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Christina Rauscher , Wikimedia Commons Report

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Pigeons are pets. They are not made to live on their own in the world. White pigeons are specially breeded for weddings and released into the wild, where they die. This tradition is animal cruelty.

Final score:

205points

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Anna Solan 3 years ago

No, I understand that they are usually homing pigeons, and they return to their coop after the release. It would be ridiculously expensive otherwise to breed and raise "disposable" pigeons for ceremonies.

53points

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I find this appalling & disrespectful along with it being more fitting at a child's birthday party than a wedding reception. If after spending thousands of dollars on wedding attire, the wedding itself, and spending hours dressing with care only to have my mate abuse & humiliate me in front of our guests, I wouldn't have married him to begin with. It's more than just cake smeared faces, it's the total disregard of feelings & lack of respect that puts this in the top spot of something I'd never take part in. Ever.

Laurie Parks , Al Abut Report

Final score:

173points

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Nikki Sevven 3 years ago

That's actually not traditional. The tradition is for the bride and groom to feed one another a bit of cake, not to smash it in one another's faces.

51points

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Father Escort. I hate this tradition so much because of its original meaning. It stems from a time when a woman was practically “property” for all her life. The tradition basically means the father gives away his daughter (his “property”) to her husband. It’s just awful, no thanks.

Lea Sing , myllissa Report

Final score:

171points

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Jessica Nametz 3 years ago

One of the best moments of my life was when my father walked me down the aisle... So to each their own, I suppose ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

45points

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I hate white for two main reasons: First, it looks boring, second, it looks awful on me. Doesn’t suit me at all. Also, most wedding dresses look just like that: a wedding dress. You spend a ridiculously high amount of money for a dress you’re probably only gonna wear once in your life. I’d rather wear something in navy blue or a really dark purple. Looks much more interesting in my opinion, and you can also wear it in the future.

Lea Sing , 99mimimi Report

Final score:

158points

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Mary Rose Kent 3 years ago

Good call!

19points

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I basically planned my own bridal shower. That’s probably weird to some people, but it just seemed like the easiest thing to do. I just wanted something simple where I could spend the afternoon with some of my closest friends. We went bowling, drove go-karts, went through a laser maze, and checked out the arcade games and virtual reality set-up that the venue had. A few girls came over to hang out afterwards. Affordable and fun for everyone involved.

Jessica Duhon Quinn , georgia Report

Final score:

139points

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Mary Rose Kent 3 years ago

Sounds fun!

24points

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Diamond engagement ring… nope. I had a garnet in my first engagement ring and my second one was zirconia that I eventually replaced with a garnet. Diamonds (and tradition) are not my thing.

Victoria Elder , Diamond Expert Report

Final score:

138points

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Aunt Messy 3 years ago

Mine is jade.

32points

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Nah, I won't invite people whom I haven't talked to for months to my wedding. I won't invite all my relatives that I don't really know. I won't invite old friends from school, neighbours, colleagues and so on. A wedding is a very private thing for me. Actually I'd like to invite no one so my husband and I can share this special moment alone.

Christina Rauscher , Lee Haywood Report

Final score:

129points

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N G 3 years ago

Can't do that in most places. You need witnesses. It's a legal requirement just about everywhere. I believe (happy to be corrected) even drive-thru Vegas weddings provide a witness as part of the package. There will ALWAYS be at least two other people besides the bride and groom involved. There is no special moment alone.

28points

Cherelle-Renée Childs , InAweofGod'sCreation Report

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I will not be given away by my father. I don’t want the officiant asking him who gives me to be married to my hypothetical spouse. This isn’t because I have anything against my father or my relationship with him. I just don’t like the idea that I’m his to give away as he sees fit. I want both of my parents to escort me in as a sign that they, as people who love me and raised me, support me and my marriage. I want my spouse’s parents to do the same.

Final score:

121points

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Malou Hedlund 3 years ago

wasnt this on nr 2 already?

15points

#10

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch The garter. I think its tasteless and I wouldn't have been able to have had a toss either with less than 20 people in attendance.

Cole Ferguson , kaboompics Report

Final score:

116points

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Maximum Ride 3 years ago

Well you could make the garter more interesting by using it to hold a gun or a knife, like in movies. Just need to change the theme of the wedding a bit...

45points

#11

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch My answer will be short because the one prohibition for my wedding was in the vows. I ensured that the phrase “to love, honor and OBEY” were not uttered. I know me - somewhat of a traditionalist - but only when a role is CHOSEN, not assigned because of gender. I didn’t feel it necessary to promise to do something that I would never do - on principle alone!

Approaching 20 years, my husband sometimes still teases me if we have a disagreement and I’ve dug my feet in on the issue. He’ll say “hey, weren’t you supposed to love, honor and OBEY?! … oh yeah, you did say you wouldn’t “obey,” didn’t you!” (He thinks he’s being funny!)

Shelia Gulledge , Matthew Hurst Report

Final score:

114points

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Felix Feline 3 years ago

My wife and I wrote our own vows.

36points

#12

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Speaking for Turkish Wedding Traditions:

I actually have many, but I’ll go with the one that really annoys the hell out of me:

The Red Ribbon. Before the bride leaves the parents’ home for the wedding, her close relatives put a red ribbon around her waist in order to symbolise her chastity. Since the bridegroom is the only one who gets to untie that knot, it also shows her promise to him that he will be the first one to gain access to her body.

