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30 People Share Weird Family Things That They Didn’t Realize Were Not Normal When They Were Kids
Raising mentally resilient kids makes them better prepared to tackle problems on their own. In fact, studies have found that they're more likely to be engaged in school and in their future jobs.
However, parenting is hard work and sometimes even good intentions don't guarantee the best outcomes. Not to mention moms and dads who may have found themselves unprepared for the job.
Earlier this month, Reddit user J---L submitted a question to the platform's community 'Entitled Parents', asking, "What’s something completely insane your parents did that you only understood how messed up it is when you became older?"
Turns out, there's no shortage of such examples. J---L has received hundreds of replies, many of which detail tough personal experiences. Continue scrolling to check out some of the most upvoted ones and don't miss the conversation we had with writer, director, broadcaster, and founder of the parenting blog Honest Mum, Vicki Broadbent.
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#1
My parents used to strip us naked and lock us out of the house from Friday to Monday morning as punishment. I was in 2nd grade when this started.
They would flip over chairs and have us lay over the backs, and tie our arms and legs to the chairs and beat us with the buckle end of the belt until blood splattered the walls, "so we would bleed for our sins."
They used to turn the stove on and wait until the burner was red hot and hold our hands JUST above the burners while we sobbed uncontrollably. This only stopped once I passed out a few times and had burns so bad they required ER visits. The Docs asking questions made them stop that.
At age 6 my mom caught her boss touching me and from that point on would SCREAM at me on a daily basis about being a s**t and asking how many d***s did I suck? Regularly. Until I moved out at 14.
Slamming our heads into walls and when we fell, kick us in the head, back, face, ribs until their legs got tired and they would tap out with each other.
When my parents found out my brother used to sexually assault my sister and I from age 7-13 they blamed me for it and cut me out of the family entirely. Despite my brother admitting to it and confessing he sold me to his friends as early as 3rd grade. I still have those texts and read them anytime I miss having a "family" to remind myself they never were that to me. I'm better off alone.
#2
My parents are Mexican immigrants but my dad became a us citizen along the way anyways. They raised me to cook and clean a was the middle child of two brothers. They always hated when I would focus on school work outside of school and would scream at me to stop. They said women are only good for cooking and cleaning. Currently I’m in school for my masters I’m working as a RN. My two brothers are working customer service jobs and both decided not to go to college after high school.
"We are all flawed humans and parents, with most of us committed to improving on what we ourselves experienced at the hands of our own parents," Vicki Broadbent, the woman behind Honest Mum and the author of Mumboss: The Honest Mum’s Guide to Surviving and Thriving at Work and at Home, told Bored Panda.
"Every generation hopes to evolve for the better. It must be noted, however, that we are the first generation of parents as Gen X and Millennials who have embraced therapy without stigma, yielding positive results on our families, and hopefully our kids' kids."
#3
My mom found Christianity and made us all find it. Secular (non religious) cds got thrown away, we had to have angel television (only religious shows), we were forced to go to church/youth group/and church camp. Reading material was the Bible. We had no choice in the matter and were forced to be religious. If we questioned anything we were going to hell and grounded. Shocking that both my sister and I have zero to do with Christianity. Do not force your beliefs on your children. You can guide them but let them make their own choices. My daughters know I don't buy into any of that but I told them I will support whatever they believe as long as you don't use those beliefs to hate others.
Billy Harrelson 1 year ago
This is one that kept me from Christianity for so long. Turns out you can be Christian and listen to secular music (just be aware of what you're listening to), watch secular TV and even have things like tattoos and piercings (I have neither). You don't become perfect for being Christian. You're only trying to live as Christ did, but only he was 100% perfect. We as humans still fall short everyday but having the salvation that comes with knowing Christ died for our sins, that is what true Christianity is about.
StitchIsCuteAndFluffy 1 year ago
YES! Yes, yes, a thousand times yes! I’m so happy this is at the top where everyone can see what Christianity is SUPPOSED to look like. I go to a church where everybody is like what you describe. There’s no judging, they’re all kind, it’s a good support group. You grow closer with God. And often Christians (the ones I’m around anyway) are the ones who are less hypocritical than everyone else because they know they’re sinners and not perfect, but try to be good people to everyone, no matter what.
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deanna woods 1 year ago
My parents allowed my siblings and I to find our own faith. They never forced it on us or anything like that. Because of that, we both have a good relationship with God and our family.
