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Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

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Each time the victim of sexual violence gets asked what they were wearing, it heartlessly implies that he or she was responsible for the assault and could have prevented it. Rape victim blaming drives responsibility away from a perpetrator and puts it on the victim’s shoulders. To fight against the myth that sexual assault could be prevented by the victim alone, an art exhibition displaying what victims wore during the assault was created.

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Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

The idea to create such exhibition was born after Dr. Wyandt-Hiebert and Ms. Brockman, sexual violence and domestic violence survivor advocates, attended a conference and read a poem “What I Was Wearing” by Dr. Mary Simmerling’s, for the first time. They were touched by it and decided to create the poem’s visual representation. The advocates came up with survivors art installation called “What Were You Wearing?”. The first installation was held at the University of Arkansas in 2014. Students of the university participated by sharing brief descriptions of what they were wearing when they were sexually assaulted. The intent of the installation was to show people that changing one’s clothes will not stop sexual abuse.

Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

The idea of this installation caught on. Since it was first displayed 5 years ago, “What were you wearing” traveled from one university campus to another. It has also inspired other similar installations and prompted a conversation about the problem of victim-blaming. Scroll below to see some of the exhibits from this stark social issue installation.

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“What Were You Wearing? is an installation created to educate people that clothing doesn’t cause sexual assault

Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

“A sundress. Months later, my mother would stand in front of my closet and complain about how I never wore any of my dresses anymore. I was six years old.”

Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

“Army ACU’s and I was carrying a gun. So much for that preventing anything”

Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

“Khakis and a dress shirt. I had to give a presentation that day in my communications class. They took my clothes at the hospital during my rape exam. I’m not sure what happened to them.”

Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

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“A swimsuit. We had been canoeing at the river all day. It had been a really fun time. Then they came into my tent when I was trying to change clothes.”

Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

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“My favorite yellow shirt, but I don’t remember what pants I was wearing. I remember being so confused and just wanting to leave my brother’s room and go back to watching my cartoons.”

Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

“T-shirt and jeans. It happened three times, by three different people in my life. Each time I was wearing a t-shirt and jeans.”

Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

“I missed a couple of days of work after it happened. When I told my boss, she asked me this question. I said, ‘A t-shirt and jeans, what do you wear to a basketball game?’ I walked out and never came back.”

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Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

“(1) Jeans and a t-shirt at 18-years old. (2) Children’s dress by my cousin’s father at 5 years old. (3) Dress – I thought I was safe with a woman but woke up to her raping me, too.”

Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

“A university t-shirt and cargos. It’s funny; no one has ever asked me that before. They ask if me being raped means I’m gay or if I fought back or how I could ‘let this happen to me,’ but never about my clothes.”

Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

“I was wearing khaki shorts and a cotton tank top. He convinced me to come back to his house with him after a lame date. I was told by a friend to keep the clothes. I was wearing in case I decided to report it. They are still in a bag hidden in my closet.”

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Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

“The first time I was wearing jeans and a blue t-shirt. The next time, years later, I was wearing jeans and a blue t-shirt. I wear blue sometimes when I kickbox or when I need to be assertive. Even today I am wearing blue because they don’t get to take my voice, my favorite color, or my ability to say no and mean it. These are mine.”

Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

“I was wearing jean shorts and a tank top. He wouldn’t let me out of his car until he finished. As soon as I got home, I threw that shirt in the trash.”

Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

“My prom dress. Don’t know if that needs much more explanation…”

Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

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“White t-shirt and black basketball shorts. It was always the same outfit. It was always after rec center league. I trusted him. My mom trusted him.”

Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

“Jean shirt, jeans, and Toms. Everyone seems so confused when I tell them this. Like they can’t understand what I am saying. They can’t understand what I was wearing. It’s almost funny. Almost.”

Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

“I was wearing a sari. The same thing I wear most days. It was what I was comfortable in. It reminded me of home, of my family, of my identity. Now it reminds me of him.”

Victims Who Were Told That Their Clothing Got Them Sexually Assaulted Display What They Were Wearing

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Corey Smith 5 years ago

The six-year-old in a sun dress made me ill.

232points

Sansa Blacktyde 5 years ago

Yeah, I know what you mean :( And the five year old as well.

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Lisa Casserly 5 years ago

I was six, too. It happened SO OFTEN by that "trusted" neighbor, that I don't even REMEMBER the clothing. I just remember my father's face, when I told him. When he punched me for "lying" and "trying to ruin that man's reputation". I could never understand that part. That response. I was just a CHILD. And, then years later, found out that he had been "inappropriately touching" his nieces and sister. I guess that explains everything.

67points

R.s. Potter 5 years ago

Who the fork asks a LITTLE GIRL what she was wearing when she was raped? As if a six year old was some kind of temptress?!

36points

Clockwork 5 years ago

Why the actual f**k would some a*****e rape a six year old?! This is why I have lost faith in humanity. Also, why would anyone ask a rape victim what they were wearing at the time, why do people try and shift the blame on the victim?! What has happened to the world?

23points

Amber Jouer 5 years ago

They all made me ill, but that one especially :(

19points

Ozacoter 5 years ago

Yes,I feel really sick now :(

15points

KT Trondsen 5 years ago

same,. i feel so horrid inside after seeing i am fighting back tears. I think of my beautiful little girl, I would kill the person that even thought about touching my daughter like that!

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Grace Barclay 5 years ago

She is also the reason why so many children do not tell of the abuse. I was 44 when I finally told.

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L.E.N 5 years ago

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Char Char 5 years ago

This is really deep and heartbreaking. What an asinine question to ask someone after going through a nightmare.

162points

Char Char 5 years ago

Clarification - I didn't mean the exhibit! I mean real people who ask the victims this question.

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Ross Keim 5 years ago (edited)

well in a psychological way I know some serial killers picked out victims by clothing..... maybe some serial rapists do as well, it's a valid question to know in a detectives perspective to be able to link rapist, plus the police will ask or atleast better anyway, so they get the clothes and test them but I'm also a cop so I kinda look at this from a different perspective, I'd never ask as in a way to shame or lay blame

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Nami Tantrum 5 years ago

or he ... i think it can be therapeutic in some way.. showing them that it wasn't their fault is important.. you're not wrong though.. you don't just ask them.. it has to be in a safe setting because it can trigger too much

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Whatevers not taken 5 years ago

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Joanne 5 years ago

You should never, ever ask a sexual abuse victim what they were wearing. It is extremely hurtful and it's not relevant: even if someone was wearing a supersexy dress or bikini or whatever, she still has the right to choose whether she does or doesn't want to have sex.

126points

Ozacoter 5 years ago

That is the whole point of the exibition. To show that which clothes you wore have nothing to do with the experience.To shift blame from victims to rapists

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Lisa Casserly 5 years ago

But that's been the response for hundreds of years. That somehow, its all the woman's fault for what has happened, that its what she was wearing, or where she was or what she was doing or saying... that its NOT the rapist's "fault", he was led astray. The exhibit is trying to point that out. That its WRONG. And it is. I was a six year old CHILD when it started. I had NO IDEA what sex was or anything.

22points

Rose Brien Harrington 5 years ago

You're right, it implies blame, collusion, false allegation etc. A victim's clothing should never be taken into consideration. The only thing what causes any rape is the rapist.

20points

Nami Tantrum 5 years ago

or he ... i think it can be therapeutic in some way.. showing them that it wasn't their fault is important.. you're not wrong though.. you don't just ask them.. it has to be in a safe setting because it can trigger too much

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Nostalgic Hyena 5 years ago

Exactly. Even if the person was going around naked, it still doesn't mean they were "asking for it", and it's certainly not consent to sex.

1point

Momo Skarsgård 5 years ago

It wouldn't hurt me or make me feel any negative way if that question was asked. Also it's just to show that you don't have to be wearing anything provocative or sexy to get raped.

1point

Ross Keim 5 years ago

well in a psychological way I know some serial killers picked out victims by clothing..... maybe some serial rapists do as well, it's a valid question to know in a detectives perspective to be able to link rapist, plus the police will ask or atleast better anyway, so they get the clothes and test them but I'm also a cop so I kinda look at this from a different perspective, I'd never ask as in a way to shame or lay blame

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Chris A 5 years ago

Your right, cops should never ask that because they don't really need the clothes to process for pesky things like evidence. And NO WAY they should EVER ask that in court to show that the clothing was worn at the time to be admitted into evidence for prosecution.....

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Bron 5 years ago (edited)

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Paul Dixon 5 years ago

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Hilliary Smith 5 years ago

Notice the university T-shirt and cargoes one? I think that's a man, and his point is that men don't get asked this particular question, and that fact lays bare how illogical and stupid the question is. His words are important and wise, I think. Of course, the other things he DID get asked are equally problematic.

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lakitha tolbert 5 years ago

This is true. It seems people will find all kinds of ways to blame the victim rather than the rapist. I think they do this as a way of telling themselves it could never happen to them, because they would have been dressed correctly, but of course, that’s an equally ridiculous idea, too. There’s no dress code for rape.

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Alia G. 5 years ago

I was wearing a hoodie and leggings. My mother was wearing a T-shirt and jeans. My best friends was wearing a Halloween costume that covered her almost from neck to toe. It's not about the clothes. Let's just pretend that all the victims were actually wearing revealing clothes. Even then it wouldn't make it acceptable.

68points

Markéta Podlešáková 5 years ago

I'm so sorry alia. That's making me feel sad, that there is somewhere, where this can happen, so often... To too many women...

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Han 5 years ago

I was naked from the waist down, wearing a green woolen jumper on top. I also had a white sheet across my bent legs. My Doctor, doing an 'exam' didn't ask for consent for all the different 'tests' he did.

11points

L.E.N 5 years ago

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Varanus Ex 5 years ago

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Bob Beltcher 5 years ago

Thanks for including boys and men. This is not just a girl/woman problem. This is a problem that knows no age, race, or gender.

41points

Ashley Say Wha?!?lol 5 years ago

So so true Bob. I know several men who have gone through this also. One man I know went through this by two different people. One was from his female babysitter when he was a little boy and the other was once from a gay man when he was an adult. So, I agree with you.

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Blathnaid O'Loughlin 5 years ago

Varanus... rape is never the victims fault. Stop victim blaming, you racist, pathetic troll. Also, NEVER tell someone to kill themselves. It’s a sad person who victim blames six and seven year olds.

13points

Si 5 years ago

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NoName 5 years ago

Keep your filthy, selfish hands to your damn self. Plain and simple. To blame clothes is to avoid responsibly. We wonder why we live in a massive rape culture...

34points

Lisa Jamison-Bray 5 years ago

So true

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NoName 5 years ago

And, L.E.N.? You scared, little, ignorant individual... you are what fuels this rape culture. Get your head out of your a*s and form your own opinions. You just sound like a brainwashed puppet. Also, on behalf of myself and every other person that wasn't believed, f**k you straight to hell and back <3

5points

Whatevers not taken 5 years ago

Whoa Whoa. First of all, we don't live in a rape culture. That would be to say that rape is accepted everywhere. Some people in America speak Spanish, doesn't mean we live in a Spanish culture. Just like SOME people read Harry Potter, we don't live in a Harry Potter culture. Why don't you use that thing in your head and look up what culture means. Its dumb a*s feminist like you that spread this s**t and people actually believe it. Think before you speak next time. That's all i ask.

1point

NoName 5 years ago

Proving my point exactly. If you're trying to justify a single ounce of this rape culture, then you're the problem. Perhaps you have to register every time you move and have to avoid places. Wanna get heated about something? Get f*****g livid over the fact that there is a massive crowd of brainwashed fools, such as yourselves, that are too ignorant to see that people will blame anything but the real problem. People can't keep their filthy, selfish hands to themselves. Until then, get your ignorant a*s out of the way so we can progress as an equal society.

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Full Name 5 years ago (edited)

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Rose Brien Harrington 5 years ago

It's the whole culture of victim blaming, especially when the victim is a woman and the attacker is a man, although there are plenty of female attackers and male victims out there too. There was a post which came out some time back which got to me " 'Was it my fault?' asked the mini skirt. 'No' said the burka, 'it happened to me too.' The diaper in the corner couldn't even speak."

