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Husband Breaks After Anniversary Night Tease, Asks For Divorce The Next Day

Husband Breaks After Anniversary Night Tease, Asks For Divorce The Next Day

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Marriages are tested in many ways. For Reddit user Pale_Raisin_9016, the biggest issue wasn’t about money, chores, or children—it was about feeling unwanted.

Despite years of effort to reconnect with his wife, their physical intimacy had disappeared. Yet, she continued to flirt and tease, leaving him confused and frustrated.

So when their anniversary came, he decided to try one last time, holding onto the hope that things might finally change.

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    This husband wanted to end the dry spell he had been having with his wife

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    But supposedly, the more he tried, the less she was interested

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    Quickly after sharing his story, the man posted an update on the situation

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    Couples with different romantic preferences can still maintain strong relationships

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    Dr. Jennifer Litner, sexologist and founder of Embrace Sexual Wellness—a Chicago-based center for sex therapy and education that accepts clients for both in-person and telehealth appointments—believes people with mismatched drives can form and maintain deep committed relationships.

    “If each person can be transparent about the significance of sex and they are each willing to find mutually agreed upon and pleasurable ways to stay connected, having differing sex drives is 100% navigable for partners,” she told Bored Panda.

    A 2017 study discovered that the average adult enjoys sex 54 times a year, which equates to about once a week. This is less acts, by about nine per year, compared to a similar study done in the 1990s. Interestingly, another study that surveyed over 30,000 Americans over 40 years found that a once-weekly frequency was the golden standard for happiness—couples who had sex more than once a week didn’t report being any happier, and those who had less reported feeling less fulfilled.

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    However, it’s important to remember that occasional declines in intimacy are normal and can have a number of reasons.

    “Desire discrepancy is the most common reason couples seek out care from a sex therapist and it’s very common in relationships,” Dr. Litner said. “Usually, life stressors, mental health, relationship quality, hormonal, and medical factors play a role in changing sexual desire.”

    But, again, there are effective ways to tackle these challenges.

    “Couples often need to work through the obstacles that led to the disconnection (e.g., emotional barriers, conflict, decreased trust, etc.) and intentionally spend quality time engaging in pleasurable activities that foster intimacy,” Dr. Litner explained. “Sometimes this looks like having regular pleasure dates or working through things with a sex therapist.”

    Most of those who read what happened felt sorry for him

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    Some of the takes were pretty controversial

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    But some thought he may have rushed the divorce

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    Nils Skirnir
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    10 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I could’ve sympathized with the wife, except for the sexual teasing as it’s entirely possible to be asexual. However, the teasing bit is just cruel.

    Pyla
    Community Member
    1 hour ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sexual teasing to a blue b@ll sitch could be regular chit chat to her. I mean, maybe he leaves skid marks in his skivvies. I don't know until I hear her side.

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    LakotaWolf (she/her)
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    17 hours ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like my relationship... 24 years and a dead bedroom for most of it. In the beginning, we were both young, and he was always overly worried about pregnancy. I was on birth control, and it's only decades later that I realize he never ONCE volunteered BC on his end (cóndom, vasectomy, etc.) He also criticized the noises I made during séx and told me to "change them" to sound cuter/higher-pitched (which really hurt my feelings and my self-esteem.) It progressed to him only wanting anál séx (excruciatingly painful for me) and getting mad that I didn't "work" on stretching myself to be "ready" for it. Then I gained some weight, and he said my body "disgusted" him. Eventually, we hadn't had any kind of intimacy in 5-6 years, and I broke up with him. I saw someone else for a few months, and my libido was just fine. Was stupid after that guy ghosted me, and got back with my ex (who said I "cheated on him" since he never "accepted" that I broke up with him.) He was controlling and a*****e in so many other ways, and I ignored it for so long, thinking I could never find anyone else who would like me. I finally moved back home and got out of the relationship last October. I haven't had séx in years, but I'm not dead yet, there's still hope XD

    FreeTheUnicorn
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    16 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry you've gone through this. It's good to hear you recognise it's not on you. It sounds alike you've been good, giving and game, as well as kind and didn't receive the same in return. I hope things are better now.

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    16 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At the very least they are incompatible. They've got different libidos but no plans to deal with that and can't talk about anything. He's always feeling rejection, I would imagine she's always feeling guilty that any affection is taken as a lead on. Neither is able to discuss in the moment what they expect or want to happen, they just get frustrated when still their partner doesn't want the same thing. Quick divorce is the best thing. Hopefully going forward (with other people) they are open about s*x and discuss it like adults.

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    Nils Skirnir
    Community Member
    10 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I could’ve sympathized with the wife, except for the sexual teasing as it’s entirely possible to be asexual. However, the teasing bit is just cruel.

    Pyla
    Community Member
    1 hour ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sexual teasing to a blue b@ll sitch could be regular chit chat to her. I mean, maybe he leaves skid marks in his skivvies. I don't know until I hear her side.

    Load More Replies...
    LakotaWolf (she/her)
    Community Member
    17 hours ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like my relationship... 24 years and a dead bedroom for most of it. In the beginning, we were both young, and he was always overly worried about pregnancy. I was on birth control, and it's only decades later that I realize he never ONCE volunteered BC on his end (cóndom, vasectomy, etc.) He also criticized the noises I made during séx and told me to "change them" to sound cuter/higher-pitched (which really hurt my feelings and my self-esteem.) It progressed to him only wanting anál séx (excruciatingly painful for me) and getting mad that I didn't "work" on stretching myself to be "ready" for it. Then I gained some weight, and he said my body "disgusted" him. Eventually, we hadn't had any kind of intimacy in 5-6 years, and I broke up with him. I saw someone else for a few months, and my libido was just fine. Was stupid after that guy ghosted me, and got back with my ex (who said I "cheated on him" since he never "accepted" that I broke up with him.) He was controlling and a*****e in so many other ways, and I ignored it for so long, thinking I could never find anyone else who would like me. I finally moved back home and got out of the relationship last October. I haven't had séx in years, but I'm not dead yet, there's still hope XD

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    16 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry you've gone through this. It's good to hear you recognise it's not on you. It sounds alike you've been good, giving and game, as well as kind and didn't receive the same in return. I hope things are better now.

    Load More Replies...
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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    16 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At the very least they are incompatible. They've got different libidos but no plans to deal with that and can't talk about anything. He's always feeling rejection, I would imagine she's always feeling guilty that any affection is taken as a lead on. Neither is able to discuss in the moment what they expect or want to happen, they just get frustrated when still their partner doesn't want the same thing. Quick divorce is the best thing. Hopefully going forward (with other people) they are open about s*x and discuss it like adults.

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