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After Losing 100lbs, This Curve Model Shares Her Experience Related To Body Shaming
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After Losing 100lbs, This Curve Model Shares Her Experience Related To Body Shaming

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Issues with society accepting and normalizing attitudes towards body weight and build are re-surfacing occasionally. The abundance of information on how to lose weight is easily accessible, which is not necessarily a sign of its efficiency. And people often find themselves warped by weight loss plans or perhaps witnessing someone going through it. Be it for health issues, improving fitness level, or any other personal decision, the battle with fat and with feelings that surround differently built figures is still real.

A curve model, activist, and content creator, Kendra Austin, shared a Twitter post that highlighted how after she lost 100lbs, people congratulated her and treated her differently, which seemed like a confirmation that being thin is being more valuable to the world. Kendra ignited a discussion online about what it’s actually like to lose weight and what consequences come with it.

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Curve model Kendra Austin shared a thought-provoking post on Twitter about losing weight and being congratulated

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Kendra, who has spoken out about her journey through accepting and embracing her body, tweeted how all of a sudden, people’s reactions to her have changed significantly and that it happened once she lost 100lbs: “everyone suddenly loved me.” What she highlighted was how the fact that she was congratulated, perhaps even without it being intended to take such a turn, simply seemed to her that her negative feelings about being fat had been nothing but confirmed.

In her Twitter post, she highlighted how people can misunderstand and take weight loss cheering as proof of their fear of being too fat

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As a curve model, Kendra advocated for plus size women and how the fashion industry lacks clothing options and then excludes them for “not being high fashion enough.” On her social media, she has also tackled the topic of fatphobia and its constant stigmatization through systematic oppression rather than encouragement of acceptance and normalization. She points out that such stigma is toxic and it results in harsh consequences, ranging from being bullied on playground, in workplaces, and on dating apps. It is easy to guess that growing up with fatphobia probably meant being ashamed of eating in front of people, trying numerous diets, and all leading to the presumption that fat people are not desired or loved in the same ways.

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Kendra also stressed the fact that some plus size women believe that being fat is a negative thing

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In one of her videos on TikTok, Kendra encourages body positivity and not being scared to use the word ‘fat’ or consider it offensive. “Fatness and beauty can actually exist in the same person, whether you believe it or not; the implication that it can’t is actually deeply rooted in fatphobia.”

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And she also admitted to losing precious moments of positive feelings due to feeling too big

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And quite a few people online agreed that this post resonates with them—many shared stories of unintended weight loss, due to an illness or a health condition, and how people congratulating them for it are actually not aware of the backstory, which then leads to easily hurting someone’s feelings, which eventually could lead to feelings of failure in case of gaining the weight back.

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And here are some of the comments she has received on her viral post with over 632K likes

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Irmante Sungailaite

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After graduating Media and Photography in the United Kingdom, Irmante got drawn into the captivating world of travelling and spent most of the years on the road discovering cultures, learning languages and meeting the most fascinating people. If not writing articles for Bored Panda readers she can be found listening to jazz in Ethiopia, sipping flat whites in Australia or trekking Guatemalan jungles. Her likes include films by Wes Anderson, pseudoscientific practices and being obsessed with everything Mexico and Central America. Her friends mainly describe her as inquisitive, adventurous, and caring.

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Irmante Sungailaite

Irmante Sungailaite

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After graduating Media and Photography in the United Kingdom, Irmante got drawn into the captivating world of travelling and spent most of the years on the road discovering cultures, learning languages and meeting the most fascinating people. If not writing articles for Bored Panda readers she can be found listening to jazz in Ethiopia, sipping flat whites in Australia or trekking Guatemalan jungles. Her likes include films by Wes Anderson, pseudoscientific practices and being obsessed with everything Mexico and Central America. Her friends mainly describe her as inquisitive, adventurous, and caring.

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Linda H
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Perhaps her friends are congratulating her because she reached a hard-won goal? Why did she lose 100 lbs? Probably to feel healthier and look better. But then she feels hurt that her friends acknowledge that and are happy for her. I wonder how she'd feel if no one even noticed? She'd probably be hurt over that too. Some people just have a need to be disgruntled. My husband tells everyone how much weight he lost, we're both proud of him because it isn't easy. He works diligently for every pound lost.