Thankfully, this is rarely performed by the modern couples today, but I guess it is still a very common practice in rural areas.

Needless to say, I won’t wear a “maidenhood belt” to make myself look like a gift wrapped up in a box ready for my husband to open.

If, by the time of our wedding, both of us are virgins, then WE may BOTH wear purity rings or something similar to show our commitment to each other, but even this completely egalitarian and not misogynistic substitute would make me uncomfortable. Why does a huge number of people involving many strangers need to know about the intimate details of our relationship? It’s NONE of their business.

Its cultural connotations aside, I think a red ribbon looks awful on a white dress. The right wedding dress is the most elegant and classy thing you can possibly wear, I believe. Something so tacky as a red ribbon instantly ruins the elegance of the special dress you’ll get to wear only once. (Generally speaking)

Zeynep Cemre , Marco Verch Report

Final score:

103points

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Jayne Kyra 3 years ago

It is disgusting how many people are obsessed with the idea of virginity.

22points

#13

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I despise the so-called “tradition” of the groom removing the bride’s garter and tossing it to the groomsmen, with the one who catches it expected to put it on the leg of the mortified woman who caught the bouquet.
Why?

A garter is underwear, and any removal of bridal underwear should definitely take place in private, after the wedding is over.
Given the competitive instincts of some young men, especially when free alcohol is involved, injuries are possible.
Any “tradition” that encourages a man to slide a piece of clothing up a woman’s leg in public — possibly a woman he doesn’t even know — while his friends yell “HIGHER!! HIGHER!!” should be discouraged.
It is not even a tradition, it is an unfortunate fad recently introduced in the mistaken idea that the bouquet-toss needed some masculine equivalent.
Even if it were a tradition, not all traditions are worth preserving. The closest tradition I can think of to this is the old one of displaying the bloody sheets the morning after the wedding night to prove the bride was a virgin — and for some reason that one has died out.

Jennifer Georgia , erge Report

Final score:

101points

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Mary Rose Kent 3 years ago

...”for some reason”... Good one!

17points

#14

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Flower Girls. Won’t be there either, again, because of the original meaning behind this tradition. From what I understand, this tradition stands for fertility for the couple, and since I never ever want children, I will definitely ditch this tradition…maybe I am gonna be doing a strict ban on flowers of any kind to reduce my fertility lol.

Lea Sing , Marquette LaForest Report

Final score:

95points

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Asy EnderDragon 3 years ago

oh no! i was the flower girl for my aunt (who just happened to be pregnant)

14points

#15

This tradition actually involves family and friends showering the couple with disgusting things (usually wet things) and then tying bride to a tree. This is meant to show that the bride and groom are ready for anything.

I think I might stick to killing the ender dragon and the wither at the same time in Minecraft to show I’m up to anything.

Kyle Dring Report

Final score:

86points

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Xylle Flora 3 years ago

I'd rather kill ten withers while fighting the ender dragon with mining fatigue than have that happen to me lol

26points

#16

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I like hanging out with my buddies but I don’t drink, I don’t like strippers, and I certainly don’t think of marriage as a trap or an end to my freedom.

I get that bachelor parties aren’t specifically tied to all that stuff, I can just go out to dinner with like six of my really close friends but I wouldn’t do that because I’m getting married, I’d do that because they’re my friends. Also the best thing to do the night before a big event that starts at like noon is probably, I would imagine, not going out and staying up super late with guys who are talking like you’re marching towards death row.

Charles Johnson , Youperspective Report

Final score:

83points

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McPanda 3 years ago

Bachelor parties can still be an awesome tradition that don't involve that at all. We played basketball, board games, video games, and rented bouncy houses for my buddy. Three-day sleepover like we were in middle school again, and it was awesome

62points

sylvantic 3 years ago

you had me at bouncy house. i love those. my throat always hurts after, but it's worth it.

6points

denzoren 3 years ago

I think bachelor parties get a bad name from Hollywood. For all my friends we just all stayed together for the weekend, played games, watched movies, some drinking and just all round having fun with the boys. Lol

8points

Bama Belle 3 years ago

My only problem with conventional bachelor/bachelorette parties is strippers. (And having it the night before the wedding, which is insane.) My sister attended a bachelorette party at the maid of honor's home. There were two male strippers. Both the bride and bridesmaid (married) took a stripper to a bedroom and locked the door.

3points

Joonscrab 3 years ago

WHAT? Isn't that considered as cheating? Why would they do that? Also like...STDs?

2points

Annemarie Mattheyse 3 years ago

My husband and his best friend sat on the porch and drank whisky and smoked cigars and talked the night before the wedding. That's it. I was so thankful he wasn't dragged out to a strip club or anything like that!

2points

GirlFriday 3 years ago

My brother went on a camping and hunting weekend with his brothers and friends. They drank a few beers, fished, and tried to hunt. Mostly they stayed in the cabin and ate junk food and played video games.

