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30 People Share Weird Family Things That They Didn’t Realize Were Not Normal When They Were Kids
Raising mentally resilient kids makes them better prepared to tackle problems on their own. In fact, studies have found that they're more likely to be engaged in school and in their future jobs.
However, parenting is hard work and sometimes even good intentions don't guarantee the best outcomes. Not to mention moms and dads who may have found themselves unprepared for the job.
Earlier this month, Reddit user J---L submitted a question to the platform's community 'Entitled Parents', asking, "What’s something completely insane your parents did that you only understood how messed up it is when you became older?"
Turns out, there's no shortage of such examples. J---L has received hundreds of replies, many of which detail tough personal experiences. Continue scrolling to check out some of the most upvoted ones and don't miss the conversation we had with writer, director, broadcaster, and founder of the parenting blog Honest Mum, Vicki Broadbent.
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#1
My parents used to strip us naked and lock us out of the house from Friday to Monday morning as punishment. I was in 2nd grade when this started.
They would flip over chairs and have us lay over the backs, and tie our arms and legs to the chairs and beat us with the buckle end of the belt until blood splattered the walls, "so we would bleed for our sins."
They used to turn the stove on and wait until the burner was red hot and hold our hands JUST above the burners while we sobbed uncontrollably. This only stopped once I passed out a few times and had burns so bad they required ER visits. The Docs asking questions made them stop that.
At age 6 my mom caught her boss touching me and from that point on would SCREAM at me on a daily basis about being a s**t and asking how many d***s did I suck? Regularly. Until I moved out at 14.
Slamming our heads into walls and when we fell, kick us in the head, back, face, ribs until their legs got tired and they would tap out with each other.
When my parents found out my brother used to sexually assault my sister and I from age 7-13 they blamed me for it and cut me out of the family entirely. Despite my brother admitting to it and confessing he sold me to his friends as early as 3rd grade. I still have those texts and read them anytime I miss having a "family" to remind myself they never were that to me. I'm better off alone.
Tom Brown 1 year ago
I suspect you have an inner strength most of us can only dream of, no one should have to endure any of that
Teresa Thomas 1 year ago
Its not strength. It was literal survival. The trauma likely induced on their psyche is horrific
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Alexandra Davis 1 year ago
Reading the comments on Reddit the OP now has her own family and has cut all ties with her family. Her sister was murdered when she was 15 and her older brother in is jail. She helped het younger brother escape and paid for his schooling until it came out that her older brother SA her and her younger brother took his mums side and moved back to het. OP is one strong woman to have come through this and out the other side.
Ample Aardvark 1 year ago
That's horrific, the parents should have gone to prison as well, but I'm glad she has a decent life now
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BetterBitterButter 1 year ago
Reading this made me feel like hell and I can't imagine actually experiencing these. Not every parent deserves a child. Hope OP is doing better now. They deserve to be punished and has no right being called a "family"!
Miriam L 1 year ago
This isn't "wierd things families do." This is abuse of a particularly horrifying and disgusting kind. I know many of the examples here are going to cross the line into emotional abuse and mental distress because when the weirdness, double standards, and unreasonable expectations come from your primary caregivers, it hurts. It messes you up. But this isn't one weird expectation. This is just pure horror. I'm glad OP is out and safe. I'm ticked off that BP would put this in a post without some kind of warning.
kansasmagic 1 year ago
My first thought too - this isn't "weird," it's straight up child abuse.
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Mrs Irish Mom 1 year ago
Wow i had to read it twice because thats probley the most sick story of child abuse i have ever heard about in my whole life, im shocked that school, neighbours didnt report anything
Filipa Menezes 1 year ago
This article should be called "People recall the abuse they endured as children". This is not a family quirk as the title implies
Metalhead Turtle 🇺🇦 1 year ago
Yeah. This is at number one and I don't want to read any more. According to an earlier comment, OP has cut off all family ties. My heart aches for them.
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The Original Bruno 1 year ago
OK, this isn't a "weird thing," this is one of the most horrific cases of abuse I've ever read. Please, BP: Watch how you market this! I was looking for, "herer's how wacky my parents were," not "here's the unending torture I received from psychopaths"
Singing Panda 1 year ago
Oh my God. This is awful. I hope you find some peace. You are so strong.
Terri Rimmer 1 year ago
I'm deeply sorry you went through that. I can't imagine. My dad sexually abused me from the time I was 3 to 17.
Lyoness 1 year ago
This is horrific. You did nothing to deserve any of it and none of it is your fault. I'm sure you know this but sometimes survivors need to hear it again, even if from a random stranger on the internet. And you have no responsibility to have a relationship with such sick individuals. I hope you've gotten some help to deal with this.
Maggie Mae 1 year ago
Yes you are & were better Off without them!! Some Folks just have Children so They Have someone They Can Beat Up I am Convinced of That!!An Adult would kick Their Asses! My Birth Mother Used to Tell Everyone I was all A*S & POCKETS & TITS!! I Always wear Loose Joging Clothes & if I Need to Go Out I wear Baggy Attire still to This day & I am 67 Now & they are Both in Hell Long DEAD & shoving CAOL into the FIRES for All Infinity and Beyond!!