Emily M 1 year ago
My spouse's mom decided around their kindergarten/1st grade year that the majority of mass market things were satanic. Made them and their siblings burn all their own toys, only listen to christian music, and never read or play anything with magic in it. My spouse is 32 and still dealing with this.
JelliTate 1 year ago
Something about being "saved" in the Baptist church caused my mother to behave in much the same way. Say what you want about the Christians, they sure know how to frighten the believers and keep the money rolling in.
Featherking 1 year ago
That’s always what’s it’s been about. They got good at it over the years.
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Celtic Pirate Queen 1 year ago
"A church isn't a museum for saints, it's a hospital for sinners".
Sally Signup 1 year ago
My mother was involved in the Bill Gothard cult for a minute and was one of the few divorced moms allowed in. I was around 13 (female, so that made it worse) at the time and it made me miserable. It was kind of like what this post described. The thing with my mother is she has something wrong with her that made her try something like that, drag her kids along for it, then lose interest and go to the next thing. Most of the time it was just stupid hobbies, not this. At least we weren't involved in it for very long.
Aubrie Allen 1 year ago
My boyfriend has 2 tween/teen kids. Their grandmother on their mom's side found religion a couple years ago, and just tells them constantly how they are going to hell and they're going to burn for ever. Wow. What a good Christian woman. Religion is so f****d up.
Maggie Mae 1 year ago
Good for You!! Since all Churches are MAN MADE BUILT Buildings And GOD is in NONE of them You are Correct! MAn Built CHurches are Dens of PEDOPHILIA & ABUSE!! Not wher God is which is all Around You and In Nature FREE to Love You and Listen to You at any time!Amen. By the WAY HE DIDN'T Write The BIBLE EITHER that was also MAN of a MUCH Lessor Denomination & they ARE Still Fighting over It Today!!
Featherking 1 year ago (edited)
It’s hard at times, it really is. But people end up in religion for a lot of different reasons, they can still be reasonable people. Depending on the cult/religion, naturally.
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Seeing as the kindest, most humanitarian "Christian" I know never preaches nor tries to one up others in the name of his own beliefs (I mean, 30-40 years on the man is Still made to feel guilt over past drug use), I simply cannot trust people who lead with "I'm a Christian." For too many, that label is a means of ostracizing others callously and small mindedly. Just because Jesus is said to have died for humanity's supposed sins, doesn't mean people should continue to feel so guilty or act cruelly towards others.
#4
I had bowel issues from age 2 years to about 8 years of age that required multiple surgeries. I physically couldnt poo due to my colon having issues.
My parents locked me in the toilet room from lunchtime until bedtime once (8.5hrs) to try and force me to do a poo. Of course I couldnt as my body would not allow me to.
They put soap up my bottom and would often bash me to try scare me into pooing. My mother overdosed me on my bowel medications, as she was sick of dealing with my issue.
They treated me as if I was purposely holding onto my poo just to be 'naughty'.
Looking back now and having my own kids, I realise how messed up their behaviour was. How could they do that to someone they are supposed to love and protect?
Professional help can be really valuable to people who have gone through these things. "Therapy is a privilege, of course, and not accessible to all but where possible, my advice is to start therapy to heal generational trauma, your own childhood trauma, and thus understand who you are," Broadbent said.
But as she pointed out, many of us are lacking in self-worth and self-love. "It took me until 40 and after, years of therapy to deeply understand myself and feel good in my skin (and I'm a work in progress)," Broadbent revealed. "Parenting is triggering for everyone so understanding what your triggers are and how you can consistently parent positively is vital."
"If you can't access therapy, speaking candidly to close friends in a safe space and way to work through those formative negative experiences can be useful. Harnessing self-awareness is the building block to accountability and transformation."
#5
My father was absent until I was 11. He returned and my siblings and I went from neglect to extreme abuse.
We weren't allowed to win anything that involved my father.
Didn't matter if it was a board game, trivia, or a video game. If you won, he would beat you to prove that, "he really won". He was shocked and angry that no one wanted to play with him after the first week.
I wasn't allowed to wear shorts in the house because, "men have urges" and I was "causing a reaction". I didn't realize until last year what that meant. I was 13, which makes my skin crawl.