2points

Maggie Dinzler Shaw 3 years ago

My son had his close friends and family on a riverboat and they all played cards and gambled with fake money. Lots of food and fun. (and costumes)

1point

CincyReds 3 years ago

I just don't get why bachelor parties and barcherlette parties have turned into this huge thing! Like going to vegas, or any trip! Just more money, I jsut went out with my girlfriends, and my husband had his dudes over at our house that we just bought... just something simple to s[end time with the people that are closest to you.

1point

deathrose 3 years ago

My husband drank with his dad and brother at home and played Cards Against Humanity.

1point

Craig Reynolds 3 years ago

My friends were actually pissed when I refused to have a bachelor party! Apparently, as I was told, it's not about me! It's about them having an excuse to party and do stupid sh*t. It didn't happen and they got over it.

0points

C.S. E. 3 years ago

My all time favorite rendition of a bachelor party is in Parks & Rec 'Two Parties.' The bachelor(s) party looked like so much fun! Also, I loved Andy's wrap up during the credits.

0points

#17

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Bridesmaids and Best Man. Not necessary either. Never understood this tradition to be honest.

Lea Sing , Tommy Huynh Report

Final score:

79points

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N G 3 years ago

As long as you have someone else present to act as a witness - we had a best man and a man of honour who had to sign the register as our witnesses - just made it easier to have them already standing at the front.

22points

Jessica Duhon Quinn , Antonio Delgado Report

#18

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch As far as the wedding day, we didn’t participate in the dollar dance, although we considered it. I’m pretty introverted myself and can’t dance as is, so we elected not to. We also chose not to smash cake in each other’s faces…to each their own, but to us just seemed like more of a mess than it was worth.

Final score:

78points

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Aliquid A 3 years ago

Never heard of the dollar dance before reading this

32points

#19

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch It’s traditional for all of the guests to stand when the bride came out. I personally have never liked that. I decided to have my officiant tell everyone to remain seated when I came out before the processional began. Some of the people at the rehearsal the night before thought I was completely insane (some to the point of being combative). They were adamant that I couldn’t go against that tradition and people were going to get confused and stand anyway. I’m a pretty laid back person, so my response was, “Well, then they stand.” Whatever. It’s not going to ruin my day! In the end, no one stood. Everyone remained seated. And my photographer got a great picture of my dad and I coming down the aisle!

Kelly Bailey , Patina Report

Final score:

69points

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Anna Solan 3 years ago

Especially when there are some elderly guests who can't stand, then they don't get to see anything either.

35points

#20

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Cutting the cake. I would rather put multiple cakes on a huge buffet and people can just take some as they like.

Lea Sing , Nicole Sánchez Report

Final score:

64points

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PandaPanda 3 years ago

Yeah, I get that

15points

#21

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I love to dance and I have always enjoyed weddings that have dancing, but I also have been to weddings where there was a small group of people dancing while the rest of the guests sit at their tables waiting for the appropriate amount of time to stay until they can go home. Those guests can’t talk to each other over the loud DJ, so if they’re not in the mood for dancing, then they just sit there [...] We had a lowcountry boil and the majority of tables were standing oyster tables (with a few tables for people that may have wanted to sit down). People were able to move around and talk and play lawn games instead of hitting the dance floor. It was so fun! We did have our guitarist sing and play in the background, though.

Kelly Bailey , Jon Fravel Report

Final score:

61points

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PandaPanda 3 years ago

that does sound pretty cool

15points

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#22

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch One pre-wedding tradition I selected not to take part in was having a bridal shower. Prior to my wedding, I had been invited to a couple of bridal showers. They were well-meaning, but they were also just downright awkward.

So many people didn’t know each other, and of course the ages ranged from young adults, to middle-aged women, and the elderly. It also felt weird playing some of the bridal shower games with such a…diverse group.

When two of my bridesmaids brought up the subject to me, they offered to host the bridal shower and even had a theme picked out. Don’t get me wrong— I appreciated the thought, but it just wasn’t for me, and I knew it would only be added stress and anxiety that I already felt just preparing for the wedding itself.

For some of the same reasons, mentioned above, I just felt like it would be more of an uncomfortable event versus the fun event it was supposed to be. Too many people not knowing each other, and a wide variety of ages, stacked upon the fact that I knew some people on my side were very introverted and probably wouldn’t enjoy it themselves.

Jessica Duhon Quinn , C x 2 Report

Final score:

59points

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Easily Excitable Panda 3 years ago

I've been to one bridal shower, never going to another. It was awful. I was a friend of the bride's, but neither her sister nor mother (the ones who threw the party) knew who I was, and treated me like dirt. I got out of there as quickly as possible, and I'm pretty sure they sighed in relief when I was gone.

15points

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#23

Some cultures kidnap the bride either just before the dancing or cutting the cake. This is an awful tradition because the people who do the kidnapping usually just go sit in a bar and drink with her. It’s very disrespectful to everyone. Plus, I once heard a story about a kidnapped bride and a tragic car accident. The bride was killed on her wedding day early in the reception. What selfish people. It isn’t even a clever prank. So if I ever saw someone trying to concoct this, I would blow the whistle and do everything I could to stop it.

Amy Rubins Report

Final score:

57points

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Bettie-Jean Neal 3 years ago

I got kidnapped and we just sat in the limo and drank. It was fun. Didn't have to go anywhere.