Louisa Spoke 1 year ago
It’s terrible what you went through. You are strong but not tough I be inclined to believe. I lived through something similar. You are not alone. You do matter. Choose friends instead of family as you can’t choose family. I am sorry that happened to you and please know that you didn’t do anything wrong. You were a good child and the were/are the problem. May you please take care and stay safe.
A. Starhawk Hunt 1 year ago (edited)
Lord and Lady, you are amazing too have survived with enough courage to tell us this. I had, in some ways, a similar childhood with certain differences; I was not put out in the weather or beaten. I watched my brother beaten for something I had done and was to scared to admit, th he other side of my card is that, out of five immediate male family members 4 molested me. My youngest brother refused to be a part of it. When my father propositioned me when I was 35, I ended up in a mental ward, judged as suicidal. I gained courage enough from my male best friend (and, 20 years later, the love of my life) to put a stop to it when I was in my late teens…..and to help a friend stop her molestation.
Sara Wilson 1 year ago
I hope u find a true family if ur own making. Just because u share blood, doesn't mean u r "family"
UpupaEpops 1 year ago
I know it's asking a lot after enduring hell on earth, but I have to wonder if she managed to save her sister? I'm thinking about my baby sister and I know I'd go John Wick on anyone who hurt her.
Lydsylou 1 year ago
On the internet it says that her sister sadly was murdered at age 15. Idk who killed her
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Tabitha Osika 1 year ago
Ummm this is not weird things your parents did. This is horrific and you never deserved any of that. I am so sorry and send you all love and good vibes.
Debrina Blackmoon 1 year ago (edited)
Holy fukcin shyt!!! How vile!!! Monster psycho assholls!!!
Anxious&Bored Bear 1 year ago
I'm so glad you cut those toxic sh*ts out of your life, and I hope you are doing better.
Skulls.N.Succulents 1 year ago
I can't fathom how this didn't end in... "My parents and brother are dead and I served 25 of my 25-Life sentence. Got off for good behavior."
Barbara Forshee 1 year ago
I am sooooo sorry you had to live through all that. None of that was your fault. You deserved better than that and I hope you have gotten some counseling to help you deal with this abuse. I am soooo sorry.
ThatBlackNightingale 1 year ago
I'm so sorry for all the abuse and trauma you had to go through, that's plain up abuse, what horrible parents they are! I hope you find healing and strength, you are so strong, and know to never let them back into your circle again.
RabidChild 1 year ago
I hope the universe rains down light and luck on this child that's already been thru more hell.than any person should ever have to endure.And for these evil pus bags I wish nothing less than a Brothers Grimm kind of justice.
PeePeePooPoo 1 year ago
Oh dear God. I admire you for having strenght to write this and live with this every day. I hope you're surronded with people who love you and cherish you. Sending you a giant panda hug.
deanna woods 1 year ago
This is not "weird", this is sickening. Families are not supposed to act like this.
#2
My parents are Mexican immigrants but my dad became a us citizen along the way anyways. They raised me to cook and clean a was the middle child of two brothers. They always hated when I would focus on school work outside of school and would scream at me to stop. They said women are only good for cooking and cleaning. Currently I’m in school for my masters I’m working as a RN. My two brothers are working customer service jobs and both decided not to go to college after high school.
BetterBitterButter 1 year ago
Looks like the one only good for "cooking and cleaning" is cooking her own recipe of life while cleaning her obstacles.
"We are all flawed humans and parents, with most of us committed to improving on what we ourselves experienced at the hands of our own parents," Vicki Broadbent, the woman behind Honest Mum and the author of Mumboss: The Honest Mum’s Guide to Surviving and Thriving at Work and at Home, told Bored Panda.
"Every generation hopes to evolve for the better. It must be noted, however, that we are the first generation of parents as Gen X and Millennials who have embraced therapy without stigma, yielding positive results on our families, and hopefully our kids' kids."
#3
My mom found Christianity and made us all find it. Secular (non religious) cds got thrown away, we had to have angel television (only religious shows), we were forced to go to church/youth group/and church camp. Reading material was the Bible. We had no choice in the matter and were forced to be religious. If we questioned anything we were going to hell and grounded. Shocking that both my sister and I have zero to do with Christianity. Do not force your beliefs on your children. You can guide them but let them make their own choices. My daughters know I don't buy into any of that but I told them I will support whatever they believe as long as you don't use those beliefs to hate others.
Billy Harrelson 1 year ago
This is one that kept me from Christianity for so long. Turns out you can be Christian and listen to secular music (just be aware of what you're listening to), watch secular TV and even have things like tattoos and piercings (I have neither). You don't become perfect for being Christian. You're only trying to live as Christ did, but only he was 100% perfect. We as humans still fall short everyday but having the salvation that comes with knowing Christ died for our sins, that is what true Christianity is about.