33points

Monika Soffronow 5 years ago

" 'Was it my fault?' asked the mini skirt. 'No' said the burka, 'it happened to me too.' The diaper in the corner couldn't even speak."

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Nia Loves Art 5 years ago

Victim blaming is just as real for men who are raped by women. It’s a different flavor though. Less “what were you wearing” and more “real men always want it”.

10points

Varanus Ex 5 years ago

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ember avery 5 years ago (edited)

the five year old and the six year old......... don't understand how people could be so cold-hearted and selfish

30points

Malakai 5 years ago

Clothing didn't get these people sexually assaulted. Sexual assaulters got these people sexually assaulted.

28points

Varanus Ex 5 years ago

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Eagle Girl 5 years ago

I was attacked. By a friends roommate, I fought, Hard & got away. Called my dad to pick me up bc I was 18 with no car. I'll never forget my father, my hero, looking at me & saying "Well, look at what you're wearing." It was summer, my friend & I were going to the beach. It was a swimsuit & shorts.

23points

Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

First of all I’m glad you were able to get away. Second of all, do you feel like your fathers response was worse than the attack? It seems so hurtful and scary that the man who is supposed to protect you and teach you would blame you. It makes me so sad. How are things between you and him now?

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Bethanie Marshall 5 years ago

I was wearing jeans and a tank top. I don't know whatever happened to them. I was told I had it coming and I wasn't a good Christian. I no longer believe

23points

Reginald Joseph 5 years ago

You did nothing wrong. The people who said that are sick and ignorant. I'm so sorry. None of those things should have happened to you.

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Eagle Girl 5 years ago

Oh Bethanie, I know how you feel. It took me a long time to separate God, religion & the wolves in sheep's clothing. Just please know, you are not alone & safe.

11points

Daria B 5 years ago

Those people who told you that have god facepalming at them. They forget nuns are targets for rapists too, and no, that doesn't make it any different. Nobody should have to live in constant anxiety and excessive self-awareness just because you never know the fetishes of some random pervert around the corner. Regardless of religion.

11points

K 5 years ago

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Katinka Min 5 years ago

I don't understand why not more men rage against this 'What was she wearing'. because what this essentially claims is, that all men are rapists, have as little control as an animal and they can only excert control over their sexual instinct if the woman is properly covered.

23points

Si 5 years ago

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Joi Behrend 5 years ago

Yes, there needs to be a wide-sweeping cultural change because it's still perpetuated in things like mandatory dress codes in schools, where girls/women are told to keep everything covered. It's easier to subjugate girls/women than to control men. Weird fact I learned today: tablecloths were invented to cover the legs of tables because they used to turn men on. Table legs! Historically, humans have "covered up" the "problem" of what caused men to be unable to control their urges rather than do anything to teach them self-control and respect for others. It's sad that this is still going on in the 21st century.

1point

Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

Animals have fucktons of control.

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Varanus Ex 5 years ago

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Christina Sersif 5 years ago

Why does it f*****g matter what she wears? Even if she’s walking around butt naked it’s not an invitation to rape her. Even if she is clearly flirty and maybe even looking for a casual fling, it doesn’t mean rape her. Stop shaming women and teach men self control.

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Si 5 years ago

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Wil Vanderheijden 5 years ago

As recently as November 2018 a FEMALE defense attorney defended a 23 years old rapist: Defense attorney Elizabeth O’Connell highlighted the fact that the 17-year-old victim was wearing thong underwear the night she alleged she was assaulted. "Does the evidence out-rule the possibility that she was attracted to the defendant and was open to meeting someone and being with someone? You have to look at the way she was dressed,” O’Connell said. “She was wearing a thong with a lace front.” As long as these arguments are honoured in a court of law, there's a very long way to go to achieve a civilisation where there's no excuse for rape.

21points

hobbitly 5 years ago

Very sad to read those stories. Hope the people are okay.

21points

Mary Rose Kent 5 years ago

As someone who was raped as a child and is now a senior citizen, I can tell you they’re marginally better than those who ended up killing themselves, but they’re not okay. You learn to live with it, but the guilt and shame don’t wash off.

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Ula 5 years ago

Heartbreaking.

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L.E.N 5 years ago

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HOUSE 5 years ago

I really think if people belive the victim is responsible then you must be rape sympathisers. You can't blame clothing on a crime.

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Full Name 5 years ago

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Rainbow_Gal05 5 years ago

I am really upset now, I feel for these HUMAN BEINGS. There are some sick people out there. I just hope that I'm a good enough human for someone to tell me if that happens to them because I will do everything and anything to get justice.

19points

Callie Ge 5 years ago (edited)

I was wearing my work clothes, I worked in a take away cafe, a loose uniform shift dress, a filthy apron covered in grease & flour, sneakers & socks, a hairnet with a white paper cap. I stank of fried food, cooking oil, meat, I was 15 when I was raped. I was wearing a long red skirt & a white jumper when I was assaulted but not raped by a neighbour at a neighbourhood Christmas party, I was 12. I was sexually assaulted by my boyfriends brother at a family celebration. I was wearing a simple modest black cocktail dress. He burst through the locked bathroom door while I was on the toilet, he started tearing my clothes, dragging me onto the floor, he was very big he tried to gag me I bit him I screamed & kicked, all I could think was, oh god I'm going to be raped in a puddle of my own urine, Someone had heard my screams over the music . What were you wearing dates from an awful time when it was assumed the Victim "asked for it" because they were dressed provocatively.

16points

KarmaQueen 5 years ago

what a powerful exhibit. I have chills up and down me and shocked to see more than one outfit sometimes per person.

16points

Mary Rose Kent 5 years ago

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Gavin Johnson 5 years ago

And yet in Ireland a victim can be blamed for her rape because of what she wore and the accused gets found innocent. Her underwear was used as an example to shame her and put the blame on her. When is the way you choose to dress going to become irrelevant? It’s your body, use it, have fun with it, change it, tattoo it, pierce it, every now and again be kind to it but always remember it’s yours alone to do with it as you will, no one has any right to it no matter what you wear, no matter where you are. Irish outcry over teenager's underwear used in rape trial http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-46207304

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Krysta Pandoo 5 years ago

This is such a grotesque yet illuminating presentation. It is disgusting that a western society still has the audacity to associate and judge any rape with what the victim was wearing. As if it ever excuses such a vile act. The little children ones made me sick.

15points

Blathnaid O'Loughlin 5 years ago

Varanus Ex and L.E.N. Yeah, be disgusting humans all you want, because there are HUNDREDS of people on here sympathizing with rape victims. You’re just a couple of trolls. How you can act like this to survivors of something so horrible is beyond me, but thank god most people here care about the people that have been assaulted, and not your brainless trolling.

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SharkTheCatt 2 years ago

Thank you for this comment!

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Cedes Eagleboy 5 years ago

I was wearing my waitress uniform of black pants and a green shirt.

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Ms Phit 5 years ago

Sent this to my son and his girlfriend- they are working with the school district to de-sexualize the district dress code. This exhibition proves that sexual violence has nothing to do with the clothing the victim is wearing that day.

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Varanus Ex 5 years ago

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Terry T. 5 years ago

This post is the first one on here that actually brought tears to my eyes.

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SharkTheCatt 2 years ago

Don’t listen to Varanus Ex! It’s just being a d**k <3

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Foxxy 5 years ago (edited)

varanus ex and L.E.N. You are both disgusting, vile human beings. You both seriously need some psychological help or are in fact rapists yourselves and trying to defend your actions. You are certainly not someone whose parents would be proud of if they knew you acted in this manner. They are probably wishing you were swallowed. Do the world a favour and NEVER EVER procreate and if sadly in fact you already have then I truly hope your kids discover the truth of your disgusting behaviour and want nothing to do with you. And I hope they don’t have to suffer with rape or molestation coz they certainly wouldn’t have understanding parents. Although I wouldn’t be surprised if you two where the culprits. If there is indeed a hell, when you die I hope you suffer for the end of your days in that fiery pit. You are both absolutely disgusting.

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Foxxy 5 years ago (edited)

Lmao, you are seriously delusional. Shoo fly, your bothering society.

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L.E.N 5 years ago

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Meg 5 years ago

I was molested and abused by my father from age 2 to 18. Clothes having nothing to do with it.

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Magpie 5 years ago

I am crying. I was wearing pajamas. I don't know when it started it was always there, most nights. daddy didn't stop until i got my period. i hate my father

11points

Tracee Jeen 5 years ago

We need to talk to our boys about sexual assault. Every rapist has a mother.

10points

Emma, The Yellow Teletubby 4 years ago

And we need to talk to our girls about it, too. We need to explain how horrible it is to everyone; make everyone aware of it. Men can rape men and women, and women can also rape men and women. No one is subject to it, and no one is prevented from it.

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Tracee Jeen 5 years ago

I'm always so confused why, in discussions of rape, the perpetrator isn't addressed. The person commiting these crimes are OUR sons, husbands, brother, I am not talking about incest. We don't teach our boys about "enthusiastic consent". It should b taught in "health" class. Ya think?

10points

Kaisu 5 years ago

It absolutely should be taught about in health class! As should the fact that if the other person is really drunk or high, they might not be capable of giving consent

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Karolína T. 5 years ago

Really, I dont understand the question about dress. I was wearing medical smock and trousers with wax and acid flecks and was sexyyy as a pregnant worm, when I was attacked by my teacher during last day practice exam before school-leaving public audience. Moreover, I was holding my final work - complete denture in my hand. The tendency to move the responsibility to the victim makes me sick.

10points

Dian Parama Kosala 5 years ago

i hate comment which blame their clothes and quote some religious s**t.. its all about monster in the rapist head!..

10points

SkyTheImaginer 5 years ago

The prom one hurts, that should be one of the best memories of high school. but young kids can be incredibly stupid. (I mean the rapists NOT the victims.)

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Daria B 5 years ago (edited)

It's not only fellow school colleagues. A girl walking home from a prom party can get assaulted by a perfect stranger as well.

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Pahulu 5 years ago

This is victim blaming and rape culture.

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Varanus Ex 5 years ago

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Happiness is Hippo 5 years ago

An ankle length skirt and a baggy "blur" t shirt - my own mother asked the "what were you wearing" question, after that I decided not to tell anyone else. 26 years later, it's a bit easier. I was recently able to talk to my mother about the way her reaction affected me at the time and she was genuinely sorry. It's weird posting about this, it's not something I talk about, ever.

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Kaisu 5 years ago

Thank you for sharing this with us, you're so strong for having survived that!

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christina lowe 5 years ago

VARANUS EX take your limp d**k somewhere else to jack off

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SharkTheCatt 2 years ago

I second this!! ^^

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Si 5 years ago

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Blathnaid O'Loughlin 5 years ago (edited)

Varanus... You are worthless. You know what? You can be racist and hateful as long as you want, but that still won’t change the fact that nearly every other person here offered support for the victims of these horrible crimes. You are just one troll and an obvious one at that.

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Monika Soffronow 5 years ago

I beg to differ. Women need to TAKE that power into their hands. Men instinctively support other men, and women are brought up to support men. We need to support all the fantastic women who are involved in politics and go out and vote them into office!

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Daria B 5 years ago (edited)

Very well said. Additionally, such kind of mentality is also harmful for the truly nice guys who mean no harm. Because if we women cannot trust anybody, and fear generates hatred, the nice men and boys become collateral victims of this whole poopy mentality.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

I love your take on stuff. You always have your own perspective that none of us here think of to type.

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Varanus Ex 5 years ago

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Ryo Bakura 5 years ago

Death or incarceration are punishments that allow these bastards to get off easy. Anyone who rapes, assaults, molests, or murders another human being should never be given the easy way out. They should all suffer the fear and pain their victims did, but with the intensity increased to the point where they almost die, but are left alive, only to go through it again a day later. Hell is too good for these sick f***s, and the fact that many of them live in relative comfort, eating 3 meals a day, is disgusting.

