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The modern dating game can be a bit of a rollercoaster. While dating apps make it easier than ever before to search for your ideal partner, they’re also rife with people putting up a front, serial daters, and those just “keeping their options open.”

One person recently turned to the internet to ask, “What’s one 'type' you’ll never date again?” and netizens were only too happy to share their less-than-ideal experiences with past partners. Here’s our collection of the kinds of dates it’s probably best to avoid.

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    A person with a laptop looking frustrated while another person gestures, implying a discussion about type to never date again. They think they want a girlfriend but actually want a Mom.

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    Lila Allen
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    According to virtually all AITA posts this type is surprisingly common.

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    Man sitting on bed, distressed, while a woman stands in the background, illustrating a relationship moment to never date again. The “constantly in a crisis but never does anything to fix it” type.

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    tw 72
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    X-friend of mine absolutely thrived in self-induced havoc, always needing a bail-out. It was exhausting.

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    When it comes to dating, everyone has their deal-breakers. But sometimes, it takes a truly disastrous relationship to realize which types of people are a hard "never again." A viral Reddit thread asked users to share the type of person they’ll never date again, and the responses range from hilarious to downright terrifying.

    The interesting thing is that you can tell a lot about a potential partner right from the first date. In her article for Business Insider, Lindsay Dodgson lists several red flags to look out for on a first date that could suggest someone isn’t right for you—or could even be toxic.

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    A worried couple sitting on a bed, illustrating relationship issues and stress, highlighting what type never date again. Someone who doesn’t want to communicate when something is bothering them.

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    Woman in glasses taking a selfie in a cafe, breakfast on the table; focus on "never date again." Addicted to social media and selfies.

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    Man holding a glass of whiskey, contemplating, illustrating what type to never date again. Alcoholic.

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    3 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex whom I told to kick rocks after he drank when I told him I would if he did, now lives with his enabler dad who buys him booze and d r u g s. He posts the most insane c**p on his Facebook. He now has alcohol induced psychosis and alcohol induced epilepsy, along with liver failure. He's drinking himself to d-e-a-t-h. I have no sympathy for him, he's not long for this world and he did it to himself.

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    According to Dodgson, things to look out for include them being late but not telling you, wanting to meet somewhere that makes you uncomfortable, being rude to the waiter, aggressively romantic gestures, a lack of respect for your boundaries, and any behavior suggesting control issues.

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    "People tend to present their best self initially so if any of these behaviors or traits manifest early on, it is important to pay attention," says relationship coach Susan Trotter. "It is likely that these issues won't change and in fact, will likely worsen and become toxic over time," adds Trotter.

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    Woman in distress sitting on the kitchen floor, contemplating relationship decisions. Anyone with substance abuse issues. Done that twice, never again.

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    Man in yellow beanie and blue jacket smirking, standing in front of bookshelf. “Intellectuals” who never admit they’re wrong about anything.

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    Ravenkbh
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    4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate people like that. Fortunately I'm never wrong so I don't have to worry about it. But those other guys....

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    In her article for Psychology Today, Theresa DiDonato writes that having a "type" suggests we sort through available potential partners, prioritizing some over others in a way that shows some consistency. It also suggests that the kinds of people who are willing to date us might be a group of people with shared characteristics. 

    According to DiDonato, in some ways, a familiar-but-different person as a dating partner could foster a feeling of comfort and closeness. It might take less time to feel like you know the person. You also might already have ways of managing a certain personality pattern, having worked out the quirks in a previous relationship.

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    Woman in gloves taking a break from house cleaning, sitting on the floor with vacuum and supplies around her. The type that weaponise their incompetence when it comes to basic house chores. It was exhausting.

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    4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't care about him not doing chores as long as he is bringing the necessary money. This way the house looks exactly like I want to, and I'm sure things are done properly, and I don't have to wonder if someone else would do a mediocre work. As long as he contributes with enough money, I can't care less about him doing chores.

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    Three friends lying on a bed, smiling at the camera; focuses on relationships. First time I hear the word “poly” I’m out the f****n door. Nope nope nope. Go find someone else’s time to waste that isn’t going to be loyal anyway.

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    Man angrily arguing, highlighting a type to avoid dating. The ones with super anger problems.

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    Lila Allen
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But ignores women because they are " emotional and irrational"...as if anger weren't an emotion

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    Some people don’t just swear off a type, they turn their backs on dating altogether. In his article for Forbes, Mark Travers writes that societal standards sometimes leave singles feeling like social pariahs, but the truth is that there are many people for whom singlehood is a conscious choice. It works better for them, just as marriage and parenting work better for others.

    Research suggests the preference for singlehood is more common than we might think. According to some estimates, approximately half of adults find it difficult to be in long-term intimate relationships, so they spend considerable amounts of time being single. One study even shows that having a job is, in fact, more important to our life satisfaction than being in a relationship or married. Who knew?

