I'm 37 now and still working hard on that, and STILL not understanding why people get triggered by something I say instead of asking if they understood well what I wanted to say and ask me to try to rephrase it/simplify... 🙄 For this reason I'm a black sheep even in my own family 😓 I used to not understand the difference in saying what you want and call it "blunt truth" (it's not) vs. saying what you want in a way that won't hurt people (and still tell the truth). Even that still didn't change the triggering in some people, after which point it really stops being my fault. Some people are hurting at some times and they are most irritable during those; some people choose to get offended (aka "thin skins") no matter what. I personally put political correctness under the latter (calling black people "African Americans" - even if many of them have never seen Africa - or won't erase the centuries of suffering white people forced them to; it only makes white people feeling better about themselves 🙄... and this is just one example).