Everything I did was viewed as sexual. His way of telling me goodbye was, "don't come home with a wet a*s" and that I didn't need to work because I was "sitting on a gold mine".
I'm in my late-30s now and I'm still scared that I'm only good for sex. I've been working on it for years in therapy but the shame lingers.
#6
My mother got an internship three hours away from where we lived when I was 11 and my sister was 13. My mom moved there temporarily for six months. So every Friday for six months, my dad would put us on a Greyhound bus and we would ride it alone for three hours and my mother would pick us up and then send us home the same way. My sister was in her "cool teenager" phase, so I got to sit with a lot of weird adults for six months who told me their life stories.
As a teacher now, I cannot fathom putting two children alone on a Greyhound bus one time, let alone for six months over and over again.
After my parents got divorced when I was 14, my mother got a promotion on the East coast (we lived in Arizona). She needed to go to three months of training in Virginia before her job actually started. So she left my sister and I alone for three months. And then she came back and we packed up and moved. She never called to check in, she never had friends stop by to check on us. It was up to me to get me and my older sister fed and to school every day.
Great mother. Haven't spoken to her in almost a decade. I hope she rots.
However, the good news is that many moms and dads care about their children's emotional well-being. According to a new Pew Research Center survey, about four-in-ten U.S. parents with kids younger than 18 say they are extremely or very worried that their little ones might struggle with anxiety or depression at some point.
In fact, mental health concerns top the list of parental worries (followed by 35% who are similarly concerned about their children being bullied).
Although it's worth mentioning that quite a few parents probably would have at least some criticism for their own folks, as 44% claim they are trying to raise their children differently from how they were raised.
#7
I was never an acceptable weight. If I was 115 pounds, I looked anorexic. If I gained five pounds, I was told my "a*s looked six axe handles wide." Consequently, I am still unable to tell what I actually look like.
I was also accused of "sleeping with half the Western hemisphere"...before I had even received my first kiss.
#8
Mine were champions of mixed messages. To the point I still doubt my first instincts, or initial decision, At 47 years old!
They would complain I wasn't dressing nice enough, for school or other events,, then refuse to let me wear a silk shirt out, as if it was something reserved for the queen. I have snuck out a nice blouse on several occasions.
Dad would tell me there must be something wrong with me because I wasn't "going out" like other teenagers. Then tell me by going out somewhere when I don't know everyone, I'm going to get myself raped.
That's just 2 examples
So I second guess *everything *.... still
"Putting the hard work in evolving, be it therapy or understanding how to manage your own emotions and stress levels, is critical as a parent," Broadbent added. "You can then model that behavior to your own children. Prioritizing self-care where possible (I know it's not easy) will make you a more compassionate parent. Exercise, eating well and healthily, and taking up yoga/ mindfulness will make the world of difference."
Luckily, when KidsHealth.org and TIME for Kids asked more than 9,000 children ages 8 to 14 about their family relationships, 85% said they have fun with their parents and 79% said they feel close to their parents.
#9
These are probably small things in comparison but the older I get, the more they upset me. They wouldn't pay for glasses for me even though I literally couldn't see the blackboard at school. My dad took me for an eye exam and when I was perusing frames afterwards, he came up to me and said "what are you doing? I never said I was buying you glasses" in this aggressive, angry tone. My dad wasn't usually like that and it still confuses me to do this day. Idk why he was angry at me over needing glasses (which I finally got at 23 when my state insurance actually covered them, which they do not any more and only did so for about a year). I wear glasses 24/7, I obviously needed them. They also would not pay for braces and now my teeth are screwed up. They never taught me how to drive but they did teach my 3 siblings. My dad is a software engineer, he has always made decent money. So it wasn't bc we couldn't afford it.
#10
My dad demanded my sister and I put our dogs outside in a lightning storm to pee with their invisible fence collars on. We didn't do it and they were in the house when he got home. The storm was even worse at this point.
In response, he put them outside himself, then locked me and my sister in the dogs' crates in the garage to "show us how the dogs felt" for a few hours.
I'm not losing any sleep about him being gone.
#11
I would stay up until 3am working for my parents business. When I was 13. And it was a smoking establishment.
I would deliver food to sketchy parts of town by myself. As a 16 year old girl.
My mom started s**t shaming me at 12 for what seemed like everything.
This doesn't include the physical, emotional and sexual abuse. I didn't know why but I felt so ashamed even as a kid and I thought it was my fault.