23points

#24

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Jeez…Who thought drunk men attaching money with sharp, pointed objects to a costly, delicate dress was a good idea? And that's the good part. I first heard of this & saw it in 1991. I couldn't even comprehend the explanation I was given, and then I saw it. Truly, it's one of the tackiest things I've ever seen. The bride covered in paper money while male relatives cajole & ridicule guests into pinning larger bills to the bride's dress. If guests want to give money as a wedding gift they will. They don't need to be coerced into buying time with the bride. Well, maybe some brides, but I mean really…what's next? $100 bills in the bride’s garter? I just…can't.

Laurie Parks , Wikimedia Commons Report

Final score:

56points

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Mary Rose Kent 3 years ago

Good call—it’s so tacky!

15points

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#25

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Neither my husband nor I are fans of the tradition of pounding on the tables or glassware for the bride and groom to kiss during dinner. We were both hungry, wanted to enjoy our dinner, were grossed out at the thought of kissing someone with a mouth full of food, and also are not big into public displays of affection. After the prayer and toasts at the reception before dinner, we announced that we would kiss once (and we did) and then asked our guests to refrain from doing this. A few non-compliant individuals still tried it, but we basically ignored them and they got the message that we truly weren’t going to do it.

Teri Barrons , Kayla Sawyer Report

Final score:

48points

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Sara Diogo 3 years ago

Even as a guest I hate that tradition. This is the XXI century, hasn't everybody seen the couple kiss before?

13points

Victoria Elder , Wikimedia Commons Report

#26

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I refused to wear white. Not because I wasn’t a virgin, though that was certainly true… but really, not everyone looks good in white and I’ve seen way more white wedding gowns that looked like cheap dress-up clothes I would buy for my daughter when she was a toddler than ones that looked luxurious and beautiful. I also refused to buy something I would only wear once that cost more than I spent for the rest of the wedding and reception combined. I wore a red dress to the first one and a red skirt with a black, white, and red sweater to the second.

Final score:

47points

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Nikki Sevven 3 years ago

Honestly, I think that an off-white gown looks much more luxurious and beautiful than a stark white one. But I also love that modern brides are going with gorgeous, saturated colors and unique designs.

8points

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#27

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Bouquet toss, the bouquet was dried flowers, fragile and handmade from etsy. I also believe that I paid $155 for it.

Cole Ferguson , hippo px Report

Final score:

45points

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Aunt Messy 3 years ago

Mine was freesias and orchids, and I was NOT just going to toss that. I gave it to my godmother, where it lasted about ten days as a centerpiece on her dining room table.

28points

#28

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch To be honest, I couldn’t care less about it. For my wedding, people can come as they like, as long as they’re wearing something, it is fine with me.

Lea Sing , sylvar Report

Final score:

40points

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Sarah Grape 3 years ago

I'm so close to having water guns/silly string/ doge ball at my reception so no one dresses up. because then I don't have to wear a dress while partaking in these activities

16points

Cherelle-Renée Childs , Wikimedia Commons Report

#29

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I don’t want to wear a white dress. While, as stated in a previous answer, it didn’t originate as a symbol of purity, it has long been associated with that, and I find the focus on a woman’s so-called purity to be weird and disturbing. Wearing a dress in a different color is a way of saying that my sexual history is nobody’s business but my own and the point is that I’m making a life commitment to someone I love, not whether or not I had sex with anyone else before.

Final score:

37points

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Arctic Fox Lover 3 years ago

She must really, really hate white dresses--so far, the white dress thing was mentioned 3 times.

9points

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#30

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch You know these typical wedding cakes. When looking at the photo above, the only thing that goes through my mind is B O R I N G. Also, it looks so…creamy? I feel like I am gonna vomit just by looking at it.

I’d rather do something special and unusual.

Lea Sing , jeremywongweddings Report

Final score:

35points

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Mary Rose Kent 3 years ago

Boring, yes; vomitous, no

26points

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#31

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch There was no saving of the wedding cake in the freezer for a year. At my first wedding, our cakes got demolished by accident (oooo, an omen!). At my second, we actually forgot to cut the cake after the civil service held in our living room with our three closest friends there to witness it. I don’t remember what happened to the cake later, I’m sure we just ate it.

Victoria Elder , Austin White Report

Final score:

25points

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Aliquid A 3 years ago

For a year? I still have a piece of wedding cake in the freezer 15 years after the wedding.

5points

Christina Rauscher , Wikimedia Commons Report

#32

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Polterabend is a German wedding custom in which, on the night before the wedding, the guests break porcelain to bring luck to the couple's marriage. (From Wikipedia) Sorry, but I don't have any reason to smash porcelain. Plus, traditionally on Polterabend the groom celebrates the last night in which he is “free” and unmarried. That's just old sexist thinking.

Final score:

24points

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Russell Ellwardt 3 years ago (edited)

Wrong. The traditional German Polterabend is NOT meant to be a bachelor party for the groom. It is a party with both bride and groom present, usually the atmosphere is pretty laid back. Polterabend means open house so all their friends and mates are welcome, also those who are not invited to the actual wedding.

6points

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#33

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Well, I have been in charge of the stag, being his best man and the the other members of the group being a little wlld, it was my job to keep him safe.

I have dragged up and gone on a Hen night, as we were close friends and she wanted me there, so I made it an event.

