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Cheating Husband Is About To Lose His Car, His Home, And His Wife All Without Seeing It Coming
Cheating Husband Is About To Lose His Car, His Home, And His Wife All Without Seeing It Coming
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Cheating Husband Is About To Lose His Car, His Home, And His Wife All Without Seeing It Coming

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What’s the best way to handle a cheating partner? Forgive them, walk away, or plot some petty revenge? Well, this Redditor went for the last option, one so elaborate it could inspire a movie script.

After her husband of five years, whom she had known since childhood and once considered her best friend, cheated on her, he initially asked for a divorce. But when he came crawling back, begging for another chance, she agreed—while secretly setting the stage for his downfall. By the time she was done, he’d be homeless, carless, and dealing with the fallout of his parents’ ruined marriage.

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    The woman’s husband of five years, whom she once considered her best friend, cheated on her

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    So she plotted an elaborate revenge, the kind that belongs in a movie

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    Expert shares advice on coping with an unfaithful partner

    Finding out that your partner has cheated is devastating. It shatters the trust you built, makes you second-guess your entire relationship, and sends your mind into a spiral of why’s, when’s and what’s. Why did they do this? When did it happen? And most importantly—what do you do next?

    That emotional turmoil can lead to anxiety, depression, and even physical symptoms, all while you’re struggling to figure out your path forward. With anger and despair intertwined, the temptation to get even can be overwhelming. But while plotting against a cheating spouse might make for a compelling story, is it really the healthiest way to cope? Experts say no.

    “Revenge can have long term ramifications for all parties involved,” MBACP-registered counsellor Jodie James tells Bored Panda.

    She explains that the urge for revenge often stems from the intense emotions triggered by infidelity. “Whether it is anger, sadness or betrayal, your feelings are valid and understandable. However, acting on feelings to justify revenge can cause additional negativity for all involved and inhibit the healing process,” James says.

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    Instead of holding onto resentment, James suggests accepting your emotions and having a direct conversation about the issue. “The feelings and emotions that come from infidelity should be recognized and validated. This means open and honest communication with your partner,” she says.

    Of course, that’s easier said than done. But it’s worth noting that between 60-75% of couples who experience infidelity choose to stay together. That doesn’t necessarily mean they do it out of love. Some stay because they fear being alone, face financial constraints, or worry about the impact on their children. This is why turning to professional guidance can provide support in navigating the aftermath.

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    “Couples who struggle to effectively communicate can seek out couples counseling for help,” James advises. “A couples counselor will work with the couple to facilitate communication as a healthy way to process the emotions associated with infidelity.”

    However, when facing heartbreak, focusing on your own well-being—both mentally and physically—is just as necessary as tending to the relationship.

    “For a person who has felt the pain of betrayal, it may be a good idea to reconnect with oneself,” says James. “So often, we get caught up in what has happened within the relationship that we lose touch with ourselves. Taking time for oneself, attending to personal needs, and maintaining a sense of autonomy can also help with the healing process.”

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    The woman later revealed that his parents knew about the cheating, so she made sure they paid the price too

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    Readers loved the drama of her revenge

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    Though some warned it could have potential legal consequences

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    When navigating troubled relationships, trust and communication are crucial components in determining the path forward. Before resorting to extreme measures, it’s essential to recognize risk factors in relationships that might influence such drastic decisions. In fact, understanding the dynamics of controlling behavior in partnerships can provide deeper insights into why one may contemplate significant life changes.

    If you’re interested in exploring how damaging such behavior can be, consider learning about experiences of manipulative relationships and their impact.


     

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    Endcensorship
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This strikes me as slightly psychopathic, maybe it's just me though

    Libstak
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Destroying his parents marriage because they supported their son is next level psycho.

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    Lyoness
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    God I hope so and if not I never want to p**s this person off.

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    Paul Rabit
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd have just not taken him back in the first place when he begged rather than go through all this, but that's me. This all seems so tiring.

