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Man Livid After Finding Out That Step-DIL Spied On Him, Kicks Her And Stepson Out Of His House
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Man Livid After Finding Out That Step-DIL Spied On Him, Kicks Her And Stepson Out Of His House

Man Livid After Finding Out That Step-DIL Spied On Him, Kicks Her And Stepson Out Of His HouseMan Shocked That Stepson’s Wife Shared His Pics With His Daughter, Throws Couple OutWoman Takes Pics Of Husband’s Stepdad And Mom To Show His Stepsister, Gets Kicked OutHomeless Woman With “Mild” Stalking Issues Spies On In-Laws For Her SIL, Is Banned From Their HouseWoman Spies On FIL And MIL, Takes Their Pics And Sends To FIL's Daughter, Gets Thrown OutWoman Sneakily Takes Pics Of FIL To Send To His Daughter, Livid FIL Throws Her And Husband OutNetizens Call Woman A Meddlesome Fool For Spying On In-Law And Getting Thrown Out Of Their HouseMan Livid After Finding Out That Step-DIL Spied On Him, Kicks Her And Stepson Out Of His HouseMan Livid After Finding Out That Step-DIL Spied On Him, Kicks Her And Stepson Out Of His HouseMan Livid After Finding Out That Step-DIL Spied On Him, Kicks Her And Stepson Out Of His House
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Anyone can go broke or struggle financially, for such is life that tragedy strikes when we least expect it. But some people help us when we come across difficult situations. And it falls on our shoulders to be considerate toward them and not cross a line, for you should never bite the hand that feeds you.

But this Reddit user’s wife seemed not to know this because she took pics of his stepdad and sent them to his daughter to show her that he was not bummed out about missing her wedding. This got the broke couple thrown out of the house.

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    The poster of this story and his wife were struggling financially, so they moved in with his mom and stepdad

    Image credits: Jeremy Wong (not the actual photo)

    When his stepsister was getting married, she didn’t invite his mom, as she hated her, so even his stepdad refused to go to the wedding

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    Image credits: u/BalanceFun1716

    Image credits: Matheus Bertelli (not the actual photo)

    Even though he was hurt about missing his daughter’s wedding, the poster’s stepdad didn’t express this

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    Image credits: u/BalanceFun1716

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    The poster’s wife took inappropriate pics of the stepdad with his wife and sent them to his stepdaughter to show that he was ‘not sad enough’ when missing the wedding

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    Image credits: u/BalanceFun1716

    When the stepdad found out about this, he threw them out of the house, and when the poster blamed her for their homelessness, she was furious with him

    In today’s story, the original poster (OP), BalanceFun1716, tells us how he was rendered homeless due to his wife’s absurd behavior. It began when he and his wife were struggling financially. Fortunately for them, his mom let them move in with her and his stepdad till they could get back on their feet.

    One day, it was his stepsister’s wedding, but as his stepsiblings hated his mom, they didn’t invite her. His stepdad was upset by this and refused to attend the wedding. OP said that this must have hurt him, but he didn’t express himself at all. His mom was upset with his stepdad, as she felt that kids should be put before spouses.

    But things took a turn for the worse when the poster found out that his wife had sneakily taken pictures of his stepdad and mom when they were inappropriately dressed and their private parts were visible. She had sent these pictures to the stepsister to show her that her father was ‘not sad enough’ when missing her wedding.

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    OP said that he found this creepy behavior of spying on others highly uncomfortable. But seems like she didn’t have any problem with it. And considering the fact that they were guests at their house, she should have been more careful. Alas, this behavior stirred such drama that it sparked the stepdad’s fury.

    His daughter sent him those pictures and called his wife some indecent names. And, of course, this infuriated him when he found out that it was the OP’s wife’s doing. He got so angry that he literally threw out their clothes all over his lawn and kicked them out, and he also called them “ungrateful leeches.”

    The couple was homeless due to his wife’s actions, so it was natural for the poster to be annoyed with her. He felt that it was a great opportunity to get back on their feet while they lived with his family, but she had ruined it all. So, in this angry state, he yelled at her and blamed her for everything. 

    Instead of accepting her mistake and apologizing for it, she got angry with him and even had the audacity to say, “You had no right to speak to me like that regardless of what I did.” Wow, some people, right? Probably feeling confused and looking for a solution, the poster came online and expressed himself, asking for advice from the Reddit community.

