My bf, now husband, and i went to buy the cheapest gold wedding rings. Both Broke but young, in love. we are now married for 17 years with two kids

I'm feeling cynical. $2,400 for a ring sounds like a bargain in comparison to a costly divorce.

There is no "tradition" to give diamond engagement ring. It's a scam made up by DeBeers Never buy diamonds

YTAs are either gold digging whores, or have never met one. Or rich, could be that too.

Every time I see posts like this I think of my parents. My dad had one of his sister's help pick out the ring. Platinum with an emerald cut diamond. Ma told him he spent too much. ($250 in 1958 I think) I have it as my wedding ring now. It's the only diamond I've ever liked. Financial compatibility is one key in a marriage. Communication is another.

Such a stupid tradition… WHY spend so much on a trinket, WHY compare it to other's trinkets, and WHY is it just one of the persons paying for it? Our rings are silver and titanium, we loved how they looked and we bought them because they made us happy. I don’t care if someone else’s ring costs more than my car, you do you.

I'm saying ESH - She's bonkers on the £20k for a ring. He's an idiot for not having talked to her about financial values and made they were financially compatible before he proposed. "Arguing about the price of the ring" is a red flag for a couple, because it shows that they have fundamentally different attitudes about spending, If they haven't been able to establish joint guidelines and compromises before the ring-buying stage, they're not ready. Financial stress is a major contributor in divorce.

Resale value of a 20k diamond ring would be somewhere between 20 and 60% depending on the brand, carat, clarity.... Definitely a dumb move moneywise to spend so much on something that does not have intrensic value. I would not marry anyone who can´t process that. Half a gold bar would be a sound investment in that price range.

I mean. I don't know if I'd have the guts to walk around with a 20k ring on my finger. But aside from that, I think it also depends on their general lifestyle. Sadly I know men who will happily drop that kind of money on their hobbies but will kick a girl out if she expects to be as much of a financial priority as their partner. For example, I know someone who drives a Mercedes G. They bought their wife an Opel Astra. Nothing wrong with the car per se, but it is a reflection of how much say she has in the relationship.

20,000 is a decent used car. There's no effing way I'd expect someone to spend that much on a piece of fûcking jewelry. How shallow can you be?

The ring represents a promise. The value of the ring in no way represents the VALUE of the promise. Anyone who tells you that the value IS connected to the price of the ring is totally incorrect, your commitment to them cannot be valued in monetary terms, if they think it can then they seriously undervalue you and your commitment. Time for you to move on to someone who does see your value.

We bought our engagement rings for 30€. Our wedding rings were 140€ and I thought those were a bit expensive lol :D (here usually both have engagement rings and the bride gets a wedding ring - but we both wanted wedding rings also)

I'd be curious to know what she does for a living that 20k would be the ring price she would be good with.

I guess they didn’t ring shop or have a discussion ahead of time. I think that needs to be done so the guy can get an idea of what is expected. Obviously here the breakup would have occurred sooner.

The ring or lack thereof has no effect on the durability of the marriage. The marriage matters. None of the material things related to it mean one thing in the long run.

To me it wouldn't matter if the ring cost £1 or a £1,000,000. What is important is that it is from the person you love with all your heart and want to spend the rest of your life with.

If you want a $20,000 ring marry a millionaire who doesn't give a damn about money. Seriously, even $2,400 is, to me, outrageous. It's just a junk of carbon, dug out of the ground by people DeBeers treat as little more than slaves. DeBeers makes billions conning young impressionable American women that there is more meaning to spending more on a rock than there is. It's still just a rock, and without special skills and training, you can replace it with cut glass and nobody would know the difference. My engagement ring for my wife was a tree-stone sterling ring with three very dark matched amethysts in it. I got her this just a few weeks before we got married. The actual proposal had no ring, as I did it online. We lived 1800 miles from each other at the time. This May marks 26 years married. I spent $72 on the ring. Don't waste thousands on a lousy chunk of carbon. Find a stone either that she loves, or that has meaning within your relationship, no matter how cheap.

My ex fiance proposed with a $10k ring. I have no clue about carat, etc, I know nothing about that nor do I care a whit. He was so insistent that he knew me so well, but if he really knew me, he wouldn't have given me an incredibly expensive piece of jewelry to lose. (Didn't lose it, but only because I rarely wore it for the 8 years we lasted after). Yes, he had the $10k but it depleted his savings. Meanwhile, my number one stress day to day? Money. Im not going to tool around wearing a 10k ring when I can't afford my next student loan payment. What an imbecile.