    Regina Holt
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It pisses me off that there is some folks who are blaming the woman for letting herself get overweight (fat and ugly, comment said) and that is a reason the husband strayed . . . . This victim-blaming is disgusting. I'm wondering if that comment was written by a man.

    tee-lena
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You know it was. It has Peterson all over it

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    Travelling Stranger
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    this is brilliant, the lady is going to pull the carpet from under the bag of douche of soon to be ex-husband in the sweetest way possible..

    Ben Aziza
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This probably fanfiction writer lost me at bringing the dad into it. Not sure why some ppl are into collective punishments.

    G A
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fake as fvck. Someone has been attending a creative writing class.

    Jumping Jellyfishes
    Community Member
    Premium
    10 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nah. It'd be written better if they were attending a creative writing class

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    DrBronxx
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everyone in this story completely sucks. Good thing it isn't real.

    François Bouzigues
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not forgiving him would have been fine. Forgiving him would have been fine. Claiming to forgive him for revenge plus catfishing the dad in the process : crazy.

    Ann Kapoxeet
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anger is important & I'm not one who is able to forgive much at all, but sometimes moving on with your own life is the best thing for your own mental health.

    SirWriteALot
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    locking someone out of their home is illegal, I think, around here. If they're married or in a registered partnership one person cannot "evict" the other and this will become a police matter. Getting real psycho vibes here

    Game Guy
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah. All sorts of problems here. The car - in her name but has he made any payments? Then it's a maritial asset and she can't just unilaterally take possession of it and sell it. Same with the $500 - maritial asset that a good divorce attorney could make a case that she stole because she took it under false pretenses, that it was for use in the marriage rather than for her exclusive use. Secretly ending the joint lease is similarly out of line. Feels good. Not legal. I mean, there's no way this is real, but if it were she'd be setting herself up for a world of hurt.

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    The_Nicest_Misanthrope
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    10 months ago

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    All the people saying she went too far have clearly never been cheated on

    nana theater
    Community Member
    10 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had my share of being cheated on - still I think destroying the marriage of his parents is totally unjustified and unhinged. She needs therapy.

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    James King
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And when all the revenge was complete, everyone at her new job two states over clapped.

    Ruth Watry
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would not throw his stuff out (could get sued). Put in a storage shed and pay for one month. When serving divorce papers, include the key and address and that he has 30 days. Otherwise, ghost him and move on with your life with your car

    Story Rook
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This will end up doing more harm to your precious soul than to his. Please protect yourself financially, but don't actively seek to harm others. Even the people who suck or hurt you. It's worth it. My ex husband did a gazillion times worse than this and I will always be glad that I kept my heart and soul free from hatred. :)

    Schmebulock
    Community Member
    10 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Revenge best served cold! Awesome! Also, once a cheat always a cheat.

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow, just break up. Although posting about how you're secretly diverting joint funds and going on a campaign of psychological torture will definitely help his settlement in the divorce. Doesn't sound like this is the first time OP has been a vindictive, controlling b***h who needs to win at all costs. Hopefully this helps him get free of her.

    Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She left out the part where she ruins his career. Bad fiction writer. Bad!

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    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So….there are two dirt bags in this marriage? And I should approve? Pass.

    scottymary
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ♥♥♥I'm so excited my broken heart has been restored my man is back ♥♥♥after he left me for another woman. i was so happy to meet doctor Osaka how he help🥺🥺 many people to bring back their happiness so i contacted him to help me too❤❤❤. that was how he help me to bring back ❤❤❤my man.. A big Thanks to you because I never thought my man will be back to me so quickly. You are such a nice man ♥♥♥ Clic Doctor Osaka spell caster here his 👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇 WhatsApp number +2349024827182 Email;;drosakalovespelltemple217@gmail.com

    Julia Cargile
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Rethink this plan, please. You might be destroying yourself in this process. God bless you.

    Crystalwitch60
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    10 months ago

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    As a white witch please do not use the blessed be after insulting someone !!!