#4
I had bowel issues from age 2 years to about 8 years of age that required multiple surgeries. I physically couldnt poo due to my colon having issues.
My parents locked me in the toilet room from lunchtime until bedtime once (8.5hrs) to try and force me to do a poo. Of course I couldnt as my body would not allow me to.
They put soap up my bottom and would often bash me to try scare me into pooing. My mother overdosed me on my bowel medications, as she was sick of dealing with my issue.
They treated me as if I was purposely holding onto my poo just to be 'naughty'.
Looking back now and having my own kids, I realise how messed up their behaviour was. How could they do that to someone they are supposed to love and protect?
Professional help can be really valuable to people who have gone through these things. "Therapy is a privilege, of course, and not accessible to all but where possible, my advice is to start therapy to heal generational trauma, your own childhood trauma, and thus understand who you are," Broadbent said.
But as she pointed out, many of us are lacking in self-worth and self-love. "It took me until 40 and after, years of therapy to deeply understand myself and feel good in my skin (and I'm a work in progress)," Broadbent revealed. "Parenting is triggering for everyone so understanding what your triggers are and how you can consistently parent positively is vital."
"If you can't access therapy, speaking candidly to close friends in a safe space and way to work through those formative negative experiences can be useful. Harnessing self-awareness is the building block to accountability and transformation."
#5
My father was absent until I was 11. He returned and my siblings and I went from neglect to extreme abuse.
We weren't allowed to win anything that involved my father.
Didn't matter if it was a board game, trivia, or a video game. If you won, he would beat you to prove that, "he really won". He was shocked and angry that no one wanted to play with him after the first week.
I wasn't allowed to wear shorts in the house because, "men have urges" and I was "causing a reaction". I didn't realize until last year what that meant. I was 13, which makes my skin crawl.
Everything I did was viewed as sexual. His way of telling me goodbye was, "don't come home with a wet a*s" and that I didn't need to work because I was "sitting on a gold mine".
I'm in my late-30s now and I'm still scared that I'm only good for sex. I've been working on it for years in therapy but the shame lingers.
#6
My mother got an internship three hours away from where we lived when I was 11 and my sister was 13. My mom moved there temporarily for six months. So every Friday for six months, my dad would put us on a Greyhound bus and we would ride it alone for three hours and my mother would pick us up and then send us home the same way. My sister was in her "cool teenager" phase, so I got to sit with a lot of weird adults for six months who told me their life stories.
As a teacher now, I cannot fathom putting two children alone on a Greyhound bus one time, let alone for six months over and over again.
After my parents got divorced when I was 14, my mother got a promotion on the East coast (we lived in Arizona). She needed to go to three months of training in Virginia before her job actually started. So she left my sister and I alone for three months. And then she came back and we packed up and moved. She never called to check in, she never had friends stop by to check on us. It was up to me to get me and my older sister fed and to school every day.
Great mother. Haven't spoken to her in almost a decade. I hope she rots.
Mila Preradović 1 year ago
I won't go in other parts of the post that are messed up, but putting the kid on the bus and set them on their merry way was fairly common in the 80s and 90s Europe. I was 11.5 when I was put on the bus from Croatia to my uncle in Frankfurt, Germany (15+ hours ride) with a walkman and some sandwiches. My mum gave the bus driver 20 DM (Deutsch Marks) to keep an eye on me from time to time and that was it. We all travelled like that - to grandma/grandpas in the country, or at the seaside, or to another country. 🤷♀️Nothing traumatic about that.
However, the good news is that many moms and dads care about their children's emotional well-being. According to a new Pew Research Center survey, about four-in-ten U.S. parents with kids younger than 18 say they are extremely or very worried that their little ones might struggle with anxiety or depression at some point.
In fact, mental health concerns top the list of parental worries (followed by 35% who are similarly concerned about their children being bullied).
Although it's worth mentioning that quite a few parents probably would have at least some criticism for their own folks, as 44% claim they are trying to raise their children differently from how they were raised.
#7
I was never an acceptable weight. If I was 115 pounds, I looked anorexic. If I gained five pounds, I was told my "a*s looked six axe handles wide." Consequently, I am still unable to tell what I actually look like.
I was also accused of "sleeping with half the Western hemisphere"...before I had even received my first kiss.
#8
Mine were champions of mixed messages. To the point I still doubt my first instincts, or initial decision, At 47 years old!
They would complain I wasn't dressing nice enough, for school or other events,, then refuse to let me wear a silk shirt out, as if it was something reserved for the queen. I have snuck out a nice blouse on several occasions.
Dad would tell me there must be something wrong with me because I wasn't "going out" like other teenagers. Then tell me by going out somewhere when I don't know everyone, I'm going to get myself raped.
