People who show up unannounced and uninvited are not guests. The fact that daughter-in-law took the meal that her mother-in-law made and left and ate in peace just cracks me up. Good for her!

Am I the only one who felt like many of the YTA replied came from people who automatically blamed OP because he's the husband? One or two even said he should have taken his wife fishing also, when it was plain that she wanted to stay at the cabin and read.

OP's mom is deranged. She invites herself to interject into her DIL's vacation and then gets upset when she isn't placated to. This can't be the first time his mom has been utterly clueless and self centered.

Good lord, dude can't even take a fishing day with his own father without being called an AH. Yeah, he probably shouldn't have left mom there with her, but like, adults make adult decisions and he certainly didn't invite his mom and also defended his wife. Like.......wtf guys......he shouldn't bear the blame on this one.

Yay! Finally a guy who stands up to his mother for his wife!

I'm so glad she gave that woman the hand. As a life-long, voracious reader I really felt this. Why does the hobby of reading bring out such weird and strong negative responses in people? I could be on a train, in a waiting room, or just taking a break and open a book and it is like a challenge to folks. There I am, sitting in a room with 20+ other people, I open a book, and someone decides to strike up a conversation. With me. The only person reading a book. Why?

Find myself agreeing with the YTA crowd. How odd.

He should have told his mom to go fishing with them. You know how there are culture differences. Well generational differences are similar. Back in the day when wives didn't work like that it was more acceptable to entertain even if it was unannounced. Women have way more on their plates now a days. Wife has stressful job. MIL doesn't comprehend. She is also not getting that people read for fun. That is why there are stories in books. Husband should have just took mom fishing. Next time something like this happens MIL will know she will be dragged fishing and just stay home. Fishing would have been her consequence. I would have never tell her she is unwanted either. That is fu**Ed up to say to someone. Say, " wife is exhausted. She needs her space. I am so glad you want to come fishing mother. I love spending time with you as well". Mother can't back out at that point.

Omg, these people don't know how to read.... this was handled perfectly. The mom was left to entertain herself all day. The wife got her alone reading time. The hubs and dad got to fish. Now mom will actually get the message. And to the idiot who thinks the husband should have been hanging out with the wife... THAT would have ruined her vacation. The point was she wanted alone time. Which she got.

Main Character just got relegated to the rafters but claims to be victim. I would never show up somewhere unannounced and expect to be entertained and fed. That's just rude. I too would also retreat to my room and continue reading. In fact, I can't think of anything better. This was a lesson to mother-dear. Not everyone is plastic and willing to bend.

Knowing she was not invited your mother should have either brought her own book and chose her own quiet place to read, or gone fishing with you. lf she brought food she should have been ready to cook it herself, seemed like she forgot it was your vacation and got a pointed reminder

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That would never happen in my family. My parents and in-laws will be always welcome, no invitation needed. My wife and I will always be happy having them with us. If my mother or my mother-in-law are in the house, they will insist in cooking more than needed (and probably will bring their own ingredients). And, If I want to chill by myself because it's being a stressful time for me, everybody will understand and leave me alone. I think things works this way in most families I know.