My father couldn't afford an engagement ring so my mother never had one. They were married for 56 years when he died. I took my mom's 18 karat gold ring (after she died), a ring with diamond chips I got from my aunt for my conformation (only 9 karat gold - you can get those here) and had them melted together to make a new ring to remind me of them both. Probably they wouldn't be worth more than about three thousand rand (around $200) but the new ring is priceless to me.

Yes, I would rather have a lab grown stone rather having a diamond from conflict areas

I have been married 25 years now and never even had an engagement ring. Personally, I think they are a big waste of money. However, I also think most weddings are a big waste of money as I would rather spend that on an excellent honeymoon and/or down payment on a house.

I would be too scared to wear the 2k ring already, bumping, scratching or losing it.

My husband proposed with a 60 dollar silver ring with some black stones. We don't have wedding bands even now and our marriage cost 80 dollars. Our marriage will last unlike the shallow f***s like the woman here.

Please tell me BP didn't censor the word "p a w n" in that comment 😑

I really hate this "race to the bottom" expectation that women must accept even low/no effort gestures with gushing feelings and they're wrong if they don't. Bragging that you got your wife with a twist tie ring is not the flex you think it is. It is perfectly all right if she has high expectations and if she prioritizes gestures of affection that she can show others and which represent considerable time and sacrifice. There is nothing wrong or bad about her wanting that. Neither is there anything wrong or bad about a man knowing this about a woman and deciding he cannot/does not want to meet those expectations and moving on. So long as everyone is clear and nobody lies (that SIL who was given a cheap-o cubic zirconia was definitely lied to and misled) everyone is good. Stop bragging about how little effort you found acceptable while judging those who wanted something else.

When I got married I didn't have an engagement ring. I bought my own wedding band for $15.00 in 1973. The marriage didn't work out, but I'm still glad my ex did not go into debt getting me some flashier thing.

Considering that my last car (5 years old at the time, with 60K miles) was less than 15K with taxes... I would say he made right decision. You can spend money if you have them, but not from debt.

20k ??? It's the quarter of my small European house's value !!! We inherited my grandma's ring (a big sapphire surrounded by small diamonds set in a platinum band... Yeah my Gramps worked at the "Union minière" in Congo and it's not worth 20k ! What the FUDGE? Ha and fun fact, the ring came AFTER the marriage...her actual fiançailles ring was....my oldest aunt 😂 she was so fed up with her parents not approving her choice of fiance that she said to my Gramps "we're making a baby ! That will shut them up !"

My brother proposed to his wife with a $35 silver and aquamarine ring. 23 years and counting.

That the stone was a gift from my grandmother ( necklace she had had three diamonds in it, and she had it split amongst her three grandsons, and I took that and had it put into a 200.00 rung and setting when I was younger and just waited fro the right girl...my wife ADORES her ring. Plus I proposed while she had e-coli, (there's a story)

Welcome to the age of emotional maturity coming from TikTok. It's only going to get worse.

I couldn’t afford a ring. But, when discussions came up about marriage, my now-wife made it clear that she didn’t want an engagement ring, that any money saved for that would be better spent on our wedding/marriage. The wedding rings meant more to her, because those are rings we both have. Even for those, we almost didn’t buy them because we couldn’t quite find the right ones, until we did. I liked them, she loved them, and they were about $500US for the pair.

This man made the right choice. That girl was out of her mind about the cost of an engagement ring. I thought $2400 was over the top. My engagement ring was about $200 but that was decades ago and that was a lot of money at that time. It was a diamond chip which was just fine.

I love my $65 ring from p**n shop. I also love my husband, funny how that works out.

If I'm ever insane enough to get married again, screw rings. I'd rather have a set of dueling pistols.

My husband spent about $200 on a ring from a second-hand store. We upgraded to a much nicer ring years later, but even that was on a major sale. We decided it was better not to start our marriage with a fat debt, and we've been married almost 9 years now.

My parents got married with 25¢ gumball machine rings 😂

Hmmm...we went to Reno with $200, got married with no rings, three years later finally got rings and a honeymoon trip. Been 40 years and still together ❤️

I'd like to know how much money she was planning to spend on him.

Jeulia.com has so many beautiful engagement rings and wedding ring sets. All made with created diamonds. Most under $500. I wear a 3 1/2 karat white sapphire solitaire, with a matching pave band. It's stunning and I've gotten SO many compliments on it.