Seriously, I don't understand all those post where someone clearly overstepped a boarder gets rightfully put back in place by the opener which then seeks attention on the internet. I daresay 90% of the people asking know they were NTA. This behavior is kind of strange to me. Feels like fishing for compliments.

I'm impressed that someone who works as a nurse would have the energy to do ANYTHING after work!

Bro tf? Did he just ask his wife to not only be a nurse, a maid, a babysitter, BUT ALSO a f****n stripper? bruh. It would be one thing if it was like, they danced together in the kitchen cuz romantic s**t. But thats litteraly taking your wife down to if she gets you off or not. She's not your pornography, she doesn't have to dance for you.

NTA. Your husband is just another self-entitled child of a male, which is obvious both from his immature demand for dancing, and poor reaction to your retort. Also it sounds like he doesn't do much of the raising of the kids, managing the home, and general adulting chores. You're raising 4 kids, not 3. Sadly this is the plight of most women I see, they're married to child-men with overblown ego's and sense of entitlement (usually given to them by their mothers). Tell him to shape the f*** up as a husband and father, or you'll find someone to replace him as he's obviously nothing special and you could do far better (especially as an educated nurse, you have incredible value as a person and to society) don't let this idiot make you feel less than the amazing woman you are. Working a full time job as a nurse, raising 3 kids, running a home and taking care of a man-child, does he not realize how good he has it?

My gut instinct is telling me you should leave him. That's all I'm going to say.

For everyone who is stating things like "They're fishing for compliments, it's obvious they are NTA..." - I view it more along the lines of: This is tangible, real-world, not-hypothetical evidence of what psychological abuse does to a person. Guess what? There's a good chance these people have been taught SO HARD that horrible treatment is normal, they feel unsure if being confident or setting boundaries is 'okay'. I'm glad for those of you who doubt this because it likely means you've not been through that kind of trauma - but don't immediately assume that they're false-reporting to get ego-petting.

The dude had it comming. You do not - ever - put your spouse in a spot like that. And if you happen to do it anyway, she has all right to cut your head off.

He set himself up by being a donkey's rear to his wife. He took it out of the "fun" realm and revealed that he is a spoiled, petulant child. At that point, why should the wife be able and willing to skillfully "rescue" the situation? In other words, why should she be required to play parent to his childishness? Is that a reasonable expectation between two adult parents? Good luck with that marriage. It sounds like she's carrying the family and he's not liking the fact that she can't work all day, take care of all the children and still treat him as the biggest baby. The only good news here is that he doesn't seem to be violent. Guessing he will be having an affair next if not already.

Can I point out the dancing couple are in a NEW relationship. I'm not saying things go stale after so long with someone but they're not exactly exotic either.

Husband ruined TG and embarrassed himself. I have to wonder why his family hates him too.

"he threw his fork" is a pertinent detail, I feel. It takes his comment from "jokey" to he was serious, angry, and wanting to start a fight in front of people.

Next time ask him why didn't he defend your honor to the death or smite down the people that wronged you.

OH MY GOD! Why are you even for a minute thinking that you might be an asshole here? Being a mom itself is a full time job, you are working along with that, and on top of them , apparently your husband does not lift a finger around your home. Your husband and all the male members (I don't know if I am correct here, apologies if I am not) of his family seem chauvinists to me, limiting women to only "feminine" activities such as dancing. He should not have asked you that in the first place.

No, what’s asshole-ish is his tantrum reaction, and gaslighting you to make himself the victim all because a little bit of truth bit him in the egotistical butt. He’s a classic self-entitled narcissist.

This family seems to have a man problem. That they were all into hearing about the GF’s dance, your husband is so clueless/domestically useless, and so many of them don’t like him seems pretty weird.

NTA, no way! Your husband ruined Thanksgiving, OP, when he made that stupid insulting loud demand, in front of all your inlaws, to know why you don't "dance" for him every night. You, a working nurse, someone who saves lives, and the mother of his children, and he's demanding to know why you don't do some stripper dance for him at night????? Wtf???? Well, he put you on the spot, didn't he? and you responded by giving it right back to him and incidentally, in doing so, you made it clear what a useless waste of space he is around the house at night. And all of that is the truth. So you tell hubby that if he can't handle the truth about how little he contributes to his family, then that's on him. Because a lot of the work you do around the house is cleaning up his mess and feeding his big mouth and you'd have less to do if he left.

What a Jerk thinks that his wife should dance for him. She should dump him, serves him right. She is a person not a doll. I think he deserves to be left. And if the you (Jess, sorry I don't know your full name)are reading this: You deserve more then this, he is the one who ruined Thanksgiving, your a strong person, thank you for sharing your story.

It's almost like that bit in Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 2, when Drax starts heaving because he finds Mantis physically repulsive, then gets genuinely offended when she says she feels likewise about him.

would be a different story if he asked her in private if she could dance for him. could be considered a foreplay. But to demand such a thing in front of the entire family I would feel like a stripper. He demeaned her by suggesting she is less than the other woman. We did zoomba during physical education at high school and I hated it. Boring and stupid stuff. to make it worse male classmates were staring at us while we were doing it (as their teacher was less strict they just played football and sometimes just disappeared to stare at us). If my husband asked me to dance zoomba for him I would hit his head with a book probably. I just wanted to say that maybe she doesnt even like dancing??

Sounds like he hit a cord with her. She has been boiling over with resentment for a bit for that to be her automatic response to him asking why she doesn't dance. When you are working, cleaning, taking care of kids and feel unsupported, one common thing that happens is you feel less attractive and sexual so then pointing out that she isn't as sexy or playful when that is on the back of her tired mind in front of everyone would logically end with her snapping. You are trying as hard as you can and feeling insecure already and you just break because you are being asked to do something you don't have the capacity to do. We need to be less demanding and more supportive of our partners.

Bored Panda is becoming very lazy and taking these s**t posts from Reddit that no one can't confirm that are real. Bored panda used to be a fun and kind place to read comments, and such posts creat a lot of negativity , created most likely by some karma farming on Reddit. Please, choose quality over quantity, and stop with these emotional baits.

This is so dumb, I can't believe this got turned into an entire post.

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Fully understand a hard working mom - but jeez, did she work up her humor, too? Didn't read the full post but I would have thrown back: "I would if you strip like a Chippendale for me..."something like that. Laughs would have been on her side and she could have disguised an embarrassing situation.