It’s no big secret that in balanced relationships, both partners should have a say in things – however, today’s story is a tad complicated. 

The thing is, u/No-Development4151’s wife wants to get a pretty big chest tattoo of a hummingbird and some flowers, but he finds the placement “unattractive.” He begged the woman to reconsider but instead got blasted for being controlling! 

This woman wants to get a prominent chest tattoo of a hummingbird and some flowers

Her husband disapproves of the placement and begs her to reconsider

“AITA for hating where my wife is going to get a tattoo?” – this web user took to one of Reddit’s most judgmental communities, asking its members if he’s indeed a jerk for disapproving of his wife’s ‘fairly large’ chest tattoo idea. The post managed to garner 5.3K upvotes as well as 2.4K comments discussing the situation. 

Did you know that according to a 2023 report from Pew Research Center – a nonpartisan fact tank that informs the public about the issues, attitudes, and trends shaping the world – “32% of adults have a tattoo, with 22% having more than one”?

Now, although getting inked up is a common occurrence nowadays – it wasn’t always like this. 

Cultural or religious beliefs, fear of regret, stereotypes, stigmas, professional reasons, generational gaps, permanence, association with subcultures, respect for tradition – whatever it is, attitudes towards body art can vary widely.

Still, to each their own, and everyone’s entitled to do what they please with their body! But what to do if someone close to you – a family member or a significant other, perhaps – is highly against it? 

Despite its clichéd nature, the first thing you want to resort to is communication to, you know, understand their perspectives and concerns; ask for their reason, educate them, respect their feelings, and if that doesn’t help resolve the issue – consider finding a compromise. 

However, remember that compromise is about finding solutions that work for both individuals!

Ultimately, getting a tattoo is a personal decision, and you should make the decision that’s right for you and you only. 

Things get heated and the man gets dubbed “controlling”

Today’s couple, though, didn’t end up finding a compromise. 

The OP and his wife both have several tattoos – and recently, the woman revealed that she would like to get a sizable chest piece that consists of a floral design and a hummingbird. 

The problem is that the guy finds chest tattoos unattractive and is concerned about how the design would be visible in nearly every shirt she’d wear. 

Naturally, his opposition caused quite a stir and even earned him the moniker of a controlling jerk. 

The r/AmItheA**hole online community members have agreed with his wife and collectively branded the man a jerk; however, many have also noted that when you’re married, any permanent changes your partner makes to their body affect you as well. 

What do you reckon, Pandas? 

Fellow online community members shared their thoughts and opinions on the situation