Wahaha! The YTA's are out in force today! This is not 'making a mistake' or 'simply forgetting'. This is about someone not making an effort and consequently placing the burden on someone else. Don't marry this person.

We aren't substitute mothers who you have sex with. You are Still responsible for yourselves. U G H.

The YTA replies are missing the point. This isn't a one time slip-up that causes a mild inconvenience. It's consistent behavior from a supposed adult that's negatively affecting the people around him. Not just the girlfriend, but her mom who was almost late for work, his mom who had to suddenly change her own plans to wake up her son and drive him to the airport, then drive back again, because he forgot to bring something as basic as his ID, basically forcing her to spend 4 hours of the day driving. GF planned the entire trip on her own. Now, she's finally had enough of his behavior and is ditching him.

The guy is heading off to basic training after the holiday. I'd wait and see what happens there. Okay, I'll be honest, a song is running through my head, "I’ll Make a Man Out of You". Hopefully this child will grow up and learn to be a man.

I'm a pretty laid back guy, but I'm like OP when it comes to trip planning. I emailed out the itinerary, contact numbers, along with a to-do list to everyone going. This included essentials (ID, tickets, chargers, make sure to lock your house, etc) and recommended things to pack. Some people *still* managed to forget to bring things on the list I sent them. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink.

I may sometimes be late at work, but when I'm spending HUGE amounts of MY money on a trip, there is No Way In Hell that I will screw up and miss the flight. I always sit and twiddle my thumbs for an hour before flights because I arrive at the airport three hours early.

YTA to yourself, OP, if you stay with him.

She did the right thing. Will probably enjoy the vacation better without him.

This is why I hate traveling with people. Travel stresses me out so I like to have everything planned out and organized ahead of time. I start packing a week early because I never rememeber everything I want/need and starting a week early allows time for me to remember. And then I like to get to the airport early to save on a bunch of stress and I hate when people make me late to things. I'm fine with not having everything scheduled when I get to my destination but "figuring things out" like where we're going to sleep and how we're getting there is not fun at all to me.

I agree that a person can be right, but also still an a*****e. I disagree that setting boundaries, and letting people dig their own grave makes a GF or bystander responsible for the fallout, or an AH. It sounds like that guy needs to see consequences for his poor behavior, and she gave him ample grace to get his sh*t together. Is a parent an AH for letting their kids fail homework if the kid refuses to do it themselves? I'd say no. I would also say this man is acting like a child who thinks there are no consequences, and is blaming her for his poor behavior. I'd say that makes her NTA. She needs to leave him, though. He's not ready for a relationship.

Sister, move along and find yourself an adult male. As long as you are with this guy, you will be the only adult in the relationship. Don't ask me how I know. (Well, I am apparently still a little bitter.)

Marine bootcamp's going to be a naaaaasty wakeup call for this guy...

Granted he flies transpacific regularly, but aside from getting an Uber/Lyft my10yo can do this. This summer his classmate/good friend came with us to stay at our SF home for part of the summer. My kid works hard to be a present & accommodating host so it’s important to him to take the lead on the travel. Of course I was always with them, but he dealt with the entire journey, including check-in, Honolulu transfer, navigating lounge & gates, finding correct baggage claim then navigating us to BART, transferring to Muni & walking the 1/3 block to our door. Only had one question or two. If a 10yo can figure out a much more intricate itinerary, a 24yo def should be able to get to an airport & get on a flight. The level of incompetence with OPs bf is utterly absurd.

Oh boy, this guy is going to get a rude awakening in the Marines. Be interesting to see what kind of a man he is after that.

This relationship is doomed. I do not understand any of the YTA votes, nor their reasoning. Her boyfriend doesn’t think enough of her to act like an adult. This is NOT her fault.

The only thing I can figure is that the guy has never set foot in an airport before?

ok I will not say YTA but I will say you are the f*****g idiot for dealing with his s**t. He will not change because he doesn't have to and YOU are the one that has made sure he doesn't have to change. Get a f*****g life without him.

As someone who works for the Marines, I kinda wanna know if OP's BF made it to boot camp on time. That is one place you do not want to be late!

dump this child & his enabling mother and find a man

This man child is exhausting! Serious red flags! Rethink this relationship, unless you are ready to raise a full grown child, mama's boy. Your life will be one chaotic "mishap" after another. Exhausting and exasperating!

When I got fed up with managing/keeping track of my bfs (now husband) stuff and finally told him I wasn’t doing it anymore he also brought up how we were partners and supposed to help each other. But there’s a big difference between occasionally having to help your partner find their wallet and him defaulting to interrupting me and asking where something is before even trying to look for it himself because “it’s a waste of time to look for it when I can just ask you” (no, you’re just wasting my time instead of your own). I *want* to help and support my husband (that’s how things got to that point in the first place) but I don’t want managing his stuff to become my full-time job. Managing my own stuff is exhausting enough. Thankfully, he quickly realized how unfair his expectations were and figured out ways to manage things without relying on me. And now when he occasionally needs my help with something I can happily help him instead of feeling overwhelmed and frustrated all the time

The BF is showing passive aggressive behavior. Save yourself and LEAVE

She's NTA for going ahead, however it's shocking to me that no one seems to have realized that the boyfriend displayed some classic ADHD symptoms. It's up to him to get diagnosed and treated, but if he really does have ADHD, it's really ableist to tell him to "grow up and be an adult." I would give him the benefit of the doubt in terms of being more respectful of his difficulties while ensuring that I didn't allow myself to get into any more situations where I had to count on him to keep a commitment, especially with any time constraints.

List. Write one. Tick it off as you pack your bag. Have bag ready to go. I'm often late. But I can organise myself. I can and are organised if we're going on a trip. It's not that hard. What I don't understand is why he didn't stay at OP's house so he could leave early? Oh, well, the Marines should make him more organised and on time.

So she was suppoesed to be out 100@ to 1000@ in a trip cause he couldnt grab a wallet or have his phone in a secure place? As for "what if the roles were reversed?" Id expsct equal treatment. Leave without me if i messed up thats on ME ill have to figure out a plan B. Whats "sexist" is expecting the man to wait for the gf n be out that money.

Even as far back as when I was in my late teens, I NEVER had issues like that getting to or from the airport, all on my own, without mommy or daddy, and without excuses. And I'm a scatterbrained idiot! You know you have to travel, you know all the stuff you need to travel - prepare ahead of time, set more than one alarm, don't stay up all dang night.

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