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Christina Rauscher , Wikimedia Commons Report

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Pigeons are pets. They are not made to live on their own in the world. White pigeons are specially breeded for weddings and released into the wild, where they die. This tradition is animal cruelty.

Final score:

205points

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Anna Solan 3 years ago

No, I understand that they are usually homing pigeons, and they return to their coop after the release. It would be ridiculously expensive otherwise to breed and raise "disposable" pigeons for ceremonies.

53points

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I find this appalling & disrespectful along with it being more fitting at a child's birthday party than a wedding reception. If after spending thousands of dollars on wedding attire, the wedding itself, and spending hours dressing with care only to have my mate abuse & humiliate me in front of our guests, I wouldn't have married him to begin with. It's more than just cake smeared faces, it's the total disregard of feelings & lack of respect that puts this in the top spot of something I'd never take part in. Ever.

Laurie Parks , Al Abut Report

Final score:

173points

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Nikki Sevven 3 years ago

That's actually not traditional. The tradition is for the bride and groom to feed one another a bit of cake, not to smash it in one another's faces.

51points

John C 3 years ago (edited)

this is what I was going to comment. this is less tradition and more behavior of people too immature to be making a lifelong decision. (yes there can be exceptions for playfulness, but allowing room for that is not consistent with the OMG OUTRAGE tone of the comments here)

23points

SCP-096 3 years ago

Instead everybody at the wedding should participate in a MASSIVE pillow fight that lasts until 8:00 PM.

4points

JennyLaRue 3 years ago

I think that tradition may have morphed into something else in some countries

3points

Lauren 3 years ago

Nikki Sevven - I like you and your thinking.

1point

Felix Feline 3 years ago

It's a classless and vulgar "tradition".

10points

Bettie-Jean Neal 3 years ago

At my first wedding, we had our maid of honor and best man stand next to us when we cut the cake. We acted like we were going to feed each other, but at the last second smashed the cake in their faces. Boy were they surprised! The maid of honor deserved it, the best man, not so much. I really didn't smash his face, I hesitated and fed it to him. But Gina got smashed and I loved it! She made planning my wedding a nightmare!

6points

Stille20 3 years ago

So you publicly humiliated your MOH? It's your wedding, I have to think that there was a moment before then that you could have reduced her involvement rather than being nasty in front of friends and family.

19points

Zedrapazia 3 years ago

This simply sounds terrible. Is this how you want to remember your marriage? Tossing cake in people's faces that, tough might not being nice people, have been trusting in you?

8points

Bella Jones 3 years ago

How childish. If she made planning your wedding a nightmare, that's because you let her. You should have been an adult and said something to her at the time, not humiliated her by smashing cake in her face.

3points

Mary Rose Kent 3 years ago

So...no longer your best friend

3points

oddkiddo 3 years ago

You're sick.

2points

𝕁𝕖𝕟𝕟𝕪𝔹𝕖𝕖 3 years ago

what did she do??? :0

2points

Night Owl 3 years ago

I'm just going to assume she deserved it, otherwise that would be a very cruel thing to do

0points

Sarah Grape 3 years ago

i may or may not do this

-3points

Johanna McMahan 3 years ago

I refused to do this at my wedding and my husband to be did too. Then one of his friends shoved cake in his face when we weren't together, because she thought we should have.

3points

Gage Franke 3 years ago

What was his response?

0points

columbokateUK 3 years ago

This i not a thing in Britain. Why would you do that?!

3points

NoodleBear 3 years ago

Dude this is a matter of opinion, I would absolutely smash my bf/future husband’s face with cake and he would do the same to me. We would get an absolute kick out of it, no disrespect there. That’s just how our relationship is :)

3points

Nadine 3 years ago

Ohhhh!!! Yeah! This was definitely BANNED at our wedding! Exactly what the OP said.

3points

Two Silly Pups 3 years ago

Luckily, we don't have this humiliating tradition in my country. I can't imagine myself doing this to my SO, escpecially in front of everyone...

2points

Sara Diogo 3 years ago

A cake is food. You shouldn't play with food.

2points

Cheryl 3 years ago

I think this is mostly an American thing? Not common in Australia

1point

CharliAnn Olney 3 years ago

My Husbands Dad actually stood behind him to push his arm into my face. Dearly Beloved sensed what he was going to do and stepped aside just as he tried. FIL nearly fell on his face. I had a feeling then things were not going to go well between me and this man. Dearly Beloved and I loved long and hard until his passing. His parents and I ... not so much.

1point

Debbie Burton 3 years ago

Never seen that at any wedding I have been to in Australia

1point

Requiem 3 years ago

Dont spend thousands of dollars than, my wedding was like 5 grand maybe, the dress wasnt anywhere near a grand.

1point

Maggie Dinzler Shaw 3 years ago

I made my wedding dress for about $36.

0points

Kaiserfranzgirl 3 years ago

Never heard of this in the UK. Only know about it from playing the Sims

1point

Kriszti Paszti 2 years ago

A huge waste of cake

0points

Tim 3 years ago

Appalling and disrespectful.... Wow.