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Kaisu 5 years ago

And rapists like Brock Turner continue to get away easily because they're white and their parents are rich

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Ryo Bakura 5 years ago

How's it going, troll? You good? Because it seems like you have suffered some form of brain damage. Or maybe your parents didn't care about you enough to explain how the world works. Whatever it is, you should vent your frustration by running head first into a wall really fast. I hear it's very effective. Oh, and one other thing while I have your attention; I'd gladly live anywhere south of the US while a******s like you are allowed to reside there, but I'm currently quite content living in my cosy house across the pond. Now, be a good boy, and get the f**k off my planet.

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Varanus Ex 5 years ago

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Oscar Guerrero 5 years ago (edited)

This makes me sick. Edit: The actions the aggressors did and the clothing question, not the exhibit.

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Kari Panda 5 years ago

It’s so sad that we even need to raise awareness for that. I don’t like when people dress „slutty“ because most of the times, those I met who dressed that way turned out to be quite shallow, obnoxious people. So? I have a co-worker like that who I and most of my other co-workers dislike exactly for those reasons. Guess what, when he was attacked by a stranger because he dresses in a rather feminine way, we all were beside ourselves with fury and outrage nonetheless. You don’t hurt others no matter what they wear or look like or whether you like them or not, how is it even necessary to point that out? No person in their right mind can convince me that they genuinely believed it would be okay to rape someone just because of their clothing. If someone‘s clothes „made“ you rape them, you belong in a mental home. Other than that, the one with the guy who was asked how he could „let that happen“ is devastating. Perfect example of how men are just as deprived as women, just in other areas.

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Si 5 years ago

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Stephanie Schneider 5 years ago

it started when I was 4 and half. I'd say about 6 months-ish after this picture was taken. This is one of the last photos of me as a child where I was still happy. It was 1980 so I imagine I was wearing something similar to the style of the shirt in this picture. Probably jeans or shorts. IMG_1772-5...c7fc95.jpg

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Reginald Joseph 4 years ago

you were so beautiful and sweet. Love to you.

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KT Trondsen 5 years ago

a 6 year old.....the little tinkerbell dress.... I feel so sick after seeing this. Does that mean the judge asked those little girls what they were wearing?? What is wrong with these people!?

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Zori the degu 5 years ago

I don't know which makes me gloomier: these unlucky people sharing their awful stories or those absurd people that blame rape victims. This seems to be the norm about our species and shows our kind is on average so dumb, it's hard for me to handle! When I first heard about rape(I was perhaps 9-10), my two only reactions were feeling sorry about the victims and wishing all rapers to die, for I generally wish for all stupid and useless human beings to die out. I never even for a moment thought about blaming victims! Why would anyone decide to do that on their own accord? It's against both logic and people's favourite emotions! Yet, there they were, I found out later. Millions of those people, taunting those that were under attack! It's bloody disgusting, unintelligent, nearly as bad as the rape itself. Because many victims do believe the ill-sayers! That's really the only thing I would ever blame some victims for: naively believing in what the species that has just betrayed them says.

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Jasmeen Patheja 5 years ago

#INeverAskForIt

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jennifer Roa 5 years ago

People sick me so much with those barbarians acts.when someone is wearing a u uniform like that a soldier. He is giving his life for the country, and yet something so horrible happens. And to every victim. There are no words to express my anger n frustration with when it comes to that kind of injustice.

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Sue Prewitt 5 years ago

This proves it really makes no difference what you where. A motherf****er is still gonna rape you if that's what on his mind. It's not about sexy clothes, it's about power over another human.

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A Parents world 5 years ago

Rosy A who I interviewed which you can read more about through https://aparentsworld.com/who-is-rosy-a/(opens in a new tab) was a young child whilst raped by a neighbour, usual child wearing shorts and t-shirt riding her bike. A few years later wearing jeans and a t-shirt her cousin by marriage put his penis in her mouth when he thought he blindfolded her.

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StealTheFruit 5 years ago

You're all so strong! <3

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Panda Panda 5 years ago

Pubic hangings for all convicted sexual molesters and rapists.

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Just saying 5 years ago

Maybe you meant public, but pubic seems appropriate.

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Kim Shannon 5 years ago

Wow. Incredibly moving.

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tuzdayschild 5 years ago

I couldn't even get through these. Truly heartbreaking.

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SirPatTheCat 5 years ago

This breaks my f*cking heart

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Robin Goldson-Forgo 5 years ago

Incredibly powerful

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Desiree Summer 5 years ago

leopard print pajama pants and a black tank top. I was 13. I woke up to it. I am terrified of sleep now.

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Monika Soffronow 5 years ago

In Sweden, the expression used in newspapers when writing about a sexual perpetrator is (no, I am not kidding) "her rapist". Her Rapist? FFS! Why not write "the man who attacked and raped her" instead? An act of sexual aggression does not bring the rapist into the intimate sphere of family and close friends.

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Monika Soffronow 5 years ago

If a woman in the UK is raped and reports it to the police she will have to hand over her phone and the passwords for facebook, twitter etc. HER every comment and photo will be poured over and whatever can be found will be used as evidence against ... her, the victim!

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Bluebell Rizzi 5 years ago

Damn right. Clothes have nothing to do with it. #thisisnotconsent

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Ashley Say Wha?!?lol 5 years ago

Wow, I've never been asked this question and what's weird is all three times I can't remember at all. I guess I'm lucky and thankful no one has ever shamed me like that. Then again, I don't tell a lot of people or anything (except for right now I guess lol). Sadly, though, I know wayyy to many other victims, including several men. It's crazy how often this stuff actually does happen.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

I’m sorry to hear that, Ashley. Thank you for opening up. It’s important for women to support each other and speak out so we know we’re not alone.

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pratham ajila 5 years ago (edited)

Hi I am part of this community called Blank Noise which has spent over 10 years collecting garments and testimonials from victims of sexual assault in order to end victim blame. As a community member, I urge BoredPanda to give proper credit to the work which has been done by us and not publish articles without factual checks.

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Reginald Joseph 4 years ago

Oh wow!! Thank you for letting us know that this happened. I hope they credit you correctly and fact check from now on

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Ivana 5 years ago

I was five in the 90s so I was wearing these extremely colorful bike short, a t-shirt and pink jellies.

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Monika Soffronow 5 years ago

Powerful, and much too much to the point. The only victim who had never been asked "What were you wearing?" had instead been asked if he was gay ... Yes, men get raped too, and they are often in an even weirder position than female rape victims are. Now take a look at this: "The UN has backed a resolution on combatting rape in conflict but excluded references in the text to sexual and reproductive health, after vehement opposition from the US." (theguardian.com) and this: "The U.N. wanted to end sexual violence in war. Then the Trump adminisration had objections" (washingtonpost.com) Women need to participate more in politics, at all levels!

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Full Name 5 years ago

You need to hear what the specific objections were before commenting. Making it about gender is the lazy way out.

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Michèle Gyselinck 5 years ago

I think that women could wear a chador and still get assaulted. The rapist is not necessarily a stranger who is suddenly tempted into losing control of himself. And if they have so little self-control, it's not the victim's fault. Men need to take responsibility for their behavior.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

Women definitely get raped in chador. Chador is common in Iran where there are just as many rapes as every other country. (Not singling out Iran, I just know about chador in Iran because I’m Iranian)

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Erika Drewke 5 years ago

Hopefully this heartbreaking exhibition leads to the norm that the blame is never on the victims. It shouldn´t be needed anywhere, yet is it. And sadly the people who need to see this and understand this will never see it. I wore my normal clothes. Jeans and a tunic. Leggings,skirt and a tunic. Dress and leggings. Jeans again. But it shouldnt matter even if I was walking naked.

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Karolína T. 5 years ago

I would like to order to visit this exhibition as obligatory to our police. Cause this nauseating question is common from them. The police interview is then worse than the act I feel like in nightmare not in 21. century.

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Koalamonster 5 years ago

Posts like this are 100% necessary, but also make me nauseous and I can't avoid tearing up. I kept searching my memories to see if I could remember what shirt I wore- but I do think it was a regular tshirt. That with jeans- I didn't wear dresses then. Now I pretty much exclusively wear dresses. Having it be someone who was my "friend," who had just moved in to a house with my best friend's boyfriend, at a house I'd gone to almost every day- I've been kind of working through it recently, acknowledging that he knew exactly what he was doing that evening. Because it really isn't about clothes. It's about people taking your autonomy, using your body without permission, and in some cases (mine included) acting like it's a compliment. And then people are confused when all you wear for the next several months is oversized hoodies because you need a friggin security blanket to just exist in society.

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Monkeynaut 5 years ago

this makes me F ing sick Thats why rapist should be executed and thrown out like the trash they are

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Wendy Tanneberger 5 years ago

The children are in grave danger, especially since they may not even know what rape is.

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Russian Otaku 5 years ago

I recall there was this case a while back that mentioned the woman's underwear... that could not be seen until the assault... sooooo..... even going by the person was wearing that or this faulty logic it made no f*****g sense cause I recall her outfit was not see through

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debrina blackmoon 5 years ago (edited)

so disgusted and sad for all of these people...i was just 6 the first time, 9 the next. both times i wore a t shirt and i don't remember what kind of long pants now. 1. old man 2. teenage boy

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Kelly Hall 5 years ago

This was difficult to read, but so important. My support to all those who have suffered.

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zeldapajamas 5 years ago

I was wearing a t-shirt and shorts the first time it happened. With the second person, I was wearing a tank top and shorts. And the third person, that was the first time I had worn a dress in almost 5 years. It took me another year before I could put on a dress without feeling like I was going to throw up.

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Clipps / Xaften 2 years ago

im so sorry

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Kim Lorton 5 years ago

Victim blaming has been going on for hundreds of years! It has got to stop! That. Question should be illegal to ask a rape or. Sexual assault victim.. male or female or a f*****g child! It is so biased to shift blame away from the perpetrator on to the victim. In this day and age, there needs to be legislation at the top level. A victim is never at fault. And saying no, means nothing. If a cop. Or lawyer asks the victim, what were you wearing? Let’s make this question illegal. Because what a victim wears, is not the reason they were sexually assaulted. Ever.

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Richard Samul 5 years ago

An altar boy cassock.

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Kaisu 5 years ago

This is unfortunately common and the Catholic Church needs to do something about it

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Gracie Mae 5 years ago

I was hoping the mind-set of blaming the victim for what they were wearing was long gone...

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SharkTheCatt 2 years ago

I believe this was made to show that clothes don’t matter! There is a wide variety of outfits.

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Bepina 5 years ago

This just points out how ridiculouus and heartless is victim blaming. You don't need to provoke sex predator with "hot" clothes - they're sick people and of they decide to sexually assault someone, they'll do it, no matter what the victim is wearing or saying/doing. It makes me really sad and heartbroken that even today when we've made huge progress in human rights and protection, we still feel the need to judge the one that suffered - "you teased him, you deserved it", "you wore a mini skirt", "you're a man, you could have defended yourself" and so on.. shows just how much there is still to be worked on in regards to people's perception of sex crime.. and seeing children's clothing made me ill.

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Whiterain25 furry 5 years ago

Brooo 6 yrs old

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Kimberly Irving 5 years ago

This article brought tears to my eyes. Its sad that this is a thing & seeing the children's clothes nearly broke me.

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A Dyke From The Dreamworld 5 years ago (edited)

It absolutely broke my heart to see the cute little dresses belonging to the 5-year-old and 6-year-old... It takes a horribly sick person to rape anybody, but to rape a child? That's some next-level awfulness. My 14-year-old friend/neighbor was raped a few months ago and I will never forget the sight of the police at her house. Words cannot describe how terrible, how completely awful it is.

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Freya the Wanderer 5 years ago

"What were you wearing?" What a bunch of bulls###! None of those women was dressed provocatively - not even the one who was wearing a bikini, and she had every reason to be dressed that way. “Army ACU’s and I was carrying a gun. So much for that preventing anything” - take THAT, gun nuts! There goes another of your arguments. I don't object to the right to own firearms, but gun extremists need to get a clue.