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    The Redditors did not disappoint when advising him. Firstly, they informed him that he was not at all in the wrong for blaming his wife for their homelessness. They said that it was not her place to interfere in their matter and that she completely overstepped her boundaries. Her actions were completely immature, irresponsible, and unnecessary.

    According to Verywell Mind, “Respecting others’ boundaries is an important part of maintaining a healthy relationship with them. It takes maturity, integrity, and empathy to recognize that you’re making someone uncomfortable. Ignoring or disrespecting others’ boundaries can harm your relationship with them and lead to conflict.”

    It looks like the poster’s wife lacks maturity, integrity, and empathy, so what the Redditors said about her being immature seems to be true. OP also mentioned that she said she took the pics when they were in the sauna or their room, so she was actually spying on them. He said that she also lightly stalks her boss’s girlfriend, but she hasn’t done anything as serious as this before. Netizens said that this spying and stalking behavior of hers was a giant red flag.

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    People felt that she was just meddlesome without reason and had complete disregard and disrespect for the people who actually provided a roof over their heads. Her unnecessary involvement in the matter just added fuel to the fire and ruined things further. They felt that the husband was right for penalizing her actions.

    Psychology Today states, “Those who interfere in others’ relationships are more likely to have dark personality traits such as narcissism, psychopathy, and sadism. Such people are callous manipulators who lack guilt, and they have a calculating mindset where they gain pleasure and enjoyment from causing suffering.”

    That explains why she didn’t feel guilty for her actions and got angry with her husband for calling out her toxic behavior. Folks online advised the man to leave the petty, malicious, arrogant, and nosy wife and explain things to his mom and stepdad about how it was all on her, while he was completely clueless when she did it.

    People felt that his parents might understand if he explained and apologized, and they might even take him back in, only if he went by himself. They said that he should not be homeless for her mistakes and that she had to atone for them all by herself. 

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    Well, those were the thoughts of the online community. But we want to hear from you. What are your thoughts about the situation, and what advice would you give someone stuck in a similar situation? Don’t hesitate to let us know in the comments!

    Redditors accused her of being a meddlesome fool and ruining things for not just the couple but for the stepdad and his daughter as well

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    Trundle
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “I mean she lightly stalks her bosses girlfriend” I was with this dude up until this response. The wedding wasnt the first incident, You know you married a psycho stalker dude. NTA for yelling at her, YTA for being married to her. That line threw me, I was crying laughing 😂😂

    Kit Springs
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    IKR? How the f do you "lightly stalk" someone? This family seems as dysfunctional as mine on a bad year. Lol Run! Get the F outta Dodge and don't look back!

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    Alexandra
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your wife ruined your chances as a couple to get back on track through her vindictiveness. That should tell you that she has no regard for you as a partner. You will get nowhere in life with someone like her.

    Libstak
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The title of the thread has me so confused. I mean, who is who to whom in this zoo exactly? Anyhoo, wife is deranged and OP needs to run far and run fast.

    Gabby M
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    SAME here lol I'm like Who What Where Who again and ... well you know the rest LOL

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    notlikeyou1971
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA. Your wife is 100 percent wrong. I can't believe she doesn't see how wrong and creepy what she did is.She also cost you a place to live. She deserved to get yelled at and a lot worse. She did this by herself so I would leave her to live with the consequences of her actions by herself.

    Vinnie
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe the wife can go live with the stepsister. I don't blame the father for throwing her out - in his situation, I'd be wondering "What else is this self-righteous interfering idiot going to reveal to others??"

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    Carole G.
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Stalking! Spying! Taking pictures! There's trouble ahead for you & you can't say you didn't know, THERE ARE SIGNS! Run fast, run far.

    Gabby M
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    LMAO signs? ... I'd say Billboards, sides of buildings, SKYWRITTING signs!! Poor dude.

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    Kari Panda
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Kids should always come before your spouse" - No. And neither the other way around. Rather than siding with someone because they have a specific kind of relationship with you, side with who you morally agree with. I hate that "You’re my XYZ so you must side with me" mentality.

    Sweet T
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed there should be a balance because at the end of the day the love between spouses are different from love for your kids. I don't understand how people can't see the difference.

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    Melissa anderson
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seriously, why doesn’t he see a problem with her stalking her bosses girlfriend? That’s just weird. This girl needs psychiatric help.