Needless to say, we don't speak anymore.
#12
I would get accused of being pregnant at 16. I had heavy periods that would be every 32-35 days instead of 28. She would monitor my period and then accuse me of being pregnant if I didn’t have a period on day 29.
At one point I was anorexic and missed a period and she went mad insisting I was pregnant.
#13
My mom giving me the silent treatment if I said something she disliked or did something that pissed her off. Half the time I didnt even know what Id done wrong!
As a mom now, I cant imagine ignoring my kid the way she did me or not outright correcting the issue.
#14
They would take my phone when I was a teen and text my friends pretending to be me to intentionally break up friendships. I’m talking 40 year old people texting 13-16 year olds saying they’re worthless and should give up or leave “me” alone. I used to just be mad and think it was a normal adult punishing me because it was their property. Now I look back and think of how much enjoyment they got bullying children and saying the most awful things.
#15
Hearing my mom say to me and my older sister she can't wait for us to grow up and move out the house since I was 7yo. When I finally gained some independene and tried to move out with my bf, she kept nagging for me to delay the move or come visit frequently after I was no longer living in her house. Similarly, as a teen, I would often go visit friends across the country for several days at a time. Kept calling to ask where I was and when I'm coming back, guilt tripping me to not stay long because that was poor guest etiquette(??), even though I was invited. When I finally got back, she and my dad viciously asked when is the soonest I can go away again. Havent spoken to them in two years, best decision ever.
#16
I never received any recognition for the good things I did. Only greif when I messed up.
As a result, I (now 40) still have trouble recognising when people do or don't like me. I also have very little confidence in myself. I also struggle with motivation to do things.
Now, my problem is that even though I can see what the problem is, and where it came from, I don't know what to do with it. I have repeatedly asked the NHS for help, as going private (for therapy) isn't financially viable. As of now (4 years into asking for help), I have received 6 50 minute sessions, of therapy. Which, in my own words, is like showing up to an earthquake with a dust pan and brush.
#17
Having to eat soap or hot sauce when one of us lied/said a bad word/backtalked. Didn’t matter who did it, I was punished too. And if one of my siblings broke a major rule, I MUST have also done it so would get grounded and lectured, but the sibling that did it would get a minor punishment.
Basically my parents confessed that they thought by showing my siblings that I could be punished, it would deter them from breaking more rules.
#18
I'm nowhere near the level or even same universe as many here. My mom was just... inattentive. I realize now looking back that she was terribly depressed, so she would often sleep the day away while young me would putter around the house, watch TV, eat cereal for every meal until she'd finally get up just before my dad got home. She still jokes about the time I locked myself in the refrigerator as a toddler and she couldn't find me for almost an hour. By the time I was 12, we got Internet in our house (this was the late 90s) and I basically just set my own schedule, stayed up all night on chatrooms if I wanted. My room and the computer were on the opposite end of the house so nobody ever bothered me.
They were lucky that I was a "good" kid with crushing anxiety of my own that prevented me from taking advantage of their laissez-faire parenting style because I honestly can't remember my parents ever... parenting me. Never had hard rules, never had a curfew. I raised myself.
#19
I was obsessed with buttoning the top button on casual shirts. It felt safer to me to be buttoned up tight, probably because bodily autonomy was non-existent in my family. My mother HATED this habit. It got to the point where whenever she caught me with the top button closed, she would reach in with one finger, hook it behind the button and yank hard enough to pop the button off the shirt. It hurt like hell and usually caused bruises on the back of my neck along with a scratch from her fingernail in front. More than once she had to pull so hard, she backhanded me in the chin when the button finally popped off. She would always say, "That's one collar you can't button anymore".
Now, I can't stand to have anything around my neck.
Thanks mom, you saved me from walking around with my shirt collar closed.
#20
Basically my dad locking me in the house and never letting me leave outside of taking me to school. And sleeping in the same bed as my dad until I was 14. He only let me have my own room when he remarried. And he made me shower with him too.
#21
First few weeks of 1st grade in a new town, I met a fellow little girl on the school bus. We hit it off and somehow a playdate was arranged. I had younger siblings so my dad was the one to drop me off for the playdate at their little 1 story bungalow. My little friend's mom was single and she invited my dad in for coffee.