0points

Julie Johnson 3 years ago

Yeah, it’s not funny. Why pay all that money for a cake & dress to to ruin it?

0points

Susan Egan 3 years ago

I don't get it at all. It seems violent. Why would anyone want to do this? Will they continue to act this way at other times?

0points

Hollysmom 3 years ago

I have always agreed. I hate it when people do that

0points

Barbara Vandewalle 3 years ago

It is insulting to smash food into a persons face. I have seen it done for 'fun'. It was not!

0points

Ange Marsden 3 years ago

Is this just an American thing? I've never seen it in NZ

0points

Batwench Premium 3 years ago

Have never seen this done at any UK wedding I have been to. We all respect cake to much lol.

0points

Eliška Rýdlová 3 years ago

Not the original tradition btw... but sometimes this is how relationships are. No disrespect. Just fun with a cake.

0points

Marcellus the Third 3 years ago

As bad as spraying champagne after (bicycle, motorbike, car) races.

0points

Leslie Burleson 3 years ago

Usually this is something that the couple talk about . Some people are smashers , some people do it politely . My husband and I smashed cake in each other's faces , then it turned into a cake throwing , shaving cream (where did that come from) throwing free for all. I should add that out reception was in my parent's back yard. We had a blast. Our 25 anniversary is next month

0points

Betsy Gee 3 years ago

We didn’t do this; thought it was dumb

0points

Adrienne Doyle 3 years ago

I've never liked that "tradition" as the point is that you feed each other a piece of the wedding cake.

0points

Anne Mitchell 3 years ago

That is, as far as I know, an American "tradition" and rather disgusting. In most civilised communities, in years gone past the wedding cake was a fruit cake, cut and distributed in little paper cake bags for the guests to take home. Tradition has it that if a single woman slept with a piece of wedding cake under her pillow she would dream of the man she would marry.

0points

ivan bolitekurac 3 years ago

This one is really stupid

0points

Bama Belle 3 years ago

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0points

Bama Belle 3 years ago

While I don't find it abusive & humiliating, it's not something I would want (cake up my nose, in my eyes, ruining my makeup, NOT in my mouth-don't waste cake). If one does it to the other, knowing it's not what they want, then yeah, it takes on a different tone.

0points

will.u.b.mine 3 years ago

i thought they got to feed each other not attack each other lmao guess I was wrong :/

0points

Jackie Porter 3 years ago

To me it seems unnecessarily aggressive.

0points

Mary Peace 3 years ago

I don't know how often this happens in the UK, where I live, but I'm very grateful it wasn't a feature of any wedding I've ever attended.

0points

Bakugo Katsuki 3 years ago

Tbh in my opinion My OPINION!!!!!, I like the tradition because it seems fun for me tho just from my perspective

0points

Marlowe Fitzpatrik 3 years ago

Oh, I read "Smashing coke in each other's face" and wondered what tradition THAT is *_*

0points

Emerald St4rf1sh Princess 3 years ago

I personally think it's more of a joke kind of thing to laugh together about it, but not all people think that and that's ok

0points

Troy Parr 3 years ago

Never even heard of this one. Must be a very new "tradition".

0points

Niffler_13 3 years ago

The bride and groom are meant to feed each other the first slice of cake. Some people like to have fun and smush it in each others faces. All of my married relatives did it. Whether it was just a little bit of frosting or a whole slice of cake. They laughed about it.

0points

Donkey boi 3 years ago

I didn't even know this was a "tradition"!!!! What a waste of cake!

0points

Lara Verne 3 years ago

Is it tradition?

0points

NWB 3 years ago

Not common this weird-ass tradition in Australia thank god, it is so dumb!

0points

Eslamala 3 years ago

Who does that???

0points

Seabeast 3 years ago

Where is this a tradition??? I've never seen this done.

0points

s. vitkovitsky 3 years ago

American.

0points

Lou Herout 3 years ago

I couldn't disagree more. I'm entering into my marriage with joy and playfulness. It has nothing to do with abuse but everything to do with levity

-2points

Jodie Sørensen 3 years ago

What Karen wrote this? It’s so out of place on this list. It’s a step away from the traditional “feeding each other” and if you want to do it, it’s cute and if suits you as a couple to do so, then you do you

-2points

Clearly sunny 3 years ago

It a fun thing to do tho.

-3points

Brigs 3 years ago

It is a bit of fun, lighten up

-3points

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30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Father Escort. I hate this tradition so much because of its original meaning. It stems from a time when a woman was practically “property” for all her life. The tradition basically means the father gives away his daughter (his “property”) to her husband. It’s just awful, no thanks.

Lea Sing , myllissa Report

Final score:

171points

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Jessica Nametz 3 years ago

One of the best moments of my life was when my father walked me down the aisle... So to each their own, I suppose ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

45points

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I hate white for two main reasons: First, it looks boring, second, it looks awful on me. Doesn’t suit me at all. Also, most wedding dresses look just like that: a wedding dress. You spend a ridiculously high amount of money for a dress you’re probably only gonna wear once in your life. I’d rather wear something in navy blue or a really dark purple. Looks much more interesting in my opinion, and you can also wear it in the future.