I have been in charge of the music on the wedding reception night, in my role as DJ. I have made the wedding cake and catered the wedding breakfast, in my role as a chef.

But the one thing I will not partake in is the obligatory photos.

Paul Lucy Savage , Elliot Harmon Report

Final score:

24points

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N G 3 years ago

As a guest/part of the wedding party, or as a main participant? I won't say my experience was universal, but a lot of the photos we had taken allowed me to have memories of a very busy day and help cement little moments that would otherwise have been forgotten. They also contain the last images of my nan before she died - that is priceless.

10points

Walt Moyo , Scorpions and Centaurs Report

#34

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I won't solicit or take wedding gifts. There's no point in people giving me money for getting married. I believe that anyone daring to get married should bear full responsibility for it. I know this sounds controversial but that's how I see it. If one can't cover wedding expenses, how will they cover the costs of sustaining a family (which are much more expensive)? I don't want to bother others with my choices. I'd rather be given money when I get sick (which isn't a choice).

Final score:

21points

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N G 3 years ago

I sort of understand the sentiment - particularly in light of all these Bridezilla posts demanding $$$ in the thousands, but at the same time you have the option to ask for e.g. donations to your favourite charity. People WANT to gift things in celebration - do you also reject birthday presents on the basis of your accidental appearance in the world? You shouldn't solicit gifts, but allow people the option for generosity.

13points

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#35

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch While my father did walk me down the aisle at my first wedding, there was no giving me away. My father didn’t own me and didn’t make decisions about who got to marry me. My parents weren’t invited to my second wedding, something my mom was salty about for a while. But hey, I love my daughter more than I love her and my daughter went to school that day. It was a very simple civil service and the only reason there were any other people there was because we needed witnesses.

Victoria Elder , Chris Bartow Report

Final score:

20points

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Noemie Houtekie-N'Da 3 years ago

Umm, why did you not invite your parents to your second wedding???

6points

#36

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Veil. Just…why? It looks awful and hides the bride’s hair.

Lea Sing , Milivojevic Report

Final score:

15points

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Noemie Houtekie-N'Da 3 years ago

I thought the veil looked nice....

36points

#37

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Truthfully, at this point in my life, I would not participate in most of them. Many seem quite silly. But two that stand out in my mind are: I would not have anyone walk me down the aisle. I am a middle-aged woman and the idea of someone else giving me to someone seems ridiculous.

Deanna Boskovich , Blake Johnson Report

Final score:

15points

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Sarah Grape 3 years ago

yup. I'd trip. guaranteed.

4points

#38

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I’m definitely not opposed to MARRIAGE. Of course I wouldn’t have a child with someone I wasn’t married to.

But the idea of spending that much money, time, and energy planning a party doesn’t really appeal to me — especially since I know I probably wouldn’t get to talk to the guests for more than a few minutes each.

I also don’t like being the center of attention, and think I would find spending a whole day having everyone ooh and aah over me to be exhausting. Like, if I’m crushing it at a basketball game, I don’t mind people cheering for me and chanting at me for that hour. If I’m doing a live show, I don’t mind being in front of the audience… But in those cases, I’m the center of attention because I’m doing something I love, not because I’ve found someone to love…

Eva Glasrud , Hades Bane Report

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Cupcake168 3 years ago

The first paragraph is also SO medieval

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#39

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Well that would have to be the wedding ceremony itself. My parents raised me to believe that a simple, commonlaw marriage was good enough. By which I mean my mom just moved in with my dad and started using his last name and they addressed one another with spouse titles like husband and wife when asked. But they had no marriage license, no paperwork, no certificates, there was no ceremony. My parents were fine with this for years and I grew up disliking the idea of a ceremony and certificates and stuff. I'm also an introvert so I can't imagine how embarrassing it would be to have all the people i love watching me in a big wedding dress saying vows. Plus I'm not a christian, not really anything, my beliefs are my own pieced together from my experience with various faiths around the world.

Glenn Griffon , Picryl Report

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N G 3 years ago

YMMV, but in some countries there are financial safety nets to that bit of paper.

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#40

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Not really necessary, is it? I mean…it’s our wedding, of course we’re gonna be married, right?

Lea Sing , Hong Chang Bum Report

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N G 3 years ago

I'm not 100% sure, but I believe in certain cultures/jurisdictions, that bit forms part of the legalities of the ceremony. As in, no, you're not married if the officiant doesn't say that bit.

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Tres D 3 years ago

What about the father walking the bride down the isle. I don't think that was covered.

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Dee Pond 3 years ago

lol. well done.

7points

Elizabeth Molloy 3 years ago

*aisle

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Mama Panda 3 years ago

It was towards the middle part of this list.

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PandaMonium 3 years ago

I'd say do whatever floats your boat for your wedding. The problem is the societal pressure to do certain customs (and the absurd price tag). So we should all back off and let people put on the day they want. Also I think different traditions mean different things to different people. My parents walked me down the aisle but I never thought of it as giving me away. My Dad was in a wheelchair and it was a big deal - and I just wanted them to be part of the ceremony. Also my wedding was performed by a Catholic priest/ Jewish rabbi combo so it was a mix of customs that we decided were important to us. TL;DR - let people do what they want and can afford. Except for "obey" no one should say obey.