Stille20
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I lost a lot of weight and I had coworkers and random people congratulating me. It's doesn't feel good. Friends are there for your journey but random people, it feels like they have been noticing your body... it's weird and awkward.

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Carmen Sandiego
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So... there are many people who think that fat= unhealthy and body positivity promotes unhealthiness. But though being fat due to overeating may be unhealthy, that is not always the case (of obesity, fat due to overeating is unhealthy). It could also be hormones, genetics, childbirth, etc... something out of their control. Body positivity is not encouraging unhealthiness, it is about realising that whether you are fat or thin, you deserve your dignity. You deserve to be treated equally and normally. You deserve to be accepted. You deserve to be loved. You are beautiful. Whether people think you are attractive or not is their choice, though. Shouldn't matter that much, right? At least, that's the gist of it. Thank you for coming to my TED talk. Don't believe me? Check out these sources for more info: https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/9-reasons-obesity-is-not-a-choice ; https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-body-positivity-4773402

Steve
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

1. Per the CDC, less than 5% of obese people are that way because of physical causes. 2. If her pictures are after losing 100lbs, then she was originally over 200lbs overweight. There is no reality where that is healthy 3. She is clearly morbidly obese. That is not beautiful, dignified, normal or equal. 4. She displays arrogant self-justification that whatever messed-up thing she chooses to do is the right thing because she does it, so therefore she doesn't even need to try to live better. That level of arrogance NEVER deserves understanding or respect. In point of fact it earns the opposite.

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Daria B
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A little off-topic, but there is something very important I want to bring up when talking about weight loss. So many people give up because no matter how healthy they eat and how healthy and sporty their habits are, they just seem to can't be slim. Well, maybe your unwanted chubbiness isn't really fat, but water retention. If that's the case, you have to change your weight loss approach. Go to the doctor and try to find out what causes all this excessive water. Focus on that problem instead, and weight loss will be the result. I thought it was simply aging combined with a sedentary lifestyle (due to stuying and career), but turns out, it was weak kidneys. Hope this piece of information was useful to anyone who's reading it. Stay beautiful. (I know you are ^_-)

Laura Dawson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i will get downvoted but in this day & age (& last 5 years) there has been a glorification of obese bodies being celebrated as if it's a normal body type to have. I'm not talking about having a bigger top/bottom half but generally puffy arms and legs, the neck & body merging together, a huge stomach to leg ratio. Yes there are people who have health issues that make them put on weight but people use this section of society to explain away that's the reason for every person who is obese. It's not socially acceptable to say people are fat because they do consume too much calories on a daily basis. I hate people who make fun & bully bigger people. I'd be the first to punch them trust me. But as speaking as someone whose own mother is 20 stone & her weight is creeping up, (she's 50) though I barely have a relationship with her now, I worry about her as she's got a bad knee & the bone is crumbling away little by little due to a bone disease in our family & no ones frame is supposed to be

Laura Dawson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

carrying 20 + stone & it's affecting her mobility. She's tried to lose weight & loses a stone then puts it back on as she rewards herself with fast food & before you know it the weight has crept back on. She's developed diabetes due to her weight & I have a horrible fear she's gonna meet her end like the mother in Whats Eating Gilbert Grape if she gets any bigger. Fat people shouldn't be bullied or made to feel any less than anyone else but can we agree that being bigger isn't necessarily the best choice likewise it's not the best choice to be eating 800 calories a day to get smaller & smaller. I hate all this "Yes Queeen" "slay big girl" are these cheerleaders gonna be there at someones hospital bed if they do develop a health problem due to their weight? No. Likewise women that are heavy built (big boobs, big bums, hips, thighs) think they are "fat" when they are curvy & it's messed up that bigger women who are 20 + stone upwards call themselves curvy.

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Linda H
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is it soooo horrible to say obesity is unhealthy but fine to say, and shun, and make fun of smokers? With actual laws and ordinances regulating smokers. Obviously second hand smoke, but the "world" feels comfortable laughing at smokers regardless of where they do it. But I would bet that the medical costs of obesity is pretty much in the same as it is for smokers. Btw, not a smoker

Steve
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She lost 100 lbs - that's an entire person, and she doesn't see there is an issue with that? What's worse is to get to and maintain that weight, you need eat enough to feed a small family. Having grown up never having enough food on the table, it's beyond infuriating for a single person to justify why it's ok for them to eat enough by themselves to feed my entire family.