Lea Sing , 99mimimi Report

Final score:

158points

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Mary Rose Kent 3 years ago

Good call!

19points

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I basically planned my own bridal shower. That’s probably weird to some people, but it just seemed like the easiest thing to do. I just wanted something simple where I could spend the afternoon with some of my closest friends. We went bowling, drove go-karts, went through a laser maze, and checked out the arcade games and virtual reality set-up that the venue had. A few girls came over to hang out afterwards. Affordable and fun for everyone involved.

Jessica Duhon Quinn , georgia Report

Final score:

139points

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Mary Rose Kent 3 years ago

Sounds fun!

24points

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Diamond engagement ring… nope. I had a garnet in my first engagement ring and my second one was zirconia that I eventually replaced with a garnet. Diamonds (and tradition) are not my thing.

Victoria Elder , Diamond Expert Report

Final score:

138points

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Aunt Messy 3 years ago

Mine is jade.

32points

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Nah, I won't invite people whom I haven't talked to for months to my wedding. I won't invite all my relatives that I don't really know. I won't invite old friends from school, neighbours, colleagues and so on. A wedding is a very private thing for me. Actually I'd like to invite no one so my husband and I can share this special moment alone.

Christina Rauscher , Lee Haywood Report

Final score:

129points

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N G 3 years ago

Can't do that in most places. You need witnesses. It's a legal requirement just about everywhere. I believe (happy to be corrected) even drive-thru Vegas weddings provide a witness as part of the package. There will ALWAYS be at least two other people besides the bride and groom involved. There is no special moment alone.

28points

Cherelle-Renée Childs , InAweofGod'sCreation Report

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I will not be given away by my father. I don’t want the officiant asking him who gives me to be married to my hypothetical spouse. This isn’t because I have anything against my father or my relationship with him. I just don’t like the idea that I’m his to give away as he sees fit. I want both of my parents to escort me in as a sign that they, as people who love me and raised me, support me and my marriage. I want my spouse’s parents to do the same.

Final score:

121points

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Malou Hedlund 3 years ago

wasnt this on nr 2 already?

15points

#10

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch The garter. I think its tasteless and I wouldn't have been able to have had a toss either with less than 20 people in attendance.

Cole Ferguson , kaboompics Report

Final score:

116points

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Maximum Ride 3 years ago

Well you could make the garter more interesting by using it to hold a gun or a knife, like in movies. Just need to change the theme of the wedding a bit...

45points

#11

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch My answer will be short because the one prohibition for my wedding was in the vows. I ensured that the phrase “to love, honor and OBEY” were not uttered. I know me - somewhat of a traditionalist - but only when a role is CHOSEN, not assigned because of gender. I didn’t feel it necessary to promise to do something that I would never do - on principle alone!

Approaching 20 years, my husband sometimes still teases me if we have a disagreement and I’ve dug my feet in on the issue. He’ll say “hey, weren’t you supposed to love, honor and OBEY?! … oh yeah, you did say you wouldn’t “obey,” didn’t you!” (He thinks he’s being funny!)

Shelia Gulledge , Matthew Hurst Report

Final score:

114points

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Felix Feline 3 years ago

My wife and I wrote our own vows.

36points

#12

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Speaking for Turkish Wedding Traditions:

I actually have many, but I’ll go with the one that really annoys the hell out of me:

The Red Ribbon. Before the bride leaves the parents’ home for the wedding, her close relatives put a red ribbon around her waist in order to symbolise her chastity. Since the bridegroom is the only one who gets to untie that knot, it also shows her promise to him that he will be the first one to gain access to her body.

Thankfully, this is rarely performed by the modern couples today, but I guess it is still a very common practice in rural areas.

Needless to say, I won’t wear a “maidenhood belt” to make myself look like a gift wrapped up in a box ready for my husband to open.

If, by the time of our wedding, both of us are virgins, then WE may BOTH wear purity rings or something similar to show our commitment to each other, but even this completely egalitarian and not misogynistic substitute would make me uncomfortable. Why does a huge number of people involving many strangers need to know about the intimate details of our relationship? It’s NONE of their business.

Its cultural connotations aside, I think a red ribbon looks awful on a white dress. The right wedding dress is the most elegant and classy thing you can possibly wear, I believe. Something so tacky as a red ribbon instantly ruins the elegance of the special dress you’ll get to wear only once. (Generally speaking)

Zeynep Cemre , Marco Verch Report

Final score:

103points

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Jayne Kyra 3 years ago

It is disgusting how many people are obsessed with the idea of virginity.

22points

#13

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I despise the so-called “tradition” of the groom removing the bride’s garter and tossing it to the groomsmen, with the one who catches it expected to put it on the leg of the mortified woman who caught the bouquet.
Why?

A garter is underwear, and any removal of bridal underwear should definitely take place in private, after the wedding is over.
Given the competitive instincts of some young men, especially when free alcohol is involved, injuries are possible.
Any “tradition” that encourages a man to slide a piece of clothing up a woman’s leg in public — possibly a woman he doesn’t even know — while his friends yell “HIGHER!! HIGHER!!” should be discouraged.
It is not even a tradition, it is an unfortunate fad recently introduced in the mistaken idea that the bouquet-toss needed some masculine equivalent.
Even if it were a tradition, not all traditions are worth preserving. The closest tradition I can think of to this is the old one of displaying the bloody sheets the morning after the wedding night to prove the bride was a virgin — and for some reason that one has died out.