That's just 2 examples
So I second guess *everything *.... still
"Putting the hard work in evolving, be it therapy or understanding how to manage your own emotions and stress levels, is critical as a parent," Broadbent added. "You can then model that behavior to your own children. Prioritizing self-care where possible (I know it's not easy) will make you a more compassionate parent. Exercise, eating well and healthily, and taking up yoga/ mindfulness will make the world of difference."
Luckily, when KidsHealth.org and TIME for Kids asked more than 9,000 children ages 8 to 14 about their family relationships, 85% said they have fun with their parents and 79% said they feel close to their parents.
#9
These are probably small things in comparison but the older I get, the more they upset me. They wouldn't pay for glasses for me even though I literally couldn't see the blackboard at school. My dad took me for an eye exam and when I was perusing frames afterwards, he came up to me and said "what are you doing? I never said I was buying you glasses" in this aggressive, angry tone. My dad wasn't usually like that and it still confuses me to do this day. Idk why he was angry at me over needing glasses (which I finally got at 23 when my state insurance actually covered them, which they do not any more and only did so for about a year). I wear glasses 24/7, I obviously needed them. They also would not pay for braces and now my teeth are screwed up. They never taught me how to drive but they did teach my 3 siblings. My dad is a software engineer, he has always made decent money. So it wasn't bc we couldn't afford it.
#10
My dad demanded my sister and I put our dogs outside in a lightning storm to pee with their invisible fence collars on. We didn't do it and they were in the house when he got home. The storm was even worse at this point.
In response, he put them outside himself, then locked me and my sister in the dogs' crates in the garage to "show us how the dogs felt" for a few hours.
I'm not losing any sleep about him being gone.
#11
I would stay up until 3am working for my parents business. When I was 13. And it was a smoking establishment.
I would deliver food to sketchy parts of town by myself. As a 16 year old girl.
My mom started s**t shaming me at 12 for what seemed like everything.
This doesn't include the physical, emotional and sexual abuse. I didn't know why but I felt so ashamed even as a kid and I thought it was my fault.
Needless to say, we don't speak anymore.
#12
I would get accused of being pregnant at 16. I had heavy periods that would be every 32-35 days instead of 28. She would monitor my period and then accuse me of being pregnant if I didn’t have a period on day 29.
At one point I was anorexic and missed a period and she went mad insisting I was pregnant.
BetterBitterButter 1 year ago
Poor child was having health issues and mum was being like this?
#13
My mom giving me the silent treatment if I said something she disliked or did something that pissed her off. Half the time I didnt even know what Id done wrong!
As a mom now, I cant imagine ignoring my kid the way she did me or not outright correcting the issue.
#14
They would take my phone when I was a teen and text my friends pretending to be me to intentionally break up friendships. I’m talking 40 year old people texting 13-16 year olds saying they’re worthless and should give up or leave “me” alone. I used to just be mad and think it was a normal adult punishing me because it was their property. Now I look back and think of how much enjoyment they got bullying children and saying the most awful things.
#15
Hearing my mom say to me and my older sister she can't wait for us to grow up and move out the house since I was 7yo. When I finally gained some independene and tried to move out with my bf, she kept nagging for me to delay the move or come visit frequently after I was no longer living in her house. Similarly, as a teen, I would often go visit friends across the country for several days at a time. Kept calling to ask where I was and when I'm coming back, guilt tripping me to not stay long because that was poor guest etiquette(??), even though I was invited. When I finally got back, she and my dad viciously asked when is the soonest I can go away again. Havent spoken to them in two years, best decision ever.
Billy Harrelson 1 year ago
My sister-in-law did this to my nephew. From the time he was 10 she started counting down the days until he turned 18 and would have to leave and get his own place. Told everyone who would listen that the day after his 18th birthday he would be out on his rear and fending for himself. He's about to be 21 now and still living with her and helping with bills. My niece, on the other hand, was thrown out of the house at the age of 17 (she's 18 now) by the same sister-in-law. Was constantly shamed on her weight and how she dressed (any skin showing was simply WRONG). Her 13 year old sister, though, is praised for her weight and allowed to dress however she likes.
#16
I never received any recognition for the good things I did. Only greif when I messed up.
As a result, I (now 40) still have trouble recognising when people do or don't like me. I also have very little confidence in myself. I also struggle with motivation to do things.
Now, my problem is that even though I can see what the problem is, and where it came from, I don't know what to do with it. I have repeatedly asked the NHS for help, as going private (for therapy) isn't financially viable. As of now (4 years into asking for help), I have received 6 50 minute sessions, of therapy. Which, in my own words, is like showing up to an earthquake with a dust pan and brush.
#17
Having to eat soap or hot sauce when one of us lied/said a bad word/backtalked. Didn’t matter who did it, I was punished too. And if one of my siblings broke a major rule, I MUST have also done it so would get grounded and lectured, but the sibling that did it would get a minor punishment.
Basically my parents confessed that they thought by showing my siblings that I could be punished, it would deter them from breaking more rules.