Vera
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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have been trying to lose weight for over 6 months now and all I have lost is 10kgs. It is so hard coz I have so much fighting against me. There is so much I want to do but I feel or am too fat to do it. Plus I am just too embarrassed.

K O
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

10kgs is great and still an accomplishment. Raise yourself up and acknowledge things you have achieved!

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Ashley S
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been a size 10 and a size 22. I'm currently sitting at a 16/18 because I'm exhausted and haven't hit the gym to lose recent baby weight. I tell you this, 99% of people feel better at a healthy weight. All those little aches and pains? Gone. You sleep better, you're stronger mentally and physically. Your self esteem is sky high & you are ready to take on the next goal. You learn how correctly move your muscles, how to run, how to eat to fuel your body. There's no down side to working out & eating well. It should be considered basic care, like going to the Dr or dentist. Stop neglecting your body. You'll regret that s**t when you're over 40, trust me.

Mabel Maney
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a friend who weighs over 400 pounds. She can barely walk. It sucks that people are judged on their weight. But at some point, it is a serious health problem. Fat does not necessarily mean unhealthy, but when you’ve got so much weight on your frame that you cannot walk more than a few steps at a time, it ceases to be an issue of shaming. That much weight is simply too much for the human frame to carry. It is just common sense.

Rei
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Of course it is a well known fact that obesity to the point where it negatively affects health and comfort is an increasing problem in the Western world. But who are we to judge, to devaluate people's worth that have such a problem? It does not make them less valuable, less smart, less lovable, less beautiful, less kind. If an obese friend is suffering because of their weight/looks we should be the ones to support and root for them on their journey to a healthier and stronger body. And if they feel comfortable and at peace with their body we should not try to talk them into loosing weight because it is not going to work anyway. Change comes from within. :-)

Steve
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The woman in this post is clearly morbidly obese and is justifying why she doesn't have to do anything about it. She needs a reality check. Not giving her one is a cowardly abandonment of your responsibilities towards others. Feeding her view is supporting her delusion and frankly turning her into a holier-than-thou b*tch queen from hell

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Forty Seven Pandas
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Notice she said "suddenly everyone loved me". She didn't say, "my friends were happy for me", yet many are implying that was the case. If you come from feeling like no one loves you, to everyone suddenly loving you due to one very specific change, the message is clear: you are unlovable when you are fat, She never said that being fat is healthy, simply that you can still be an amazing lovable person while fat. Most of us, myself included for many years, believe being fat is he result of laziness and greed. This is like assuming someone is poor because they are lazy and stupid, You can't always know cricumstances that led to that outcome. Always best to take the time to get to know someone before rushing into judgement.

Amanda Reicha
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm overweight and it's due to a fear of certain foods. I was told as a child (about 3 or 4) that certain foods would kill me. I didn't eat. My parents did everything and I was too scared. Finally, after being too hungry, my parents gave me anything I was willing to take. A child that young? Sweets. It's a terrible fear to try and overcome, especially when I know I like the food, but my body physically rejects it by making me gag or throw up. I've slowly added healthier foods and it's hard. Exercise isn't always an option due to health conditions not related to food (seizures make me tired and over exertion can cause them). It feels like a loosing battle when people say to just eat healthier. I try. I've never been 200 pounds, but I've been close to it. This isn't something to just "get over."

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Linda H
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My SIL died a couple months ago from complications due to excessive weight. Every organ was effected plus skeletal problems. She was on a scooter for years. If obesity is your choice, fine. But don't cry when people call you out.

Mabel Maney
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a friend who weighs over 400 pounds and can barely walk. At some point, there is such a thing as being too heavy.

Ambar
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

what hurts me isn't that you have to be skinny to accepted or that being thin-more value. It's that people don't realize there are things more terrifying than being fat. having health issues, having parents die suddenly, having your life flash before your eyes. some people have things out of their control and that could be from genetics, birth, health conditions, etc. and I for one, can't get fat and that's what my fear is. having people compare me to another person who is overweight my age. I don't like that nor do I want it since we are all humans and have feelings. I don't have the "perfect" body but I'm fine with the one I got! I just wish that others can have my view. and remember nobody is alive to lose weight, get accepted, and pay bills, not even you. thanks for reading this.