    Aline
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP has clearly missed the earlier ones, but red flag! red flag! This would be great time to break up. No one who goes this far to cause family drama is going to be a good spouse, she doesn't care about boundaries and more than likely broke the law by taking and sending the photos, that's way beyond what is normal and healthy. Divorce asap.

    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    More red flags than China, time to reassess your own marriage.

    DC
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Divorce her. Go back to Ma and Pa for the time being, sort out the financials with ex wife, and surround yourself with people who may be weirdos all they want, but not AHs. Weirdos are fine, some, AHs are not, all.

    C_galen_b
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have come to the sad realization that even family can't be trusted. My elderly mother learned the hard way. My sister Kary was married to a d**g addled hypochondriac who couldn't keep a job. Every one of us despised Fred, but we bailed her out for 30 years because she was the only income. About ten years ago, Kary was left disabled. We banded together to pay her bills until the disability kicked in. Mom even snuck money out of her savings account to help, knowing that dad would go postal if he found out. The disability kicked in, including a hefty back payment. They decided to "splurge" and bought Fred a motorcycle. No money for mom. Then they got evicted. My 80 year old mother helped her pack and took them in. Two years later, she realized that Fred had been stealing her family heirlooms and pawning them. When she confronted them, they got in her face, threatening her. She threw them out so Kary pushed her down the stairs. Mom was dead ten days later. She never woke up.

    Wendy Herman
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG, that's HORRIBLE. I'm so very sorry for your tragic loss. May your poor Mom's soul rest in blessed Peace. You'll see her again, one day. Kary & Fred won't, not where they're headed. I hope they are both now serving prison terms. My beloved Grandmother was killed by my grandfather. So, I have an inkling of your pain, and send hugs of sympathy & condolence. 😢

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    notlikeyou1971
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe now that she is thrown out she can moonlight as a PI . Especially if you are smart enough to leave her sorry rear end

    Ace
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got lost somewhere with all the step-relatives, really couldn't work out who was related to whom. Sounds like the whole family, both sides of it, or all three, depending on how many steps there are, is completely off its head, with no-one coming out of it very well, so yeah, in the right parlance, ETA.

    Karen Bird
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh god! I want to send him running shoes so he can run as far and as fast as possible from his wife! I hope he knows that when the (inevitable) divorce happens his wife is going to stalk him for the rest of his life!!

    Pat Ferryman
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The pronouns are all messed up he and she referring to dad just make this too confusing to read

    Harry Tom
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    3 months ago

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    HOW TO SPY ON YOUR SPOUSE'S WHATSAPP MESSAGES/ MOBILE PHONE: Through the proficient services provided by Sylvester G. Bryant, I found myself in a position to discreetly monitor the activities and communications of my spouse without raising any suspicion or alerting them to my actions. This capability was facilitated by the adeptness of Mr. Bryant in the realm of surveillance and information gathering. It allowed for a thorough observation of behavior while ensuring that no notifications or alerts would be triggered, thus maintaining a veil of secrecy. Such a method proves invaluable for those in similar situations who seek to uncover the truth without the risk of detection. For further inquiries or assistance in this regard, Sylvester G. Bryant can be contacted at the following email address: Yt7cracker@gmail. com, or through his Instagram handle: Yt7crackersz.

    Trundle
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “I mean she lightly stalks her bosses girlfriend” I was with this dude up until this response. The wedding wasnt the first incident, You know you married a psycho stalker dude. NTA for yelling at her, YTA for being married to her. That line threw me, I was crying laughing 😂😂

    Kit Springs
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    IKR? How the f do you "lightly stalk" someone? This family seems as dysfunctional as mine on a bad year. Lol Run! Get the F outta Dodge and don't look back!

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    Alexandra
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your wife ruined your chances as a couple to get back on track through her vindictiveness. That should tell you that she has no regard for you as a partner. You will get nowhere in life with someone like her.

    Libstak
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The title of the thread has me so confused. I mean, who is who to whom in this zoo exactly? Anyhoo, wife is deranged and OP needs to run far and run fast.

    Gabby M
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    SAME here lol I'm like Who What Where Who again and ... well you know the rest LOL

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    notlikeyou1971
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA. Your wife is 100 percent wrong. I can't believe she doesn't see how wrong and creepy what she did is.She also cost you a place to live. She deserved to get yelled at and a lot worse. She did this by herself so I would leave her to live with the consequences of her actions by herself.