#18
I'm nowhere near the level or even same universe as many here. My mom was just... inattentive. I realize now looking back that she was terribly depressed, so she would often sleep the day away while young me would putter around the house, watch TV, eat cereal for every meal until she'd finally get up just before my dad got home. She still jokes about the time I locked myself in the refrigerator as a toddler and she couldn't find me for almost an hour. By the time I was 12, we got Internet in our house (this was the late 90s) and I basically just set my own schedule, stayed up all night on chatrooms if I wanted. My room and the computer were on the opposite end of the house so nobody ever bothered me.
They were lucky that I was a "good" kid with crushing anxiety of my own that prevented me from taking advantage of their laissez-faire parenting style because I honestly can't remember my parents ever... parenting me. Never had hard rules, never had a curfew. I raised myself.
#19
I was obsessed with buttoning the top button on casual shirts. It felt safer to me to be buttoned up tight, probably because bodily autonomy was non-existent in my family. My mother HATED this habit. It got to the point where whenever she caught me with the top button closed, she would reach in with one finger, hook it behind the button and yank hard enough to pop the button off the shirt. It hurt like hell and usually caused bruises on the back of my neck along with a scratch from her fingernail in front. More than once she had to pull so hard, she backhanded me in the chin when the button finally popped off. She would always say, "That's one collar you can't button anymore".
Now, I can't stand to have anything around my neck.
Thanks mom, you saved me from walking around with my shirt collar closed.
#20
Basically my dad locking me in the house and never letting me leave outside of taking me to school. And sleeping in the same bed as my dad until I was 14. He only let me have my own room when he remarried. And he made me shower with him too.
#21
First few weeks of 1st grade in a new town, I met a fellow little girl on the school bus. We hit it off and somehow a playdate was arranged. I had younger siblings so my dad was the one to drop me off for the playdate at their little 1 story bungalow. My little friend's mom was single and she invited my dad in for coffee.
Next thing I knew, we looked up from playing Barbies on the floor and my dad and her mom were running back and forth from her bedroom to the only bathroom across the hall, taking turns wearing the mom's pink bathrobe.
When we left my dad told me not to tell my mom about anything that happened because if I did she would leave us and I'd never see my mom again. That's how the affair that broke up my parents marriage started, and eventually both my parents blamed me. "If you hadn't insisted on playing with that trashy little girl" etc.
DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago
Oh yeah, cause it's her fault...my goodness, people can be delusional.
#22
My male parent was horribly paranoid about everything. If I was allowed to spend time with a friend, he would obsessively call their house to make sure I was "really there". One time we left to a half block for some ice cream. He called when we were out, and that turned into a massive eruption. This particular behavior lasted until I moved out at 24yo.
If it were a movie, he'd find out exactly what time the movie started and ended, then camp out in a parking lot across from the theater to make sure we didn't leave the theater. And EVERYTHING was like this.
A scumbag who was mad that I wasn't interested in him convinced his mom to call my male parent and lie to him, saying I'd come by his house to have sex. That was the absolute worst thing I could possibly ever do in his eyes, even though he was an atheist. I had every avenue of communication with the outside world taken away, and was treated like I was the worst person in the world. My best friend at the time was good enough to call the b***h and convince her to call back saying she'd made a mistake. But since it was more fun or something to be hateful, he didn't believe her THAT time.
I pretty much wanted to be unalive for a far back as I can remember. I moved 1000 miles away, and despite my now ex being a jerk, I was much happier with his type of abuse. And once I was free of HIM, I've loved my life ever since, and am very happy. And still 1000 miles away from the crazy.
There's so much more of course. Being a child in a grocery store and being angrily yanked out of the way of someone because they happened to want to look at something where I was standing (even though I was just following HIM)? Made me pathologically terrified of being even mildly inconvenient to anyone, especially strangers. Just one little detail among many.
#23
One summer, my mom took away all my toys because she said I wasn’t taking care of them by leaving them on the floor. She told me she threw them away. That year for Christmas, all I got was a garbage bag of my old toys. My sister got a new bike. I was I’m my thirties before I realized how messed up that was. She didn’t even wrap them!
Mochi 1 year ago
My mum says that she'll throw it away if we leave it in the hallway, floor, etc. She just kept them until you forgot about them and you'd earn them back by doing extra chores. Usually my siblings would understand how much I wanted it back and the lengths I would go to get it back, and would have me do THEIR chores so that they didn't have to do anything. I'm sorry that you had to go through this.
#24
My mom threatened to kill me and herself by driving into oncoming traffic.... I was twelve.
#25
Not having locks on doors I used.
Now when I go to their house I always lock the door when I use the bathroom or change. I’ve gotten into screaming matches with my mom about it.
#26
Mother told me to always keep a blanket covering my bottom “in case someone is watching you while you sleep”. Also, when changing clothes, “remove panties last and put them on first”.
As I’m typing this, I wonder if it had to do with growing up with tons of siblings in the house. Seems pretty creepy to me, though.