Jennifer Georgia , erge Report

Final score:

101points

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Mary Rose Kent 3 years ago

...”for some reason”... Good one!

17points

#14

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Flower Girls. Won’t be there either, again, because of the original meaning behind this tradition. From what I understand, this tradition stands for fertility for the couple, and since I never ever want children, I will definitely ditch this tradition…maybe I am gonna be doing a strict ban on flowers of any kind to reduce my fertility lol.

Lea Sing , Marquette LaForest Report

Final score:

95points

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Asy EnderDragon 3 years ago

oh no! i was the flower girl for my aunt (who just happened to be pregnant)

14points

#15

This tradition actually involves family and friends showering the couple with disgusting things (usually wet things) and then tying bride to a tree. This is meant to show that the bride and groom are ready for anything.

I think I might stick to killing the ender dragon and the wither at the same time in Minecraft to show I’m up to anything.

Kyle Dring Report

Final score:

86points

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Xylle Flora 3 years ago

I'd rather kill ten withers while fighting the ender dragon with mining fatigue than have that happen to me lol

26points

#16

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I like hanging out with my buddies but I don’t drink, I don’t like strippers, and I certainly don’t think of marriage as a trap or an end to my freedom.

I get that bachelor parties aren’t specifically tied to all that stuff, I can just go out to dinner with like six of my really close friends but I wouldn’t do that because I’m getting married, I’d do that because they’re my friends. Also the best thing to do the night before a big event that starts at like noon is probably, I would imagine, not going out and staying up super late with guys who are talking like you’re marching towards death row.

Charles Johnson , Youperspective Report

Final score:

83points

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McPanda 3 years ago

Bachelor parties can still be an awesome tradition that don't involve that at all. We played basketball, board games, video games, and rented bouncy houses for my buddy. Three-day sleepover like we were in middle school again, and it was awesome

62points

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#17

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Bridesmaids and Best Man. Not necessary either. Never understood this tradition to be honest.

Lea Sing , Tommy Huynh Report

Final score:

79points

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N G 3 years ago

As long as you have someone else present to act as a witness - we had a best man and a man of honour who had to sign the register as our witnesses - just made it easier to have them already standing at the front.

22points

Jessica Duhon Quinn , Antonio Delgado Report

#18

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch As far as the wedding day, we didn’t participate in the dollar dance, although we considered it. I’m pretty introverted myself and can’t dance as is, so we elected not to. We also chose not to smash cake in each other’s faces…to each their own, but to us just seemed like more of a mess than it was worth.

Final score:

78points

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Aliquid A 3 years ago

Never heard of the dollar dance before reading this

32points

#19

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch It’s traditional for all of the guests to stand when the bride came out. I personally have never liked that. I decided to have my officiant tell everyone to remain seated when I came out before the processional began. Some of the people at the rehearsal the night before thought I was completely insane (some to the point of being combative). They were adamant that I couldn’t go against that tradition and people were going to get confused and stand anyway. I’m a pretty laid back person, so my response was, “Well, then they stand.” Whatever. It’s not going to ruin my day! In the end, no one stood. Everyone remained seated. And my photographer got a great picture of my dad and I coming down the aisle!

Kelly Bailey , Patina Report

Final score:

69points

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Anna Solan 3 years ago

Especially when there are some elderly guests who can't stand, then they don't get to see anything either.

35points

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#20

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Cutting the cake. I would rather put multiple cakes on a huge buffet and people can just take some as they like.

Lea Sing , Nicole Sánchez Report

Final score:

64points

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PandaPanda 3 years ago

Yeah, I get that

15points

#21

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I love to dance and I have always enjoyed weddings that have dancing, but I also have been to weddings where there was a small group of people dancing while the rest of the guests sit at their tables waiting for the appropriate amount of time to stay until they can go home. Those guests can’t talk to each other over the loud DJ, so if they’re not in the mood for dancing, then they just sit there [...] We had a lowcountry boil and the majority of tables were standing oyster tables (with a few tables for people that may have wanted to sit down). People were able to move around and talk and play lawn games instead of hitting the dance floor. It was so fun! We did have our guitarist sing and play in the background, though.

Kelly Bailey , Jon Fravel Report

Final score:

61points

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PandaPanda 3 years ago

that does sound pretty cool

15points

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#22

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch One pre-wedding tradition I selected not to take part in was having a bridal shower. Prior to my wedding, I had been invited to a couple of bridal showers. They were well-meaning, but they were also just downright awkward.

So many people didn’t know each other, and of course the ages ranged from young adults, to middle-aged women, and the elderly. It also felt weird playing some of the bridal shower games with such a…diverse group.

When two of my bridesmaids brought up the subject to me, they offered to host the bridal shower and even had a theme picked out. Don’t get me wrong— I appreciated the thought, but it just wasn’t for me, and I knew it would only be added stress and anxiety that I already felt just preparing for the wedding itself.