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Happy_Pandalover 3 years ago

Totally agreed. Everyone should just have their dream wedding without social pressure. That‘s all i can say. Personally, i never knew about the background of most traditions, so i don‘t really care. Maybe i have been lucky. But most weddings of my friends were beautiful, meaningful and fun experiences. I admit i‘ve enjoyed all hen parties, being a bridesmaid multiple times, seeing proud fathers walking their independent daughters to the aisle. None of them see their daughter as belongings. So just let people do what they enjoy as long as noone gets hurt :)

8points

Ozacoter 3 years ago

Usually the main problem is in the relatives. A couple usually gets a ton of presure from both families about how the wedding is going to be. One of the big reasons why i am not married. I dont want to hear the non stop complaints for having a small wedding, for having short hair, for not wearing a dress etc. It would be a nightmare.

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s. vitkovitsky 3 years ago

What if they want to say it?

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Stille20 3 years ago

I'm in the process of planning a wedding. I don't feel the need for bridal party, cake, flowers, white dress or a lot of things. However, some things are literally not worth the fight. What do I care if there is cake or no cake. So what if my father wants to walk me down the aisle. I just want to throw a fun party where my friends and family feel included.

11points

PandaMonium 3 years ago

Congratulations! I hope you have a great wedding day and more importantly, a wonderful lifelong adventure together!

7points

Theater Kid 3 years ago

This is nice to hear. I never knew so many traditions had harmful/sexist origins. I'm glad these people are making their weddings the best for them and not doing something just because society told them to.

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Johnny 3 years ago

I was asked to be in a friend's wedding, and he wanted a "swashbuckling" theme -- all the groomsmen would wear black tights and puffy shirts and carry (fake) swords. I almost declined to participate because it sounded pretty hokey, but he was a good friend, and I relented and became a groomsman. Turns out it was a *lot* of fun, even many of the guests were in costume, and I'm really glad I participated.

7points

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

Cool. Hubby got suckered into a family wedding where they worn their kilts, clan tartans, etc., and there was a bagpiper, it was lovely.... except for the awkward bits where it turns out there really is no undies under the kilt, and after a few drinks, the kilts flew up!

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Patti Vance 3 years ago

this isn't a tradition but destination weddings. not everyone can afford to travel and stay at a place for a wedding. it's a strain on the members of the wedding as well since a maid of honor of groomsman may feel obligated to attend but then strap themselves financially for the 'honor' of being there for their friend. as for anything else, ...people need to make themselves happy for their wedding, not anyone else.

7points

Lea S. 3 years ago

I have family and friends who did a destination wedding but it was specifically to keep it small and keep people from crashing. There was no wedding party, no obligation to attend, it was basically the dream family vacay and we will always remember it.

4points

Ozacoter 3 years ago

Yes. It is very selfish to oretend that everybody can afford that.

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Kristal 3 years ago

I think it depends on how the couple handles the destination wedding. It is okay to have one as long as they don't require or expect all invited guests to attend. Demanding everyone to come, no matter the cost, is tacky and just inconsiderate.

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Mimi M 3 years ago

So many repeats. C'mon, be a bit more careful. The father one was at least 3 times if not more.

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Kat Olmstead 3 years ago

Same with the white dress.

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perfect pikachu 3 years ago

I do not think that you should waste a hundred dollars on a wedding dress when you could just dress in casual cloths that you already own? it just don´t make sense(at all)

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Tacocat 3 years ago

I really like this article. I personally don't know if I want to get married at some point, but seeing that I'm not the only one who thinks certain things are weird is nice. Like the garter toss! Who actually thought that was a good thing and had enough followers to copy??? And how lots of people took the historical side to back up their dislike was great.

4points

Michelle Brandt 3 years ago

My wedding was in my backyard, my uncle was the officiant, I wore a dress that came from the prom section at Macy's, no one was dressed up more than looking nice and after the 15 minute ceremony(and getting pelted with surprise rice!) there was catered BBQ, cupcakes, yard games and a campfire. Music, yes. Dance floor, no. Neighbors were invited to have a drink :)

3points

Daniel O'Neal 3 years ago

Right? We got married at a local park, the officiant was a friend, invited only close friends and family, wore reasonable clothes, and instead of gifts we asked everyone to bring a potluck dish for the reception. We did have cupcakes.

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Ji 3 years ago

My mom wore a pink kimono for her wedding, even though her horrible husband tried to tell her that her "Asian dress thing" was gross and too "weird". She wore it anyway haha, and ended up marrying someone else.

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Joy 3 years ago

Your mom is a freaking boss!!!!

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Nica Van 3 years ago

Honestly? The very thought of living with another human being makes me anxious. I plan to live what remains of my life surrounded by as many pets as I can rescue. Having said that, I am always very happy for people who find someone they want to share their lives with and I wish them the very best together.

3points

John C 3 years ago

You do you. Lots of judgement floating around here, including judgement of those that choose to partake in and enjoy some of these customs. Have the wedding of YOUR dreams and let others do too, right?

3points

JennyLaRue 3 years ago

There's so much time and money in weddings that gets spent on things that don't really make the day any more memorable or special. Favours and seat ribbons are some that spring to mind.

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Celeste Grant 3 years ago

Just so we are clear.... a lot of these are only American traditions!

