She’s the AH for acceptance of this red flag brigade of problems. Christ on a crutch.

OMG. Her post history is "AITA for asking my fiancé to stop licking my face and respect my other boundaries?", "My fiancé (24m) doesn’t like me (20f) being friends with guys" and more recently... (she ignored the advice above and got married) "AITA for not wanting relatives and friends to hold my baby?" Piles of advice saying this man has more red flags than a communist parade. At this point she is just going to waste years of her life being miserable and controlled. I hope one day she finds her happiness.

If I'd tried this s**t with any one of my previous girlfriends I'd have been on the receiving end of a half brick and rightly so.

Ew

SAHW in denmark- can he afford that? You doesn't get any money at ALL. You will live of what he gets you and the prices in denmark is a 2 income prices. You are both totally out of line here. - SAHW you finance self and you will be really poor and dependent of him in denmark - he doesn't either respect or know that. Otherwise he wouldn't ask you to. - in denmark with that degree = you will get paid with a job!!! Continue studying. - he is actually an a$$hole - nobody lives like that in denmark! Women here are free earn there own money and if we suspect otherwise we will help you. Don't ever marry a guy with so much disrespect allready. You will ruin your life!

My boyfriend, now husband, punches me ten times a day in the face…AITA for asking him to only punch me eight times a day?

It all clicked into place when she commented that they were both religious.

Maaan, I feel embarrassed for her bowing down to a sexist pig. It's like she has a split personality, too, as her post comes across as someone who knows he's a d**k, mostly accepts it's her lot, whilst her soul is screaming internally. What a f*****g waste.

It sounds like she's been beaten down emotionally already. She makes excuses for him in her responses. I wouldn't marry that man if they paid me.

I stopped reading at her being 20 and her fiance being 24. Gurl, please - take some time and figure out what you really want.

He's a tradie who's wife is smarter than him and would probably make more in her profession. He wants her to be beholden to him.

Have they not considered if her husband becomes disabled or dies? She will need to be able to support herself! And that, of course, is assuming he doesn't leave her or she doesn't need to leave him/abusive relationship. Common sense!! It's hard enough to go back to work after a break raising kids - try finding good work with no education!!!

This guy told her who he really is many times over. She refuses to listen.

RUN!

Get. Out. NOW!

Get rid of the whole male. Dump that dumpster fire.

Just run and get the hell out. This guy doesn’t want a partner he wants a devoted slave.

In 10 years time come back here and tell us you still enjoy cooking and cleaning, with a couple of little 'uns to look after. All the while he's sat with his feet up doing f**k all because he's been out all day providing for his family!! DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN

The problem here is this poor girl is going to ignore most of the advice under the assumption we just don’t understand her religious beliefs and values. There have been countless women that got married to a religious man and had and raised his kids and maintained his household only to later leave her with nothing, starting over on her own with no way to market herself for a career that would provide her a comfortable life. I really hope she sees the sense in continuing her education, working part time and perhaps even leaving this little man.

The only mistake here would be to marry this champion as.shole. He's already showing he has no respect for her, he has a very controlling behaviour and that would only get worse after the wedding.

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Having a backup plan isn’t just in case of divorce. What is he’s injured and can’t work? What if after you have four kids he gets hit by a truck and does? The backup plan is the intelligent thing to do and she knows it.

Respect yourself. Complete your degree. Believe in yourself. Don't worry about the future, just make sure you're equipped to deal with it on your own if needs be. So many red flags are being highlighted to you here about the man you intend to marry. Listen to your inner voice and think about you and what you want. Don't compromise your goals and abilities for ANYONE. Good luck xxxx

Wow! He's so dismissive of you...Is he related to JD Vance?

Meh, I honestly call bs, despite OP's insistance that it's "totally real". IF this is real, these two must be the last people in Netherlands and Denmark with these cultural views. Literally no one there is like this. People just don't live out their religion the way some countries do. It's difficult to explain. It's just not a thing. POV: I married someone from Denmark and we lived and worked there for several years. I speak the language. My in-laws live in Copenhagen. I have friends, co-workers and relatives there.

Huge red flag. Right now it's him saying her education and degree is a waste, that she would do better to just cook and clean for him. But she's studying for a biomedical degree!! that's top tier, OP! Carpentry is good, but it's not top tier. This fellow is definitely trying to drag you down to his level with his condescending negative comments. And once people start acting like this, they don't stop, they get worse. So unless you want to spend your whole life being told you're nothing but a dumb housewife, you need to put a stop to this now! Tell bf that you agree with him, that it's wasteful for you to get your degree and then become SAHW. So you've decided that you're putting the wedding on hold. That you are going to finish your studies, get your degree, and get a job in your field. After spending 2-3 years working in your field, the two of you can reassess whether you should marry and or whether you should do the SAHW thing. Then watch the explosion!

I'm from Denmark. Your man, have to be loaded whit money, if he is gonna be the only whit a income to support the whole family. Ore your gonna be a broke a*s family. Normally both parents work in dk. If the want the normal life whiteout struggling financially. SAHW is only possible if you're man got big cash, ore you have to downgrade on every aspect in live. You can get money from the state, but it is hard to get around whit that sum of money, and it's not a nice live. And often you have to work anyway, just not a work of your choice. Oh and you can not get money from the state because you will not be a Danish citizens.

He'll be (although he already is) a chauvinistic t**t even more so when you're married! He's jealous that you'll outdo him academically and will look like a loser amongst friends and family. He's a f*****g joke and this is the Amuse Bouche of your life! By the time you realise how horrendous and he's putting down everything good you've ever done, he'll have you feeling like you're worthless and no-one will ever want you!! Please leave this man!!! He's awful to you and imagine if you have a little girl that believes in the shite he's spouting? He's going to crush you bit by bit. I can't believe you're with a man who talks like this about women! He's not nice at all!!!

Sounds like they should absolutely do a traditional marriage where one partner stays at home. But it's a waste of time for him to finish that carpentry degree because obviously her earning potential makes him the one who should be staying home.

You'll need the degree when divorce inevitably come. He clearly doesn't respect you as you are, but for what you can give him only.

I'd have dumped this guy long before now but OP is obviously going to overlook the misogyny and marry him anyway. Her degree won't be worth anything if she doesn't work in her field. In 5 years, no one will hire her if she hasn't used that degree.

Ragebait

good god woman, RUN

When someone shows you who they really are, believe them. This woman needs to run for the hills.

So many red flags

Rage bait.