For some of the same reasons, mentioned above, I just felt like it would be more of an uncomfortable event versus the fun event it was supposed to be. Too many people not knowing each other, and a wide variety of ages, stacked upon the fact that I knew some people on my side were very introverted and probably wouldn’t enjoy it themselves.

Jessica Duhon Quinn , C x 2 Report

Final score:

59points

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Easily Excitable Panda 3 years ago

I've been to one bridal shower, never going to another. It was awful. I was a friend of the bride's, but neither her sister nor mother (the ones who threw the party) knew who I was, and treated me like dirt. I got out of there as quickly as possible, and I'm pretty sure they sighed in relief when I was gone.

15points

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#23

Some cultures kidnap the bride either just before the dancing or cutting the cake. This is an awful tradition because the people who do the kidnapping usually just go sit in a bar and drink with her. It’s very disrespectful to everyone. Plus, I once heard a story about a kidnapped bride and a tragic car accident. The bride was killed on her wedding day early in the reception. What selfish people. It isn’t even a clever prank. So if I ever saw someone trying to concoct this, I would blow the whistle and do everything I could to stop it.

Amy Rubins Report

Final score:

57points

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Bettie-Jean Neal 3 years ago

I got kidnapped and we just sat in the limo and drank. It was fun. Didn't have to go anywhere.

23points

#24

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Jeez…Who thought drunk men attaching money with sharp, pointed objects to a costly, delicate dress was a good idea? And that's the good part. I first heard of this & saw it in 1991. I couldn't even comprehend the explanation I was given, and then I saw it. Truly, it's one of the tackiest things I've ever seen. The bride covered in paper money while male relatives cajole & ridicule guests into pinning larger bills to the bride's dress. If guests want to give money as a wedding gift they will. They don't need to be coerced into buying time with the bride. Well, maybe some brides, but I mean really…what's next? $100 bills in the bride’s garter? I just…can't.

Laurie Parks , Wikimedia Commons Report

Final score:

56points

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Mary Rose Kent 3 years ago

Good call—it’s so tacky!

15points

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#25

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Neither my husband nor I are fans of the tradition of pounding on the tables or glassware for the bride and groom to kiss during dinner. We were both hungry, wanted to enjoy our dinner, were grossed out at the thought of kissing someone with a mouth full of food, and also are not big into public displays of affection. After the prayer and toasts at the reception before dinner, we announced that we would kiss once (and we did) and then asked our guests to refrain from doing this. A few non-compliant individuals still tried it, but we basically ignored them and they got the message that we truly weren’t going to do it.

Teri Barrons , Kayla Sawyer Report

Final score:

48points

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Sara Diogo 3 years ago

Even as a guest I hate that tradition. This is the XXI century, hasn't everybody seen the couple kiss before?

13points

Victoria Elder , Wikimedia Commons Report

#26

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I refused to wear white. Not because I wasn’t a virgin, though that was certainly true… but really, not everyone looks good in white and I’ve seen way more white wedding gowns that looked like cheap dress-up clothes I would buy for my daughter when she was a toddler than ones that looked luxurious and beautiful. I also refused to buy something I would only wear once that cost more than I spent for the rest of the wedding and reception combined. I wore a red dress to the first one and a red skirt with a black, white, and red sweater to the second.

Final score:

47points

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Nikki Sevven 3 years ago

Honestly, I think that an off-white gown looks much more luxurious and beautiful than a stark white one. But I also love that modern brides are going with gorgeous, saturated colors and unique designs.

8points

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#27

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch Bouquet toss, the bouquet was dried flowers, fragile and handmade from etsy. I also believe that I paid $155 for it.

Cole Ferguson , hippo px Report

Final score:

45points

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Aunt Messy 3 years ago

Mine was freesias and orchids, and I was NOT just going to toss that. I gave it to my godmother, where it lasted about ten days as a centerpiece on her dining room table.

28points

#28

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch To be honest, I couldn’t care less about it. For my wedding, people can come as they like, as long as they’re wearing something, it is fine with me.

Lea Sing , sylvar Report

Final score:

40points

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Sarah Grape 3 years ago

I'm so close to having water guns/silly string/ doge ball at my reception so no one dresses up. because then I don't have to wear a dress while partaking in these activities

16points

Cherelle-Renée Childs , Wikimedia Commons Report

#29

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch I don’t want to wear a white dress. While, as stated in a previous answer, it didn’t originate as a symbol of purity, it has long been associated with that, and I find the focus on a woman’s so-called purity to be weird and disturbing. Wearing a dress in a different color is a way of saying that my sexual history is nobody’s business but my own and the point is that I’m making a life commitment to someone I love, not whether or not I had sex with anyone else before.

Final score:

37points

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Arctic Fox Lover 3 years ago

She must really, really hate white dresses--so far, the white dress thing was mentioned 3 times.

9points

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#30

30 Wedding Traditions People In This Online Group Chose Or Would Choose To Ditch You know these typical wedding cakes. When looking at the photo above, the only thing that goes through my mind is B O R I N G. Also, it looks so…creamy? I feel like I am gonna vomit just by looking at it.

