The world needs to look through your glasses more often. Thank you for promoting empathy.

It's not about her though. That's what you're failing to understand. His disability, his pain, his suffering, isn't about HER. Her feelings, her comfort or lack thereof do not matter. My dad was paralyzed from the chest down since he was 20 years old. Life was different. But when you are embarrassed, or uncomfortable because of something that someone else is FORCED TO ENDURE FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIFE. Yes, you are a POS. That you're rationalizing on behalf of her, doesn't make you a good person, it makes you one who's defending a selfish, self centered child. Shame on both of you.

She struggling it sounds like more than the disable person. Which is catching me off guard. She didn't say that her dad would be uncomfortable or in pain she said she would be. And that doesn't sound like a good daughter. Especially since she stopped going around him long before this. I think op ex knew what he was in for and left it be. Wouldn't surprise me if he wrote a post and the answer was leave her.

Thank you. I was trying to find the words for why this made me so sad instead of angry. You said it perfectly. I hope she gets help dealing with this change and is able to heal some of the hurt she's caused her dad.

She got enough bullying that Reddit locked the original post, so she's definitely received some possibly unfair hatred. On the other hand, her account has also been suspended, so she's still got (or had at the time of the post) some learning and/or healing to do.

Thought exactly that. She should have talked to her dad before asking on line. Silly girl.

Beautifully put, Busy

Doesn't sound at all like she's struggling, more like she's ashamed of him. Struggling would insinuate that she wanted him involved and tried, what she said was to not have him involved at all.

I agree with you. There is something messed up, but I wouldn't call her an a-. It would be really hard to see your dad like that. If I were in the situation, I would have my dad still "walk me," but it would also be really hard to go through @.@ I would say there is no completely happy decision, just a bittersweet one. :)

I agree. I'm not mad at her I just hope she comes to terms with what happened since she clearly loves her dad even if imo she kinda sucks at showing it.

I agree. And I get that being around a sick or seriously injured loved one is also hard on us. My dad almost died and going to see him in the hospital made me so sad and it was hard to see him so weak. I was scared that he wasn't going to come out. I get that it's uncomfortable because you lack the words to comfort someone else. I was uncomfortable ecause I didn't want to make it about me and I wanted to be strong for my parents but it was hard. This woman is uncomfortable because of the wrong reasons I feel. She maybe struggling with the changes but she is punishing her father for something when she should be celebrating his life. She cares more about the image than about him being there with her.

I totally agree. My dad passed away when I was eight and I would've given anything for him to walk me down the aisle at my wedding. Its incredibly selfish and just bizarre that she didn't want him to walk her down the aisle because he's in a wheelchair. Its even worse that she avoids him because he's in pain and in a wheelchair. I get not wanting to see a loved one in pain but you suck it up and spend as much time with that person as possible. They almost died and anyone could go at any time. Cherish your loved ones instead of being a selfish narcissist.

I agree. My grandpa was paralyzed on his right side and my mom literally moved back in to help take care of him. When he was at the nursing home, she was there 5 days a week (my grandma made her take 2 days off as date days with my dad). My mom had him walk her down the aisle, and they even danced at her wedding. She just danced around him like he was a may flower pole.

Definitely, mine died when I was 16. There's been so many times I've wanted to talk to him, to share things and I can't. Hugs to you x

I'm watching my mom "age out" so to speak. She's 94 & needs constant care. So between a couple of home health workers, my 4 brothers, a couple my brothers' wives, my hubby & I, we do just fine. We'd never put The Mom in a home. She's lived on the family ranch her & Daddy built over 70 years ago. Yeah, it gets uncomfortable at times, mostly I fear her falling or passing. But she cared for me & the rest of us in our times of need. It is an honor to be there for her now. I'll be devastated when she joins Daddy, but I will cherish these days.

You FEEL your experiences, AND those of others around you. FAR BEYOND the agenda of BRIDEZILLA!!!