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    Crystalwitch60
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    10 months ago (edited)

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    WOW those YTA scum need a lesson teaching em ! Op you go girl from a 60 yr old woman who’s been married three times to two abusive c***s and one cheat I’m 100 % on your side here ! In my world as white witch ! KARMA IS A B***H MORE SO IN THE FORM OF ME ! they agreed with his cheating my god if my 23 yr old daughter or 20 yr old son cheated on their partners im sorry but im on the partners side not my kids END OFF cheats are scum ! and you are just proving to his stuck up mother her marriage is also a sham yup YOU GO GIRL ❤️ you are better than them end off x

    CherylTunt
    Community Member
    10 months ago (edited)

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    pretending to want your husband back with the sole intention of leaving him with nothing in a divorce could be considered fraud, as you are deliberately misleading him to gain an unfair advantage in the legal process, potentially violating the principles of honesty and fair dealing in a marital dissolution I hope he sues you for everything’s your worth Losing weight so you can look better for someone else , why didn’t you put that effort into pleasing your husband. With what you described you seem like psycho, I don’t condone cheating but with this crazy rant i can see why he went looking for something else .

    LakotaWolf (she/her)
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everything else is neither here nor there, but I am so tired of the "well, why didn't you lose weight and get in shape to please YOUR HUSBAND, then???" attitude. Why should she HAVE to? There is no book of "marriage laws" that say "Thou shalt stay sexy and hot to please your husband, so that he will not cheat on you." No. Nope. That's a disgusting attitude. If OP's husband was displeased with the state of her body/fitness level, then he should have had a grown-up conversation with OP about it, NOT gone and found another woman to have sex with. I'm not sure how legal it is for her to throw out all his stuff and change the locks on their (presumably shared?) home, but "why didn't you just stay in shape? then your husband wouldn't have cheated on you" is such a repulsive thing to even say.

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    Endcensorship
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This strikes me as slightly psychopathic, maybe it's just me though

    Libstak
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Destroying his parents marriage because they supported their son is next level psycho.

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    Lyoness
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    God I hope so and if not I never want to p**s this person off.

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    Paul Rabit
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd have just not taken him back in the first place when he begged rather than go through all this, but that's me. This all seems so tiring.

    Regina Holt
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It pisses me off that there is some folks who are blaming the woman for letting herself get overweight (fat and ugly, comment said) and that is a reason the husband strayed . . . . This victim-blaming is disgusting. I'm wondering if that comment was written by a man.

    tee-lena
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You know it was. It has Peterson all over it

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    Travelling Stranger
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    this is brilliant, the lady is going to pull the carpet from under the bag of douche of soon to be ex-husband in the sweetest way possible..

    Ben Aziza
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This probably fanfiction writer lost me at bringing the dad into it. Not sure why some ppl are into collective punishments.

    G A
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fake as fvck. Someone has been attending a creative writing class.

    Jumping Jellyfishes
    Community Member
    Premium
    10 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nah. It'd be written better if they were attending a creative writing class

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    DrBronxx
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everyone in this story completely sucks. Good thing it isn't real.

    François Bouzigues
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not forgiving him would have been fine. Forgiving him would have been fine. Claiming to forgive him for revenge plus catfishing the dad in the process : crazy.

    Ann Kapoxeet
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anger is important & I'm not one who is able to forgive much at all, but sometimes moving on with your own life is the best thing for your own mental health.

    SirWriteALot
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    locking someone out of their home is illegal, I think, around here. If they're married or in a registered partnership one person cannot "evict" the other and this will become a police matter. Getting real psycho vibes here

    Game Guy
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah. All sorts of problems here. The car - in her name but has he made any payments? Then it's a maritial asset and she can't just unilaterally take possession of it and sell it. Same with the $500 - maritial asset that a good divorce attorney could make a case that she stole because she took it under false pretenses, that it was for use in the marriage rather than for her exclusive use. Secretly ending the joint lease is similarly out of line. Feels good. Not legal. I mean, there's no way this is real, but if it were she'd be setting herself up for a world of hurt.