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Wendy Tanneberger 5 years ago

This is very sad. We have to remember that there is still good in this world, along with the bad.

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Tracee Jeen 5 years ago

I've been trying to think of any other crime that the victims choice of clothing would be relevent. Point being, even from a police investigation standpoint, there are none and it's not relevant here either.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

Perhaps a robbery? I guess I’ve heard people victim blame rich or rich-appearing people for flashing around money or wearing fancy clothes, that they look like a good target. I’m not sure if that’s a fair example. I’m just saying that SOME PEOPLE (not me) make this argument.

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Wen 5 years ago

Red footed pajamas

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Beth Arriaga 5 years ago

Pajamas.

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Emma, The Yellow Teletubby 4 years ago (edited)

Also- @Varanus Ex and @L.E.N, what the actual living, breathing, s******g, dying f**k is wrong with you people? I'm not so sure you'd be very happy if someone shoved their d**k/breast into you and then walked away laughing, would you? And ok if you would be, you're a little f'ed up, ngl. I get that somewhere along the line of your lives, someone might have drawn a scribble, but why the f**k are you on this post that is trying to support people hurting from a traumatic event just telling people "Lol, your story sounds like a doctor porno" (WTAF) "Just get over it" and "Holy - is your entire family rape-bait, or are you just full of s**t...?" Like WHAT THE ACTUAL S**T, THIS IS TRAUMATIC FOR PEOPLE YOU DISGUSTING M***********G SCUM OF THE UNIVERSE PEOPLE??? WHO HURT YOU THIS DAMN MUCH? I'll f*****g pray for you to get a new mind. This disgusts me. If something like this happened to you, how would you feel?

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Jacey Lynn 4 years ago

Poor people! I hope that they’re doing better now.

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David Jeu 5 years ago

I feel sick right now.

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Annie J. 5 years ago

I feel horrible for the men and women who had to go through this. I know a guy who was drugged and tied to his bed while being raped by multiple drunk women. A girl I know was fingered at the age of seven, and my cat was even forced to suck on his former owner's penis. Rape is awful, and it leaves scars that never go away.

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Janine Randall 5 years ago

I don't know how people can even ask that question. Victim blaming for sexual assault seems to be the norm. Sometimes the rapist will say the victim flirted with him or came on to him (or her). That's sickening for an adult survivor of rape, but a child? As someone else said, "the 6 year old with the sun dress made me ill".

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Caroline Driver 5 years ago

What do they expect people to say they were wearing, titty pasties and a thong? So irrelevant I can't even express it.

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Emma, The Yellow Teletubby 4 years ago

And @Varanus Ex learn to be empathetic, "you c**t."

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Emma, The Yellow Teletubby 4 years ago

I was 4 or 5 years old, he was 13. I had my favorite outfit on; my green jean top and a red jean skirt. I was at the babysitter's house. I trusted her, him, my sister, and the babysitter's daughters. The door was open and I was screaming for help because for some odd reason, I knew what was going on. They kept walking past the open door, responding to my screams with "go get so-an-so." "go get so-and-so.", passing it on from one of them to the other. Our babysitter was asleep downstairs, on the couch. To this day I don't trust people to help me when I ask for it, so I just don't. I don't let people help me because of that. I also get extremely anxious if I'm left alone with a dude. Or with a single person, for that matter. I get anxious and start shaking and crying if I am left alone, too, because it is always at the back of my mind, stabbing at me ever so subtly, so when I'm alone, that's all I can think about. I confided this to my dad. His response? "Just don't think about it."

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Emma, The Yellow Teletubby 4 years ago

I felt so safe there, too. I also panic when someone tries to give me a hug. My dad was also angry that I didn't tell him until then because "He could be out there, as a youth pastor or someone in a position of power over little girls and boys, doing to them what he did to them! He could be arrested for that." That DEFINITELY did not help. Parents, if your child confides something like this to you, listen to them. Don't guilt them or make them feel even more guilty and shameful. Do not shame them for feeling shameful. Just be there to support them, for f**k's sake. It hurts, Ok? And if you tell your kid that you'll get them a counseling session to talk about it, f*****g do it. I still feel disgusted and disgusting and helpless and shameful. I'm still feeling suicidal BECAUSE OF THAT. But I can't tell anyone that, because 1) They'll send me to a mental hospital or something and 2) I'm the "bubbly" one, and if I try to talk about deep stuff, I'm shamed for it. I f*****g hate myself.

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Dorothy Parker 4 years ago

Broke my heart.

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deanna woods 5 years ago

This happened to my mom when she was a kid and it was done by her stepfather and a man at church. Physical affection is hard for her, but she never refuses my siblings and I a hug. I don't think it should really matter what the person was wearing, it's wrong no matter what. When a person is raped and the authorities only concern is what they were wearing, the system has already failed them. PLEASE STOP BLAMING THE VICTIM FOR THE DEPRAVED AND VILE ACTIONS OF AN EVIL PERSON.

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Addison 5 years ago

It doesn't make a difference of what your wearing.... Sick monsters sexual assault babies and old ppl all the time. Tell me that what they are wearing is so tempting!? Yeah, makes me sick and puke! To have this up for ppl to read and such is to me pointless and no point! What is the f****n point!? IT DOES'NT MATTER WHAT YOUR WEARING!

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Ziggy Lee 5 years ago

I was wearing a long sleeve top and jeans. I was unconscious when it happened, and had to ask where my clothes were afterwards so I could get dressed to go home. Never thought about it until now but I don't think I ever wore that top again.

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Alan Wilkening 5 years ago

This is the single most powerful topical landing page I have ever seen on B.P. Wow. How to amplify and get broader exposure for this powerful message?

2points

Noah Chambers 5 months ago

If there is someone who is completely naked and masturbating in public, it still wouldn't be there fault. That would be a very very very very very inappropriate thing to do in public, but it still wouldn't be their fault. A same person would see that, think "that's really f*****g weird'', and call the cops because of indecent exposure or whatever. Even disgusting public displays give you no right to touch ANYONE

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The Goddess 2 years ago

I cried as I read this. To think people believe it is okay to ask such a thing. If I knew someone who had gone through this horrific thing, I would have asked if I could give them a hug. Then, say if they ever needed to talk, I was there. I would say I'm sorry and that they didn't ask for it nor deserved it. It's not okay to make them feel like it was their fault. This from a sexual abuse victim. It started when I was 7/8 and it was my grandfather. So, I know. It's not great being a statistic.

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OLIVI YAY (she/her)‍ 2 years ago

Wow. Just wow. That is crazy. It is so stereotypical that people think you have to be wearing a certain thing when raped. Seriously, this is heartbreaking and sad that SO MANY people had to go through this trauma.

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~Aro~ 3 years ago

I was 10 - wearing a pink shirt and gray sweats, my brothers bsf invited me over- I regret ever going, I wish I never met him, the worst part about this is my family still doesnt believe me. And he is still friends with the same guy, and he is still trying to touch me to this day. Im a guy it happens to everybody, not just women

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Mel Bolle 4 years ago

My daughters were victims of sexual assault. For years my youngest daughter wanted nothing to do with being a ‘girl’ and now has severe self esteem issues. My other daughter is an eon the road to becoming an extreme feminist and is very BIG on not being defined by her clothes. Also is with the free the boob movement and doesn’t like to wear bras. As a parent of sexual abuse victims, I want them to ‘cover’ themselves because the world is a nasty place. But then there is the flip side that I want to teach them they should not be targets because of their clothes!!! Thank you for this. I will continue to educate them in being Free, Modest young women. Clothing doesn’t stop the devil!

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Evelyn Moon 4 years ago

Any where this is posted you'll see comments from men who don't believe raping people or assaulting children sexually is a crime. They excuse, they deflect, they justify. If I was a man I'd go out of my way to fight and argue against that but it seems like mostly women are doing it. Wonder why that is.

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Bear_Panda_dear 4 years ago

These hateful people have been reported. Varanus Ex and the others. Just thought I'd let people know

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Sadie Shapiro 4 years ago

This happened to my friend. She was seven years old. :(

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Whiterain25 furry 5 years ago

noooooooooooooo

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Nostalgic Hyena 5 years ago

Victim blamers of all types are the worst. Oh, and people who try to imply "you took it the wrong way". I've never actually been sexually assaulted/harassed, but I've had someone grab my backpack at school and pull on it. When telling a teacher, she told me "I don't want to excuse his behavior, but maybe he's just being playful". No, you absolute dipsh*t.

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HoffLensMetalHedLovesAnimalsUK 5 years ago

This nearly brings me to tears, anyone trying to insinuate people are at fault at all because of what clothes they were wearing is despicable, mis-guided and beyond insulting. I hope they can all find some peace in their lives.

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Neal Evans 5 years ago

Am absolutely numb after finishing this article . May all victims find solace xx

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Amanda C 5 years ago

It's so sad when we see all those minors, I was never a victim but one of my friends were and I know how traumatising this feels like.

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Ed Souza 5 years ago

This post made me sick. Especially when seeing clothes of small children. I'm a father of a 7 yo and this is some scary s**t.

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Jo Firth 5 years ago

This is heartbreaking. No-one ever asks to be sexually assaulted no matter what they are wearing. IT'S. TIME. THIS. STOPPED!!!!

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MagicalUnicorn 5 years ago

clothes are irrelevant, wish people just stop raping..

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Allison Covet 5 years ago

Too sad. There are too many people in our world that think they have the right to take anything they want... innocence, security, safety... and then to demean the victims afterwards, by asking what they were wearing???? Sickening!

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varwenea 5 years ago

Powerful, potent, and disturbing. Showcasing what victim blaming really looks like. It's sickening.

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Richard 5 years ago

I don't get this. Why are women still asked those questions? What they wore is absolutely irrelevant! Even if they are naked, this does not give anyone the right to harass them.

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Lisa 5 years ago

This made me sob. But I'm going to bring it to my college. We should all spread it. So simple but powerful.

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Shyanna Rickert 2 years ago

I was wearing pink shorts and a Woody Shirt

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beckhansen13 2 years ago

I shouldn’t have read this. It makes me sick. Especially the little kids. There’s no adequate justice in this life for the perpetrators. Maybe death… The trauma of sexual abuse is like killing someone without killing them. I hate this world…

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Katie Dollar 2 years ago

The first time, I was wearing my school uniform (polo shirt and khaki slacks, 5th grade). The second time I was wearing a t-shirt and cargo shorts (6th grade). I am AFAB and i now do not feel safe around guys my age if I’m wearing anything shorter or more skin tight than an oversized t-shirt and baggy cargo shorts

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TheGhostUnderUrBed 3 years ago

this truly shows the horror of sexual assault, and i was so sad because i recognized the jayhawks logo

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Ann Willias 3 years ago

My mother keeps telling me that I'm going to be raped one day or be placed in the back of a van because I look younger than my actual age and that I wear short skirts (slightly longer than mini-skirts). I'm 21-

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Shawn Weiler 3 years ago

I don't see a burka on the exhibit. The sari comes closest. Outside of the possibly the sari, every picture above shows immodest clothing. The question isn't exactly what was worn, but the relative chance that a person would be raped if the person was wearing immodest clothing.

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Shawn Weiler 3 years ago

I don't see a burka on the exhibit. The sari comes closest. Outside of the possibly the sari, every picture above shows immodest clothing. The question isn't exactly what was worn, but the chance that a person would be raped if the person was wearing immodest clothing.

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Natalie Rachel Price 3 years ago

First time, school uniform Second time, tshirt and jeans Third time, tshirt and jeans Fourth time, pyjamas

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JennyBee 3 years ago

....nasty

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Haylin PM 4 years ago

Thank god this exists to show that it's not the victim's fault with they get raped, especially when they need the most support. Also, I wore a long sleeve shirt and sweatpants.

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The anonymous one 4 years ago

I was.. maybe six or seven, likely in a bright pink tee shirt and kapris. I thought my cousin was gonna share the secret passcode to a cool teenager club. I was wrong. Luckily for me, I’ve repressed the memory and it’s extremely faint now. I’m fairly certain I was sick at the time though.