Next thing I knew, we looked up from playing Barbies on the floor and my dad and her mom were running back and forth from her bedroom to the only bathroom across the hall, taking turns wearing the mom's pink bathrobe.
When we left my dad told me not to tell my mom about anything that happened because if I did she would leave us and I'd never see my mom again. That's how the affair that broke up my parents marriage started, and eventually both my parents blamed me. "If you hadn't insisted on playing with that trashy little girl" etc.
#22
My male parent was horribly paranoid about everything. If I was allowed to spend time with a friend, he would obsessively call their house to make sure I was "really there". One time we left to a half block for some ice cream. He called when we were out, and that turned into a massive eruption. This particular behavior lasted until I moved out at 24yo.
If it were a movie, he'd find out exactly what time the movie started and ended, then camp out in a parking lot across from the theater to make sure we didn't leave the theater. And EVERYTHING was like this.
A scumbag who was mad that I wasn't interested in him convinced his mom to call my male parent and lie to him, saying I'd come by his house to have sex. That was the absolute worst thing I could possibly ever do in his eyes, even though he was an atheist. I had every avenue of communication with the outside world taken away, and was treated like I was the worst person in the world. My best friend at the time was good enough to call the b***h and convince her to call back saying she'd made a mistake. But since it was more fun or something to be hateful, he didn't believe her THAT time.
I pretty much wanted to be unalive for a far back as I can remember. I moved 1000 miles away, and despite my now ex being a jerk, I was much happier with his type of abuse. And once I was free of HIM, I've loved my life ever since, and am very happy. And still 1000 miles away from the crazy.
There's so much more of course. Being a child in a grocery store and being angrily yanked out of the way of someone because they happened to want to look at something where I was standing (even though I was just following HIM)? Made me pathologically terrified of being even mildly inconvenient to anyone, especially strangers. Just one little detail among many.
#23
One summer, my mom took away all my toys because she said I wasn’t taking care of them by leaving them on the floor. She told me she threw them away. That year for Christmas, all I got was a garbage bag of my old toys. My sister got a new bike. I was I’m my thirties before I realized how messed up that was. She didn’t even wrap them!
#24
My mom threatened to kill me and herself by driving into oncoming traffic.... I was twelve.
#25
Not having locks on doors I used.
Now when I go to their house I always lock the door when I use the bathroom or change. I’ve gotten into screaming matches with my mom about it.
#26
Mother told me to always keep a blanket covering my bottom “in case someone is watching you while you sleep”. Also, when changing clothes, “remove panties last and put them on first”.
As I’m typing this, I wonder if it had to do with growing up with tons of siblings in the house. Seems pretty creepy to me, though.
#27
The difference between how my stepmom raised me, compared to how she is with my half sister. My sister can do no wrong. I have seen my sister get in my mom's face and scream at her, yet I couldn't even "backtalk". All I could say was yes ma'am or no ma'am, anything else and well... Let's just say my cheeks hurt. The huge 180 difference between how we were raised, still amazes me to this day
#28
I was repeatedly informed that they’re spending a lot of money on me and that other parents don’t do so. So I should feel obliged. It took me more than a decade to realise what she said was problematic, and I could not shake of the feeling of being indebted to her till the day she passed.
#29
My mom was a super clean freak growing up. To the point that i could never clean my room to her standards. Even if my dad help cleaned it. She would even start vacuuming in the middle of the night at times. She also would repose my action figures and models. Then yell at me if i complained or changed them bacl
#30
Making me comfort her when things were stressful instead of comforting me. I had to be her emotional support person as a child. A few times she'd get angry and call me 'mom' like it was an insult. And she was oddly competitive with me for no reason, I just wanted my mom to love me
What do you think ?
Miriam L 1 year ago
These are stories of child abuse. Not weird family quirks or that one obnoxious thing your otherwise loving parents do. Bored Panda, this shouldn't be mined for content. This isn't entertainment. At the very least, change the **** title so people have a better idea of what to expect. I work with kids. I'm friends with people whose "parents" should be in prison for crimes like these. Yeah I'm angry. I know BP is 90% Reddit reposts, and I've read some nasty stuff on here. I don't know if this crosses some kind of internal line or if expecting stuff like the blurb (the silk shirt story, not that the mixed messages and unreasonable expectations aren't their own kind of abuse) and then getting hit in the lungs with the violent and multifaceted abuse of the most upvoted story.
arthbach 1 year ago
I was coming here to make exactly this post. This is abusive. There's nothing quirky about it.
