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We live in a colorful world, no doubt about it. With so much information bombarding us every day, it’s easy to lose track of what’s really going on around us.

And by really, I mean that we often fail to pause and reflect on the dynamics of our modern society where people celebrate an inherently positive side of the world. But what if beneath its wholesome surface lies an underlying toxicity that feeds our delusions even further?

It sounds like one of those difficult thoughts that haunt us before falling asleep. But thanks to one Redditor who recently asked a seemingly basic question “What are 'wholesome' things that are actually toxic?” we now have some truly eye-opening answers. From family vlogging to animal rescue videos that are often totally fake, these are some examples to remind us to not take everything at face value.

#1

Not sure if it’s on here already, but I get super uncomfortable when a video of a classroom of kids giving the kid who “can’t afford new shoes” a brand new pair as a surprise. The entire culture of filming while doing kind things for people is so exploitive and gross and sad.

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#2

The expectation to keep your family members in your life no matter what they do. Some people have families that treat them like absolute [trash], and being related to them isn't a good reason to keep them around. It's ok to cut off toxic family members.

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#3

Body positivity like Dove's "Real Beauty" campaign. The idea that all women are beautiful sounds nice on the surface, but it's a gross message to send because beauty is still at the core of it. I don't want to be told that my body is beautiful too, I want to be told that I don't have to be beautiful, that my value is not tied to how much other people enjoy looking at me.

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HooowlAtTheMoon
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly, I don't care about whether I look 'beautiful' or not, I want it to be okay to not care if i look 'beautiful' or not

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#4

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic Beauty Pagents

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#5

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic “Look at this adorable 4-year-old using a walker! So inspirational!”

“Awww, this guy asked a deaf girl to prom!”

“Watch this group of guys playing tackle football with a guy with Down syndrome!!”

“Check out this amazing blind kid walking down a street! Next level, yo!”

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#6

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic Proposing in front of a crowd. Puts a lot of pressure on the person being proposed to.

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Ivo H
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, NEVER do that in public. Or (even worse) in front of family, or friends. The exception is, of course, if your spouse knows about it and agrees.

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#7

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic Corporations who spend $50 million on ads to tell you about the amazing $1 million they spent on a charity program.

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#8

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic Toxic positivity. Like when someone's having a really hard time and you tell them to stay positive or try to look at the bright side. [Screw] you Jenny, my grandma died.

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IzzieM
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, people should stop doing this. Being supportive does not equate being positive. There's a difference.

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#9

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic Instagram "influencers" promoting their "amazing" healthy lifestyles but in reality mostly staged/photoshopped and exacerbating mental illness, body issues, anxiety in young people.

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SoozeeQ
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"You can lead an Influencer to a dictionary, but you can't make them think". - James Weir

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#10

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic Touching women’s bellies when they’re pregnant. You don’t go around patting a penis to congratulate it on its successful ejaculation. Damn.

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#11

The pure existence of most modern dog breeds. Pugs, for example. We all think they’re super cute, but the truth is - they are extremely deformed and constantly suffering as a result of a century of inbreeding. A lot of people don’t know this, and it’s really sad. I’m not saying these dogs should be put down right now, just saying it would’ve been a better idea not to inbreed dogs for centuries.

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SoozeeQ
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, and they shouldn't be allowed to continue to breed. Same with those munchkin cats. Poor little things can't breathe.

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#12

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic Asking your child "Who's your boy/girlfriend?" any time they interact with someone of the opposite sex.

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Eva the Egg
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! I hate it when people assume there's something going on when you're just hanging out with your friends

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#13

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic Badgering people to have kids. No, I’m not going to magically change my mind when I meet the right girl.

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Having children was never on my agenda. It's great for people who want them. But, you really need to know yourself because it is a lifetime commitment, and you can't give them back. Besides, not everyone is fit to be a parent.

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#14

Dads trying to be weirdly aggressive/threatening to their daughter's bfs.

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Monday
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"LOL I met my daughter's new boyfriend at the door with my shotgun, isn't that hilarious!". No John, it's not funny and if you ever do that to my hypothetical son again I'm calling the cops.

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#15

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic Family vlogging

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#16

Punking people with practical jokes that are fake traumatic incidents. There is absolutely nothing funny about witnessing a fake death, mortal injury or abuse and then discovering it was all an elaborate joke. It’s traumatizing.

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denzoren
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Youtubers..."It's a prank bro" is basically the lowest type of human.

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#17

As a former homeless person, I can't put into words how annoying the people who film themselves handing out food for a viral video with some emotional pop song overlaid on it are. It's 100% "look at me, look how cool and HELPFUL I am" while honestly not giving a real damn about the homeless. It'd be one thing if you're putting your fame and money back into funding a shelter, or true change and volunteering and charity efforts but not just dropping $20 on some McDonalds meals to drive around LA filming strangers sleeping on the street for a bit.

