Dian, 99% of this post is about consensual encounters, making the woman an equal partner in the decision. Ideally, every couple would have a responsible conversation about everything involved before anyone got started in any sexual act, but we all know that doesn't happen. The post is about challenging the cultural assumptions that the woman is almost solely responsible for making sure she doesn't get pregnant. I don't agree with absolutely everything she says, but it was a good opportunity for me to really assess why I was disagreeing. I found an astounding amount of what I was thinking was culturally ingrained in my head and didn't hold up to logic. Clearly, shifting responsibility 100% to the man isn't the answer either, but she has some good arguments for it. Just chalk it up to a bit of hyperbole.

Did you read the entire post? A mans orgasm is what creates a child. She is stating that a mans ejaculation should be done in a way that does not put his sexual partner at risk. Where are you confused?

Most women are on some form of birth control, why should the other side of the couple not be responsible for their part in the act. Like why is it a women’s responsibility to make sure the other adult in the relationship acts responsibly? Especially where coercion and trickery can be used.

It's as if instead of telling a shooter to stop shooting, everyone who wants to go outdoors has to wear armour [that could also make you sick]. Just stop shooting FFS.

She already explained that women can use birth control if they have access to it, but if a woman is raped or sexually abused and she wasn't expecting to have forced sex, she may not have used a birth control method. Were you reading selectively?

It's just you. This is about the responsibility of the man. Obviously the woman is also responsible as she is the one carrying the child.

there are a lot of times when women are not really participating equal partners in sexual encounters or decisions.

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Exactly! She's totally blaming everything on men so women don't have to take responsibility for their own actions.

I agree with you. I know a few people who got pregnant as teenagers who honestly had no idea what they were doing, and what they were risking, before it was too late. Teenage kids will get horny, and will find out about sex. The best we can do for them is properly explain why is it that they might want to wait a bit and teach them to it right when they do, instead of going around shouting abstinence and expecting teenagers of all people to not do something just because you said they shouldn't.

While that is true, the girl shouldn't have to go through the pregnancy in the first place. Her consent to sex doesn't equal her consent to pregnancy, and while it is a d**k move, the father can leave and start anew without facing physical or mental repercussions. Education is necessary, yes, but as said in the article, instating a quick, reversible procedure would simply cut out all these unwanted pregnancies. And after they grow older and truly understand the outcomes of what sex with ejaculation are, they can be held responsible to the damage it can cause.

We don’t live in a reasonable society. Half the population is men.

If reflected, balanced, argumentative posts do not get reflected, balanced, argumentative replies but merely downvotes, you know the army of idiologists has arrived. They believe only what they want to believe, and whoever argues against a single idea of them is an enemy. Sad. And pitiable.

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Wow, from - 10 downvotes up. Obviously this topic is slightly controversial.

Your a f*****g idiot.

Always? And yes, teenage boys may get in trouble, but what about grown men?

Oh,how awful for the boys getting a bollocking...

"The boys always get a bollocking...." Um, no. No they don't. Just because you anecdotally know of one boy who got reprimanded, that doesn't mean all or even the majority of boys are treated similarly. Also, you know what hate is? All the blame and ruination women and girls have been subjected to, up until the last 30-40 years, for unwanted pregnancies, while those who fathered those unwanted pregnancies walked around pretty well consequence-free. That hardly compares to your one anecdotal dude getting a talking to.

I never said I hated men. Just that women get hell of a lot more blame than men.

So your one teenage dad is a complete representation of the entire teenage population? You can't tell us squat with that sort of data. Oh and btw it's not man hate, its finally getting people as a whole to understand the real way to curb abortions. I have always hated when a man thinks he has a say over what I do with my body. Give me a break!

Why shouldn't they get in trouble? Did the girls get pregnant when they were alone in the room? The guys CHOSE to risk that pregnancy, and they are 100% responsible for the children they CHOSE to make. This is not rocket science. They should be paying for their own children.

Constructive comments aid the dialogue.

you didn't understand it, did you?

Yes, and that is in fact rape.

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Well, if u have sex with a man who is not willling to wear a condom I think its your fault aswell. You can just reject. And if he's the type who get off the condom during sex then why are you even have a relationship with him? Woman make poor choices on selecting man and then they blame them for that. Its like when you buy a car and then you get mad cuz its not as good as you think.

And that's akin to rape which has nothing to do with consensual sex.

And sometimes women lie about being on birth control. It goes both ways.

I think you should read up on the side effects of women's birth control (pain, headaches and migraine, nausea, vomiting, bleeding, scarring, weight gain, depression, anxiety, fatigue, ovarian cysts, high blood pressure, cancer) and compare them to your sad little story of decreased pleasure in your peen. Put a drop of lube inside the condom and you'll be fine.

Rape isn't about getting off. Rape is about violence. Lonely? Become master of your domain and leave women out of it. If NO ONE will have sex with you, YOU are the problem.