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Anita Drieseberg 4 years ago

Meanwhile, here in San Francisco men walk around completely naked and don't get assaulted. Though I'd like to punch them in the face because: GROSS.

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Miley Farrington 5 years ago

When are the people in this country going to realize that it isn't the clothes or gun,bat ,knife car that's the problem.the people in this country love to blame an inanimate object and not the real problem which is the person that is doing it.how is it that a whole lot of people in this country do not realize that.

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WenJ 5 years ago

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Nami Tantrum 5 years ago

i get the feeling some of you didn't read what the exhibit is about. OF COURSE you should not ask a vicim that question because it doesn't matter what they where wearing, it's a horrible crime BUT and that is the point; it is often sais that the victim could have prevented it by not DRESSING TOO SEXY for example...it's about showing them that it was not their fault because of the way they dress,,, however maybe don't just ask that if you're not a psychiatrist

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DANNY DIVITO 4 years ago

you are a disgusting human

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

That’s extremely condescending and rude. So inappropriate.

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Foxxy 5 years ago

You are a nasty piece of work.

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Desiree Summer 5 years ago

youre a horrible person. Sexual assault is not something you can just get over. It is traumatizing. we are not being whiny bitches about it. we are spreading awareness. speaking our truth. maybe even helping others along the way. people like you make us believe we shouldn't feel the way we feel. we were forced against our will to endure something we didnt want to endure. nightmare fuel. no means no. I wish nothing bad upon you. but please do not try to act like sexual assault is something you can brush off your shoulder.

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Nia Loves Art 5 years ago

How about not sexualizing FIVE year old children?

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Agnes Jekyll 5 years ago

Rape victims get asked this all the time. Why the f**k do you think this exhibit exists. It doesn't come out of a vacuum.

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Daria B 5 years ago

Maybe a bit off topic, but speaking about your example about leaving your car open and stuff. Take this. Seoul, S. Korea, a coffee shop at the city centre. You came to the coffee shop alone, you pick a seat, you live your handbag/backpack there, and excuse yourself to go to the toilet, while your stuff is unattended. You go back from the toilette to your seat, to find your stuff untouched and nothing missing. Now... Try doing this in the centre of, for example, Milano, or Zagreb, or Paris.... Might not get robbed, but it's highly advised not to leave your belongings unattended, and for good reasons. My point is, it's not as simple as you're saying.

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Nia Loves Art 5 years ago

These aren’t the items of clothing. They are similar clothing.

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Corey Smith 5 years ago

The six-year-old in a sun dress made me ill.

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Sansa Blacktyde 5 years ago

Yeah, I know what you mean :( And the five year old as well.

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Lisa Casserly 5 years ago

I was six, too. It happened SO OFTEN by that "trusted" neighbor, that I don't even REMEMBER the clothing. I just remember my father's face, when I told him. When he punched me for "lying" and "trying to ruin that man's reputation". I could never understand that part. That response. I was just a CHILD. And, then years later, found out that he had been "inappropriately touching" his nieces and sister. I guess that explains everything.

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R.s. Potter 5 years ago

Who the fork asks a LITTLE GIRL what she was wearing when she was raped? As if a six year old was some kind of temptress?!

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Clockwork 5 years ago

Why the actual f**k would some a*****e rape a six year old?! This is why I have lost faith in humanity. Also, why would anyone ask a rape victim what they were wearing at the time, why do people try and shift the blame on the victim?! What has happened to the world?

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Amber Jouer 5 years ago

They all made me ill, but that one especially :(

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Ozacoter 5 years ago

Yes,I feel really sick now :(

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KT Trondsen 5 years ago

same,. i feel so horrid inside after seeing i am fighting back tears. I think of my beautiful little girl, I would kill the person that even thought about touching my daughter like that!

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Grace Barclay 5 years ago

She is also the reason why so many children do not tell of the abuse. I was 44 when I finally told.

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Char Char 5 years ago

This is really deep and heartbreaking. What an asinine question to ask someone after going through a nightmare.

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Char Char 5 years ago

Clarification - I didn't mean the exhibit! I mean real people who ask the victims this question.

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Ross Keim 5 years ago (edited)

well in a psychological way I know some serial killers picked out victims by clothing..... maybe some serial rapists do as well, it's a valid question to know in a detectives perspective to be able to link rapist, plus the police will ask or atleast better anyway, so they get the clothes and test them but I'm also a cop so I kinda look at this from a different perspective, I'd never ask as in a way to shame or lay blame

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Nami Tantrum 5 years ago

or he ... i think it can be therapeutic in some way.. showing them that it wasn't their fault is important.. you're not wrong though.. you don't just ask them.. it has to be in a safe setting because it can trigger too much

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Whatevers not taken 5 years ago

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Joanne 5 years ago

You should never, ever ask a sexual abuse victim what they were wearing. It is extremely hurtful and it's not relevant: even if someone was wearing a supersexy dress or bikini or whatever, she still has the right to choose whether she does or doesn't want to have sex.

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Ozacoter 5 years ago

That is the whole point of the exibition. To show that which clothes you wore have nothing to do with the experience.To shift blame from victims to rapists

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Lisa Casserly 5 years ago

But that's been the response for hundreds of years. That somehow, its all the woman's fault for what has happened, that its what she was wearing, or where she was or what she was doing or saying... that its NOT the rapist's "fault", he was led astray. The exhibit is trying to point that out. That its WRONG. And it is. I was a six year old CHILD when it started. I had NO IDEA what sex was or anything.

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Rose Brien Harrington 5 years ago

You're right, it implies blame, collusion, false allegation etc. A victim's clothing should never be taken into consideration. The only thing what causes any rape is the rapist.

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Nami Tantrum 5 years ago

or he ... i think it can be therapeutic in some way.. showing them that it wasn't their fault is important.. you're not wrong though.. you don't just ask them.. it has to be in a safe setting because it can trigger too much

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Nostalgic Hyena 5 years ago

Exactly. Even if the person was going around naked, it still doesn't mean they were "asking for it", and it's certainly not consent to sex.

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Momo Skarsgård 5 years ago

It wouldn't hurt me or make me feel any negative way if that question was asked. Also it's just to show that you don't have to be wearing anything provocative or sexy to get raped.

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Ross Keim 5 years ago

well in a psychological way I know some serial killers picked out victims by clothing..... maybe some serial rapists do as well, it's a valid question to know in a detectives perspective to be able to link rapist, plus the police will ask or atleast better anyway, so they get the clothes and test them but I'm also a cop so I kinda look at this from a different perspective, I'd never ask as in a way to shame or lay blame

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Chris A 5 years ago

Your right, cops should never ask that because they don't really need the clothes to process for pesky things like evidence. And NO WAY they should EVER ask that in court to show that the clothing was worn at the time to be admitted into evidence for prosecution.....

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Bron 5 years ago (edited)

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Hilliary Smith 5 years ago

Notice the university T-shirt and cargoes one? I think that's a man, and his point is that men don't get asked this particular question, and that fact lays bare how illogical and stupid the question is. His words are important and wise, I think. Of course, the other things he DID get asked are equally problematic.

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lakitha tolbert 5 years ago

This is true. It seems people will find all kinds of ways to blame the victim rather than the rapist. I think they do this as a way of telling themselves it could never happen to them, because they would have been dressed correctly, but of course, that’s an equally ridiculous idea, too. There’s no dress code for rape.

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Alia G. 5 years ago

I was wearing a hoodie and leggings. My mother was wearing a T-shirt and jeans. My best friends was wearing a Halloween costume that covered her almost from neck to toe. It's not about the clothes. Let's just pretend that all the victims were actually wearing revealing clothes. Even then it wouldn't make it acceptable.

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Markéta Podlešáková 5 years ago

I'm so sorry alia. That's making me feel sad, that there is somewhere, where this can happen, so often... To too many women...

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Han 5 years ago

I was naked from the waist down, wearing a green woolen jumper on top. I also had a white sheet across my bent legs. My Doctor, doing an 'exam' didn't ask for consent for all the different 'tests' he did.

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Bob Beltcher 5 years ago

Thanks for including boys and men. This is not just a girl/woman problem. This is a problem that knows no age, race, or gender.

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Ashley Say Wha?!?lol 5 years ago

So so true Bob. I know several men who have gone through this also. One man I know went through this by two different people. One was from his female babysitter when he was a little boy and the other was once from a gay man when he was an adult. So, I agree with you.

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Blathnaid O'Loughlin 5 years ago

Varanus... rape is never the victims fault. Stop victim blaming, you racist, pathetic troll. Also, NEVER tell someone to kill themselves. It’s a sad person who victim blames six and seven year olds.

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NoName 5 years ago

Keep your filthy, selfish hands to your damn self. Plain and simple. To blame clothes is to avoid responsibly. We wonder why we live in a massive rape culture...

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Lisa Jamison-Bray 5 years ago

So true

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NoName 5 years ago

And, L.E.N.? You scared, little, ignorant individual... you are what fuels this rape culture. Get your head out of your a*s and form your own opinions. You just sound like a brainwashed puppet. Also, on behalf of myself and every other person that wasn't believed, f**k you straight to hell and back <3

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Whatevers not taken 5 years ago

Whoa Whoa. First of all, we don't live in a rape culture. That would be to say that rape is accepted everywhere. Some people in America speak Spanish, doesn't mean we live in a Spanish culture. Just like SOME people read Harry Potter, we don't live in a Harry Potter culture. Why don't you use that thing in your head and look up what culture means. Its dumb a*s feminist like you that spread this s**t and people actually believe it. Think before you speak next time. That's all i ask.

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NoName 5 years ago

Proving my point exactly. If you're trying to justify a single ounce of this rape culture, then you're the problem. Perhaps you have to register every time you move and have to avoid places. Wanna get heated about something? Get f*****g livid over the fact that there is a massive crowd of brainwashed fools, such as yourselves, that are too ignorant to see that people will blame anything but the real problem. People can't keep their filthy, selfish hands to themselves. Until then, get your ignorant a*s out of the way so we can progress as an equal society.

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Rose Brien Harrington 5 years ago

It's the whole culture of victim blaming, especially when the victim is a woman and the attacker is a man, although there are plenty of female attackers and male victims out there too. There was a post which came out some time back which got to me " 'Was it my fault?' asked the mini skirt. 'No' said the burka, 'it happened to me too.' The diaper in the corner couldn't even speak."

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Monika Soffronow 5 years ago

" 'Was it my fault?' asked the mini skirt. 'No' said the burka, 'it happened to me too.' The diaper in the corner couldn't even speak."

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Nia Loves Art 5 years ago

Victim blaming is just as real for men who are raped by women. It’s a different flavor though. Less “what were you wearing” and more “real men always want it”.

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ember avery 5 years ago (edited)

the five year old and the six year old......... don't understand how people could be so cold-hearted and selfish

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Malakai 5 years ago

Clothing didn't get these people sexually assaulted. Sexual assaulters got these people sexually assaulted.

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Eagle Girl 5 years ago

I was attacked. By a friends roommate, I fought, Hard & got away. Called my dad to pick me up bc I was 18 with no car. I'll never forget my father, my hero, looking at me & saying "Well, look at what you're wearing." It was summer, my friend & I were going to the beach. It was a swimsuit & shorts.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

First of all I’m glad you were able to get away. Second of all, do you feel like your fathers response was worse than the attack? It seems so hurtful and scary that the man who is supposed to protect you and teach you would blame you. It makes me so sad. How are things between you and him now?

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Bethanie Marshall 5 years ago

I was wearing jeans and a tank top. I don't know whatever happened to them. I was told I had it coming and I wasn't a good Christian. I no longer believe

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Reginald Joseph 5 years ago

You did nothing wrong. The people who said that are sick and ignorant. I'm so sorry. None of those things should have happened to you.

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Eagle Girl 5 years ago

Oh Bethanie, I know how you feel. It took me a long time to separate God, religion & the wolves in sheep's clothing. Just please know, you are not alone & safe.