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Sue Hazlewood
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have given food and money to people on the street but it never occurred to me to photograph it. So damn tacky and insulting to the person you are giving to.

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#18

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic Using your child for likes on social media, that's creepy I never understood why would any parent do that

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's amazing the things people do for 'likes' on social media. Some people have died, trying to get the right photograph.

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#19

Abstinence and purity promise culture. Really [screws] people up for a long time when you teach them that:

A.) sex is dirty, bad and evil

B.) their worth as a person is tied to that purity

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#20

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic Asking babies to hug and kiss people

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#22

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic School fundraisers.

If the government can't give schools enough funds, then everything is wrong.

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#23

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic Repeatedly professing your love for someone after they tell you that they aren't interested.

The idea that you can "make" someone love you back if you just keep trying is rooted in toxicity, but romanticized in countless films and TV shows.

Clarpydarpy , Tyler Nix Report

#24

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic Teachers giving up their Sick Days for some other teacher can have days off for Cancer Treatments.

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sick days should be given freely to those who need them. There is no reason why cancer treatments should not qualify.

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#25

"If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best." In theory, I'm supposed to be a statement of unconditional love, but in reality it's just inviting toxic behavior with no way out

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#26

The idea that feeling anger makes you a bad person, or that you are obligated to forgive absolutely everyone who has hurt you.

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King Joffrey
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Feeling anger doesn't make you a bad person, displaying anger to people who haven't caused it does.

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#27

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic Any viral story about some kid selling [stuff] to pay for a relatives healthcare.

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#28

Dolphins at SeaWorld and other family centers. They are generally all in a state of extreme mental health stress and have to be given drugs to keep them calm. In addition, the profits from capturing the best looking dolphins and selling them to these places fuel an annual dolphin hunt in Japan where the vast majority are sold for animal meat. It is a brutal practice where an extremely intelligent and sentient animal group is killed without painkillers in a slaughter.

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This practice is awful, and I do not frequent these types of venues. Dolphins are not here to entertain us or provide us with food, particularly in such a brutal manner. I wish people could just simply appreciate them.

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#29

Receiving recognition for perfect attendance. My ass that you never got sick.

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#30

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic Supporting someone no matter what choices they make. You can love someone to the ends of the earth, that doesn’t mean they will 100% be right all of the time, no matter how much you love or admire them.

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I absolutely support my best friend. But, I will tell her if something is stupid.

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#31

When people who are super spiritual and love love love all the time judge and ridicule you for not being in a good mood or for needing space. “You’re ruining the vibe” “this isn’t a hostile environment”- gaslighting is wrong and these people do it ALL THE TIME! I call them “the love police”.

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#32

Any kind of 'tough love'. "Other people have it worse" or "Kids should get bullied to toughen up" (Yes someone actually said this to me).

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom was very big on tough love. She would try to nag me into submission. All it did was build up my resentment toward her. Yes, there was backtalk from my part, which infuriated her even more. I laugh about it now, but trust me, I was a frustrated teenager and young adult.

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#33

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic All those fake animal rescue videos on YouTube.

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AJ
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can't help thinking that when there's a demand for resque pets, doesn't that create supply of resque pets.

Deborah B
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's already an existing supply of rescue pets...they're just being euthanised due to lack of demand.

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Scagsy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I saw one about a guy and kitten and he just kept abusing it, throwing it in a lake etc. just for likes on his social media page. People like that should be shot.

TheAnimalLady
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really hope you reported that. They need to be prosecuted and censored. It's not Freedom of Speech, it's glorifying abuse and perpetuating torture.🙀😿😾

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Hermitbunny
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So some of the ways you can tell a rescue video is fake; 1) eye catching picture of the animal, usually looking very sad or hurt, almost always a baby 2) clickbaity title "newborn puppy trapped in fishing line!", "kitten rescued just in time!" 3) the animal itself appears in multiple rescue videos, or it looks different in different parts of the video, different markings, etc. 4) the animal is trapped in a way that is highly unlikely, like not just trapped, but so trapped it's hard to understand the more you think about it 5) the rescuer just so happens along in the nick of time, while filming 6) wounds that don't match up or make sense in context of the video, example- puppy has been 'attacked by another dog', but has cuts instead of bite marks or scratches, and finally 7) the channel has multiple rescue videos that follow the same format. Hope this helps✌

Shieshie Sweetie Kiss
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People who made those fake animal rescue videos are the worst kind of people

Petra Schaap
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i know this "fake rescue video!" thing has been around for a while. How do you know its fake? Or is it just a thing that started living its own live? "another of those fake video's" ?? just wondering....

brokenapollo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know how to tell but I do remember this one guy who kept "rescuing" the same puppies over and over who looked worse and worse each time until they died. It does happen, unfortunately. :/

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cah
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah why are they filming all that instead of immediately helping the poor animals.

