Simple solution to a simple problem: Let the husband move in with his mother and let him experience that her level of concern is not equal to the level of care she is willing to give to her precious baby-boy.

The husband just let his mother install the camera...?

Pack that baby-boy, and send him back to his mommy, than get the fúck out of that marriage asap. Because the whole family of the husband is toxic af, including him. Yezz!

Divorce him. Let him go to his mom.

NTA. Him and his family are controlling and abusive and disrespectful. Kick him out with divorce papers, and the camera should be reported to the police. This is not good in any light, and whatever his family says is in bad faith and this if you let to continue you're an a-hole to yourself. Love truly is blind and I cannot imagine in which state I would allow this to continue. I love my extended family but I would report them to police in a heartbeat and send their son back to them as he clearly doesn't respect me or my privacy in our home. Marriage is between two people not whole family. Rather be alone and camera free than under sight of family eye. Imagine the MIL watching your intimate moments after he gets better ... Wrong sick and unacceptable.

D.I.V.O.R.C.E. should be her song right now.

What a horrible violation of privacy! I would have no problem banning her from the house. I would never feel safe there again if her husband is letting her in the house when she isn't home. And if her husband can't agree with her on this, I would have temporarily moved out and let his mom take care of him as a 'punishment' for his choice. 'Hey you don't think I'm doing good enough of a job- hire someone or let your mom do it!' I know she loves her husband so this could be hard but there needs to be some kind of consequence for this woman's behavior and her husband's acceptance of it- which is almost worse. And unless their concerns for his safety and treatment really were legit, I would be questioning what it was he felt she wasn't doing enough for him to ever warrant such a violation. He should be talking to her about it, not his mother. Ugh-- I get paranoid that my landlord has hidden cameras even when I know it's not true, nevermind my own family members! This is so horrifying!

Tell her she can come back into the house, after she serves her prison sentence for illegally planting a camera in someone else's home

NTA! Wtf?! Divorce. Kick him out. Sue them all. This is disturbing!

Okay, this is one of those posts where I absolutely cannot believe that the OP even had to question if they're the a*****e. I feel like this is just a bid for internet approval.

Report her to the police, she's broken multiple laws, she could have been passing around videos of you getting changed in and out of clothes, she could be watching you two do intimate things. Would it be acceptable if a stranger installed a camera in your bedroom? No? Then why are you accepting it off this absolute psycho? Report her, take out a restraining order, tell your child of a husband to go move in with his mother so she can wipe his backside and film him while he sleeps, and get a divorce. There's a creepy Oedipus complex between your husband and MIL. You're not his wife, his mother is his wife, you're just a doormat and a hole he inserts himself into. You will never be respected or seen as equal by either of them. Run from this, NOW.

Cameras in the bedroom from a mother-in-law?? What about when the wife is taking care of her husband mommy can see his private parts. MIL doesn’t like the wife but is insane to think this would go over without serious consequences.

You'll be fighting MIL over your husband from here on out. That's no way to live. It might have been BUT he chose his mother over his wife. The two of you on the same side would have shut her down. That didn't happen and never will I afraid.

Well, this is OBVIOUS. How is this even debatable?! What a vile psycho shitpile bitchfungus+!!! Dear hubby "man"-child is no better. UGH! *GAGS* O_O

So tell hubs he's got his wish. Drive him over to mommy's house and file for divorce.

It completely creeps me out that someone would set up a camera in her home without her knowledge—but in the BEDROOM? That’s just sick. And if hubby is okay with this, he’s just as messed up as Mommy. Cut your losses, walk away—things won’t be getting better, especially since he’s on her side, when he should be on YOURS.

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If he goes back to mommy, you're better off. Make sure to change the locks before he tries to come back. :)

He most definitely knew about the camera; he's ill in bed FFS! For your own sake GET RID of him and her and all the rest. Change the locks, block on all social media and live your life!

that's ridiculous

NTA. MIL is a psycho c*nt. Since her family supported her decision, they all belong in the looney bin.

can i get a D, can i get an I, can i get a V, can i get a O, can i get a R, can i get a C, can i get an E. Bro you are to good of a person to be living with that a*****e of a husband and his even worse family that step mom should go to jail i cant believe she actaully put a camera in the shoe box.

Run ..!

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Hey....you married him....and his mother, there must have been little red flags going off all over the place when you were dating and engaged. It's a bit late too put up boundaries after the fact when you're married, these should have been placed before you even met the parents. Good luck, you'll need it!!