I’d rather do something special and unusual.

Lea Sing , jeremywongweddings Report

Final score:

35points

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Mary Rose Kent 3 years ago

Boring, yes; vomitous, no

26points

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Tres D 3 years ago

What about the father walking the bride down the isle. I don't think that was covered.

30points

Dee Pond 3 years ago

lol. well done.

7points

Elizabeth Molloy 3 years ago

*aisle

0points

Mama Panda 3 years ago

It was towards the middle part of this list.

0points

PandaMonium 3 years ago

I'd say do whatever floats your boat for your wedding. The problem is the societal pressure to do certain customs (and the absurd price tag). So we should all back off and let people put on the day they want. Also I think different traditions mean different things to different people. My parents walked me down the aisle but I never thought of it as giving me away. My Dad was in a wheelchair and it was a big deal - and I just wanted them to be part of the ceremony. Also my wedding was performed by a Catholic priest/ Jewish rabbi combo so it was a mix of customs that we decided were important to us. TL;DR - let people do what they want and can afford. Except for "obey" no one should say obey.

24points

Happy_Pandalover 3 years ago

Totally agreed. Everyone should just have their dream wedding without social pressure. That‘s all i can say. Personally, i never knew about the background of most traditions, so i don‘t really care. Maybe i have been lucky. But most weddings of my friends were beautiful, meaningful and fun experiences. I admit i‘ve enjoyed all hen parties, being a bridesmaid multiple times, seeing proud fathers walking their independent daughters to the aisle. None of them see their daughter as belongings. So just let people do what they enjoy as long as noone gets hurt :)

8points

Ozacoter 3 years ago

Usually the main problem is in the relatives. A couple usually gets a ton of presure from both families about how the wedding is going to be. One of the big reasons why i am not married. I dont want to hear the non stop complaints for having a small wedding, for having short hair, for not wearing a dress etc. It would be a nightmare.

2points

s. vitkovitsky 3 years ago

What if they want to say it?

-3points

Stille20 3 years ago

I'm in the process of planning a wedding. I don't feel the need for bridal party, cake, flowers, white dress or a lot of things. However, some things are literally not worth the fight. What do I care if there is cake or no cake. So what if my father wants to walk me down the aisle. I just want to throw a fun party where my friends and family feel included.

11points

PandaMonium 3 years ago

Congratulations! I hope you have a great wedding day and more importantly, a wonderful lifelong adventure together!

7points

Theater Kid 3 years ago

This is nice to hear. I never knew so many traditions had harmful/sexist origins. I'm glad these people are making their weddings the best for them and not doing something just because society told them to.

8points

Johnny 3 years ago

I was asked to be in a friend's wedding, and he wanted a "swashbuckling" theme -- all the groomsmen would wear black tights and puffy shirts and carry (fake) swords. I almost declined to participate because it sounded pretty hokey, but he was a good friend, and I relented and became a groomsman. Turns out it was a *lot* of fun, even many of the guests were in costume, and I'm really glad I participated.

7points

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

Cool. Hubby got suckered into a family wedding where they worn their kilts, clan tartans, etc., and there was a bagpiper, it was lovely.... except for the awkward bits where it turns out there really is no undies under the kilt, and after a few drinks, the kilts flew up!

0points

Patti Vance 3 years ago

this isn't a tradition but destination weddings. not everyone can afford to travel and stay at a place for a wedding. it's a strain on the members of the wedding as well since a maid of honor of groomsman may feel obligated to attend but then strap themselves financially for the 'honor' of being there for their friend. as for anything else, ...people need to make themselves happy for their wedding, not anyone else.

7points

Lea S. 3 years ago

I have family and friends who did a destination wedding but it was specifically to keep it small and keep people from crashing. There was no wedding party, no obligation to attend, it was basically the dream family vacay and we will always remember it.

4points

Ozacoter 3 years ago

Yes. It is very selfish to oretend that everybody can afford that.

2points

Kristal 3 years ago

I think it depends on how the couple handles the destination wedding. It is okay to have one as long as they don't require or expect all invited guests to attend. Demanding everyone to come, no matter the cost, is tacky and just inconsiderate.

0points

Mimi M 3 years ago

So many repeats. C'mon, be a bit more careful. The father one was at least 3 times if not more.

5points

Kat Olmstead 3 years ago

Same with the white dress.

0points

perfect pikachu 3 years ago

I do not think that you should waste a hundred dollars on a wedding dress when you could just dress in casual cloths that you already own? it just don´t make sense(at all)

4points

Tacocat 3 years ago

I really like this article. I personally don't know if I want to get married at some point, but seeing that I'm not the only one who thinks certain things are weird is nice. Like the garter toss! Who actually thought that was a good thing and had enough followers to copy??? And how lots of people took the historical side to back up their dislike was great.