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Daria B 5 years ago

Those people who told you that have god facepalming at them. They forget nuns are targets for rapists too, and no, that doesn't make it any different. Nobody should have to live in constant anxiety and excessive self-awareness just because you never know the fetishes of some random pervert around the corner. Regardless of religion.

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Katinka Min 5 years ago

I don't understand why not more men rage against this 'What was she wearing'. because what this essentially claims is, that all men are rapists, have as little control as an animal and they can only excert control over their sexual instinct if the woman is properly covered.

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Joi Behrend 5 years ago

Yes, there needs to be a wide-sweeping cultural change because it's still perpetuated in things like mandatory dress codes in schools, where girls/women are told to keep everything covered. It's easier to subjugate girls/women than to control men. Weird fact I learned today: tablecloths were invented to cover the legs of tables because they used to turn men on. Table legs! Historically, humans have "covered up" the "problem" of what caused men to be unable to control their urges rather than do anything to teach them self-control and respect for others. It's sad that this is still going on in the 21st century.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

Animals have fucktons of control.

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Christina Sersif 5 years ago

Why does it f*****g matter what she wears? Even if she’s walking around butt naked it’s not an invitation to rape her. Even if she is clearly flirty and maybe even looking for a casual fling, it doesn’t mean rape her. Stop shaming women and teach men self control.

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Wil Vanderheijden 5 years ago

As recently as November 2018 a FEMALE defense attorney defended a 23 years old rapist: Defense attorney Elizabeth O’Connell highlighted the fact that the 17-year-old victim was wearing thong underwear the night she alleged she was assaulted. "Does the evidence out-rule the possibility that she was attracted to the defendant and was open to meeting someone and being with someone? You have to look at the way she was dressed,” O’Connell said. “She was wearing a thong with a lace front.” As long as these arguments are honoured in a court of law, there's a very long way to go to achieve a civilisation where there's no excuse for rape.

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hobbitly 5 years ago

Very sad to read those stories. Hope the people are okay.

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Mary Rose Kent 5 years ago

As someone who was raped as a child and is now a senior citizen, I can tell you they’re marginally better than those who ended up killing themselves, but they’re not okay. You learn to live with it, but the guilt and shame don’t wash off.

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Ula 5 years ago

Heartbreaking.

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HOUSE 5 years ago

I really think if people belive the victim is responsible then you must be rape sympathisers. You can't blame clothing on a crime.

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Rainbow_Gal05 5 years ago

I am really upset now, I feel for these HUMAN BEINGS. There are some sick people out there. I just hope that I'm a good enough human for someone to tell me if that happens to them because I will do everything and anything to get justice.

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Callie Ge 5 years ago (edited)

I was wearing my work clothes, I worked in a take away cafe, a loose uniform shift dress, a filthy apron covered in grease & flour, sneakers & socks, a hairnet with a white paper cap. I stank of fried food, cooking oil, meat, I was 15 when I was raped. I was wearing a long red skirt & a white jumper when I was assaulted but not raped by a neighbour at a neighbourhood Christmas party, I was 12. I was sexually assaulted by my boyfriends brother at a family celebration. I was wearing a simple modest black cocktail dress. He burst through the locked bathroom door while I was on the toilet, he started tearing my clothes, dragging me onto the floor, he was very big he tried to gag me I bit him I screamed & kicked, all I could think was, oh god I'm going to be raped in a puddle of my own urine, Someone had heard my screams over the music . What were you wearing dates from an awful time when it was assumed the Victim "asked for it" because they were dressed provocatively.

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KarmaQueen 5 years ago

what a powerful exhibit. I have chills up and down me and shocked to see more than one outfit sometimes per person.

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Gavin Johnson 5 years ago

And yet in Ireland a victim can be blamed for her rape because of what she wore and the accused gets found innocent. Her underwear was used as an example to shame her and put the blame on her. When is the way you choose to dress going to become irrelevant? It’s your body, use it, have fun with it, change it, tattoo it, pierce it, every now and again be kind to it but always remember it’s yours alone to do with it as you will, no one has any right to it no matter what you wear, no matter where you are. Irish outcry over teenager's underwear used in rape trial http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-46207304

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Krysta Pandoo 5 years ago

This is such a grotesque yet illuminating presentation. It is disgusting that a western society still has the audacity to associate and judge any rape with what the victim was wearing. As if it ever excuses such a vile act. The little children ones made me sick.

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Blathnaid O'Loughlin 5 years ago

Varanus Ex and L.E.N. Yeah, be disgusting humans all you want, because there are HUNDREDS of people on here sympathizing with rape victims. You’re just a couple of trolls. How you can act like this to survivors of something so horrible is beyond me, but thank god most people here care about the people that have been assaulted, and not your brainless trolling.

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SharkTheCatt 2 years ago

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Cedes Eagleboy 5 years ago

I was wearing my waitress uniform of black pants and a green shirt.

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Ms Phit 5 years ago

Sent this to my son and his girlfriend- they are working with the school district to de-sexualize the district dress code. This exhibition proves that sexual violence has nothing to do with the clothing the victim is wearing that day.

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Terry T. 5 years ago

This post is the first one on here that actually brought tears to my eyes.

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SharkTheCatt 2 years ago

Don’t listen to Varanus Ex! It’s just being a d**k <3

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Foxxy 5 years ago (edited)

varanus ex and L.E.N. You are both disgusting, vile human beings. You both seriously need some psychological help or are in fact rapists yourselves and trying to defend your actions. You are certainly not someone whose parents would be proud of if they knew you acted in this manner. They are probably wishing you were swallowed. Do the world a favour and NEVER EVER procreate and if sadly in fact you already have then I truly hope your kids discover the truth of your disgusting behaviour and want nothing to do with you. And I hope they don’t have to suffer with rape or molestation coz they certainly wouldn’t have understanding parents. Although I wouldn’t be surprised if you two where the culprits. If there is indeed a hell, when you die I hope you suffer for the end of your days in that fiery pit. You are both absolutely disgusting.

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Foxxy 5 years ago (edited)

Lmao, you are seriously delusional. Shoo fly, your bothering society.

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Meg 5 years ago

I was molested and abused by my father from age 2 to 18. Clothes having nothing to do with it.

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Magpie 5 years ago

I am crying. I was wearing pajamas. I don't know when it started it was always there, most nights. daddy didn't stop until i got my period. i hate my father

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Tracee Jeen 5 years ago

We need to talk to our boys about sexual assault. Every rapist has a mother.

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Emma, The Yellow Teletubby 4 years ago

And we need to talk to our girls about it, too. We need to explain how horrible it is to everyone; make everyone aware of it. Men can rape men and women, and women can also rape men and women. No one is subject to it, and no one is prevented from it.

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Tracee Jeen 5 years ago

I'm always so confused why, in discussions of rape, the perpetrator isn't addressed. The person commiting these crimes are OUR sons, husbands, brother, I am not talking about incest. We don't teach our boys about "enthusiastic consent". It should b taught in "health" class. Ya think?

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Kaisu 5 years ago

It absolutely should be taught about in health class! As should the fact that if the other person is really drunk or high, they might not be capable of giving consent

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Karolína T. 5 years ago

Really, I dont understand the question about dress. I was wearing medical smock and trousers with wax and acid flecks and was sexyyy as a pregnant worm, when I was attacked by my teacher during last day practice exam before school-leaving public audience. Moreover, I was holding my final work - complete denture in my hand. The tendency to move the responsibility to the victim makes me sick.

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Dian Parama Kosala 5 years ago

i hate comment which blame their clothes and quote some religious s**t.. its all about monster in the rapist head!..

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SkyTheImaginer 5 years ago

The prom one hurts, that should be one of the best memories of high school. but young kids can be incredibly stupid. (I mean the rapists NOT the victims.)

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Daria B 5 years ago (edited)

It's not only fellow school colleagues. A girl walking home from a prom party can get assaulted by a perfect stranger as well.

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Pahulu 5 years ago

This is victim blaming and rape culture.

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Happiness is Hippo 5 years ago

An ankle length skirt and a baggy "blur" t shirt - my own mother asked the "what were you wearing" question, after that I decided not to tell anyone else. 26 years later, it's a bit easier. I was recently able to talk to my mother about the way her reaction affected me at the time and she was genuinely sorry. It's weird posting about this, it's not something I talk about, ever.

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Kaisu 5 years ago

Thank you for sharing this with us, you're so strong for having survived that!

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christina lowe 5 years ago

VARANUS EX take your limp d**k somewhere else to jack off

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SharkTheCatt 2 years ago

I second this!! ^^

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Blathnaid O'Loughlin 5 years ago (edited)

Varanus... You are worthless. You know what? You can be racist and hateful as long as you want, but that still won’t change the fact that nearly every other person here offered support for the victims of these horrible crimes. You are just one troll and an obvious one at that.

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Monika Soffronow 5 years ago

I beg to differ. Women need to TAKE that power into their hands. Men instinctively support other men, and women are brought up to support men. We need to support all the fantastic women who are involved in politics and go out and vote them into office!

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Daria B 5 years ago (edited)

Very well said. Additionally, such kind of mentality is also harmful for the truly nice guys who mean no harm. Because if we women cannot trust anybody, and fear generates hatred, the nice men and boys become collateral victims of this whole poopy mentality.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

I love your take on stuff. You always have your own perspective that none of us here think of to type.

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Ryo Bakura 5 years ago

Death or incarceration are punishments that allow these bastards to get off easy. Anyone who rapes, assaults, molests, or murders another human being should never be given the easy way out. They should all suffer the fear and pain their victims did, but with the intensity increased to the point where they almost die, but are left alive, only to go through it again a day later. Hell is too good for these sick f***s, and the fact that many of them live in relative comfort, eating 3 meals a day, is disgusting.

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Kaisu 5 years ago

And rapists like Brock Turner continue to get away easily because they're white and their parents are rich

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Ryo Bakura 5 years ago

How's it going, troll? You good? Because it seems like you have suffered some form of brain damage. Or maybe your parents didn't care about you enough to explain how the world works. Whatever it is, you should vent your frustration by running head first into a wall really fast. I hear it's very effective. Oh, and one other thing while I have your attention; I'd gladly live anywhere south of the US while a******s like you are allowed to reside there, but I'm currently quite content living in my cosy house across the pond. Now, be a good boy, and get the f**k off my planet.

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Oscar Guerrero 5 years ago (edited)

This makes me sick. Edit: The actions the aggressors did and the clothing question, not the exhibit.

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Kari Panda 5 years ago

It’s so sad that we even need to raise awareness for that. I don’t like when people dress „slutty“ because most of the times, those I met who dressed that way turned out to be quite shallow, obnoxious people. So? I have a co-worker like that who I and most of my other co-workers dislike exactly for those reasons. Guess what, when he was attacked by a stranger because he dresses in a rather feminine way, we all were beside ourselves with fury and outrage nonetheless. You don’t hurt others no matter what they wear or look like or whether you like them or not, how is it even necessary to point that out? No person in their right mind can convince me that they genuinely believed it would be okay to rape someone just because of their clothing. If someone‘s clothes „made“ you rape them, you belong in a mental home. Other than that, the one with the guy who was asked how he could „let that happen“ is devastating. Perfect example of how men are just as deprived as women, just in other areas.

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Stephanie Schneider 5 years ago

it started when I was 4 and half. I'd say about 6 months-ish after this picture was taken. This is one of the last photos of me as a child where I was still happy. It was 1980 so I imagine I was wearing something similar to the style of the shirt in this picture. Probably jeans or shorts. IMG_1772-5...c7fc95.jpg

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Reginald Joseph 4 years ago

you were so beautiful and sweet. Love to you.

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KT Trondsen 5 years ago

a 6 year old.....the little tinkerbell dress.... I feel so sick after seeing this. Does that mean the judge asked those little girls what they were wearing?? What is wrong with these people!?