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BetterBitterButter 1 year ago
I couldn't finish the list. Not every parent deserves to be a parent. Don't give trauma to kids. I know how it sticks with you even when you're a grown up.
Becky Samuel 1 year ago
It's easy to point fingers from a pedestal, but at least half of these stories are parents that were suffering from untreated mental illness. If you're raised to believe that seeking treatment for mental illness is weak or shameful then the rage, fear and guilt become internalised and those around you suffer too. Better interventions for families with mental health issues and better access to treatment are absolutely vital.
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GirlFriday 1 year ago
In my family, you had to pin your dirty socks together before you put them in the hamper. If mom found a pair of unpinned socks in the laundry, she would make us all sit at the table while she showed us AGAIN how to pin socks. I did not know that pinning socks together was not standard laundry procedure until I was in college and my roommates looked at me like I was crazy. However, I am the youngest of 13 children, so I understand the need for the procedure. THIS IS AN EXAMPLE OF A WEIRD FAMILY QUIRK. Abuse is not a weird family quirk. BTW - I still pin my dirty socks together before washing them.
Brocken Blue 1 year ago
Thank you! This was exactly the kind of story I was hoping for when I first opened this list and did not find. While I’m sure it was annoying for you kids, your mom is low-key genius for outsmarting the hungry gremlins who live in laundry machines and eat loose socks 😂
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Diolla 1 year ago
Oh dear. I went into this list thinking it would be about funny/ silly family habits. But turned out to be a list of examples of parents who should not be parents. Really. How can you even think of doing such horriffic stuff to you own children? OK not all of them but the majority makes me feel blessed that I had a normal boring childhood. Life is not fair.
Stardust she/her 1 year ago
Got threatened with a knife by my dad because I was suicidal. Got dangled from a balcony 4 storeys high by my dad because I wasn’t talking nicely with my mum, I was 7.
Strawberry Pizza 1 year ago
Move out of there the instant you're able to. Are there any other relatives/friends that could safely take you in? Can you report your dad for abuse? Nobody should have to stay with someone like that. Sending love.
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ThatBlackNightingale 1 year ago
Most of these were straight up abuse and disgust to read, I can't help but think about all the selfish people who do this to innocent kids. People need to understand the value of marriage and pregnancy, not everyone's gonna be parents so don't let your stupid family force you too!
Lara Verne 1 year ago
These are stories about many forms of child abuse. Only things that seems unusual, but not abusive, are stories about parents putting kids on the bus or train and letting them travel by themselves when they were visiting friends or relatives. It was pretty normal just a few years ago
Singing Panda 1 year ago
Sending everyone love after reading this list. Hope everyone is alright ❤️
kansasmagic 1 year ago
Dear internet, "weird" is not a synonym for "neglectful" or "abusive." A "weird" thing parents might do is insist on wearing matching suits to every social function. It's quirky and harmless.
kansasmagic 1 year ago (edited)
Ok, here's an example: My FIL once gave my wife a head of cabbage for Christmas. She wanted a Cabbage Patch Doll. And he gave her a head of cabbage. It wasn't a joke (like "haha, here's your real present!"), and it wasn't some bizarre attempt to teach her a lesson about materialism or commercialism. It was just a weird and s****y present! She still talks about that more than 30 years later.
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Kohaku Yamashiro 1 year ago
I think what would categorize as werid/quirky things a family does is like share a bath towel, not use toliet paper things like that. Not this post, this are instances of abuse, neglect etc. BP do better please.
The Dentist 1 year ago
This entire post was... depressing. I feel sorry for all those involved.
Jared Robinson 1 year ago
all of these are just abuse, not really weird things parents did. title your threads better please.
birdhouse 1 year ago
I was told I was a mistake and reminded multiple times. My brother was the golden boy. My brother would get introduced a his athletic son. I would be introduced as the "fat son." Even my grand father laughed and learned to introduce me to his friends the same way. Beaten, shamed, belittled just because he was ashamed of me. He's not so scarry now that he is old and crippled up. My brother went missing years ago and he doesn't understand why I don't stop by and visit.
Headless Horseman 1 year ago
BP, this isnt "weird", "quirky" or entertaining in any God damned way. How could you use this content to get upvotes 😧. This was absolutely horrifying to read, I couldnt even get past the first few, because the flashbacks started coming back. Please delete this or whatever you need to do, just f*****g do it.