GirlFriday 1 year ago
I grew up with tons of siblings in the house (12 brothers), and was never told anything like this. We were told to always lock the door when we were changing and to knock and wait to be allowed in if any door in the house was closed.
#27
The difference between how my stepmom raised me, compared to how she is with my half sister. My sister can do no wrong. I have seen my sister get in my mom's face and scream at her, yet I couldn't even "backtalk". All I could say was yes ma'am or no ma'am, anything else and well... Let's just say my cheeks hurt. The huge 180 difference between how we were raised, still amazes me to this day
#28
I was repeatedly informed that they’re spending a lot of money on me and that other parents don’t do so. So I should feel obliged. It took me more than a decade to realise what she said was problematic, and I could not shake of the feeling of being indebted to her till the day she passed.
#29
My mom was a super clean freak growing up. To the point that i could never clean my room to her standards. Even if my dad help cleaned it. She would even start vacuuming in the middle of the night at times. She also would repose my action figures and models. Then yell at me if i complained or changed them bacl
#30
Making me comfort her when things were stressful instead of comforting me. I had to be her emotional support person as a child. A few times she'd get angry and call me 'mom' like it was an insult. And she was oddly competitive with me for no reason, I just wanted my mom to love me
What do you think ?
Miriam L 1 year ago
These are stories of child abuse. Not weird family quirks or that one obnoxious thing your otherwise loving parents do. Bored Panda, this shouldn't be mined for content. This isn't entertainment. At the very least, change the **** title so people have a better idea of what to expect. I work with kids. I'm friends with people whose "parents" should be in prison for crimes like these. Yeah I'm angry. I know BP is 90% Reddit reposts, and I've read some nasty stuff on here. I don't know if this crosses some kind of internal line or if expecting stuff like the blurb (the silk shirt story, not that the mixed messages and unreasonable expectations aren't their own kind of abuse) and then getting hit in the lungs with the violent and multifaceted abuse of the most upvoted story.
arthbach 1 year ago
I was coming here to make exactly this post. This is abusive. There's nothing quirky about it.
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BetterBitterButter 1 year ago
I couldn't finish the list. Not every parent deserves to be a parent. Don't give trauma to kids. I know how it sticks with you even when you're a grown up.
Becky Samuel 1 year ago
It's easy to point fingers from a pedestal, but at least half of these stories are parents that were suffering from untreated mental illness. If you're raised to believe that seeking treatment for mental illness is weak or shameful then the rage, fear and guilt become internalised and those around you suffer too. Better interventions for families with mental health issues and better access to treatment are absolutely vital.
Load More Replies... GirlFriday 1 year ago
In my family, you had to pin your dirty socks together before you put them in the hamper. If mom found a pair of unpinned socks in the laundry, she would make us all sit at the table while she showed us AGAIN how to pin socks. I did not know that pinning socks together was not standard laundry procedure until I was in college and my roommates looked at me like I was crazy. However, I am the youngest of 13 children, so I understand the need for the procedure. THIS IS AN EXAMPLE OF A WEIRD FAMILY QUIRK. Abuse is not a weird family quirk. BTW - I still pin my dirty socks together before washing them.
Brocken Blue 1 year ago
Thank you! This was exactly the kind of story I was hoping for when I first opened this list and did not find. While I’m sure it was annoying for you kids, your mom is low-key genius for outsmarting the hungry gremlins who live in laundry machines and eat loose socks 😂
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Diolla 1 year ago
Oh dear. I went into this list thinking it would be about funny/ silly family habits. But turned out to be a list of examples of parents who should not be parents. Really. How can you even think of doing such horriffic stuff to you own children? OK not all of them but the majority makes me feel blessed that I had a normal boring childhood. Life is not fair.
Stardust she/her 1 year ago
Got threatened with a knife by my dad because I was suicidal. Got dangled from a balcony 4 storeys high by my dad because I wasn’t talking nicely with my mum, I was 7.
Strawberry Pizza 1 year ago
Move out of there the instant you're able to. Are there any other relatives/friends that could safely take you in? Can you report your dad for abuse? Nobody should have to stay with someone like that. Sending love.
Load More Replies... ThatBlackNightingale 1 year ago
Most of these were straight up abuse and disgust to read, I can't help but think about all the selfish people who do this to innocent kids. People need to understand the value of marriage and pregnancy, not everyone's gonna be parents so don't let your stupid family force you too!
Lara Verne 1 year ago
These are stories about many forms of child abuse. Only things that seems unusual, but not abusive, are stories about parents putting kids on the bus or train and letting them travel by themselves when they were visiting friends or relatives. It was pretty normal just a few years ago
Singing Panda 1 year ago
Sending everyone love after reading this list. Hope everyone is alright ❤️
kansasmagic 1 year ago
Dear internet, "weird" is not a synonym for "neglectful" or "abusive." A "weird" thing parents might do is insist on wearing matching suits to every social function. It's quirky and harmless.
kansasmagic 1 year ago (edited)
Ok, here's an example: My FIL once gave my wife a head of cabbage for Christmas. She wanted a Cabbage Patch Doll. And he gave her a head of cabbage. It wasn't a joke (like "haha, here's your real present!"), and it wasn't some bizarre attempt to teach her a lesson about materialism or commercialism. It was just a weird and s****y present! She still talks about that more than 30 years later.
