So many babies on the way. Sad as f

I really don't understand men. If you know for a fact that a woman won't be on board with your s**t, there will be someone who does, so let that woman alone. You're wasting someone's time and making them do things against their principles without them knowing (yeah, l was made the side piece without me knowing. All the time l thought we were in a relationship 🤡)

There's a common denominator in most of these. Sad.

This story doesn't fit exactly but I'd like to share... This happened before cellphones were a thing: Boyfriend wanted to prove how much he loved me so he asked me to watch him burn his little black book. He couldn't think of a lie fast enough when, a few days later, I discovered he made a duplicate

My ex and I were separated for a couple years. He wanted to reconcile so we talked about it. Then he mentioned the child he fathered during our separation. Yeah, nope!

The world is full of terrible people. My question to the folks who are blaming the women in these scenarios, is how can you tell who is going to turn out to be a genuine nice guy and who is not? Usually the first clue is discovering a lie... hence these accounts. These guys don't have forehead tattoos or ear tags or smell different... the same is true for predators who spike your drink or random coworkers who stalk women or any one of a host of disreputable jerks. If you really believe that these ladies are just "bad" at choosing men, then help out a bit. Don't be like this. Don't stay silent in support of this. Don't get mad at a woman who wants to take it slow or be cautious. Don't whine about women who try to be diligent and keep guys at arm's length but this pisses you off, 'cuz "not all men". Problem is, good guys and bad guys can look and behave very, very similarly. Until they don't.

Ok hear me out. I'm a black woman who have heard some of these very lies, either my friends or myself. I hate to say it but I noticed many of the posters are black. This is the ridiculousness we live with.

Let me give these ladies some advice. If you find yourself constantly attracted to men like this you need to figure why you're falling for the smoke and mirrors of manipulative people. It's likely you fall for others like strippers, aggressive sale reps, populist politicians ....etc. My argument is that there's NO WAY these were a one time scenario. It's likely this toxic behavior was brought to your attention and was dismissed.