Adrián Kovács
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I tell you why. I'm working in animal welfare for 5 years now. Helping the animals in need is the utmost priority, but people on social media gives the funds for it. Otherwise we could close and those yearly 500-800 animals we take in, wouldn't get help.

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Freya the Wanderer
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The best cat I ever had for a companion came right off the street. I didn't have to do a video about rescuing Ragamuffin and her unborn kittens for bragging rights.

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Hermien Greeff
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do not have a problem with kill shelters. I think it is more humane to put an animal gently to sleep than to keep them in a shelter for years hoping they get adopted. For every happy adoption story, there are more unhappy stories where the animal gets put to sleep after years in a shelter. We could have spared them that.

TheAnimalLady
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Problem is that we don't know if someone is going to show up tomorrow to adopt the pet put down today. And in good shelters, they're treated better than in some purported "good homes". It's "apples and oranges" to a dog or cat, where they are. There are reasons for euthanasia, but not just because no one's picked them yet.

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Robert Thompson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Having a pet is like having a child, it is a personal choice. Not something to present for the world to judge.

Carolina Fernández González
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

PEOPLE DO THAT???!?!?!?!??!?!?! Who???????? I feel so betrayed!!! How the hell we can boicot those awful human beings!!!!

Piper McLean
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They don’t actually care about them if they are gonna stop to video it

TheAnimalLady
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

IF it's a reputable rescue, THEN sometimes they video for their website to teach people and to help raise funds to continue operations. It's crazy expensive and they need donations to be able to keep helping animals. But I get what you mean, after decades of Animal Rescue Work, I have never once remembered to tape until AFTER we're done. I'm too worried about the critter in peril. No great videos on my pages. 🙀💔😿

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Carol Emory
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Half the time I wonder..."Did you just take some little old ladies dog that maybe got out of the yard a week ago?"

Lynne Harbison
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The worst one was a guy "rescuing" kittens, and the mother being bitten and killed by a snake....closeup in camera. All staged and the cats placed near a snake den. The guy just happened to be walking through a field, carrying a pet carry cage and a spade! Disgusting.

Maggie Dinzler Shaw
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I also wonder what happens to those animals in the pet stores that we are not to buy.

Cora Reprogle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It literally makes me cry when I think about it. I watched a video that was very graphic, a kitten nearly left for dead, flies all over it, and then "suddenly" rescue it. I hope God has mercy upon you.

KamiKhan
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reading through all these I just can't wrap my head around how many HORRIBLE things the society is camouflaging to be normal or even worse, wholesome! All these should be common sense and people shouldn't have to point them out! How hard can it be to just have a little empathy...

Among Us
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I watch people who actually save stray animals or birds (go watch people like A Chick Called Albert, that dude is a literal legend) and they have actual footage. I think people like him deserve more views than some fake clickbaiter. The YT Algorithm is... stupid.

Shadow4523
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

yup, those are rlly bad, what makes me wonder is how many likes he got off that video

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kath morgan
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There seems to be a spate at the moment of people buying exotic pets from dodgy dealers and calling it a "rescue". Sometimes they get inspirational posts on BP...

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is so awful. It is like,you actually feel the need to get invisible fame points, or points from the Good Place.. <3 But really you didn't do anything. Your motivations would be corrupt.

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#34

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic Teachers working overtime/sacrificing for their students/fundraising for anything/etc. Most news articles that hit national headlines about teachers are toxic af.

"student raises money for his former teacher found living in a car"

"principal works 2nd job to help homeless students have clean clothes and food"

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is just so sad. The education system should be properly funded by government, so there are less stories like these.

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#35

Spending so much time on social media to show everyone else how wholesome your life is.

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#36

Spouses being their partners EVERYTHING. it's okay to have other friends, actually it's even healthy to have a robust social life in which you get different things out of your relationships with different people

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AJ
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Damn covid19 my partner has become about the only person I've seen in a year! Though we've agreed be both need a lot alone time now when neither of us barely have other relationships.

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#37

Baby onesies that say stuff. Some are innocent...a lot are not. I'm a first time mom to a 6mo son. My child is not here to make grandma feel like a "mother without rules". And keep that "chick magnet" [nonsense] outta my face.

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#38

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic "We're all just one big family!"

If anyone tells you this in a workplace setting, run. They're only like a family in the sense of the most toxic parts of one that exploit you.

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#39

People Expose 40 Things That Pretend To Be Wholesome Yet Are Actually Toxic Youtube kids channels. The ones aimed at older audiences are literally better for a child than the kids ones.

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#40

News stories like "CEO sees employee dumpster diving for food and buys them a headlamp"

or

"Kid works manual labor to pay off school lunch debt for entire class"

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WilvanderHeijden
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But they were actual headlines and they do reflect how twisted the US society has become. It's amusing for outsiders, it's very sad for people living in the US.

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