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Kohaku Yamashiro 1 year ago
I think what would categorize as werid/quirky things a family does is like share a bath towel, not use toliet paper things like that. Not this post, this are instances of abuse, neglect etc. BP do better please.
The Dentist 1 year ago
This entire post was... depressing. I feel sorry for all those involved.
Jared Robinson 1 year ago
all of these are just abuse, not really weird things parents did. title your threads better please.
birdhouse 1 year ago
I was told I was a mistake and reminded multiple times. My brother was the golden boy. My brother would get introduced a his athletic son. I would be introduced as the "fat son." Even my grand father laughed and learned to introduce me to his friends the same way. Beaten, shamed, belittled just because he was ashamed of me. He's not so scarry now that he is old and crippled up. My brother went missing years ago and he doesn't understand why I don't stop by and visit.
Headless Horseman 1 year ago
BP, this isnt "weird", "quirky" or entertaining in any God damned way. How could you use this content to get upvotes 😧. This was absolutely horrifying to read, I couldnt even get past the first few, because the flashbacks started coming back. Please delete this or whatever you need to do, just f*****g do it.
Joxiana 1 year ago
I remember being signed over to the carnival at age 16 by my mom. I couldn't be kept because I would disgrace her. I remember having a large pore on my forehead all my life which got dirty when I played as a child. My mom would constantly pick or pinch at it and tell me she was getting the demons out of me.
KimB 1 year ago
I remember once my stepdaughter having a fight with her bio mom. She said her bio mom didn't love her or know how to love. Bio mom said then how do you have such a good life then? My stepdaughter replied because Kim (me) loves me and showed me what REAL love is. I had to tell her that what she said wasn't fair to her bio mom that her mom was doing the best she could (had her at age 18) but I could not help feeling proud of myself at the same time. Bio mom and I have a fairly good relationship for the sake of the kids. She told me about a year ago (kids are 27 and 26) that she couldn't have done it without me that I'm definitely a better parent than she is because I'm so patient and calm. Life is weird sometimes!
Aubrie Allen 1 year ago
Being scared of dad. Hiding when he came home. Him constantly screaming and cussing at nothing.
bbfa 1 year ago (edited)
My father would have an anxiety attack in the middle of the night and come into my room screaming he was going to die and force me on my knees to pray for him while he screamed at me. I was 6-8 years old. Other times he would keep us up screaming at everyone in a narcissistic rage, especially if you didn't give the exact amount of gratitude at Christmas (and you never did). He also beat my little poodle in a rage and permanently twisted her back. I cry even now 60 years later when I think about that little dog. Tears in my eyes right now. He was a "pillar of the community". I get sick inside thinking about Christmas, and hate religious proselytizers with a passion. My mom was even worse, because she didn't stop him. Edit: Addendum.
Miriam L 1 year ago
These are stories of child abuse. Not weird family quirks or that one obnoxious thing your otherwise loving parents do. Bored Panda, this shouldn't be mined for content. This isn't entertainment. At the very least, change the **** title so people have a better idea of what to expect. I work with kids. I'm friends with people whose "parents" should be in prison for crimes like these. Yeah I'm angry. I know BP is 90% Reddit reposts, and I've read some nasty stuff on here. I don't know if this crosses some kind of internal line or if expecting stuff like the blurb (the silk shirt story, not that the mixed messages and unreasonable expectations aren't their own kind of abuse) and then getting hit in the lungs with the violent and multifaceted abuse of the most upvoted story.
arthbach 1 year ago
I was coming here to make exactly this post. This is abusive. There's nothing quirky about it.
Load More Replies... BetterBitterButter 1 year ago
I couldn't finish the list. Not every parent deserves to be a parent. Don't give trauma to kids. I know how it sticks with you even when you're a grown up.
Becky Samuel 1 year ago
It's easy to point fingers from a pedestal, but at least half of these stories are parents that were suffering from untreated mental illness. If you're raised to believe that seeking treatment for mental illness is weak or shameful then the rage, fear and guilt become internalised and those around you suffer too. Better interventions for families with mental health issues and better access to treatment are absolutely vital.
Load More Replies... GirlFriday 1 year ago
In my family, you had to pin your dirty socks together before you put them in the hamper. If mom found a pair of unpinned socks in the laundry, she would make us all sit at the table while she showed us AGAIN how to pin socks. I did not know that pinning socks together was not standard laundry procedure until I was in college and my roommates looked at me like I was crazy. However, I am the youngest of 13 children, so I understand the need for the procedure. THIS IS AN EXAMPLE OF A WEIRD FAMILY QUIRK. Abuse is not a weird family quirk. BTW - I still pin my dirty socks together before washing them.