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Bre 3 years ago

No, they're not. Most "American" traditions are derived from other cultures and countries. Which ones are only American?

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Asy EnderDragon 3 years ago

all this talk of weddings make me feel lonely and single

2points

PandaMonium 3 years ago

I'm sorry you feel lonely. This last year has been an especially difficult one to meet people. I hope happiness finds you soon.

1point

Snake of Eden 3 years ago

My parents just flew to Hawii and read their own vows, were barefoot on a beach with 5 other people there. Oh, and they got married after I was born (which my grandparents didn't like). Their wedding seemed so fun...

1point

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

The wedding is ONE DAY. The marriage is ... well, hpefully more than one day.

1point

Demi Zwaan 3 years ago

The most expensive part of our wedding was the fact we wanted to get married on 7/7/7 and that happened to be a Saturday, which made everything more expensive. Total cost, including rings, dress, suit, cake, lunch and venue was about 2k. Also, we thought 'hey, 7/7/7 is nice' 7 weeks before that date, so we planned it quite quickly too. I'm glad neither of us cared about tradition, apart from the getting married part itself, so we didn't want expensive rings, dress, dances and djs, etc. Just us, some people we care for and an official saying 'you may kiss each other'.

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Dora Marie 3 years ago

The funny part is, most of these supposed traditions are basically based on what people saw in movies. My mum had a church wedding and a dinner at home for 20 people. Yet when I was getting married (in the middle of the pandemic) she was trying to talk me into some sort of big extraverted garden party. Guess what, I had a small church wedding and a lunch at home for 20 people. 💁🏼‍♀️

1point

N G 3 years ago

Haven't even heard of half of these traditions, so some of them must be culture/country specific (two do actually say Turkey and Germany). I believe you should do what you and your spouse feel most comfortable doing. There is no need to partake in a tradition, just because it's a tradition. There are some aspects which may be legally required (having a couple of witnesses for example, and some wording choices are non-negotiable - although "obey" is DEFINITELY optional, and should be utterly removed IMO). The rest is up to the two of you. And some compromise may be involved, that's the point of a partnership.

1point

Glen MacLeod 3 years ago

All of these traditions seem silly to me. Ironically I was a Virgin on my wedding day, but I wore a creamy butter yellow suit and cloche hat with a bouquet of silk flowers, which I kept. We had 12 guests, married in a small, charming park in Charleston, SC and a JP we'd us. The reception after was just finger food, cake and a few bottles of champagne. My mother, who nagged me to go bigger, admitted after that is was the loveliest wedding she'd ever seen. All these traditions were invented at one time, so invent your own. The vows you make are more important than wasting thousands on an event that has no bearing on their commitment or happiness.

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Batwench Premium 3 years ago

White Wedding Dress is a fairy recent tradition, blame Queen Victoria https://www.historyextra.com/period/modern/history-weddings-rings-bridesmaids-why-white-wedding-dress-traditions/

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Elizabeth Molloy 3 years ago

27 years married. We did none of those things; no fuss, little expense. It's about the marriage, not the wedding.

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Joy 3 years ago

My big fit is having guests wear overly fancy clothes. For my first wedding, I had a little card where I wrote a dress code for my wedding: business casual is preferred, but jeans are also okay, as long as no snickers, flip flops, pajamas and athletic gear is used. I think that is appropriate attire.

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Mertimo 3 years ago

In my country it's a tradition to get married twice. You go to the church first to get the pretty, "walking down the aisle" wedding, it takes usually 45-60 minutes, and then you go to the venue and get married again in front of a registrar. The latter makes it official, you can't skip it, but the church wedding is not necessary. I respect that someone wants a church wedding for religious reasons or because they think it's pretty, but me and my husband never wanted one because we are both atheists and we find church weddings overwhelming and boring. But oh boy, did it cause some drama when we announced it to the family! They told us that we break a tradition, our marriage won't be "blessed" and it will end up in a divorce because God didn't approve it. :D Most of our family never goes to church, but still thought it's shameful that we skipped the church wedding. Well, we couldn't care less, it was our wedding, not theirs.

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JessG 3 years ago

I don't think anyone expects to be 100 percent traditional anymore. This day in age people do what they want, that's it. You don't HAVE to do anything. No one should tell you what you HAVE to do, and if you have people in your life that do, stand up for yourself.

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Sori 3 years ago

I loved our wedding that cost us nothing, I wasn’t expecting gifts but we gifted enough money to cover the court fees, our silicon wedding bands, my marked down gorgeous black dress with silver and metallic pink accents due to the unexpected monetary gifts as we asked only for them to cover their meals. We made a donation to my friends church as they did a touching job of officiating it. I did some holiday decor for a hotel earlier and my friend hooked us up for a honeymoon at her very lovely hotel. The restaurant was free as a venue because I exchanged teaching a sip and paint class for the space and extra help. We even had flowers, cake and someone photograph all planned in 5 days, as we had for months had only spoken of going to a justice of the peace. He was dashing in his navy dress whites and in our thirties we both never expected such a production, but wouldn’t trade that day for any thing

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Logic and Reason 3 years ago

Just do what you want. If you don’t want a wedding that’s considered ‘traditional’ then don’t have one like that. A lot of traditions might have stemmed from bad places, sure, but if there’s no malice behind it and it’s what you want at your wedding then I don’t really think that makes it a bad thing.

