As an autistic person, I find this simultaneously helpful and infuriating. I can’t really assess tone of voice/facial expression, and it’s really annoying when people expect you to be able to do this naturally. But I do appreciate advice, and this is well meaning! Also, not gonna lie, this seems a lot like code switching/masking

I am naturally very good at this. I guess it's just part of my personality. I'm always shocked when people don't know how to read a room. I've realized that some people just aren't as strong in this department

This is something that hits home. I was raised 'The Asian Way' for lack of a better term... aka: 'You're not the center of the world, don't be so arrogant.' This has been a challenge for me my entire life, since, yes... all the advice I seemed to get from countless mentors/counselors/advisors was pretty much "Boast, lie, cheat, steal, talk about yourself some more" - which just sounded to me like "be the most awful, selfish jackhole you can be". What's worse is that many (who were NOT raised to 'give a f*** about others') mistake my consideration for them as a weakness, then choose to use and abuse... then get doubly offended when I (politely) won't capitulate to their unreasonable demands. The entire fact that being considerate of others is a concept that needs a post/term and is seen as a "oh wow... really" thing is a bit abhorrent.

I thought this was common sense and everyone did it. I'm from Finland, Europe btw

I will follow this otter to the end of time.

This is great, I will surely use this in the future

Very nicely stated.

This is a nightmare for any neurodivergent person. Also keep in mind this all nunchi or other word nonsense led to Asians having the highest suicide rates in the whole world. So, no, thank you.