Brocken Blue 1 year ago
Thank you! This was exactly the kind of story I was hoping for when I first opened this list and did not find. While I’m sure it was annoying for you kids, your mom is low-key genius for outsmarting the hungry gremlins who live in laundry machines and eat loose socks 😂
Load More Replies... Diolla 1 year ago
Oh dear. I went into this list thinking it would be about funny/ silly family habits. But turned out to be a list of examples of parents who should not be parents. Really. How can you even think of doing such horriffic stuff to you own children? OK not all of them but the majority makes me feel blessed that I had a normal boring childhood. Life is not fair.
Stardust she/her 1 year ago
Got threatened with a knife by my dad because I was suicidal. Got dangled from a balcony 4 storeys high by my dad because I wasn’t talking nicely with my mum, I was 7.
Strawberry Pizza 1 year ago
Move out of there the instant you're able to. Are there any other relatives/friends that could safely take you in? Can you report your dad for abuse? Nobody should have to stay with someone like that. Sending love.
Load More Replies... ThatBlackNightingale 1 year ago
Most of these were straight up abuse and disgust to read, I can't help but think about all the selfish people who do this to innocent kids. People need to understand the value of marriage and pregnancy, not everyone's gonna be parents so don't let your stupid family force you too!
Lara Verne 1 year ago
These are stories about many forms of child abuse. Only things that seems unusual, but not abusive, are stories about parents putting kids on the bus or train and letting them travel by themselves when they were visiting friends or relatives. It was pretty normal just a few years ago
Singing Panda 1 year ago
Sending everyone love after reading this list. Hope everyone is alright ❤️
kansasmagic 1 year ago
Dear internet, "weird" is not a synonym for "neglectful" or "abusive." A "weird" thing parents might do is insist on wearing matching suits to every social function. It's quirky and harmless.
kansasmagic 1 year ago (edited)
Ok, here's an example: My FIL once gave my wife a head of cabbage for Christmas. She wanted a Cabbage Patch Doll. And he gave her a head of cabbage. It wasn't a joke (like "haha, here's your real present!"), and it wasn't some bizarre attempt to teach her a lesson about materialism or commercialism. It was just a weird and s****y present! She still talks about that more than 30 years later.
Load More Replies... Kohaku Yamashiro 1 year ago
I think what would categorize as werid/quirky things a family does is like share a bath towel, not use toliet paper things like that. Not this post, this are instances of abuse, neglect etc. BP do better please.
The Dentist 1 year ago
This entire post was... depressing. I feel sorry for all those involved.
Jared Robinson 1 year ago
all of these are just abuse, not really weird things parents did. title your threads better please.
birdhouse 1 year ago
I was told I was a mistake and reminded multiple times. My brother was the golden boy. My brother would get introduced a his athletic son. I would be introduced as the "fat son." Even my grand father laughed and learned to introduce me to his friends the same way. Beaten, shamed, belittled just because he was ashamed of me. He's not so scarry now that he is old and crippled up. My brother went missing years ago and he doesn't understand why I don't stop by and visit.
Headless Horseman 1 year ago
BP, this isnt "weird", "quirky" or entertaining in any God damned way. How could you use this content to get upvotes 😧. This was absolutely horrifying to read, I couldnt even get past the first few, because the flashbacks started coming back. Please delete this or whatever you need to do, just f*****g do it.
Joxiana 1 year ago
I remember being signed over to the carnival at age 16 by my mom. I couldn't be kept because I would disgrace her. I remember having a large pore on my forehead all my life which got dirty when I played as a child. My mom would constantly pick or pinch at it and tell me she was getting the demons out of me.
KimB 1 year ago
I remember once my stepdaughter having a fight with her bio mom. She said her bio mom didn't love her or know how to love. Bio mom said then how do you have such a good life then? My stepdaughter replied because Kim (me) loves me and showed me what REAL love is. I had to tell her that what she said wasn't fair to her bio mom that her mom was doing the best she could (had her at age 18) but I could not help feeling proud of myself at the same time. Bio mom and I have a fairly good relationship for the sake of the kids. She told me about a year ago (kids are 27 and 26) that she couldn't have done it without me that I'm definitely a better parent than she is because I'm so patient and calm. Life is weird sometimes!
Aubrie Allen 1 year ago
Being scared of dad. Hiding when he came home. Him constantly screaming and cussing at nothing.
bbfa 1 year ago (edited)
My father would have an anxiety attack in the middle of the night and come into my room screaming he was going to die and force me on my knees to pray for him while he screamed at me. I was 6-8 years old. Other times he would keep us up screaming at everyone in a narcissistic rage, especially if you didn't give the exact amount of gratitude at Christmas (and you never did). He also beat my little poodle in a rage and permanently twisted her back. I cry even now 60 years later when I think about that little dog. Tears in my eyes right now. He was a "pillar of the community". I get sick inside thinking about Christmas, and hate religious proselytizers with a passion. My mom was even worse, because she didn't stop him. Edit: Addendum.
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