Far from everyone you’ll meet online is going to be an upstanding individual. Some folks think that just because they’re behind a screen, it somehow magically protects them when they’re being awful human beings. Others have no limits and think that women ‘owe’ them attention. And they’re shocked when they’re called out for their vile behavior.

Case in point, one man tried to flirt with and then fat-shame a woman, only for it to backfire on him magnificently: she told his fiancée all about what he wrote to her… and then suggested that she “throw the whole man out.”

Content creator Shelby Goodrich Eckard went viral after she shared a couple of videos showing her conversation with the body-shamer and then his partner. Scroll down to see how both of those conversations went and how the internet reacted to them.

Bored Panda reached out to PCOS advocate, fitness nutrition and weight loss specialist Shelby who was kind enough to answer our questions about her videos and why some men believe they’re owed female attention and kindness. In her opinion, the videos resonated with so many people because, unfortunately, “they’ve been on either end of the situation themselves.” Read on for our full interview with Shelby.

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Shelby went viral after she shared how a creepy guy tried picking her up, only to them try and fat-shame her

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“I think SOME men believe they are owed female attention for the littlest things. I also believe that men don’t have much accountability for their own actions until they are called out on their bad behavior,” Shelby told Bored Panda that these people need to be shown that their actions have consequences. She believes that nobody can directly change people and it’s not her job to change men for the better.

“People, if they change, change on their own time and for their own reasons. I didn’t share with his fiancée expecting him to change, I was hopeful I was helping someone see his true colors before making a life-long commitment to someone she may not know acts this way,” Shelby explained what her goals were.

She revealed to us that she gets direct messages from men all the time and she usually barely pays any mind to them. “Most take the ‘not interested’ well and move on with their days. The reason this was even shared with the fiancée and then the internet, is because this type of man scares me—and should scare others,” Shelby explained.

Here is the original video in full

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“He didn’t understand the meaning of ‘no,’ and my ‘not interested’ didn’t stop him from continuing to harass me. Men need to learn that women don’t owe them kindness or their attention.”

Shelby told us a bit about herself. She started creating content on social media for a medical condition known as PCOS or polycystic ovary syndrome, which affects close to 1 in 5 women.

“A lot of PCOS symptoms can make someone feel unattractive or less feminine,” she said, referring to weight gain, hair loss, acne, and other symptoms. “I try to show others PCOS doesn’t define their beauty or worth.”

Most people are very supportive of what Shelby does. “For every hate message or comment, I have 10 messages from someone saying my content has helped them love themselves a little bit more or fight for themselves a little harder—and that makes it worth every troll comment in the world.”

She then posted a follow-up where she sent the conversation to the guy’s fiancée

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Shelby, who goes by @pcossupportgirl on TikTok, drew in a lot of attention with her two videos which got 46.8k and 34.3k likes each. She also started up an important discussion online about men who don’t understand boundaries.

According to Shelby, she doesn’t know if the woman she reached out to ended up breaking up with the man who was rude to her or not. However, she was supposedly thankful for being told what her fiancé is really like. Though Shelby later said that the woman and her fiancé ended up blocking her on social media. “I bet she stays with him,” she wrote on TikTok.

Here’s the full video about how the conversation with the fiancée went

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Meanwhile, Shelby posted another follow-up video about body-shaming

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Earlier, Bored Panda spoke about body positivity and body-shaming with TikToker Cassidy Lane. She believes that people judging others on their looks will probably never go away entirely. However, she stressed that this doesn’t mean that people can treat others badly just because they’re not interested in them romantically or don’t find them to be attractive.

“Somehow we’ve built an entire society that caters to a small margin of bodies. Think about airplane seats. I think about clothing stores, a lot of them don’t even go past a large sometimes, but the average woman in America right now is about a 2X. A lot of people who have never been fat don’t realize when you go to the doctor as a fat person it doesn’t matter what is wrong with you they will usually ignore it and tell you to lose weight,” Cassidy told Bored Panda earlier.

“I had been having stomach issues for about a year that were preventing me from going to school or work. By the time I finally found a doctor that would listen to me, and not just prescribe weight loss, they figured out I had a really serious stomach ulcer,” she revealed.

“I have found that being vulnerable on TikTok and showing my really low lows as well as my highs has apparently resonated with a lot of people. I think it just goes back to the power of shared experience. The ability to look at someone else and say, ‘Hey I do that too/I’ve been through that too.’ It’s a really powerful thing,” Cassidy said.

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“Every single time I read a comment about how somebody ate today because of me, or loved themselves a little bit more, or wore their first bikini because of one of my videos, it truly is the best feeling in the world. I wish I could respond to every single person that stops by and leaves a comment on my page. Because they’re so supportive and kind. Being a content creator is definitely not something I ever knew I needed in my life until I had it,” Cassidy explained that TikTok content creators have the power to improve people’s lives.

The content creator had a small update for everyone

Here’s what TikTok had to say about the entire situation

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