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Bride Berates BFF For Answering An Emergency Call At Her ‘Unplugged Wedding’
Bride Berates BFF For Answering An Emergency Call At Her ‘Unplugged Wedding’
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Bride Berates BFF For Answering An Emergency Call At Her ‘Unplugged Wedding’

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It’s easy to feel like you’re plugged in all day every day. You might sit at a computer for 8 hours at work, scroll on your phone during the bus ride home, watch Netflix with your partner in the evening and spend an hour video chatting with friends from another city before bed. But there are some special moments in life when it’s particularly important to be present, one of them being weddings.

One woman recently reached out to Reddit to share her experience of attending her best friend’s “unplugged” wedding. But after taking a call about a family emergency, the night took a turn. Below, you’ll find the full story, as well as a conversation with Jhona Yellin, Editor at Bespoke Bride

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    This woman’s best friend had a strict “no phones” rule at her wedding

    Image credits: dolgachov / Envato (not the actual photo)

    But after breaking it to respond to a family emergency, she found herself suddenly without a best friend

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    Later, the woman updated her post to clarify details and provide more information

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    Image credits: Wavebreakmedia / Envato (not the actual photo)

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    “Many couples are now encouraging guests to be fully present and engaged in the moment rather than being preoccupied with capturing everything on their phones”

    To learn more about what it’s like to throw a phone-free wedding, we reached out to Jhona Yellin, Editor at Bespoke Bride. Jhona was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda and shared that unplugged weddings are definitely gaining popularity these days. “With everyone tucked inside their phone endlessly – couples really want to avoid that on their special day,” she noted.

    “Many couples are now encouraging guests to be fully present and engaged in the moment rather than being preoccupied with capturing everything on their phones,” Jhona explained. “It’s a lovely way to ensure that the focus remains on the celebration rather than on social media. We actually wrote a short guide last month on how to have an unplugged wedding.”

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    We also asked the expert what parameters couples should set when deciding to have a device-free special day. “When planning an unplugged wedding, couples should clearly communicate their wishes to their guests through various channels, such as invitations, emails, and signage at the venue,” Jhona says. “They might specify that phones should be turned off or placed on silent mode during the ceremony and reception.”

    “Allowing guests to respond to emergencies is important, so couples might consider designating a point person to handle urgent communications”

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    “In many cases, couples are also designating specific times or areas where guests can use their phones, such as during cocktail hour or at designated photo booths,” the expert added. “However, allowing guests to respond to emergencies is important, so couples might consider designating a point person, like the wedding planner or a trusted family member, to handle urgent communications.”

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    “Of course, they’ll need to to include an emergency contact number in the wedding invitations, a special email, the wedding programs or on signage at the venue,” Jhona says. “This information should include the contact details of the wedding planner, venue staff, or a designated point person whom guests can reach out to in case of emergencies.”

    “Another simple solution for emergencies is to encourage guests who anticipate potential emergencies to make prior arrangements with their family members or friends who can be reached in case of urgent situations,” the wedding expert noted. “This way, guests can delegate responsibility for handling emergencies while they fully immerse themselves in the wedding celebration.”

    “If an emergency arises, we always recommend handling the situation discreetly and with a lot of sensitivity”

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    While nobody expects emergencies to occur, we all know that life is unpredictable. So we asked Jhona for advice on exiting a friend’s wedding without causing a scene when unexpected issues pop up. “If an emergency arises during a friend’s wedding, we always recommend handling the situation discreetly and with a lot of sensitivity,” she told Bored Panda.

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    “Firstly, assess the severity of the emergency—if it’s something really urgent that requires immediate attention, discreetly(!) inform the couple or a member of the bridal party,” Jhona recommends. “They can help you quietly leave the event without causing a scene. If possible, try to wait for an appropriate break in the festivities, such as between songs or speeches, to step out. Be sure to express your regrets to the couple afterward and offer your support in any way you can.”

    We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Do you think this woman was wrong to answer a phone call during her best friend’s big day? Feel free to share, and then if you’re interested in reading another Bored Panda article discussing wedding day drama, look no further than right here. And if you’re looking for more advice for planning or attending weddings, be sure to visit Bespoke Bride!

    Many readers agreed that the friend did nothing wrong by responding to her sister

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    However, some called out the friend for breaking the “unplugged” rule and the bride for having such a strong reaction

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    Adelaide May Ross

    Adelaide May Ross

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    Adelaide May Ross

    Adelaide May Ross

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about three years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

    What do you think ?
    lfc73
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly, I can't believe this is even a problem. or a question. I can't imagine a friend being the least bit upset or even knowing that I left a party to look after my Mum. This whole discussion is beyond disturbing. People are weird & cruel & I can't imagine having "friends" like this. It makes no sense.

    WindySwede
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And the YTA and ETA, have main character syndrome?? 🫣🫨😳

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    Little Wonder
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm willing to bet the people voting YTA are brides about to have a wedding. Also an Unplugged reception is obnoxious. Ceremony for sure, no one wants phones waving around in their photos, but the whole day? What if I wanna take a selfie with someone or check train times or whatever? Also the bride needs to take a breath and relax.

    Hphizzle
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I struggle just to understand how people make their wedding day “their” day. Like it’s my wedding and now I get to dictate every little detail for everyone and everything. If you dare disobey my decrees, then my wrath will rain down upon you and you will be exiled from my life.

