To mum, "If you ever turn up univited again, you will be ignored again" or "If you ever turn up univited again, the doors will remain locked". I did that. We live on virtually the exact opposite side of London to the in laws (this did not happen by accident). Came out of my bedroom one birthday morning to see husband ushering his parents in through the front door. Noped out of that and turned right back into my bedroom. None of them expected it as I was (back in my youth) really ultra nice and considerate. Took a stand - not on my birthday. Don't you dare try pushing me around and dressing up something I explicitly don't want to do as a "treat" for me. They had to take the long journey back unsatisfied and (hear me out on this) *never did it again*

What does it even mean "Entertain the mom"? Is she a child who wants to play?

OP's mom is deranged. She invites herself to interject into her DIL's vacation and then gets upset when she isn't placated to. This can't be the first time his mom has been utterly clueless and self centered.

Good lord, dude can't even take a fishing day with his own father without being called an AH. Yeah, he probably shouldn't have left mom there with her, but like, adults make adult decisions and he certainly didn't invite his mom and also defended his wife. Like.......wtf guys......he shouldn't bear the blame on this one.

Yep, both YOU and your DAD are the AL'S. YOU for leaving your wife with your mom, who "does this all the time " and your DAD for bringing her along because he's too pussy whipped to tell her to butt out and stay home. Good for you to put your foot down, but it should have been done the minute she showed up. The ultimatum should have been, either come fishing with us or go home, period.

It's a rarity, but I actually agree with the YTA commenters this time. He's not TA for anything he said to his mom, but absolutely YTA for leaving his wife to deal with her!

"my mom complained that mywife should have tried to be a gracious hostess" The wife wasn't a hostess, cause MIL wasn't a guess. She was gracious enough that she didn't outright kick her out for being an badly educated AH that intrudess in other people homes without being invited.

Unfortunately, men’s mothers often have difficulty accepting that their son has a whole life of his own, even when he’s been married for a long time. I’ve lived through two mothers-in -law. Both of them assumed that I would automatically think like they do. It can be tough, but boundaries must be set.

I hate it when people can‘t just let others live like they want. „My Mom thinks reading is boring and thought she was doing my wife a favor“

The TYAs are dense, as usual. "Hey dad, want to go fishing?" to most people mean dad's coming fishing, not mom and dad are coming over and my wife is going to have to entertain. OP called out mom's bs immediately and defended his wife. I'd bet the wife knew the dad was going fishing and she didn't mind because it meant her husband had company while she rested. If anything, the dad should have said he was bringing the mother, but he too was bamboozled. So, TA is the mom - you don't invite yourself to someone's vacation and expect to be treated as a guest.

My mother would have handled this very differently than OP's wife did. She would have walked into the kitchen and grabbed a loaf of bread and some lunch meat, or whatever was around, and slammed it down on the counter, gestured towards it and walked away. That would actually have been the lead into a one way "conversation" about boundaries and the need for common sense and social decorum. Trust me, MIL would never overstep again. OP did a great job of backing up his wife, but I do agree with others that OP should reconsider inviting Dad alone, but this does show why the invite excluded mom

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Soo many like this now BP stop milking a dead cow

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The whole bunch sounds like selfish idiots.