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Woman Tries To Force Her “Wild Child” To Have A Classic Wedding, In Tears After Elopement
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Woman Tries To Force Her “Wild Child” To Have A Classic Wedding, In Tears After Elopement

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If you ask me about the Top 5 things that actually make us human, I will definitely name our imagination in this list. The incomparable ability to go beyond reality in your own head, and then implement what you have imagined in practice has largely led humanity to this unrestrained development.

But sometimes imagination fails us – especially when we ‘draw pictures in our heads’ for our relatives and children – and then get sincerely offended when reality doesn’t match these drawn pictures. As it happened, for example, in the situation with the user u/No-Cauliflower-6934. More precisely, with his wife and daughter.

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The author of the post has 3 adult children, the youngest of who recently eloped with her fiancé

Image credits: Magda Ehlers / Pexels (not the actual photo)

The youngest daughter, as the author says, has always been ‘a wild child,’ but very intelligent and independent as well

Image credits: No-Cauliflower-6934

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Image credits: RDNE Stock project / Pexels (not the actual photo)

The mom demanded the daughter had a more traditional wedding – and the bride finally gave up

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Image credits: Natasha Fernandez / Pexels (not the actual photo)

But literally a few days later, the mom and daughter had a fight over flower decorations, and the bride-to-be elected to elope

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Mom burst into tears over her ‘missing out on the kid’s special day’ – and the author ended up explaining it was she who brought about this situation

So, the Original Poster is 55 years old, his wife is 2 years younger, and the couple has three children, the youngest of whom, 24-year-old Lynn, recently got married. Dad admits that Lynn has always been a ‘wild child’ – she got a college degree at 16, moved to Louisiana two years later, got a few more degrees there, and now lives a pretty nice life.

And Lynn’s husband Brad is also similar to her. Both externally, he’s also covered in tattoos and piercings, and internally – he’s the same, independent, smart and argumentative, always ready to support his partner in difficult times. The OP says that Brad is a great guy, and he’s very happy that his daughter has such a husband.

And now we come to the main conflict point of this story. Lynn is the first of the OP’s children to get married, and his wife has always dreamed of a lavish wedding in a traditional style. Well, you know all about that.

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The Church, the priest, father walking the bride down the aisle, solemn music, flowers… And the lady was incredibly upset when Lynn announced her intention to have a small ceremony just for family and the closest friends.

But our hero’s wife didn’t give up and began a methodical siege of this fortress. Sooner or later, Lynn reluctantly gave in to this unstoppable pressure, agreeing to a more classic wedding. But the mom’s celebration didn’t last long – literally a week later, she and the daughter had a spat over flower decorations, and the bride cut contact with her.

And a couple of days ago, Lynn reported that she and Brad eloped in Louisiana, literally with a close circle of friends – and now mom cannot stop crying because she ‘missed out on her daughter’s special day.’ A couple of days later, our hero got tired of it. He reminded his wife that, firstly, she herself contributed to the quarrel with the daughter, and secondly, they have two more children whose weddings might be more classic.

As you probably have already guessed, the wife didn’t appreciate this argument and, calling her husband a few names, has been giving him the cold shoulder since then. The original poster honestly admits that Lynn is literally the last person he would expect to see in a snow-white wedding gown, graciously walking down the aisle to the solemn sounds of a march floating from under the vaults of the church…

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The problem of parents and children in all its glory, which has faced many families for centuries and millennia, today takes on new shades. After all, it often happens that the life experience of parents turns out to be completely irrelevant in the world where their adult offspring live. And, as usual, parents do not always have the proper wisdom to admit this.

“This happens literally at every step – when parents love their children not as they really are, but as they depict them in their imagination. Perfect in their own view,” says Maria Kryvosheeva, a psychologist and NLP coach, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment in this case.

“And when children don’t live up to this ‘ideal’ – and they almost never do – parents can’t think of anything better to do than to start blaming them for it. Instead of just being proud of them. And accepting them with all their strengths and weaknesses. Inevitable weaknesses – after all, we are all human, and we are all imperfect.”

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“However, based on what this man said, I guess his wife will probably soon make peace with their daughter – she was just upset by this discrepancy between reality and those images in her head. And the sooner this reconciliation happens – the better, in fact,” Maria summarizes.

People in the comments also admitted that the original poster’s wife actually provoked this argument herself, and believe that he did the right thing by trying to explain it to her. “Tell your wife that the only one that should be upset is you, because her actions caused you to miss your daughter’s wedding,” someone reasonably wrote in the comments.