    Zoe Vokes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s not just their day, it’s often their year too. Friends can’t get pregnant, engaged or married that year without them trying to “steal the limelight.” Some brides are crazy self centred.

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    Molly Whuppie
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    how are people even saying YTA????? its so obviously NTA. Shouldn't even be a question imo.

    Sonia Bailey
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The bride and everyone who said YTA are utterly unhinged.

    Ron Baza
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We can only hope that the people who respond YTA go to a phones-free wedding, turn their phones off, and miss an important notice such as their home burning to the ground.

    Rebekah Krause
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People saying her sister calling 70 times is really weird are TA. It may have “just” been a concussion but concussions are serious and that was her MOTHER. I’m sure her sister was panicking and wanted OP to know it was a real emergency. They don’t know if the person will be fine right away. People get concussions and feel fine and drop dead hours later. A close family member of mine got a concussion, was fine, then wasn’t- they couldn’t tell us if she would even live for almost a week. She ended up fine, but can you imagine if she wasn’t and the call about it was ignored for a bride who thinks she is queen??

    Becca not Becky
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yup. If the mom had a head injury, it can be near impossible to determine how bad it was without proper diagnostics, and even then things can escalate quickly after. If the mom lost consciousness, that's a major sign to get thoroughly evaluated. If something did go south, the family would have had to make her medical decisions, and that's something they should do together. OP is 100% NTA *Edit for typo

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    Lauren Caswell
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I, for some reason, felt the need for an unplugged wedding, I can't imagine not stipulating 'Emergency situations, ie family members hurt, child sitter has to leave, or any other 'urgent'(can't do italics on phone) situation are exempt from the ban. We do ask in this situation you attempt to be descrete if at all possible during the ceremony' That's poorly worded but you catch my drift. What a narcissistic person to say that she can't meet face to face, lest OP have another injured family member and *take attention away from the staaaaar*

    Crouching hippo hidden panda
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow the answers saying that she was the a-hole- betting they’re the narcissistic self centered a-holes of their own universes. Jeesh, so many of them out there. It doesn’t sound like a friendship that was worth keeping, also a bff since childhood should have worried at least a little about her mother. What a waste of a human being

    C.O. Shea
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People are in our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Some friends grow up, others grow tiresome. Move on.

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    lfc73
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly, I can't believe this is even a problem. or a question. I can't imagine a friend being the least bit upset or even knowing that I left a party to look after my Mum. This whole discussion is beyond disturbing. People are weird & cruel & I can't imagine having "friends" like this. It makes no sense.

    WindySwede
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And the YTA and ETA, have main character syndrome?? 🫣🫨😳

    Load More Replies...
    Little Wonder
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm willing to bet the people voting YTA are brides about to have a wedding. Also an Unplugged reception is obnoxious. Ceremony for sure, no one wants phones waving around in their photos, but the whole day? What if I wanna take a selfie with someone or check train times or whatever? Also the bride needs to take a breath and relax.

    Hphizzle
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I struggle just to understand how people make their wedding day “their” day. Like it’s my wedding and now I get to dictate every little detail for everyone and everything. If you dare disobey my decrees, then my wrath will rain down upon you and you will be exiled from my life.

    Zoe Vokes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s not just their day, it’s often their year too. Friends can’t get pregnant, engaged or married that year without them trying to “steal the limelight.” Some brides are crazy self centred.

    Load More Replies...
    Molly Whuppie
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    how are people even saying YTA????? its so obviously NTA. Shouldn't even be a question imo.

    Sonia Bailey
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The bride and everyone who said YTA are utterly unhinged.

    Ron Baza
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We can only hope that the people who respond YTA go to a phones-free wedding, turn their phones off, and miss an important notice such as their home burning to the ground.

    Rebekah Krause
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People saying her sister calling 70 times is really weird are TA. It may have “just” been a concussion but concussions are serious and that was her MOTHER. I’m sure her sister was panicking and wanted OP to know it was a real emergency. They don’t know if the person will be fine right away. People get concussions and feel fine and drop dead hours later. A close family member of mine got a concussion, was fine, then wasn’t- they couldn’t tell us if she would even live for almost a week. She ended up fine, but can you imagine if she wasn’t and the call about it was ignored for a bride who thinks she is queen??

    Becca not Becky
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yup. If the mom had a head injury, it can be near impossible to determine how bad it was without proper diagnostics, and even then things can escalate quickly after. If the mom lost consciousness, that's a major sign to get thoroughly evaluated. If something did go south, the family would have had to make her medical decisions, and that's something they should do together. OP is 100% NTA *Edit for typo

    Load More Replies...
    Lauren Caswell
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I, for some reason, felt the need for an unplugged wedding, I can't imagine not stipulating 'Emergency situations, ie family members hurt, child sitter has to leave, or any other 'urgent'(can't do italics on phone) situation are exempt from the ban. We do ask in this situation you attempt to be descrete if at all possible during the ceremony' That's poorly worded but you catch my drift. What a narcissistic person to say that she can't meet face to face, lest OP have another injured family member and *take attention away from the staaaaar*

    Crouching hippo hidden panda
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow the answers saying that she was the a-hole- betting they’re the narcissistic self centered a-holes of their own universes. Jeesh, so many of them out there. It doesn’t sound like a friendship that was worth keeping, also a bff since childhood should have worried at least a little about her mother. What a waste of a human being

    C.O. Shea
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People are in our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Some friends grow up, others grow tiresome. Move on.

    Load More Comments
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