If you are going to have a childfree wedding you cannot complain when your friends and family with children don't come.

A friend who lived in France was invited to her father's 5th wedding. The wedding was in the USA. My friend's children were not invited. She declined the invitation as she was not going to leave her children behind. . When pressed to come, she replied she'd give this wedding a miss, but she'd be sure to come to the next one. - - - - Perhaps a similar response was needed in this story.

Those people that are saying YTA ARE TA's it's only one girl who turns 18 a month after and this is absolutely deliberate! The others are boys between 18 and 21 she also the only girl. This is not being a cry baby (to the person who wrote that) you all would do exactly the same and think "it's MY day and MY rules= bridezilla's. If this was you, you'd be feeling very different! You "YTA" commenters are just nasty like this MF sister. I'm btw I'm all for child free, but this isn't the same at all. People who are like this haven't/wont feel a little bit sorry, disgusting!!! These aren't nice people if they can exclude their niece knowing it's ONLY HER that can't go. Have a heart and understand how this may effect her, especially because she's quiet? Horrible b***h!!! DON'T GO TO THIS WEDDING! If you do, that girl will be sitting by herself wondering what TF has she done? NTA by a long way! Ignore people trolling calling you names, they're as bad as your sister! The troll brigade!!!!!

What is it with Americans infantilising their kids for so long? A 17 year old is not a child and should not be treated like one. I can understand a childfree wedding excluding those under 16 but excluding a 17 year old is ridiculous, she could be going to her own weddung in a few months ffs!

This sounds like something my sister would pull and she'd do it just to be mean. My mother would have pulled something like this as well and she'd do it just to be mean. I was the target of c**p like this growing up and it was all just to be mean. Stop trying to figure out what's wrong with the 17yo and start wondering my this adult is so threatened by her.

The comment about alcohol was just plain stupid. Weddings serve alcohol with kids at them all the time. They said there will 18-21yos there, but the drinking age is 21 so the other 18-20yos would be a problem, too.

It’s her wedding and has a right to have whatever rules she wants, but she also needs to know those rules can cause others to not want to come. I don’t blame op for not attending in this case especially since it’s seems pretty obvious sister is purposely excluding op’s daughter

Those YTA people are really reaching. They simply go by "Their wedding, their shots", but to come to that conclusion you must have tl:dr'd the entire thing

First, OP is definitely NTA. But more importantly, where the heck is the tantrum mentioned in the title and by the YTA'ers? She called her sister for clarification, pointed out the no kids rule only applies to her daughter, so it was targeted, and declined to go in support of her daughter. No stomping or screaming or trying to get everyone to shun her sister or extreme behavior noted. Sucks for the sister that she lost her MOH, but she FAFO. OP is a good mom. Case closed.

1. 17, nearly 18, isn't a child. 2. If there were a reasonable explanation to exclude a single family member, you really do owe that person that explanation. And simply blanketing "child free" isn't at all a good enough. 3. Calling and asking about it, isn't unreasonable. 4. Seeing her daughter excluded from a family event where everyone else in the family will be at is absolutely a valid reason not to go. Something is going on here and either OP is leaving a detail out or her sister has a reason for this that she's withholding. But this isn't normal.

If it's a child free wedding do I get a baby shower pass on there first born.

Definitely NTA.My take is that it's possibly due to jealousy. The sister doesn't want a young, appealing woman taking away attention from her on 'her day.' It's telling that teenage BOYS may attend. Bridezilla, imo.

How many times has she been married? I woiuld just say "I will skip this one and catch the next one".

I mean it COULD be a drinking thing if not in America bit it could be the familt being dìcks- not enough information to tell

Was there an update on this?

17 is NOT child 😂 the better way to put on invites would have been no under 18s thats reasonable n ive got a 20 n 23 yrold kids i,ll always call em my kids cos thats exactly what they are 🤷‍♀️😂but nta i can imagine your lass feeling very hated not wanted by your sister n very left out glad you said no your sisters fault entirely

So much wedding drama on BP. I have a strict rule. I don't go to weddings. Period.

This is one of those stories where there just HAS to be more to it than what we are told. Is this a quiet young lady that just sits and stares innocently at everything going on or is this an uncommunicative teen that slumps in their chair and sullenly sneers at everything? Sometimes parents get used to their kids' personalities and aren't in tune to the vibe they are throwing off. It's just a thought, because as I said, there has to be more to it.

I can't imagine the kid actually wants to go. There will be no one near her age and the aunt clearly doesn't want her there. OP says herself they aren't close. That's fine, it's a very small wedding, only invite people you are close to. To only invite 30 people, you have to be pretty savage with the guest list. If not inviting anyone under 18 helps, so be it. OP sounds really confident that it's only her daughter that's excluded but statistically that's unlikely, and also unlikely she knows the groom's family/friend situation. She just wants to be angry. Hopefully she does skip the wedding.

>Small wedding >30 people or so Luwl

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Under 18 is a child. 18 an over a young adult. 21 an adult. So maybe it's about the language or drinking that would occur. Honestly big ado over a kid that could stay home. You said second wedding? Well then your kid should be old enough for the 3rd eventually. lol. But if it's your hill to die on and ostricate yourself from your family it's up to you. I'll why it's a big deal to include your child in this. Go or don't go. But don't get pissed because she said no to your child but yes to others. Seating and cost and maybe your child wouldn't have as much fun as the quiet one a she was just being frugal.

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Why do people feel like their kids need to be included in EVERYTHING? YTA, not your weeding, when it's yours, you can invite who you like and exclude whoever you like.

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one of the comments said tell her you dont have child care i pretty sure you dont need childcare for a 17 year old