    Vinnie
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe the wife can go live with the stepsister. I don't blame the father for throwing her out - in his situation, I'd be wondering "What else is this self-righteous interfering idiot going to reveal to others??"

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    Carole G.
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Stalking! Spying! Taking pictures! There's trouble ahead for you & you can't say you didn't know, THERE ARE SIGNS! Run fast, run far.

    Gabby M
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    LMAO signs? ... I'd say Billboards, sides of buildings, SKYWRITTING signs!! Poor dude.

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    Kari Panda
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Kids should always come before your spouse" - No. And neither the other way around. Rather than siding with someone because they have a specific kind of relationship with you, side with who you morally agree with. I hate that "You’re my XYZ so you must side with me" mentality.

    Sweet T
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed there should be a balance because at the end of the day the love between spouses are different from love for your kids. I don't understand how people can't see the difference.

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    Melissa anderson
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seriously, why doesn’t he see a problem with her stalking her bosses girlfriend? That’s just weird. This girl needs psychiatric help.

    Aline
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP has clearly missed the earlier ones, but red flag! red flag! This would be great time to break up. No one who goes this far to cause family drama is going to be a good spouse, she doesn't care about boundaries and more than likely broke the law by taking and sending the photos, that's way beyond what is normal and healthy. Divorce asap.

    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    More red flags than China, time to reassess your own marriage.

    DC
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Divorce her. Go back to Ma and Pa for the time being, sort out the financials with ex wife, and surround yourself with people who may be weirdos all they want, but not AHs. Weirdos are fine, some, AHs are not, all.

    C_galen_b
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have come to the sad realization that even family can't be trusted. My elderly mother learned the hard way. My sister Kary was married to a d**g addled hypochondriac who couldn't keep a job. Every one of us despised Fred, but we bailed her out for 30 years because she was the only income. About ten years ago, Kary was left disabled. We banded together to pay her bills until the disability kicked in. Mom even snuck money out of her savings account to help, knowing that dad would go postal if he found out. The disability kicked in, including a hefty back payment. They decided to "splurge" and bought Fred a motorcycle. No money for mom. Then they got evicted. My 80 year old mother helped her pack and took them in. Two years later, she realized that Fred had been stealing her family heirlooms and pawning them. When she confronted them, they got in her face, threatening her. She threw them out so Kary pushed her down the stairs. Mom was dead ten days later. She never woke up.

    Wendy Herman
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG, that's HORRIBLE. I'm so very sorry for your tragic loss. May your poor Mom's soul rest in blessed Peace. You'll see her again, one day. Kary & Fred won't, not where they're headed. I hope they are both now serving prison terms. My beloved Grandmother was killed by my grandfather. So, I have an inkling of your pain, and send hugs of sympathy & condolence. 😢

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    notlikeyou1971
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe now that she is thrown out she can moonlight as a PI . Especially if you are smart enough to leave her sorry rear end

    Ace
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got lost somewhere with all the step-relatives, really couldn't work out who was related to whom. Sounds like the whole family, both sides of it, or all three, depending on how many steps there are, is completely off its head, with no-one coming out of it very well, so yeah, in the right parlance, ETA.

    Karen Bird
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh god! I want to send him running shoes so he can run as far and as fast as possible from his wife! I hope he knows that when the (inevitable) divorce happens his wife is going to stalk him for the rest of his life!!

    Pat Ferryman
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The pronouns are all messed up he and she referring to dad just make this too confusing to read

    Harry Tom
    Community Member
    3 months ago

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    HOW TO SPY ON YOUR SPOUSE'S WHATSAPP MESSAGES/ MOBILE PHONE: Through the proficient services provided by Sylvester G. Bryant, I found myself in a position to discreetly monitor the activities and communications of my spouse without raising any suspicion or alerting them to my actions. This capability was facilitated by the adeptness of Mr. Bryant in the realm of surveillance and information gathering. It allowed for a thorough observation of behavior while ensuring that no notifications or alerts would be triggered, thus maintaining a veil of secrecy. Such a method proves invaluable for those in similar situations who seek to uncover the truth without the risk of detection. For further inquiries or assistance in this regard, Sylvester G. Bryant can be contacted at the following email address: Yt7cracker@gmail. com, or through his Instagram handle: Yt7crackersz.

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