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    Man in blue shirt removing a ring, symbolizing a decision on what type to never date again. Married. Had no idea until his wife reached out to me after the fact….

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    JB
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one’s dumb. Sure, if you know he/she is married, then don’t date them. But, how are you supposed to know they’re married when they deliberately don’t tell you or actually say they aren’t? I don’t think you’re going to successfully avoid dating a married liar unless someone else warns you.

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    Woman in a brown hoodie appearing contemplative during a conversation, highlighting relationship challenges. Someone who only sees the negative and bad in life and refuses to change their mind set. It is really mentally draining on both people.

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    Lila Allen
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Are we talking the water isn't wet enough type or the might as well give up, we've already failed type?

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    Three young adults standing by a fence and container, chatting casually, wearing casual attire. Thugs and wannabe thugs.

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    Gingersnap In Iowa
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If your mom still drives you to school you ain't no gangster, pull your pants up! - Jeff Foxworthy

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    Well, hopefully by now you have a better idea of the walking red flags you should try to skip the next time you venture out into the wild world of dating. Who knows? It might help you dodge a bullet and save yourself a world of hurt.

    So, do you have a type you’ve sworn off dating ever again? Or one that even put you off dating for good? Have a look through the cases in this list, upvote your worst, and don’t forget to leave a comment if you can relate!

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    Man lifting dumbbells at the gym, focusing on his workout, representing fitness and strength. The gym bro who made everything about fitness. Don't get me wrong, I love staying healthy, but I don't need a lecture about my macros while I'm enjoying my birthday cake. Last straw was when he tried to turn our date night into a couples workout session.

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    A woman in a red sweater avoiding eye contact with a man in a leather jacket outside. Manipulators.

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    #18

    Hand placing coin in a jar labeled "Retirement," symbolizing saving habits. Those joylessly frugal “retire early by depriving yourself of every minuscule joy in life and holding onto every last penny” people. I’d rather work till I’m 75 than retire at 40 and spend the remaining decades of my life using the gross non-dentist accredited toothpaste and taking flights with 4 layovers because it’s $100 cheaper. Nobody ever got rich clipping coupons.

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    Vinnie
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    4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dad. Who would buy food in bulk. It wasn't a saving because much of it went bad before he could eat it.

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    DJ with headphones and sunglasses, energetically playing music on stage, vibrant lights in background. Another “DJ”…….

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    #20

    A couple in pajamas on a bed, looking distressed, illustrating relationship difficulties and themes of whom never to date again. Emotionally avoidant.

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    Thoughtful woman in a hoodie, representing the type never to date again. The insanely insecure.

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    Lyoness
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    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yup. Having to provide constant reassurance is exhausting.

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    Man in a red shirt laughing at a party, representing the type to never date again. A man who is impulsive and hyperactive. These folks are fun to hang out with from time to time but when their mood sours they have no control of emotions.

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    A couple at a table with orange bowls, woman looking frustrated, discussing what type to never date again. Energy vampire, drains emotionally and mentally.

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    Man painting enthusiastically at a table, surrounded by art supplies, reflecting on what type to never date again. Anyone without hobbies or interests of their own. I do not want to be any mans hobby/project.

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    #25

    Woman in white shirt working at a desk with a laptop, talking on phone, highlighting what type never date again scenario. Entrepreneurs.

    Dated a girl who owned her own business. It wasn't her busyness that bothered me, I liked that. It wasn't her independence, that was great. It wasn't her strong character, that was commendable.

    It was the fact that she believed the sun shone out of her a*s because she owned her own company and the rest of us were just brokey wage slaves who simply did not have the drive that she had. She believed that she was more disciplined, more driven, more intelligent and overall a superior person to all others just because she had her own business. Those of us who sought after regular employment were simply not as successful or driven as her.

    I now earn more in my corporate job per month than she did in her busiest months.

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    Romy Rösli
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    4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So the poster actually means „arrogant people“, not entrepreneurs.

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    #26

    Couple sitting apart on a beige sofa, arms crossed, looking away, highlighting what type never date again scenario. Dudes named Matt. Matts, I’ve had enough.

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    Vinnie
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    4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So Oscar Wilde was right about The Importance of Being Earnest?

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    Person in blue shirt on couch, stressed, holding drink, another seated nearby. Discussion on never date again type. ADHD with borderline disorder.

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    Lila Allen
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    5 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok this is not a type. This is a category of people with neurodivergence and mental illness. Don't assume everyone who fits this category is bad or not fit for a relationship

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    Poll Question

    What type of person is most challenging to date?

    The over-committed workaholic

    The overly jealous partner

    The one with no sense of humor

    The habitual liar