Picture this: you’re at a party, sipping on a drink, people-watching and swaying lightly to the music playing. And then someone walks up to you for a conversation. It’s not a conversation about the weather, neither is it making jest of other guests. Rather, they’re sharing their deepest, darkest secret.

Today’s Original Poster (OP) found themself in a casual conversation with a stranger at a corporate party. However, what started as a lighthearted chat about marriage quirks soon took another turn when the stranger admitted to having an affair outside her marriage.

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There’s just something about people spilling their deepest, darkest secrets to strangers that may be most comfortable

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The author was at a corporate party when a woman came up to them and eventually admitted she’d cheated on her husband

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She then told them that her lover had passed away; however, she was grieving on her own and couldn’t attend the funeral

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At the end of the night, they exchanged phone numbers after admitting to having a great conversation

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A few days later, the woman kept texting the author more details of the affair and shared that she doubted her husband’s sexuality

At a corporate party surrounded by people they did not know, the OP ended up talking to a woman who began with a few good-natured grumbles about her husband. The usual middle-of-life marriage jokes—nothing out of the ordinary. However, things became not-so-ordinary when she admitted that she had an affair that lasted for years but that had ended two years earlier.

Initially, the OP dismissed the affair as something that wasn’t “so bad.” But the woman was not done. Her lover had passed away due to cancer. She wished to see him for the last time, but she could not. It was not guilt that restrained her, no. Her husband was actually aware of the affair.

However, the problem was that her late lover’s wife never knew about the affair, making it impossible for her to say a proper goodbye. Unable to attend the funeral, she was left grieving alone, visiting his grave in secret. The confession ended abruptly, and she returned to the party as if nothing had happened.

Later, with bright smiles, she and the OP exchanged numbers. Two days later, the texts started rolling in. She began revealing more things to the OP. She wrote about how she truly loved the man she lost, how she still missed him terribly, and how her marriage felt like a cage. Then came another revelation: she suspected her husband was actually gay.

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Infidelity, as Evolve Therapy explains, constitutes a moral failing and betrayal, making healing even harder. In most instances, infidelity results from marital unhappiness—dissatisfaction like poor communication, lack of intimacy, or emotional neglect. Opportunity and temptation, like attention from a new person, may also lead individuals to cheat.

Likewise, relationship therapist Marie Murphy details the experience of mourning an affair partner, a loss that is commonly referred to as disenfranchised grief. It is referred to as “disenfranchised” because such grief isn’t necessarily approved of by society. Therefore, the person may grieve alone, without acknowledgment or support while hiding their emotions and preserving a sense of normalcy.

It is no wonder the woman felt the need to talk about her grief with the OP, then. According to The Rooster, it’s not uncommon for strangers to share deeply personal stories with someone they’ve just met.

On a personal level, they suggest that people may seek an objective listener—someone who won’t judge them due to a lack of personal connection. They also built on the “strength of weak ties” theory, which suggests that most times, weak social connections like strangers or acquaintances can be of more benefit than strong social connections like friends and family.

Netizens strongly believe that the woman was simply testing the waters for another affair, warning the OP to stay away. They also expressed disappointment in the OP for downplaying the woman’s affair as something that wasn’t bad. Overall, the consensus was that engaging with her any further would be dangerous, as she may bring unnecessary drama into the OP’s life.

What would you have done if you were the OP? Would you have reacted differently to the confession? We would love to hear your thoughts!

Netizens strongly believe the woman is looking for her next affair and advised the author to be careful

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