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Zori the degu 5 years ago

I don't know which makes me gloomier: these unlucky people sharing their awful stories or those absurd people that blame rape victims. This seems to be the norm about our species and shows our kind is on average so dumb, it's hard for me to handle! When I first heard about rape(I was perhaps 9-10), my two only reactions were feeling sorry about the victims and wishing all rapers to die, for I generally wish for all stupid and useless human beings to die out. I never even for a moment thought about blaming victims! Why would anyone decide to do that on their own accord? It's against both logic and people's favourite emotions! Yet, there they were, I found out later. Millions of those people, taunting those that were under attack! It's bloody disgusting, unintelligent, nearly as bad as the rape itself. Because many victims do believe the ill-sayers! That's really the only thing I would ever blame some victims for: naively believing in what the species that has just betrayed them says.

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Jasmeen Patheja 5 years ago

#INeverAskForIt

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jennifer Roa 5 years ago

People sick me so much with those barbarians acts.when someone is wearing a u uniform like that a soldier. He is giving his life for the country, and yet something so horrible happens. And to every victim. There are no words to express my anger n frustration with when it comes to that kind of injustice.

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Sue Prewitt 5 years ago

This proves it really makes no difference what you where. A motherf****er is still gonna rape you if that's what on his mind. It's not about sexy clothes, it's about power over another human.

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A Parents world 5 years ago

Rosy A who I interviewed which you can read more about through https://aparentsworld.com/who-is-rosy-a/(opens in a new tab) was a young child whilst raped by a neighbour, usual child wearing shorts and t-shirt riding her bike. A few years later wearing jeans and a t-shirt her cousin by marriage put his penis in her mouth when he thought he blindfolded her.

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StealTheFruit 5 years ago

You're all so strong! <3

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Panda Panda 5 years ago

Pubic hangings for all convicted sexual molesters and rapists.

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Just saying 5 years ago

Maybe you meant public, but pubic seems appropriate.

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Kim Shannon 5 years ago

Wow. Incredibly moving.

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tuzdayschild 5 years ago

I couldn't even get through these. Truly heartbreaking.

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SirPatTheCat 5 years ago

This breaks my f*cking heart

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Robin Goldson-Forgo 5 years ago

Incredibly powerful

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Desiree Summer 5 years ago

leopard print pajama pants and a black tank top. I was 13. I woke up to it. I am terrified of sleep now.

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Monika Soffronow 5 years ago

In Sweden, the expression used in newspapers when writing about a sexual perpetrator is (no, I am not kidding) "her rapist". Her Rapist? FFS! Why not write "the man who attacked and raped her" instead? An act of sexual aggression does not bring the rapist into the intimate sphere of family and close friends.

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Monika Soffronow 5 years ago

If a woman in the UK is raped and reports it to the police she will have to hand over her phone and the passwords for facebook, twitter etc. HER every comment and photo will be poured over and whatever can be found will be used as evidence against ... her, the victim!

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Bluebell Rizzi 5 years ago

Damn right. Clothes have nothing to do with it. #thisisnotconsent

7points

Ashley Say Wha?!?lol 5 years ago

Wow, I've never been asked this question and what's weird is all three times I can't remember at all. I guess I'm lucky and thankful no one has ever shamed me like that. Then again, I don't tell a lot of people or anything (except for right now I guess lol). Sadly, though, I know wayyy to many other victims, including several men. It's crazy how often this stuff actually does happen.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

I’m sorry to hear that, Ashley. Thank you for opening up. It’s important for women to support each other and speak out so we know we’re not alone.

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pratham ajila 5 years ago (edited)

Hi I am part of this community called Blank Noise which has spent over 10 years collecting garments and testimonials from victims of sexual assault in order to end victim blame. As a community member, I urge BoredPanda to give proper credit to the work which has been done by us and not publish articles without factual checks.

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Reginald Joseph 4 years ago

Oh wow!! Thank you for letting us know that this happened. I hope they credit you correctly and fact check from now on

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Ivana 5 years ago

I was five in the 90s so I was wearing these extremely colorful bike short, a t-shirt and pink jellies.

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Monika Soffronow 5 years ago

Powerful, and much too much to the point. The only victim who had never been asked "What were you wearing?" had instead been asked if he was gay ... Yes, men get raped too, and they are often in an even weirder position than female rape victims are. Now take a look at this: "The UN has backed a resolution on combatting rape in conflict but excluded references in the text to sexual and reproductive health, after vehement opposition from the US." (theguardian.com) and this: "The U.N. wanted to end sexual violence in war. Then the Trump adminisration had objections" (washingtonpost.com) Women need to participate more in politics, at all levels!

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Full Name 5 years ago

You need to hear what the specific objections were before commenting. Making it about gender is the lazy way out.

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Michèle Gyselinck 5 years ago

I think that women could wear a chador and still get assaulted. The rapist is not necessarily a stranger who is suddenly tempted into losing control of himself. And if they have so little self-control, it's not the victim's fault. Men need to take responsibility for their behavior.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

Women definitely get raped in chador. Chador is common in Iran where there are just as many rapes as every other country. (Not singling out Iran, I just know about chador in Iran because I’m Iranian)

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Erika Drewke 5 years ago

Hopefully this heartbreaking exhibition leads to the norm that the blame is never on the victims. It shouldn´t be needed anywhere, yet is it. And sadly the people who need to see this and understand this will never see it. I wore my normal clothes. Jeans and a tunic. Leggings,skirt and a tunic. Dress and leggings. Jeans again. But it shouldnt matter even if I was walking naked.

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Karolína T. 5 years ago

I would like to order to visit this exhibition as obligatory to our police. Cause this nauseating question is common from them. The police interview is then worse than the act I feel like in nightmare not in 21. century.

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Koalamonster 5 years ago

Posts like this are 100% necessary, but also make me nauseous and I can't avoid tearing up. I kept searching my memories to see if I could remember what shirt I wore- but I do think it was a regular tshirt. That with jeans- I didn't wear dresses then. Now I pretty much exclusively wear dresses. Having it be someone who was my "friend," who had just moved in to a house with my best friend's boyfriend, at a house I'd gone to almost every day- I've been kind of working through it recently, acknowledging that he knew exactly what he was doing that evening. Because it really isn't about clothes. It's about people taking your autonomy, using your body without permission, and in some cases (mine included) acting like it's a compliment. And then people are confused when all you wear for the next several months is oversized hoodies because you need a friggin security blanket to just exist in society.

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Monkeynaut 5 years ago

this makes me F ing sick Thats why rapist should be executed and thrown out like the trash they are

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Wendy Tanneberger 5 years ago

The children are in grave danger, especially since they may not even know what rape is.

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Russian Otaku 5 years ago

I recall there was this case a while back that mentioned the woman's underwear... that could not be seen until the assault... sooooo..... even going by the person was wearing that or this faulty logic it made no f*****g sense cause I recall her outfit was not see through

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debrina blackmoon 5 years ago (edited)

so disgusted and sad for all of these people...i was just 6 the first time, 9 the next. both times i wore a t shirt and i don't remember what kind of long pants now. 1. old man 2. teenage boy

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Kelly Hall 5 years ago

This was difficult to read, but so important. My support to all those who have suffered.

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zeldapajamas 5 years ago

I was wearing a t-shirt and shorts the first time it happened. With the second person, I was wearing a tank top and shorts. And the third person, that was the first time I had worn a dress in almost 5 years. It took me another year before I could put on a dress without feeling like I was going to throw up.

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Clipps / Xaften 2 years ago

im so sorry

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Kim Lorton 5 years ago

Victim blaming has been going on for hundreds of years! It has got to stop! That. Question should be illegal to ask a rape or. Sexual assault victim.. male or female or a f*****g child! It is so biased to shift blame away from the perpetrator on to the victim. In this day and age, there needs to be legislation at the top level. A victim is never at fault. And saying no, means nothing. If a cop. Or lawyer asks the victim, what were you wearing? Let’s make this question illegal. Because what a victim wears, is not the reason they were sexually assaulted. Ever.

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Richard Samul 5 years ago

An altar boy cassock.

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Kaisu 5 years ago

This is unfortunately common and the Catholic Church needs to do something about it

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Gracie Mae 5 years ago

I was hoping the mind-set of blaming the victim for what they were wearing was long gone...

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SharkTheCatt 2 years ago

I believe this was made to show that clothes don’t matter! There is a wide variety of outfits.

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Bepina 5 years ago

This just points out how ridiculouus and heartless is victim blaming. You don't need to provoke sex predator with "hot" clothes - they're sick people and of they decide to sexually assault someone, they'll do it, no matter what the victim is wearing or saying/doing. It makes me really sad and heartbroken that even today when we've made huge progress in human rights and protection, we still feel the need to judge the one that suffered - "you teased him, you deserved it", "you wore a mini skirt", "you're a man, you could have defended yourself" and so on.. shows just how much there is still to be worked on in regards to people's perception of sex crime.. and seeing children's clothing made me ill.

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Whiterain25 furry 5 years ago

Brooo 6 yrs old

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Kimberly Irving 5 years ago

This article brought tears to my eyes. Its sad that this is a thing & seeing the children's clothes nearly broke me.

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A Dyke From The Dreamworld 5 years ago (edited)

It absolutely broke my heart to see the cute little dresses belonging to the 5-year-old and 6-year-old... It takes a horribly sick person to rape anybody, but to rape a child? That's some next-level awfulness. My 14-year-old friend/neighbor was raped a few months ago and I will never forget the sight of the police at her house. Words cannot describe how terrible, how completely awful it is.

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Freya the Wanderer 5 years ago

"What were you wearing?" What a bunch of bulls###! None of those women was dressed provocatively - not even the one who was wearing a bikini, and she had every reason to be dressed that way. “Army ACU’s and I was carrying a gun. So much for that preventing anything” - take THAT, gun nuts! There goes another of your arguments. I don't object to the right to own firearms, but gun extremists need to get a clue.

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Wendy Tanneberger 5 years ago

This is very sad. We have to remember that there is still good in this world, along with the bad.

4points

Tracee Jeen 5 years ago

I've been trying to think of any other crime that the victims choice of clothing would be relevent. Point being, even from a police investigation standpoint, there are none and it's not relevant here either.

4points

Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

Perhaps a robbery? I guess I’ve heard people victim blame rich or rich-appearing people for flashing around money or wearing fancy clothes, that they look like a good target. I’m not sure if that’s a fair example. I’m just saying that SOME PEOPLE (not me) make this argument.

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Wen 5 years ago

Red footed pajamas

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Beth Arriaga 5 years ago

Pajamas.

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Emma, The Yellow Teletubby 4 years ago (edited)

Also- @Varanus Ex and @L.E.N, what the actual living, breathing, s******g, dying f**k is wrong with you people? I'm not so sure you'd be very happy if someone shoved their d**k/breast into you and then walked away laughing, would you? And ok if you would be, you're a little f'ed up, ngl. I get that somewhere along the line of your lives, someone might have drawn a scribble, but why the f**k are you on this post that is trying to support people hurting from a traumatic event just telling people "Lol, your story sounds like a doctor porno" (WTAF) "Just get over it" and "Holy - is your entire family rape-bait, or are you just full of s**t...?" Like WHAT THE ACTUAL S**T, THIS IS TRAUMATIC FOR PEOPLE YOU DISGUSTING M***********G SCUM OF THE UNIVERSE PEOPLE??? WHO HURT YOU THIS DAMN MUCH? I'll f*****g pray for you to get a new mind. This disgusts me. If something like this happened to you, how would you feel?

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Jacey Lynn 4 years ago

Poor people! I hope that they’re doing better now.

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David Jeu 5 years ago

I feel sick right now.

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Annie J. 5 years ago

I feel horrible for the men and women who had to go through this. I know a guy who was drugged and tied to his bed while being raped by multiple drunk women. A girl I know was fingered at the age of seven, and my cat was even forced to suck on his former owner's penis. Rape is awful, and it leaves scars that never go away.

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Janine Randall 5 years ago

I don't know how people can even ask that question. Victim blaming for sexual assault seems to be the norm. Sometimes the rapist will say the victim flirted with him or came on to him (or her). That's sickening for an adult survivor of rape, but a child? As someone else said, "the 6 year old with the sun dress made me ill".

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Caroline Driver 5 years ago

What do they expect people to say they were wearing, titty pasties and a thong? So irrelevant I can't even express it.