Joxiana 1 year ago
I remember being signed over to the carnival at age 16 by my mom. I couldn't be kept because I would disgrace her. I remember having a large pore on my forehead all my life which got dirty when I played as a child. My mom would constantly pick or pinch at it and tell me she was getting the demons out of me.
KimB 1 year ago
I remember once my stepdaughter having a fight with her bio mom. She said her bio mom didn't love her or know how to love. Bio mom said then how do you have such a good life then? My stepdaughter replied because Kim (me) loves me and showed me what REAL love is. I had to tell her that what she said wasn't fair to her bio mom that her mom was doing the best she could (had her at age 18) but I could not help feeling proud of myself at the same time. Bio mom and I have a fairly good relationship for the sake of the kids. She told me about a year ago (kids are 27 and 26) that she couldn't have done it without me that I'm definitely a better parent than she is because I'm so patient and calm. Life is weird sometimes!
Aubrie Allen 1 year ago
Being scared of dad. Hiding when he came home. Him constantly screaming and cussing at nothing.
bbfa 1 year ago (edited)
My father would have an anxiety attack in the middle of the night and come into my room screaming he was going to die and force me on my knees to pray for him while he screamed at me. I was 6-8 years old. Other times he would keep us up screaming at everyone in a narcissistic rage, especially if you didn't give the exact amount of gratitude at Christmas (and you never did). He also beat my little poodle in a rage and permanently twisted her back. I cry even now 60 years later when I think about that little dog. Tears in my eyes right now. He was a "pillar of the community". I get sick inside thinking about Christmas, and hate religious proselytizers with a passion. My mom was even worse, because she didn't stop him. Edit: Addendum.
Miriam L 1 year ago
These are stories of child abuse. Not weird family quirks or that one obnoxious thing your otherwise loving parents do. Bored Panda, this shouldn't be mined for content. This isn't entertainment. At the very least, change the **** title so people have a better idea of what to expect. I work with kids. I'm friends with people whose "parents" should be in prison for crimes like these. Yeah I'm angry. I know BP is 90% Reddit reposts, and I've read some nasty stuff on here. I don't know if this crosses some kind of internal line or if expecting stuff like the blurb (the silk shirt story, not that the mixed messages and unreasonable expectations aren't their own kind of abuse) and then getting hit in the lungs with the violent and multifaceted abuse of the most upvoted story.
arthbach 1 year ago
I was coming here to make exactly this post. This is abusive. There's nothing quirky about it.
Load More Replies... BetterBitterButter 1 year ago
I couldn't finish the list. Not every parent deserves to be a parent. Don't give trauma to kids. I know how it sticks with you even when you're a grown up.
Becky Samuel 1 year ago
It's easy to point fingers from a pedestal, but at least half of these stories are parents that were suffering from untreated mental illness. If you're raised to believe that seeking treatment for mental illness is weak or shameful then the rage, fear and guilt become internalised and those around you suffer too. Better interventions for families with mental health issues and better access to treatment are absolutely vital.
Load More Replies... GirlFriday 1 year ago
In my family, you had to pin your dirty socks together before you put them in the hamper. If mom found a pair of unpinned socks in the laundry, she would make us all sit at the table while she showed us AGAIN how to pin socks. I did not know that pinning socks together was not standard laundry procedure until I was in college and my roommates looked at me like I was crazy. However, I am the youngest of 13 children, so I understand the need for the procedure. THIS IS AN EXAMPLE OF A WEIRD FAMILY QUIRK. Abuse is not a weird family quirk. BTW - I still pin my dirty socks together before washing them.
Brocken Blue 1 year ago
Thank you! This was exactly the kind of story I was hoping for when I first opened this list and did not find. While I’m sure it was annoying for you kids, your mom is low-key genius for outsmarting the hungry gremlins who live in laundry machines and eat loose socks 😂
Load More Replies... Diolla 1 year ago
Oh dear. I went into this list thinking it would be about funny/ silly family habits. But turned out to be a list of examples of parents who should not be parents. Really. How can you even think of doing such horriffic stuff to you own children? OK not all of them but the majority makes me feel blessed that I had a normal boring childhood. Life is not fair.