Daniel Marsh
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In a sane world, we would all be able to recognize: (1) Weighing hundreds of pounds is unhealthy, (2) because some people have been able to lose great amounts of weight doesn't mean everyone can, (3) demeaning or devaluing someone because of an unhealthy condition is unjust, unhelpful and cruel.

Heather Atwood
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Body acceptance is a double-edged sword. Being overweight is NEVER healthy, and neither is being UNDERweight. We want people to be happy with themselves, not worrying about how they look, but that is good for the brain, bad for the body. The struggle is real.

DramaDoc
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A few years ago, I lost close to 70 lb. I got a lot of 'congratulations' from various people. Well, as it turned out, I had a severe thyroid disorder that actually pushed me into Type 2 diabetes and moderate DKA. As soon as my thyroid got straightened out, I dropped the weight, the diabetes all but vanished, and my A1c levels have been consistently in the 'normal' range (no danger of DKA) . it wasn't my fault (the weight gain over the years) nor did I actually do anything to "lose" the weight. Still, it was weird being congratulated so much for basically finding out I was really sick and fixing it.

anarkzie
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I have lost more moments of joy, love, success than I can count because I felt too big", That's really sad.

Sum Guy
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most things I see these days are more cultural than anything... people love thick women here more than skinny women

Steve
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3 years ago

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Right! In the same way people love being poor more than rich, being homeless instead of having a home, and having cancer instead of being healthy.

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Roni Weaver-Anderson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know from experience how she feels. I lost 85 lbs and I was not invisible anymore.

Jrizzy Jay
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People compliment things that look good. Things that look good make people feel good. Fat does not look good on most people and it is not healthy in abundance on anyone. You lost weight but you aren't skinny by any stretch of the imagination. Now just work on that bitter attitude and you'll be even more attractive.

Vera
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3 years ago

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BusLady
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think that compliments are good because it can give the person encouragement. When you're on a weight loss journey, you can have days when you have a mental image of yourself as being the same size you were before. A compliment affirms that this is real, you're making this happen.

BusLady
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Re: Keisha's 4th post: It's so true. We have a lot of missed moments due to fear and lowered self esteem. We are "Waiting to Excel."

Ramona Rhein
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is it that we’re only valued by what we look like? I stopped trying to live up to that standard when I realized my looks would eventually go away, I would get old and after three children, my body would never be the same. I spent the first half of my life focusing on what was outside, the second half building my character within. Granted, I haven’t reached that goal yet, but it’s more attainable than some false goalpost someone else set up for me. This young woman is right. She’s opened her eyes to something most will never see. And that’s to be admired.

lara
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kendra WHY do you care what other people think? You do not need anyone else to validate your life. You are you. If you like yourself, that's the ONLY thing that matters. Just remember, the dogs bark but the caravan moves on.

H Moore
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You ARE Gorgeous. Sorry but you're not thin. Thin is bad for you as well. I know, my partner got thin, then he died. But neither is fat healthy either. Now you are neither thin nor fat and look terrific. You weren't ugly before, but you were fat.

Olivia Betterton
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For the person who said fat isnt attractive... o k a y... i find it attractive lol

Stille20
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I enjoy a little chub. Like I want my partner and I to be healthy and we are both working on losing weight, but it doesn't mean I don't think he is sexy now.

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Dale
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh boy another normalization of an overweight "model" being upset that people find her more attractive when she is thin!! Being overweight 90% is preventable barring a few medical conditions, Listen if you are in the entertainment industry know that you will be judged by your appearance, if you cant handle that find a new occupation.

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3 years ago (edited)

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Sometimes fat is unhealthy, but it could also be due to just genetics. This lady is/was pretty, despite being fat. Being fat doesn't lower your value as human being by any stretch of the imagination.

Pumpkin Spice
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3 years ago

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I'm considered overweight, but I'm actually just curvy. My doctor constantly says I'm overweight.

anarkzie
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have no idea what you look like but if you're doctor is saying you're over weight then you should probably listen as they are approaching it from a health perspective and not an attractiveness angle.

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Linda H
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Perhaps her friends are congratulating her because she reached a hard-won goal? Why did she lose 100 lbs? Probably to feel healthier and look better. But then she feels hurt that her friends acknowledge that and are happy for her. I wonder how she'd feel if no one even noticed? She'd probably be hurt over that too. Some people just have a need to be disgruntled. My husband tells everyone how much weight he lost, we're both proud of him because it isn't easy. He works diligently for every pound lost.