The responders also praised the author for supporting his daughter and defending her point of view in a standoff with her mom. “A good father knows his children and what will make them happy,” another person said. “You’re a good dad and keep standing up for your daughter. Unfortunately, your wife was thinking about her happiness, not your daughter’s.” And have you, our dear readers, ever encountered a similar situation?

The author’s wife called him out for doing so, but the commenters massively praised him for sticking up for his daughter

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What do you think about the woman's decision to elope after her mom pushed for a traditional wedding?
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Weasel Wise
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This man sounds like a fantastic father. I should let him know I'm up for adoption.

FreeTheUnicorn
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're clearly a good dad and know your daughter. You're being a good husband too, by telling the truth. Feeding lies would only hurt the family, and it isn't respectful. Sometimes you have to tell your partner they are wrong. Don't apologise, it's only going to feed the delusion. She will hopefully come out of it eventually.

Viking Panda
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish my father would stand up for me against my mother like this!

Mark Childers
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First, I loved how he deeply knew and embraced his kids. Second, the whole wedding thing is out of control. Bridal stores and venues must be raking it in. Probably a by-product of social media.

Manny
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I did the exact same thing back in 1995. Too many fights about who was paying for what and who was getting invited and so on and so on. Soooo went to the keys and eloped and told everyone when we got back. Needless to say parents weren't too happy about it then but now say it was a very good idea!

TribbleThinking
Community Member
4 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is the wife absolutely stunning or something? She sounds so superficial, manipulative and with not an ounce of self awareness. I can't work out how a person who sounds so grounded would willingly put up with that!

Insomniac
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Either that or she's super good in bed. My cousin's wife is the biggest B on Earth, but she gives it to him wherever, whenever, and however he wants it, as often as he wants it, so he puts up with the rest.

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Joanne Mendonza-Earle
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I eloped the first time b/c my parents, mostly mother, didn't like my boyfriend and would make any kind of wedding stuff just miserable. I am Italian and went to big weddings of my cousins and it was something I did NOT want but knew I'd be forced into. When we told my parents afterward, my dad was pretty bummed but my mother started screaming and crying and locked herself in the bathroom wailing. What followed was a horrible week of fighting and stress. I was never so glad to get in that UHaul at the end of the week and move to San Francisco to get away from her. I was always the black sheep/tie dyed sheep, and at the time, following the Grateful Dead around.

Eve Mraz
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, I see myself in Lynn and am so grateful to have parents just like Lynns dad. Well done sir, well done.

Abraxas59
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow what an entitled piece of work the mother is n from a fellow witch n covered in tats lol n piercings she should be my daughter lmao n my I say what a truly wonderful father he is I wish mine had been like that :) your wife is over bearing and needs to get over her self hugs to you nd your lovely kids Blessed be

Insomniac
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was planning my wedding (that never happened), my mum got caught up in the notion that my older sister had to be a bridesmaid. I was not in her wedding party; she and I had that agreement 20 years ago. I wanted my younger sis, 2 cousins, and my niece. But Mum got so obsessive and mad about it, it became a daily argument. Then she started poking at me that what if my then-fiance wanted to leave me for a friend? What if I was screwing up the relationship because I didn't do X? Every time before I left to go see him, she'd pick a fight and I'd head over there in tears. I am highly anxious anyhow. I've learnt to control it better now, but it was bad then, and she knew how to spike it. It wasn't solely Mum, but she certainly contributed to everything crashing down. I mean, it turns out he has a Lannister thing with his sister so it's good it ended, but I don't think I'll ever forgive Mum for messing with my head like that because I wouldn't bow to her demands.

Janelle Collard
Community Member
Premium
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dang! That whole thing was f**cked up. Hope all is well with you now.

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Suzie
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA for the content but maybe for the delivery. There was possibly a better way to tell his wife that she has no one to blame but herself. He probably should have reined her in before it got to that point.

KatSaidWhat
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It would appear he didn't go full hostile for a while... and sometimes the harsh delivery is the one that gets through.

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Tereza Cervenakova
Community Member
2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If i were the dad, i would, for the peace of mind, apologized for HOW i told the wife to stop complaining, but not for the message. And then repeat, firmly, but calmly, that the wife's behaviour was the reason their daughter eloped...

Noyfb noyfb
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are way in the wrong for insistently calling a grown-a*s woman your “little girl.” Good work you did opposing your psycho wife. Now learn never again to refer to Lynn as a “girl.” She left that behind years ago. Now just give it up.