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    The_Nicest_Misanthrope
    Community Member
    10 months ago

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    All the people saying she went too far have clearly never been cheated on

    nana theater
    Community Member
    10 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had my share of being cheated on - still I think destroying the marriage of his parents is totally unjustified and unhinged. She needs therapy.

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    James King
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And when all the revenge was complete, everyone at her new job two states over clapped.

    Ruth Watry
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would not throw his stuff out (could get sued). Put in a storage shed and pay for one month. When serving divorce papers, include the key and address and that he has 30 days. Otherwise, ghost him and move on with your life with your car

    Story Rook
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This will end up doing more harm to your precious soul than to his. Please protect yourself financially, but don't actively seek to harm others. Even the people who suck or hurt you. It's worth it. My ex husband did a gazillion times worse than this and I will always be glad that I kept my heart and soul free from hatred. :)

    Schmebulock
    Community Member
    10 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Revenge best served cold! Awesome! Also, once a cheat always a cheat.

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow, just break up. Although posting about how you're secretly diverting joint funds and going on a campaign of psychological torture will definitely help his settlement in the divorce. Doesn't sound like this is the first time OP has been a vindictive, controlling b***h who needs to win at all costs. Hopefully this helps him get free of her.

    Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She left out the part where she ruins his career. Bad fiction writer. Bad!

    All profits to charity
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So….there are two dirt bags in this marriage? And I should approve? Pass.

    scottymary
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ♥♥♥I'm so excited my broken heart has been restored my man is back ♥♥♥after he left me for another woman. i was so happy to meet doctor Osaka how he help🥺🥺 many people to bring back their happiness so i contacted him to help me too❤❤❤. that was how he help me to bring back ❤❤❤my man.. A big Thanks to you because I never thought my man will be back to me so quickly. You are such a nice man ♥♥♥ Clic Doctor Osaka spell caster here his 👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇 WhatsApp number +2349024827182 Email;;drosakalovespelltemple217@gmail.com

    Julia Cargile
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Rethink this plan, please. You might be destroying yourself in this process. God bless you.

    Crystalwitch60
    Community Member
    10 months ago

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    As a white witch please do not use the blessed be after insulting someone !!!

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    Crystalwitch60
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    10 months ago (edited)

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    WOW those YTA scum need a lesson teaching em ! Op you go girl from a 60 yr old woman who’s been married three times to two abusive c***s and one cheat I’m 100 % on your side here ! In my world as white witch ! KARMA IS A B***H MORE SO IN THE FORM OF ME ! they agreed with his cheating my god if my 23 yr old daughter or 20 yr old son cheated on their partners im sorry but im on the partners side not my kids END OFF cheats are scum ! and you are just proving to his stuck up mother her marriage is also a sham yup YOU GO GIRL ❤️ you are better than them end off x

    CherylTunt
    Community Member
    10 months ago (edited)

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    pretending to want your husband back with the sole intention of leaving him with nothing in a divorce could be considered fraud, as you are deliberately misleading him to gain an unfair advantage in the legal process, potentially violating the principles of honesty and fair dealing in a marital dissolution I hope he sues you for everything’s your worth Losing weight so you can look better for someone else , why didn’t you put that effort into pleasing your husband. With what you described you seem like psycho, I don’t condone cheating but with this crazy rant i can see why he went looking for something else .

    LakotaWolf (she/her)
    Community Member
    10 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everything else is neither here nor there, but I am so tired of the "well, why didn't you lose weight and get in shape to please YOUR HUSBAND, then???" attitude. Why should she HAVE to? There is no book of "marriage laws" that say "Thou shalt stay sexy and hot to please your husband, so that he will not cheat on you." No. Nope. That's a disgusting attitude. If OP's husband was displeased with the state of her body/fitness level, then he should have had a grown-up conversation with OP about it, NOT gone and found another woman to have sex with. I'm not sure how legal it is for her to throw out all his stuff and change the locks on their (presumably shared?) home, but "why didn't you just stay in shape? then your husband wouldn't have cheated on you" is such a repulsive thing to even say.

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