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“The Wedding Was Called Off”: Guy Gets Punched In The Face After A Friend Confesses Her Love
Love is a complicated thing. Sure, we’re all social beings who crave human connection on multiple levels, but that is the same reason why love is never easy—because humans are too complicated for their own good.
A love story recently surfaced on Reddit, with an update surfacing just a few hours prior to this article, where a woman fell in love with a guy just a month before her wedding with another person. You bet this deserves a daytime movie.
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Love is a complex thing. Seeing as how humans are equally if not more complex, that alone can raise issues
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A widowed guy recently asked folks about how he should approach his good friend confessing her love to him, despite her fast-approaching wedding
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Turns out, the woman developed feelings for the guy after spending a significant amount of time with him and his daughter
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The story goes that this one guy—a widowed parent of one—approached Reddit asking for advice on how to tackle a love confession from a good friend.
The friend is set to get married in 4 weeks, at which point she develops feelings for OP. Several talks between them later, the friend’s fiancé shows up starting a literal fight with OP, which immediately prompts a break-up and OP helps her out with this transition. OP is not ready for any relationship at this point. All of this happens across 2 posts—the original and the update—one month apart.
Well, folks online were quick to provide some perspective on the matter. Many pointed out that this is definitely a delicate situation—one that likely requires OP to distance himself from the friend.
Others saw mental issues in the woman, considering her past problems with commitment and drastic decision-making, i.e. how she’d leave her fiancé for someone else. If anything, they thought it wasn’t right to ask what she did of OP.
All in all, folks were in support of the decision of the two not being together and for OP being careful, adding that he should focus on his daughter first and foremost.
The key to any love confession is to be sensitive and careful in how you approach it
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It goes without saying that if someone confesses their love to you—and it’s not going to be reciprocated—then it becomes a game of honesty and respect. Being honest and not leading the other person on because they deserve honesty and it wouldn’t be fair for either of you otherwise.
It goes without saying that support should be offered—something OP did. Yes, it’s OK to tell them you value your friendship and would like to continue being friends. However, boundaries also have to be set or else it might spiral back into the previous state of unreciprocated love.
It might take time for the dust to settle, so take advantage of it by taking the time to process the emotions, reflect on how you feel and the relationship. In fact, there is no pressure to reach a final decision on anything at any moment of the talks.
If done right, the person will learn to accept things the way they are and a friendship will be able to prosper.
So, what are your thoughts on any of this? Share your takes and advice in the comment section below!
The author of the post initially asked for advice and perspective, and the internet delivered
An update to the story followed a month after the original post, detailing how the woman broke up with her fiancé and called off the wedding
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Again, commenters threw their two cents in, suggesting he be careful with how things progress from here
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S Moran 1 year ago
She sounds pretty selfish, in that she knew what OP went through, his stance on relationships for the time being, yet she and her ex- beau literally brought this issue to his doorstep. PLUS he got socked in the face? Doesn't sound like the behavior one should want around their child. Yikes. What a mess.
Ali H M Salehuddin 1 year ago
When I read relationship issues on BP, I do have clear opinion who's the AH, NTA etc. My opinion may or may not agree with the majority of the responses. That's okay. But this particular case is complicated. I can't even form a coherent opinion on what is the best course of action here. This situation súcks for everybody.
Upstaged75 1 year ago
Letting her live with him is absolutely the worst decision he could have made! I bet she's going to keep making excuses for why she needs to stay. This is a bad situation for the daughter as well.
Historyharlot93 1 year ago
So Brie got everything her own way in the end. OP should get rid of her as soon as possible, but she’s like chewing gum in hair. She’s going to dig in with lots of tears, being scared of the future, and daughter will miss her, why bring turmoil into a child’s life?
WonderWoman 1 year ago
Brie got EXACTLY what she wanted, she is living with OP and playing mommy to his daughter, She is NEVER going to leave without a giant push. OP is an idiot!
Giraffy Window 1 year ago
I think it unwise for her to stay with him. She's in emotional turmoil, and the more solidly he allows her to moore herself to him and his daughter, the more sure she'll grow in her feelings for him.
Lexekon 1 year ago
It sounds like Brie was on the verge of too much follow through on too little substance. Marrying someone they wanted to feel attracted to, because the timing in their life made them insecure about the future. She needs to get herself sorted out, before making any serious commitments. MAYBE she is the right person for the OP, but he is clearly not available at this time, maybe not ever, depends on how his life evolves. Try to maintain friendship as just friendship.
Sunny Day 1 year ago
I think Brie loves what OP represents more than loving OP himself - a devoted dad who loved his wife so much he isn't even interested in dating 2 years after her death. Her biological clock is ticking and an instant family with a guy who will love you beyond death is pretty tempting. But the reality is they aren't compatible. She's an extrovert, he's an introvert. If they tried a relationship it would end badly, destroy their friendship, and daughter would lose her Auntie B. Brie needs some therapy of her own so that she can see what she really wants. OP needs to step away while she does that.
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greenideas 1 year ago
Looks like Brie had her next relationship already lined up before she left her fiance - typical narcissist move. This guy is super naive to fall for the damsel in distress routine and bring that drama around his daughter. This won't end well.
S Moran 1 year ago
She sounds pretty selfish, in that she knew what OP went through, his stance on relationships for the time being, yet she and her ex- beau literally brought this issue to his doorstep. PLUS he got socked in the face? Doesn't sound like the behavior one should want around their child. Yikes. What a mess.
Ali H M Salehuddin 1 year ago
When I read relationship issues on BP, I do have clear opinion who's the AH, NTA etc. My opinion may or may not agree with the majority of the responses. That's okay. But this particular case is complicated. I can't even form a coherent opinion on what is the best course of action here. This situation súcks for everybody.
Upstaged75 1 year ago
Letting her live with him is absolutely the worst decision he could have made! I bet she's going to keep making excuses for why she needs to stay. This is a bad situation for the daughter as well.
Historyharlot93 1 year ago
So Brie got everything her own way in the end. OP should get rid of her as soon as possible, but she’s like chewing gum in hair. She’s going to dig in with lots of tears, being scared of the future, and daughter will miss her, why bring turmoil into a child’s life?
WonderWoman 1 year ago
Brie got EXACTLY what she wanted, she is living with OP and playing mommy to his daughter, She is NEVER going to leave without a giant push. OP is an idiot!
Giraffy Window 1 year ago
I think it unwise for her to stay with him. She's in emotional turmoil, and the more solidly he allows her to moore herself to him and his daughter, the more sure she'll grow in her feelings for him.
Lexekon 1 year ago
It sounds like Brie was on the verge of too much follow through on too little substance. Marrying someone they wanted to feel attracted to, because the timing in their life made them insecure about the future. She needs to get herself sorted out, before making any serious commitments. MAYBE she is the right person for the OP, but he is clearly not available at this time, maybe not ever, depends on how his life evolves. Try to maintain friendship as just friendship.
Sunny Day 1 year ago
I think Brie loves what OP represents more than loving OP himself - a devoted dad who loved his wife so much he isn't even interested in dating 2 years after her death. Her biological clock is ticking and an instant family with a guy who will love you beyond death is pretty tempting. But the reality is they aren't compatible. She's an extrovert, he's an introvert. If they tried a relationship it would end badly, destroy their friendship, and daughter would lose her Auntie B. Brie needs some therapy of her own so that she can see what she really wants. OP needs to step away while she does that.
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Looks like Brie had her next relationship already lined up before she left her fiance - typical narcissist move. This guy is super naive to fall for the damsel in distress routine and bring that drama around his daughter. This won't end well.
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