3points

Emma, The Yellow Teletubby 4 years ago

And @Varanus Ex learn to be empathetic, "you c**t."

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Emma, The Yellow Teletubby 4 years ago

I was 4 or 5 years old, he was 13. I had my favorite outfit on; my green jean top and a red jean skirt. I was at the babysitter's house. I trusted her, him, my sister, and the babysitter's daughters. The door was open and I was screaming for help because for some odd reason, I knew what was going on. They kept walking past the open door, responding to my screams with "go get so-an-so." "go get so-and-so.", passing it on from one of them to the other. Our babysitter was asleep downstairs, on the couch. To this day I don't trust people to help me when I ask for it, so I just don't. I don't let people help me because of that. I also get extremely anxious if I'm left alone with a dude. Or with a single person, for that matter. I get anxious and start shaking and crying if I am left alone, too, because it is always at the back of my mind, stabbing at me ever so subtly, so when I'm alone, that's all I can think about. I confided this to my dad. His response? "Just don't think about it."

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Emma, The Yellow Teletubby 4 years ago

I felt so safe there, too. I also panic when someone tries to give me a hug. My dad was also angry that I didn't tell him until then because "He could be out there, as a youth pastor or someone in a position of power over little girls and boys, doing to them what he did to them! He could be arrested for that." That DEFINITELY did not help. Parents, if your child confides something like this to you, listen to them. Don't guilt them or make them feel even more guilty and shameful. Do not shame them for feeling shameful. Just be there to support them, for f**k's sake. It hurts, Ok? And if you tell your kid that you'll get them a counseling session to talk about it, f*****g do it. I still feel disgusted and disgusting and helpless and shameful. I'm still feeling suicidal BECAUSE OF THAT. But I can't tell anyone that, because 1) They'll send me to a mental hospital or something and 2) I'm the "bubbly" one, and if I try to talk about deep stuff, I'm shamed for it. I f*****g hate myself.

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Dorothy Parker 4 years ago

Broke my heart.

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deanna woods 5 years ago

This happened to my mom when she was a kid and it was done by her stepfather and a man at church. Physical affection is hard for her, but she never refuses my siblings and I a hug. I don't think it should really matter what the person was wearing, it's wrong no matter what. When a person is raped and the authorities only concern is what they were wearing, the system has already failed them. PLEASE STOP BLAMING THE VICTIM FOR THE DEPRAVED AND VILE ACTIONS OF AN EVIL PERSON.

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Addison 5 years ago

It doesn't make a difference of what your wearing.... Sick monsters sexual assault babies and old ppl all the time. Tell me that what they are wearing is so tempting!? Yeah, makes me sick and puke! To have this up for ppl to read and such is to me pointless and no point! What is the f****n point!? IT DOES'NT MATTER WHAT YOUR WEARING!

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Ziggy Lee 5 years ago

I was wearing a long sleeve top and jeans. I was unconscious when it happened, and had to ask where my clothes were afterwards so I could get dressed to go home. Never thought about it until now but I don't think I ever wore that top again.

2points

Alan Wilkening 5 years ago

This is the single most powerful topical landing page I have ever seen on B.P. Wow. How to amplify and get broader exposure for this powerful message?

2points

Noah Chambers 5 months ago

If there is someone who is completely naked and masturbating in public, it still wouldn't be there fault. That would be a very very very very very inappropriate thing to do in public, but it still wouldn't be their fault. A same person would see that, think "that's really f*****g weird'', and call the cops because of indecent exposure or whatever. Even disgusting public displays give you no right to touch ANYONE

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The Goddess 2 years ago

I cried as I read this. To think people believe it is okay to ask such a thing. If I knew someone who had gone through this horrific thing, I would have asked if I could give them a hug. Then, say if they ever needed to talk, I was there. I would say I'm sorry and that they didn't ask for it nor deserved it. It's not okay to make them feel like it was their fault. This from a sexual abuse victim. It started when I was 7/8 and it was my grandfather. So, I know. It's not great being a statistic.

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OLIVI YAY (she/her)‍ 2 years ago

Wow. Just wow. That is crazy. It is so stereotypical that people think you have to be wearing a certain thing when raped. Seriously, this is heartbreaking and sad that SO MANY people had to go through this trauma.

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~Aro~ 3 years ago

I was 10 - wearing a pink shirt and gray sweats, my brothers bsf invited me over- I regret ever going, I wish I never met him, the worst part about this is my family still doesnt believe me. And he is still friends with the same guy, and he is still trying to touch me to this day. Im a guy it happens to everybody, not just women

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Mel Bolle 4 years ago

My daughters were victims of sexual assault. For years my youngest daughter wanted nothing to do with being a ‘girl’ and now has severe self esteem issues. My other daughter is an eon the road to becoming an extreme feminist and is very BIG on not being defined by her clothes. Also is with the free the boob movement and doesn’t like to wear bras. As a parent of sexual abuse victims, I want them to ‘cover’ themselves because the world is a nasty place. But then there is the flip side that I want to teach them they should not be targets because of their clothes!!! Thank you for this. I will continue to educate them in being Free, Modest young women. Clothing doesn’t stop the devil!

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Evelyn Moon 4 years ago

Any where this is posted you'll see comments from men who don't believe raping people or assaulting children sexually is a crime. They excuse, they deflect, they justify. If I was a man I'd go out of my way to fight and argue against that but it seems like mostly women are doing it. Wonder why that is.

1point

Bear_Panda_dear 4 years ago

These hateful people have been reported. Varanus Ex and the others. Just thought I'd let people know

1point

Sadie Shapiro 4 years ago

This happened to my friend. She was seven years old. :(

1point

Whiterain25 furry 5 years ago

noooooooooooooo

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Nostalgic Hyena 5 years ago

Victim blamers of all types are the worst. Oh, and people who try to imply "you took it the wrong way". I've never actually been sexually assaulted/harassed, but I've had someone grab my backpack at school and pull on it. When telling a teacher, she told me "I don't want to excuse his behavior, but maybe he's just being playful". No, you absolute dipsh*t.

1point

HoffLensMetalHedLovesAnimalsUK 5 years ago

This nearly brings me to tears, anyone trying to insinuate people are at fault at all because of what clothes they were wearing is despicable, mis-guided and beyond insulting. I hope they can all find some peace in their lives.

1point

Neal Evans 5 years ago

Am absolutely numb after finishing this article . May all victims find solace xx

1point

Amanda C 5 years ago

It's so sad when we see all those minors, I was never a victim but one of my friends were and I know how traumatising this feels like.

1point

Ed Souza 5 years ago

This post made me sick. Especially when seeing clothes of small children. I'm a father of a 7 yo and this is some scary s**t.

1point

Jo Firth 5 years ago

This is heartbreaking. No-one ever asks to be sexually assaulted no matter what they are wearing. IT'S. TIME. THIS. STOPPED!!!!

1point

MagicalUnicorn 5 years ago

clothes are irrelevant, wish people just stop raping..

1point

Allison Covet 5 years ago

Too sad. There are too many people in our world that think they have the right to take anything they want... innocence, security, safety... and then to demean the victims afterwards, by asking what they were wearing???? Sickening!

1point

varwenea 5 years ago

Powerful, potent, and disturbing. Showcasing what victim blaming really looks like. It's sickening.

1point

Richard 5 years ago

I don't get this. Why are women still asked those questions? What they wore is absolutely irrelevant! Even if they are naked, this does not give anyone the right to harass them.

1point

Lisa 5 years ago

This made me sob. But I'm going to bring it to my college. We should all spread it. So simple but powerful.

1point

Shyanna Rickert 2 years ago

I was wearing pink shorts and a Woody Shirt

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beckhansen13 2 years ago

I shouldn’t have read this. It makes me sick. Especially the little kids. There’s no adequate justice in this life for the perpetrators. Maybe death… The trauma of sexual abuse is like killing someone without killing them. I hate this world…

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Katie Dollar 2 years ago

The first time, I was wearing my school uniform (polo shirt and khaki slacks, 5th grade). The second time I was wearing a t-shirt and cargo shorts (6th grade). I am AFAB and i now do not feel safe around guys my age if I’m wearing anything shorter or more skin tight than an oversized t-shirt and baggy cargo shorts

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TheGhostUnderUrBed 3 years ago

this truly shows the horror of sexual assault, and i was so sad because i recognized the jayhawks logo

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Ann Willias 3 years ago

My mother keeps telling me that I'm going to be raped one day or be placed in the back of a van because I look younger than my actual age and that I wear short skirts (slightly longer than mini-skirts). I'm 21-

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Shawn Weiler 3 years ago

I don't see a burka on the exhibit. The sari comes closest. Outside of the possibly the sari, every picture above shows immodest clothing. The question isn't exactly what was worn, but the relative chance that a person would be raped if the person was wearing immodest clothing.

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Shawn Weiler 3 years ago

I don't see a burka on the exhibit. The sari comes closest. Outside of the possibly the sari, every picture above shows immodest clothing. The question isn't exactly what was worn, but the chance that a person would be raped if the person was wearing immodest clothing.

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Natalie Rachel Price 3 years ago

First time, school uniform Second time, tshirt and jeans Third time, tshirt and jeans Fourth time, pyjamas

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JennyBee 3 years ago

....nasty

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Haylin PM 4 years ago

Thank god this exists to show that it's not the victim's fault with they get raped, especially when they need the most support. Also, I wore a long sleeve shirt and sweatpants.

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The anonymous one 4 years ago

I was.. maybe six or seven, likely in a bright pink tee shirt and kapris. I thought my cousin was gonna share the secret passcode to a cool teenager club. I was wrong. Luckily for me, I’ve repressed the memory and it’s extremely faint now. I’m fairly certain I was sick at the time though.

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Anita Drieseberg 4 years ago

Meanwhile, here in San Francisco men walk around completely naked and don't get assaulted. Though I'd like to punch them in the face because: GROSS.

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Miley Farrington 5 years ago

When are the people in this country going to realize that it isn't the clothes or gun,bat ,knife car that's the problem.the people in this country love to blame an inanimate object and not the real problem which is the person that is doing it.how is it that a whole lot of people in this country do not realize that.

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Nami Tantrum 5 years ago

i get the feeling some of you didn't read what the exhibit is about. OF COURSE you should not ask a vicim that question because it doesn't matter what they where wearing, it's a horrible crime BUT and that is the point; it is often sais that the victim could have prevented it by not DRESSING TOO SEXY for example...it's about showing them that it was not their fault because of the way they dress,,, however maybe don't just ask that if you're not a psychiatrist

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DANNY DIVITO 4 years ago

you are a disgusting human

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

That’s extremely condescending and rude. So inappropriate.

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Foxxy 5 years ago

You are a nasty piece of work.

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Desiree Summer 5 years ago

youre a horrible person. Sexual assault is not something you can just get over. It is traumatizing. we are not being whiny bitches about it. we are spreading awareness. speaking our truth. maybe even helping others along the way. people like you make us believe we shouldn't feel the way we feel. we were forced against our will to endure something we didnt want to endure. nightmare fuel. no means no. I wish nothing bad upon you. but please do not try to act like sexual assault is something you can brush off your shoulder.

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Nia Loves Art 5 years ago

How about not sexualizing FIVE year old children?

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Agnes Jekyll 5 years ago

Rape victims get asked this all the time. Why the f**k do you think this exhibit exists. It doesn't come out of a vacuum.

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Daria B 5 years ago

Maybe a bit off topic, but speaking about your example about leaving your car open and stuff. Take this. Seoul, S. Korea, a coffee shop at the city centre. You came to the coffee shop alone, you pick a seat, you live your handbag/backpack there, and excuse yourself to go to the toilet, while your stuff is unattended. You go back from the toilette to your seat, to find your stuff untouched and nothing missing. Now... Try doing this in the centre of, for example, Milano, or Zagreb, or Paris.... Might not get robbed, but it's highly advised not to leave your belongings unattended, and for good reasons. My point is, it's not as simple as you're saying.

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Nia Loves Art 5 years ago

These aren’t the items of clothing. They are similar clothing.

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