Stille20
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I lost a lot of weight and I had coworkers and random people congratulating me. It's doesn't feel good. Friends are there for your journey but random people, it feels like they have been noticing your body... it's weird and awkward.

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Carmen Sandiego
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So... there are many people who think that fat= unhealthy and body positivity promotes unhealthiness. But though being fat due to overeating may be unhealthy, that is not always the case (of obesity, fat due to overeating is unhealthy). It could also be hormones, genetics, childbirth, etc... something out of their control. Body positivity is not encouraging unhealthiness, it is about realising that whether you are fat or thin, you deserve your dignity. You deserve to be treated equally and normally. You deserve to be accepted. You deserve to be loved. You are beautiful. Whether people think you are attractive or not is their choice, though. Shouldn't matter that much, right? At least, that's the gist of it. Thank you for coming to my TED talk. Don't believe me? Check out these sources for more info: https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/9-reasons-obesity-is-not-a-choice ; https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-body-positivity-4773402

Steve
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

1. Per the CDC, less than 5% of obese people are that way because of physical causes. 2. If her pictures are after losing 100lbs, then she was originally over 200lbs overweight. There is no reality where that is healthy 3. She is clearly morbidly obese. That is not beautiful, dignified, normal or equal. 4. She displays arrogant self-justification that whatever messed-up thing she chooses to do is the right thing because she does it, so therefore she doesn't even need to try to live better. That level of arrogance NEVER deserves understanding or respect. In point of fact it earns the opposite.

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Daria B
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A little off-topic, but there is something very important I want to bring up when talking about weight loss. So many people give up because no matter how healthy they eat and how healthy and sporty their habits are, they just seem to can't be slim. Well, maybe your unwanted chubbiness isn't really fat, but water retention. If that's the case, you have to change your weight loss approach. Go to the doctor and try to find out what causes all this excessive water. Focus on that problem instead, and weight loss will be the result. I thought it was simply aging combined with a sedentary lifestyle (due to stuying and career), but turns out, it was weak kidneys. Hope this piece of information was useful to anyone who's reading it. Stay beautiful. (I know you are ^_-)

Laura Dawson
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i will get downvoted but in this day & age (& last 5 years) there has been a glorification of obese bodies being celebrated as if it's a normal body type to have. I'm not talking about having a bigger top/bottom half but generally puffy arms and legs, the neck & body merging together, a huge stomach to leg ratio. Yes there are people who have health issues that make them put on weight but people use this section of society to explain away that's the reason for every person who is obese. It's not socially acceptable to say people are fat because they do consume too much calories on a daily basis. I hate people who make fun & bully bigger people. I'd be the first to punch them trust me. But as speaking as someone whose own mother is 20 stone & her weight is creeping up, (she's 50) though I barely have a relationship with her now, I worry about her as she's got a bad knee & the bone is crumbling away little by little due to a bone disease in our family & no ones frame is supposed to be

Laura Dawson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

carrying 20 + stone & it's affecting her mobility. She's tried to lose weight & loses a stone then puts it back on as she rewards herself with fast food & before you know it the weight has crept back on. She's developed diabetes due to her weight & I have a horrible fear she's gonna meet her end like the mother in Whats Eating Gilbert Grape if she gets any bigger. Fat people shouldn't be bullied or made to feel any less than anyone else but can we agree that being bigger isn't necessarily the best choice likewise it's not the best choice to be eating 800 calories a day to get smaller & smaller. I hate all this "Yes Queeen" "slay big girl" are these cheerleaders gonna be there at someones hospital bed if they do develop a health problem due to their weight? No. Likewise women that are heavy built (big boobs, big bums, hips, thighs) think they are "fat" when they are curvy & it's messed up that bigger women who are 20 + stone upwards call themselves curvy.

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Linda H
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is it soooo horrible to say obesity is unhealthy but fine to say, and shun, and make fun of smokers? With actual laws and ordinances regulating smokers. Obviously second hand smoke, but the "world" feels comfortable laughing at smokers regardless of where they do it. But I would bet that the medical costs of obesity is pretty much in the same as it is for smokers. Btw, not a smoker

Steve
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She lost 100 lbs - that's an entire person, and she doesn't see there is an issue with that? What's worse is to get to and maintain that weight, you need eat enough to feed a small family. Having grown up never having enough food on the table, it's beyond infuriating for a single person to justify why it's ok for them to eat enough by themselves to feed my entire family.