4points

Michelle Brandt 3 years ago

My wedding was in my backyard, my uncle was the officiant, I wore a dress that came from the prom section at Macy's, no one was dressed up more than looking nice and after the 15 minute ceremony(and getting pelted with surprise rice!) there was catered BBQ, cupcakes, yard games and a campfire. Music, yes. Dance floor, no. Neighbors were invited to have a drink :)

3points

Daniel O'Neal 3 years ago

Right? We got married at a local park, the officiant was a friend, invited only close friends and family, wore reasonable clothes, and instead of gifts we asked everyone to bring a potluck dish for the reception. We did have cupcakes.

1point

Ji 3 years ago

My mom wore a pink kimono for her wedding, even though her horrible husband tried to tell her that her "Asian dress thing" was gross and too "weird". She wore it anyway haha, and ended up marrying someone else.

3points

Joy 3 years ago

Your mom is a freaking boss!!!!

2points

Nica Van 3 years ago

Honestly? The very thought of living with another human being makes me anxious. I plan to live what remains of my life surrounded by as many pets as I can rescue. Having said that, I am always very happy for people who find someone they want to share their lives with and I wish them the very best together.

3points

John C 3 years ago

You do you. Lots of judgement floating around here, including judgement of those that choose to partake in and enjoy some of these customs. Have the wedding of YOUR dreams and let others do too, right?

3points

JennyLaRue 3 years ago

There's so much time and money in weddings that gets spent on things that don't really make the day any more memorable or special. Favours and seat ribbons are some that spring to mind.

3points

Celeste Grant 3 years ago

Just so we are clear.... a lot of these are only American traditions!

2points

Bre 3 years ago

No, they're not. Most "American" traditions are derived from other cultures and countries. Which ones are only American?

2points

Asy EnderDragon 3 years ago

all this talk of weddings make me feel lonely and single

2points

PandaMonium 3 years ago

I'm sorry you feel lonely. This last year has been an especially difficult one to meet people. I hope happiness finds you soon.

1point

Snake of Eden 3 years ago

My parents just flew to Hawii and read their own vows, were barefoot on a beach with 5 other people there. Oh, and they got married after I was born (which my grandparents didn't like). Their wedding seemed so fun...

1point

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

The wedding is ONE DAY. The marriage is ... well, hpefully more than one day.

1point

Demi Zwaan 3 years ago

The most expensive part of our wedding was the fact we wanted to get married on 7/7/7 and that happened to be a Saturday, which made everything more expensive. Total cost, including rings, dress, suit, cake, lunch and venue was about 2k. Also, we thought 'hey, 7/7/7 is nice' 7 weeks before that date, so we planned it quite quickly too. I'm glad neither of us cared about tradition, apart from the getting married part itself, so we didn't want expensive rings, dress, dances and djs, etc. Just us, some people we care for and an official saying 'you may kiss each other'.

1point

Dora Marie 3 years ago

The funny part is, most of these supposed traditions are basically based on what people saw in movies. My mum had a church wedding and a dinner at home for 20 people. Yet when I was getting married (in the middle of the pandemic) she was trying to talk me into some sort of big extraverted garden party. Guess what, I had a small church wedding and a lunch at home for 20 people. 💁🏼‍♀️

1point

N G 3 years ago

Haven't even heard of half of these traditions, so some of them must be culture/country specific (two do actually say Turkey and Germany). I believe you should do what you and your spouse feel most comfortable doing. There is no need to partake in a tradition, just because it's a tradition. There are some aspects which may be legally required (having a couple of witnesses for example, and some wording choices are non-negotiable - although "obey" is DEFINITELY optional, and should be utterly removed IMO). The rest is up to the two of you. And some compromise may be involved, that's the point of a partnership.

1point

Glen MacLeod 3 years ago

All of these traditions seem silly to me. Ironically I was a Virgin on my wedding day, but I wore a creamy butter yellow suit and cloche hat with a bouquet of silk flowers, which I kept. We had 12 guests, married in a small, charming park in Charleston, SC and a JP we'd us. The reception after was just finger food, cake and a few bottles of champagne. My mother, who nagged me to go bigger, admitted after that is was the loveliest wedding she'd ever seen. All these traditions were invented at one time, so invent your own. The vows you make are more important than wasting thousands on an event that has no bearing on their commitment or happiness.

0points

Batwench Premium 3 years ago

White Wedding Dress is a fairy recent tradition, blame Queen Victoria https://www.historyextra.com/period/modern/history-weddings-rings-bridesmaids-why-white-wedding-dress-traditions/

0points

Elizabeth Molloy 3 years ago

27 years married. We did none of those things; no fuss, little expense. It's about the marriage, not the wedding.

0points

Joy 3 years ago

My big fit is having guests wear overly fancy clothes. For my first wedding, I had a little card where I wrote a dress code for my wedding: business casual is preferred, but jeans are also okay, as long as no snickers, flip flops, pajamas and athletic gear is used. I think that is appropriate attire.

0points

Mertimo 3 years ago

In my country it's a tradition to get married twice. You go to the church first to get the pretty, "walking down the aisle" wedding, it takes usually 45-60 minutes, and then you go to the venue and get married again in front of a registrar. The latter makes it official, you can't skip it, but the church wedding is not necessary. I respect that someone wants a church wedding for religious reasons or because they think it's pretty, but me and my husband never wanted one because we are both atheists and we find church weddings overwhelming and boring. But oh boy, did it cause some drama when we announced it to the family! They told us that we break a tradition, our marriage won't be "blessed" and it will end up in a divorce because God didn't approve it. :D Most of our family never goes to church, but still thought it's shameful that we skipped the church wedding. Well, we couldn't care less, it was our wedding, not theirs.

