wanting to show the best of yourself may turn against you. The author went all in with her tea-length dress, chiffon shawl and pearl jewelry, since the invite said ‘cocktail attire.’
As soon as the reception started, the author realized she may have overdressed as several people complimented her but said she was upstaging the bride. And it all got worse after the wedding was over as the incriminating calls started flooding in.
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The author of this post was accused of upstaging the bride at her own wedding but she said she only wanted to look her best
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And this is what people had to comment on the incident
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Beth L 4 years ago
Umm... I think this whole story is just "based on real events" if not made up entirely. Who invites a cousin they've never met to a "very small" wedding?
Maureen McDermott 4 years ago
Someone who figures her cousin's gift will outweigh be more than what they spend on a keg and wings :)
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Casey McAlister 4 years ago (edited)
Strange story. I could believe it if the bride was wearing something casual, but, judging by the description, she clearly went for something non-traditional and extraordinary, with a custom gothic dress, heavy makeup, and all. Why would she be upset with a guest's normie cocktail dress? It's not upstaging, it's a polar opposite style.
Casey McAlister 4 years ago
If we take this story at face value, while OP is NTA for her dress, she seems to have some asshole-ish tendencies. She says she deeply insecurу about her own appeareane and then goes and dedicates the whole paragraph to describing how shockingly awful was the bride's outfit. Not a good look on you, OP.
Paradise 4 years ago
We are allowed to have negative opinions about someone's attire, saying it outloud is different.
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Lis Daglish 4 years ago
There’s something else going on here....a lot of effort in this post went to trashing the bridal party?...of a relative she’s never met? Not buying it.
Paradise 4 years ago
Yup...and they never met but have each other's contacts and that SO many would come up and tell her that.
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Annamagelic 4 years ago
Why would anyone invite a cousin they have never met to a "very small wedding " something isn't adding up here.
Daniel Marsh 4 years ago
Some people consider 50 guests "very small," and blood relatives as mandatory invites.
Load More Replies... Andy Acceber 4 years ago
When you show up anywhere and are over/under dressed, most folks change their look. Take off the pearls. Go to the bathroom and remove some makeup. Heck, take your shoes off, tie up your hair. The day isn't about you. If everyone else is super casual, make an effort to go with it. Then, be friendly. Be casual. No one would text you about your outfit if you made a genuine attempt at making the time more pleasant for everyone else these. Sounds to me like this guest was stand-offish, judgemental, and brooding for most of the event. She needed to get out of her own head and lighten up.
Trillian 4 years ago
This sounds really strange. She wants a very small wedding but invites a cousin she never met before? She chose a rather unusual getup, I assume because that is who she is and feels comfortable in, but feels ugly when another woman turns up in "regular" dress-up clothes? Wouldn't usually the one who is overdressed feels ridiculous and uncomfortable?
Seabeast 4 years ago
She probably invited the cousin in hopes of getting a generous gift. Or because the parent who is related to LW's parents pressured her to.
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Requiem 4 years ago
All these stories are BS, you dont get married in a tuxedo shirt, and not every bride getting married is going to be amazing beautiful no matter what they are wearing. No one needs to know this ever happened
DarkAngelNic 4 years ago
Oh sweetie. People have gotten married in much worse, all you have to do is google "trashy weddings".
Load More Replies... Beth L 4 years ago
Umm... I think this whole story is just "based on real events" if not made up entirely. Who invites a cousin they've never met to a "very small" wedding?
Maureen McDermott 4 years ago
Someone who figures her cousin's gift will outweigh be more than what they spend on a keg and wings :)
Load More Replies... Casey McAlister 4 years ago (edited)
Strange story. I could believe it if the bride was wearing something casual, but, judging by the description, she clearly went for something non-traditional and extraordinary, with a custom gothic dress, heavy makeup, and all. Why would she be upset with a guest's normie cocktail dress? It's not upstaging, it's a polar opposite style.
Casey McAlister 4 years ago
If we take this story at face value, while OP is NTA for her dress, she seems to have some asshole-ish tendencies. She says she deeply insecurу about her own appeareane and then goes and dedicates the whole paragraph to describing how shockingly awful was the bride's outfit. Not a good look on you, OP.
Paradise 4 years ago
We are allowed to have negative opinions about someone's attire, saying it outloud is different.
Load More Replies... Lis Daglish 4 years ago
There’s something else going on here....a lot of effort in this post went to trashing the bridal party?...of a relative she’s never met? Not buying it.
Paradise 4 years ago
Yup...and they never met but have each other's contacts and that SO many would come up and tell her that.
Load More Replies... Annamagelic 4 years ago
Why would anyone invite a cousin they have never met to a "very small wedding " something isn't adding up here.
Daniel Marsh 4 years ago
Some people consider 50 guests "very small," and blood relatives as mandatory invites.
Load More Replies... Andy Acceber 4 years ago
When you show up anywhere and are over/under dressed, most folks change their look. Take off the pearls. Go to the bathroom and remove some makeup. Heck, take your shoes off, tie up your hair. The day isn't about you. If everyone else is super casual, make an effort to go with it. Then, be friendly. Be casual. No one would text you about your outfit if you made a genuine attempt at making the time more pleasant for everyone else these. Sounds to me like this guest was stand-offish, judgemental, and brooding for most of the event. She needed to get out of her own head and lighten up.
Trillian 4 years ago
This sounds really strange. She wants a very small wedding but invites a cousin she never met before? She chose a rather unusual getup, I assume because that is who she is and feels comfortable in, but feels ugly when another woman turns up in "regular" dress-up clothes? Wouldn't usually the one who is overdressed feels ridiculous and uncomfortable?
Seabeast 4 years ago
She probably invited the cousin in hopes of getting a generous gift. Or because the parent who is related to LW's parents pressured her to.
Load More Replies... Requiem 4 years ago
All these stories are BS, you dont get married in a tuxedo shirt, and not every bride getting married is going to be amazing beautiful no matter what they are wearing. No one needs to know this ever happened
DarkAngelNic 4 years ago
Oh sweetie. People have gotten married in much worse, all you have to do is google "trashy weddings".
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