Janelle Collard
Community Member
Premium
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"When Parents Do Not Accept 'NO' As A Legitimate Answer From Their Adult Offspring."

michele mbennett101044@yahoo.c
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mom, get the f**k over yourself! Of your 3 daughters, did you really think she would want a traditional wedding?!? That is YOUR dream, let it go! Dad is right, move on!

Weasel Wise
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This man sounds like a fantastic father. I should let him know I'm up for adoption.

FreeTheUnicorn
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're clearly a good dad and know your daughter. You're being a good husband too, by telling the truth. Feeding lies would only hurt the family, and it isn't respectful. Sometimes you have to tell your partner they are wrong. Don't apologise, it's only going to feed the delusion. She will hopefully come out of it eventually.

Viking Panda
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish my father would stand up for me against my mother like this!

Mark Childers
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First, I loved how he deeply knew and embraced his kids. Second, the whole wedding thing is out of control. Bridal stores and venues must be raking it in. Probably a by-product of social media.

Manny
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I did the exact same thing back in 1995. Too many fights about who was paying for what and who was getting invited and so on and so on. Soooo went to the keys and eloped and told everyone when we got back. Needless to say parents weren't too happy about it then but now say it was a very good idea!

TribbleThinking
Community Member
4 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is the wife absolutely stunning or something? She sounds so superficial, manipulative and with not an ounce of self awareness. I can't work out how a person who sounds so grounded would willingly put up with that!

Insomniac
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Either that or she's super good in bed. My cousin's wife is the biggest B on Earth, but she gives it to him wherever, whenever, and however he wants it, as often as he wants it, so he puts up with the rest.

Load More Replies...
Joanne Mendonza-Earle
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I eloped the first time b/c my parents, mostly mother, didn't like my boyfriend and would make any kind of wedding stuff just miserable. I am Italian and went to big weddings of my cousins and it was something I did NOT want but knew I'd be forced into. When we told my parents afterward, my dad was pretty bummed but my mother started screaming and crying and locked herself in the bathroom wailing. What followed was a horrible week of fighting and stress. I was never so glad to get in that UHaul at the end of the week and move to San Francisco to get away from her. I was always the black sheep/tie dyed sheep, and at the time, following the Grateful Dead around.

Eve Mraz
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, I see myself in Lynn and am so grateful to have parents just like Lynns dad. Well done sir, well done.

Abraxas59
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow what an entitled piece of work the mother is n from a fellow witch n covered in tats lol n piercings she should be my daughter lmao n my I say what a truly wonderful father he is I wish mine had been like that :) your wife is over bearing and needs to get over her self hugs to you nd your lovely kids Blessed be

Insomniac
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was planning my wedding (that never happened), my mum got caught up in the notion that my older sister had to be a bridesmaid. I was not in her wedding party; she and I had that agreement 20 years ago. I wanted my younger sis, 2 cousins, and my niece. But Mum got so obsessive and mad about it, it became a daily argument. Then she started poking at me that what if my then-fiance wanted to leave me for a friend? What if I was screwing up the relationship because I didn't do X? Every time before I left to go see him, she'd pick a fight and I'd head over there in tears. I am highly anxious anyhow. I've learnt to control it better now, but it was bad then, and she knew how to spike it. It wasn't solely Mum, but she certainly contributed to everything crashing down. I mean, it turns out he has a Lannister thing with his sister so it's good it ended, but I don't think I'll ever forgive Mum for messing with my head like that because I wouldn't bow to her demands.

Janelle Collard
Community Member
Premium
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dang! That whole thing was f**cked up. Hope all is well with you now.

Load More Replies...
Suzie
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA for the content but maybe for the delivery. There was possibly a better way to tell his wife that she has no one to blame but herself. He probably should have reined her in before it got to that point.

KatSaidWhat
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It would appear he didn't go full hostile for a while... and sometimes the harsh delivery is the one that gets through.

Load More Replies...
Tereza Cervenakova
Community Member
2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If i were the dad, i would, for the peace of mind, apologized for HOW i told the wife to stop complaining, but not for the message. And then repeat, firmly, but calmly, that the wife's behaviour was the reason their daughter eloped...

Noyfb noyfb
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are way in the wrong for insistently calling a grown-a*s woman your “little girl.” Good work you did opposing your psycho wife. Now learn never again to refer to Lynn as a “girl.” She left that behind years ago. Now just give it up.

Janelle Collard
Community Member
Premium
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"When Parents Do Not Accept 'NO' As A Legitimate Answer From Their Adult Offspring."

michele mbennett101044@yahoo.c
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mom, get the f**k over yourself! Of your 3 daughters, did you really think she would want a traditional wedding?!? That is YOUR dream, let it go! Dad is right, move on!

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