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Dad At Breaking Point After Wife Refuses To Let Him Near Their Baby For Months
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Dad At Breaking Point After Wife Refuses To Let Him Near Their Baby For Months

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Whether or not you’ve ever held a newborn baby in your arms, most of us know how fragile they are. They cannot hold their head up properly, so you have to make sure to support it. They also have a self-destruct button on the top of their heads, also known as a soft spot or fontanelle. In other words, one has to be extra careful when dealing with them. But can one not be too careful?

In the following story, the mother of a newborn girl is very protective of her child. Maybe a little too much so as it’s starting to worry her husband, who barely gets any one-on-one time with his daughter. Scroll down to read the story in full.

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    Unfortunately, in some cases, the worry might even overshadow the magic. This is exactly what happened in the following story

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    This level of anxiety seems unhealthy

    Just like many commentators pointed out, the author’s wife’s actions are not healthy. Her worry levels seem to be over the top, and many believe that she might be suffering from postpartum anxiety.

    Postpartum anxiety is a common issue that many new moms face. That is around 10–15% of them. The symptoms include:

    • Persistent sense of danger and racing thoughts
    • Excessive worry of the baby’s safety, health, and development
    • Trouble falling and staying asleep
    • Constant agitated feeling, jitters, or even panic attacks

    In the case of postpartum anxiety, the worry is usually unreasonable. Moms might feel like their child is not developing well, even though they are on track. They might be monitoring their baby’s heartbeat and breathing all the time because they are afraid of losing them. Every little cry induces fear as they believe the baby might be in pain.

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    The mother might need professional help to overcome her worries

    Postpartum anxiety is caused by a lot of factors that pile up on new mothers. That is stress, the lack of sleep, societal pressure, and relationship changes. This is all then emphasized by hormonal fluctuations that happen after birth. Managing it all can really be a lot.

    One thing is for sure—a little bit of professional help can go a long way here. So, contacting a physician might be the best course of action. They might recommend talk therapy and mindfulness exercises. If the situation is more severe, they might also suggest to take anti-anxiety medications that work for breastfeeding mothers.

    Either way, the couple has a lot to work through, but if they can be there for each other, things should work out.

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    People in the comments showed a lot of support for the author

    Some also advised on the next steps to take to remedy the situation

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    Agne Steponaityte

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    Agne Steponaityte

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    Agne Steponaityte is a writer at Bored Panda. After getting a BA Film Production degree in England, Agne moved around Europe living and writing in Lithuania, Belgium, and Portugal. Now, together with her partner and daughter, she is residing in Munich, Germany. Her favourite book is East of Eden, favourite movie – There Will Be Blood, favourite show – Succession.

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    Gabija Saveiskyte

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    Hi there! I am a Visual Editor at Bored Panda. My job is to ensure that all the articles are aesthetically pleasing. I get to work with a variety of topics ranging from all the relationship drama to lots and lots of memes and, my personal favorites, funny cute cats. When I am not perfecting the images, you can find me reading with a cup of matcha latte and a cat in my lap, taking photos (of my cat), getting lost in the forest, or simply cuddling with my cat... Did I mention that I love cats?

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    PattyK
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is apparently NOT a post-partum problem. The wife threatened to withhold the baby while she was still pregnant. And her obsession with hubby’s clumsiness is either due to meanness or mental illness. She needs psychiatric help ASAP. And hubby should also contact a lawyer to establish his parental rights.

    Zophra
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I thought the same thing. She sounded horrible even before the baby came.

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    Zedrapazia
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the wife refuses to fix her paranoia with a professional, this is a deal breaker, and it'll negatively affect the child too if she becomes a helicopter mom down the line.

    V
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am not worried about down the line, I would be worrying about pp psychosis which could lead to very serious immediate threat to mother and baby.

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    PattyK
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is apparently NOT a post-partum problem. The wife threatened to withhold the baby while she was still pregnant. And her obsession with hubby’s clumsiness is either due to meanness or mental illness. She needs psychiatric help ASAP. And hubby should also contact a lawyer to establish his parental rights.

    Zophra
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I thought the same thing. She sounded horrible even before the baby came.

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    Zedrapazia
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the wife refuses to fix her paranoia with a professional, this is a deal breaker, and it'll negatively affect the child too if she becomes a helicopter mom down the line.

    V
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am not worried about down the line, I would be worrying about pp psychosis which could lead to very serious immediate threat to mother and baby.

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