Vera
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3 years ago

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have been trying to lose weight for over 6 months now and all I have lost is 10kgs. It is so hard coz I have so much fighting against me. There is so much I want to do but I feel or am too fat to do it. Plus I am just too embarrassed.

K O
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

10kgs is great and still an accomplishment. Raise yourself up and acknowledge things you have achieved!

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Ashley S
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been a size 10 and a size 22. I'm currently sitting at a 16/18 because I'm exhausted and haven't hit the gym to lose recent baby weight. I tell you this, 99% of people feel better at a healthy weight. All those little aches and pains? Gone. You sleep better, you're stronger mentally and physically. Your self esteem is sky high & you are ready to take on the next goal. You learn how correctly move your muscles, how to run, how to eat to fuel your body. There's no down side to working out & eating well. It should be considered basic care, like going to the Dr or dentist. Stop neglecting your body. You'll regret that s**t when you're over 40, trust me.

Mabel Maney
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a friend who weighs over 400 pounds. She can barely walk. It sucks that people are judged on their weight. But at some point, it is a serious health problem. Fat does not necessarily mean unhealthy, but when you’ve got so much weight on your frame that you cannot walk more than a few steps at a time, it ceases to be an issue of shaming. That much weight is simply too much for the human frame to carry. It is just common sense.

Rei
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Of course it is a well known fact that obesity to the point where it negatively affects health and comfort is an increasing problem in the Western world. But who are we to judge, to devaluate people's worth that have such a problem? It does not make them less valuable, less smart, less lovable, less beautiful, less kind. If an obese friend is suffering because of their weight/looks we should be the ones to support and root for them on their journey to a healthier and stronger body. And if they feel comfortable and at peace with their body we should not try to talk them into loosing weight because it is not going to work anyway. Change comes from within. :-)

Steve
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The woman in this post is clearly morbidly obese and is justifying why she doesn't have to do anything about it. She needs a reality check. Not giving her one is a cowardly abandonment of your responsibilities towards others. Feeding her view is supporting her delusion and frankly turning her into a holier-than-thou b*tch queen from hell

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Forty Seven Pandas
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Notice she said "suddenly everyone loved me". She didn't say, "my friends were happy for me", yet many are implying that was the case. If you come from feeling like no one loves you, to everyone suddenly loving you due to one very specific change, the message is clear: you are unlovable when you are fat, She never said that being fat is healthy, simply that you can still be an amazing lovable person while fat. Most of us, myself included for many years, believe being fat is he result of laziness and greed. This is like assuming someone is poor because they are lazy and stupid, You can't always know cricumstances that led to that outcome. Always best to take the time to get to know someone before rushing into judgement.

Amanda Reicha
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm overweight and it's due to a fear of certain foods. I was told as a child (about 3 or 4) that certain foods would kill me. I didn't eat. My parents did everything and I was too scared. Finally, after being too hungry, my parents gave me anything I was willing to take. A child that young? Sweets. It's a terrible fear to try and overcome, especially when I know I like the food, but my body physically rejects it by making me gag or throw up. I've slowly added healthier foods and it's hard. Exercise isn't always an option due to health conditions not related to food (seizures make me tired and over exertion can cause them). It feels like a loosing battle when people say to just eat healthier. I try. I've never been 200 pounds, but I've been close to it. This isn't something to just "get over."

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Linda H
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My SIL died a couple months ago from complications due to excessive weight. Every organ was effected plus skeletal problems. She was on a scooter for years. If obesity is your choice, fine. But don't cry when people call you out.

Mabel Maney
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a friend who weighs over 400 pounds and can barely walk. At some point, there is such a thing as being too heavy.

Ambar
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

what hurts me isn't that you have to be skinny to accepted or that being thin-more value. It's that people don't realize there are things more terrifying than being fat. having health issues, having parents die suddenly, having your life flash before your eyes. some people have things out of their control and that could be from genetics, birth, health conditions, etc. and I for one, can't get fat and that's what my fear is. having people compare me to another person who is overweight my age. I don't like that nor do I want it since we are all humans and have feelings. I don't have the "perfect" body but I'm fine with the one I got! I just wish that others can have my view. and remember nobody is alive to lose weight, get accepted, and pay bills, not even you. thanks for reading this.