Stardust she/her 1 year ago
Got threatened with a knife by my dad because I was suicidal. Got dangled from a balcony 4 storeys high by my dad because I wasn’t talking nicely with my mum, I was 7.
Strawberry Pizza 1 year ago
Move out of there the instant you're able to. Are there any other relatives/friends that could safely take you in? Can you report your dad for abuse? Nobody should have to stay with someone like that. Sending love.
Load More Replies... ThatBlackNightingale 1 year ago
Most of these were straight up abuse and disgust to read, I can't help but think about all the selfish people who do this to innocent kids. People need to understand the value of marriage and pregnancy, not everyone's gonna be parents so don't let your stupid family force you too!
Lara Verne 1 year ago
These are stories about many forms of child abuse. Only things that seems unusual, but not abusive, are stories about parents putting kids on the bus or train and letting them travel by themselves when they were visiting friends or relatives. It was pretty normal just a few years ago
Singing Panda 1 year ago
Sending everyone love after reading this list. Hope everyone is alright ❤️
kansasmagic 1 year ago
Dear internet, "weird" is not a synonym for "neglectful" or "abusive." A "weird" thing parents might do is insist on wearing matching suits to every social function. It's quirky and harmless.
kansasmagic 1 year ago (edited)
Ok, here's an example: My FIL once gave my wife a head of cabbage for Christmas. She wanted a Cabbage Patch Doll. And he gave her a head of cabbage. It wasn't a joke (like "haha, here's your real present!"), and it wasn't some bizarre attempt to teach her a lesson about materialism or commercialism. It was just a weird and s****y present! She still talks about that more than 30 years later.
Load More Replies... Kohaku Yamashiro 1 year ago
I think what would categorize as werid/quirky things a family does is like share a bath towel, not use toliet paper things like that. Not this post, this are instances of abuse, neglect etc. BP do better please.
The Dentist 1 year ago
This entire post was... depressing. I feel sorry for all those involved.
Jared Robinson 1 year ago
all of these are just abuse, not really weird things parents did. title your threads better please.
birdhouse 1 year ago
I was told I was a mistake and reminded multiple times. My brother was the golden boy. My brother would get introduced a his athletic son. I would be introduced as the "fat son." Even my grand father laughed and learned to introduce me to his friends the same way. Beaten, shamed, belittled just because he was ashamed of me. He's not so scarry now that he is old and crippled up. My brother went missing years ago and he doesn't understand why I don't stop by and visit.
Headless Horseman 1 year ago
BP, this isnt "weird", "quirky" or entertaining in any God damned way. How could you use this content to get upvotes 😧. This was absolutely horrifying to read, I couldnt even get past the first few, because the flashbacks started coming back. Please delete this or whatever you need to do, just f*****g do it.
Joxiana 1 year ago
I remember being signed over to the carnival at age 16 by my mom. I couldn't be kept because I would disgrace her. I remember having a large pore on my forehead all my life which got dirty when I played as a child. My mom would constantly pick or pinch at it and tell me she was getting the demons out of me.
KimB 1 year ago
I remember once my stepdaughter having a fight with her bio mom. She said her bio mom didn't love her or know how to love. Bio mom said then how do you have such a good life then? My stepdaughter replied because Kim (me) loves me and showed me what REAL love is. I had to tell her that what she said wasn't fair to her bio mom that her mom was doing the best she could (had her at age 18) but I could not help feeling proud of myself at the same time. Bio mom and I have a fairly good relationship for the sake of the kids. She told me about a year ago (kids are 27 and 26) that she couldn't have done it without me that I'm definitely a better parent than she is because I'm so patient and calm. Life is weird sometimes!
Aubrie Allen 1 year ago
Being scared of dad. Hiding when he came home. Him constantly screaming and cussing at nothing.
bbfa 1 year ago (edited)
My father would have an anxiety attack in the middle of the night and come into my room screaming he was going to die and force me on my knees to pray for him while he screamed at me. I was 6-8 years old. Other times he would keep us up screaming at everyone in a narcissistic rage, especially if you didn't give the exact amount of gratitude at Christmas (and you never did). He also beat my little poodle in a rage and permanently twisted her back. I cry even now 60 years later when I think about that little dog. Tears in my eyes right now. He was a "pillar of the community". I get sick inside thinking about Christmas, and hate religious proselytizers with a passion. My mom was even worse, because she didn't stop him. Edit: Addendum.
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