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Nia Loves Art 3 years ago

Do what you want, don’t do what you don’t want. Other than releasing the pigeons (don’t do that) these are all down to personal preference, not right or wrong.

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Kizito 3 years ago

Where are the pics? BP needs to stop posting like this. Whatever happened to the pictures.

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Carrot Stick 3 years ago

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Stille20 3 years ago

I don't think these are "ditch-worthy". Basically some people want to throw out the whole thing... good for you, but someone else may value the tradition.

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Lea S. 3 years ago

That's the point. None do these brides said no one else should do these things. They just said they weren't.

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Thorfin Wolfsbane 3 years ago

Is anyone going to say it? - Weddings themselves are old fashioned, useless traditions

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elStiJneriNO 3 years ago

nope, nobody seems to be saying that

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Bre 3 years ago

It's not an "American" concept. Did you see the royal weddings? Bridesmaids and groomsmen and large parties are part of every wedding tradition all over the world. Look up Romanian gypsy weddings. Most American wedding traditions come from other cultures but if we admit it, you scream at us for cultural appropriation. Stop blaming Americans for extravagance. We didn't invent it.

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Nikki Sevven 3 years ago

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Felix Feline 3 years ago

That's a myth. Birds can safely eat rice.

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Tres D 3 years ago

What about the father walking the bride down the isle. I don't think that was covered.

30points

Dee Pond 3 years ago

lol. well done.

7points

Elizabeth Molloy 3 years ago

*aisle

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Mama Panda 3 years ago

It was towards the middle part of this list.

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PandaMonium 3 years ago

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Happy_Pandalover 3 years ago

8points

Ozacoter 3 years ago

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s. vitkovitsky 3 years ago

What if they want to say it?

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Stille20 3 years ago

11points

PandaMonium 3 years ago

Congratulations! I hope you have a great wedding day and more importantly, a wonderful lifelong adventure together!

7points

Theater Kid 3 years ago

8points

Johnny 3 years ago

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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

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Patti Vance 3 years ago

7points

Lea S. 3 years ago

4points

Ozacoter 3 years ago

Yes. It is very selfish to oretend that everybody can afford that.

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Kristal 3 years ago

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Mimi M 3 years ago

So many repeats. C'mon, be a bit more careful. The father one was at least 3 times if not more.

5points

Kat Olmstead 3 years ago

Same with the white dress.

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perfect pikachu 3 years ago

I do not think that you should waste a hundred dollars on a wedding dress when you could just dress in casual cloths that you already own? it just don´t make sense(at all)

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Tacocat 3 years ago

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Michelle Brandt 3 years ago

3points

Daniel O'Neal 3 years ago

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Ji 3 years ago

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Joy 3 years ago

Your mom is a freaking boss!!!!

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Nica Van 3 years ago

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John C 3 years ago

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JennyLaRue 3 years ago

There's so much time and money in weddings that gets spent on things that don't really make the day any more memorable or special. Favours and seat ribbons are some that spring to mind.

3points

Celeste Grant 3 years ago

Just so we are clear.... a lot of these are only American traditions!

2points

Bre 3 years ago

No, they're not. Most "American" traditions are derived from other cultures and countries. Which ones are only American?

2points

Asy EnderDragon 3 years ago

all this talk of weddings make me feel lonely and single

2points

PandaMonium 3 years ago

I'm sorry you feel lonely. This last year has been an especially difficult one to meet people. I hope happiness finds you soon.

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Snake of Eden 3 years ago

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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

The wedding is ONE DAY. The marriage is ... well, hpefully more than one day.

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Demi Zwaan 3 years ago

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Dora Marie 3 years ago

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N G 3 years ago

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Glen MacLeod 3 years ago

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Batwench Premium 3 years ago

White Wedding Dress is a fairy recent tradition, blame Queen Victoria https://www.historyextra.com/period/modern/history-weddings-rings-bridesmaids-why-white-wedding-dress-traditions/

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Elizabeth Molloy 3 years ago

27 years married. We did none of those things; no fuss, little expense. It's about the marriage, not the wedding.

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Joy 3 years ago

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Mertimo 3 years ago

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JessG 3 years ago

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Sori 3 years ago

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Logic and Reason 3 years ago

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Nia Loves Art 3 years ago

Do what you want, don’t do what you don’t want. Other than releasing the pigeons (don’t do that) these are all down to personal preference, not right or wrong.

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Kizito 3 years ago

Where are the pics? BP needs to stop posting like this. Whatever happened to the pictures.

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Carrot Stick 3 years ago

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Stille20 3 years ago

I don't think these are "ditch-worthy". Basically some people want to throw out the whole thing... good for you, but someone else may value the tradition.

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Lea S. 3 years ago

That's the point. None do these brides said no one else should do these things. They just said they weren't.

4points

Thorfin Wolfsbane 3 years ago

Is anyone going to say it? - Weddings themselves are old fashioned, useless traditions

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elStiJneriNO 3 years ago

nope, nobody seems to be saying that

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Eslamala 3 years ago

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Bre 3 years ago

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Nikki Sevven 3 years ago

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Felix Feline 3 years ago

That's a myth. Birds can safely eat rice.

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