Daniel Marsh
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In a sane world, we would all be able to recognize: (1) Weighing hundreds of pounds is unhealthy, (2) because some people have been able to lose great amounts of weight doesn't mean everyone can, (3) demeaning or devaluing someone because of an unhealthy condition is unjust, unhelpful and cruel.

Heather Atwood
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Body acceptance is a double-edged sword. Being overweight is NEVER healthy, and neither is being UNDERweight. We want people to be happy with themselves, not worrying about how they look, but that is good for the brain, bad for the body. The struggle is real.

DramaDoc
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A few years ago, I lost close to 70 lb. I got a lot of 'congratulations' from various people. Well, as it turned out, I had a severe thyroid disorder that actually pushed me into Type 2 diabetes and moderate DKA. As soon as my thyroid got straightened out, I dropped the weight, the diabetes all but vanished, and my A1c levels have been consistently in the 'normal' range (no danger of DKA) . it wasn't my fault (the weight gain over the years) nor did I actually do anything to "lose" the weight. Still, it was weird being congratulated so much for basically finding out I was really sick and fixing it.

anarkzie
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I have lost more moments of joy, love, success than I can count because I felt too big", That's really sad.

Sum Guy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most things I see these days are more cultural than anything... people love thick women here more than skinny women

Steve
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3 years ago

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Right! In the same way people love being poor more than rich, being homeless instead of having a home, and having cancer instead of being healthy.

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Roni Weaver-Anderson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know from experience how she feels. I lost 85 lbs and I was not invisible anymore.

Jrizzy Jay
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People compliment things that look good. Things that look good make people feel good. Fat does not look good on most people and it is not healthy in abundance on anyone. You lost weight but you aren't skinny by any stretch of the imagination. Now just work on that bitter attitude and you'll be even more attractive.

Vera
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3 years ago

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BusLady
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think that compliments are good because it can give the person encouragement. When you're on a weight loss journey, you can have days when you have a mental image of yourself as being the same size you were before. A compliment affirms that this is real, you're making this happen.

BusLady
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Re: Keisha's 4th post: It's so true. We have a lot of missed moments due to fear and lowered self esteem. We are "Waiting to Excel."

Ramona Rhein
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is it that we’re only valued by what we look like? I stopped trying to live up to that standard when I realized my looks would eventually go away, I would get old and after three children, my body would never be the same. I spent the first half of my life focusing on what was outside, the second half building my character within. Granted, I haven’t reached that goal yet, but it’s more attainable than some false goalpost someone else set up for me. This young woman is right. She’s opened her eyes to something most will never see. And that’s to be admired.

lara
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kendra WHY do you care what other people think? You do not need anyone else to validate your life. You are you. If you like yourself, that's the ONLY thing that matters. Just remember, the dogs bark but the caravan moves on.

H Moore
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You ARE Gorgeous. Sorry but you're not thin. Thin is bad for you as well. I know, my partner got thin, then he died. But neither is fat healthy either. Now you are neither thin nor fat and look terrific. You weren't ugly before, but you were fat.

Olivia Betterton
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For the person who said fat isnt attractive... o k a y... i find it attractive lol

Stille20
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I enjoy a little chub. Like I want my partner and I to be healthy and we are both working on losing weight, but it doesn't mean I don't think he is sexy now.

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Dale
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh boy another normalization of an overweight "model" being upset that people find her more attractive when she is thin!! Being overweight 90% is preventable barring a few medical conditions, Listen if you are in the entertainment industry know that you will be judged by your appearance, if you cant handle that find a new occupation.

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3 years ago (edited)

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Sometimes fat is unhealthy, but it could also be due to just genetics. This lady is/was pretty, despite being fat. Being fat doesn't lower your value as human being by any stretch of the imagination.

Pumpkin Spice
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3 years ago

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I'm considered overweight, but I'm actually just curvy. My doctor constantly says I'm overweight.

anarkzie
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have no idea what you look like but if you're doctor is saying you're over weight then you should probably listen as they are approaching it from a health perspective and not an attractiveness angle.

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