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Lady’s Try To Participate In Gift Exchange Way Under Spending Criteria Backfires As She’s Exposed

Lady’s Try To Participate In Gift Exchange Way Under Spending Criteria Backfires As She’s Exposed

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Imagine that you have the opportunity to do something unethical or even reprehensible – but at the same time get a significant profit, and with a low probability of being caught red-handed. Would you take this risk? Of course not – and this is commendable, but as it turns out, people often do exactly this!

Moreover, it also happens that people significantly underestimate the risk of being caught – and as a result, everything turns into a huge scandal. As it happened, for example, in the story described not long ago by the user u/Fit_Caregiver_1277: the story that we’re going to tell you today.

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    The author of the post is a member of a local club which recently arranged a white elephant gift exchange

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    There were two price tiers of gifts and only 9 club members, among which was the author, decided to participate in the most expensive one

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    Image credits: Fit_Caregiver_1277

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    Another woman in the club, named Jen, also joined the expensive tier, and the author picked her gift

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    Image credits: Fit_Caregiver_1277

    Image credits: karlyukav / Freepik (not the actual photo)

    It turned out to be a cheap hot chocolate set – and Jen ended up getting a brand new Keurig

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    The author of the post complained to the club chairperson, and Jen then texted them with accusations of tattling

    The Original Poster (OP) says that they are members of a local club, and recently the participants held a large-scale white-elephant gift exchange. Participation, it must be said, was completely non-mandatory and it was possible to apply for two price tiers of gifts – under $25 – $50 and $75 – $100. Most folks, as the author recalls, went with the less expensive tier, but the OP was among the nine who chose more expensive gifts.

    Among those people was a woman named “Jen,” who, despite, as far as the author knows, not being in the best financial situation, showed up with a large, beautifully wrapped gift – and it was this gift that the OP chose. And now imagine their surprise when it turned out to be just a hot chocolate set, clearly not in line with the price range!

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    The author didn’t start a public scandal, but simply, seizing the moment, cornered the club chairperson and complained about Jen, who apparently just wanted to exchange a cheap gift for something way more expensive – she ended up getting a new Keurig. Which, de facto, is a kind of a swindle. The leader agreed with this – but nothing else worth mentioning happened until the very end of the event.

    And then Jen texted the author and attacked them for complaining to the group leader. According to Jen, just because she can’t afford to “waste money” like other club members doesn’t mean she can’t expect expensive gifts. The OP simply forwarded this text to the group leader – and soon there was an announcement that Jen had been expelled from the club. But the OP is now tormented by remorse…

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    “Rules are rules – and no matter how you disguise it as a desire for social justice, they cannot be broken,” states Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment here. “Apparently, this woman simply hoped that other people either wouldn’t notice this cheap trick, or wouldn’t find it necessary to be indignant.”

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    “And when it turned out that she was trying to swindle, instead of admitting her fault, she just chose to go dramatic. Most likely, again expecting that the club management would simply prefer to hush up the conflict. The wrong choice – but many people often do exactly the same things in such situations,” Irina summarizes.

    By the way, it’s interesting that the original poster writes in the update that it later turned out that many members of the club actually complained about Jen. Apparently the woman sent angry texts not only to the original poster, but also to many people, and the reason for her exclusion from the club was, in fact, other members’ numerous requests. So the author’s conscience remains clear.

    People in the comments also noted that it was Jen who was completely wrong in the described situation, and that if she wanted to receive an expensive gift, she should have forked out for something more expensive herself. “She’s unethical. She deserves to be booted from the group,” one of the responders reasonably wrote. And do you, our dear readers, also agree with this interpretation of the case?

    Most commenters, however, sided with the author, and claimed that Jen was wrong for joining the wrong tier and also getting dramatic after being caught

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    Do you think Jen was justified in participating in the expensive tier despite her financial situation?

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    No, she should have adhered to the price tier she could afford

    It depends on the intention behind her actions

    I don't have enough information to decide

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    Monika Pašukonytė

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    I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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    greenideas
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    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't see the fun in a white elephant gift exchange. I mean, maybe I like my gift and someone takes it away from me? Does that sound like "fun"? Similarly, I would never want to take someone else's gift, because a) maybe they like it and b) it would imply I don't like my gift, which is rude.

    Squirrelly Panda
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Done correctly, a white elephant gift exchange is alot of fun. A lot of laughter, alot of jokes, etc. In my opinion it is best when low budget. People tend to take things more seriously when more money is involved.

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    lenka
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    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with the last comment. The whole purpose of a white elephant gift exchange is to have fun. It should have been kept low budget and achievable for everyone in one single group. The organisation of first class and budget gifts defeats the purpose of the game entirely and divides the group by haves and have nots.

    Jo Firth
    Community Member
    11 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Doesn't sound like a club I'd like to have membership to.

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    greenideas
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't see the fun in a white elephant gift exchange. I mean, maybe I like my gift and someone takes it away from me? Does that sound like "fun"? Similarly, I would never want to take someone else's gift, because a) maybe they like it and b) it would imply I don't like my gift, which is rude.

    Squirrelly Panda
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Done correctly, a white elephant gift exchange is alot of fun. A lot of laughter, alot of jokes, etc. In my opinion it is best when low budget. People tend to take things more seriously when more money is involved.

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    lenka
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with the last comment. The whole purpose of a white elephant gift exchange is to have fun. It should have been kept low budget and achievable for everyone in one single group. The organisation of first class and budget gifts defeats the purpose of the game entirely and divides the group by haves and have nots.

    Jo Firth
    Community Member
    11 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Doesn't sound like a club I'd like to have membership to.

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