0points

JessG 3 years ago

I don't think anyone expects to be 100 percent traditional anymore. This day in age people do what they want, that's it. You don't HAVE to do anything. No one should tell you what you HAVE to do, and if you have people in your life that do, stand up for yourself.

0points

Sori 3 years ago

I loved our wedding that cost us nothing, I wasn’t expecting gifts but we gifted enough money to cover the court fees, our silicon wedding bands, my marked down gorgeous black dress with silver and metallic pink accents due to the unexpected monetary gifts as we asked only for them to cover their meals. We made a donation to my friends church as they did a touching job of officiating it. I did some holiday decor for a hotel earlier and my friend hooked us up for a honeymoon at her very lovely hotel. The restaurant was free as a venue because I exchanged teaching a sip and paint class for the space and extra help. We even had flowers, cake and someone photograph all planned in 5 days, as we had for months had only spoken of going to a justice of the peace. He was dashing in his navy dress whites and in our thirties we both never expected such a production, but wouldn’t trade that day for any thing

0points

Logic and Reason 3 years ago

Just do what you want. If you don’t want a wedding that’s considered ‘traditional’ then don’t have one like that. A lot of traditions might have stemmed from bad places, sure, but if there’s no malice behind it and it’s what you want at your wedding then I don’t really think that makes it a bad thing.

0points

Nia Loves Art 3 years ago

Do what you want, don’t do what you don’t want. Other than releasing the pigeons (don’t do that) these are all down to personal preference, not right or wrong.

0points

Kizito 3 years ago

Where are the pics? BP needs to stop posting like this. Whatever happened to the pictures.

0points

Carrot Stick 3 years ago

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0points

Stille20 3 years ago

I don't think these are "ditch-worthy". Basically some people want to throw out the whole thing... good for you, but someone else may value the tradition.

0points

Lea S. 3 years ago

That's the point. None do these brides said no one else should do these things. They just said they weren't.

4points

Thorfin Wolfsbane 3 years ago

Is anyone going to say it? - Weddings themselves are old fashioned, useless traditions

-1point

elStiJneriNO 3 years ago

nope, nobody seems to be saying that

1point

Eslamala 3 years ago

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Bre 3 years ago

It's not an "American" concept. Did you see the royal weddings? Bridesmaids and groomsmen and large parties are part of every wedding tradition all over the world. Look up Romanian gypsy weddings. Most American wedding traditions come from other cultures but if we admit it, you scream at us for cultural appropriation. Stop blaming Americans for extravagance. We didn't invent it.

0points

Nikki Sevven 3 years ago

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Felix Feline 3 years ago

That's a myth. Birds can safely eat rice.

6points

Tony Nichols 3 years ago

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Tres D 3 years ago

What about the father walking the bride down the isle. I don't think that was covered.

30points

Dee Pond 3 years ago

lol. well done.

7points

Elizabeth Molloy 3 years ago

*aisle

0points

Mama Panda 3 years ago

It was towards the middle part of this list.

0points

PandaMonium 3 years ago

24points

Happy_Pandalover 3 years ago

8points

Ozacoter 3 years ago

2points

s. vitkovitsky 3 years ago

What if they want to say it?

-3points

Stille20 3 years ago

11points

PandaMonium 3 years ago

Congratulations! I hope you have a great wedding day and more importantly, a wonderful lifelong adventure together!

7points

Theater Kid 3 years ago

8points

Johnny 3 years ago

7points

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

0points

Patti Vance 3 years ago

7points

Lea S. 3 years ago

4points

Ozacoter 3 years ago

Yes. It is very selfish to oretend that everybody can afford that.

2points

Kristal 3 years ago

0points

Mimi M 3 years ago

So many repeats. C'mon, be a bit more careful. The father one was at least 3 times if not more.

5points

Kat Olmstead 3 years ago

Same with the white dress.

0points

perfect pikachu 3 years ago

I do not think that you should waste a hundred dollars on a wedding dress when you could just dress in casual cloths that you already own? it just don´t make sense(at all)

4points

Tacocat 3 years ago

4points

Michelle Brandt 3 years ago

3points

Daniel O'Neal 3 years ago

1point

Ji 3 years ago

3points

Joy 3 years ago

Your mom is a freaking boss!!!!

2points

Nica Van 3 years ago

3points

John C 3 years ago

3points

JennyLaRue 3 years ago

There's so much time and money in weddings that gets spent on things that don't really make the day any more memorable or special. Favours and seat ribbons are some that spring to mind.

3points

Celeste Grant 3 years ago

Just so we are clear.... a lot of these are only American traditions!

2points

Bre 3 years ago

No, they're not. Most "American" traditions are derived from other cultures and countries. Which ones are only American?

2points

Asy EnderDragon 3 years ago

all this talk of weddings make me feel lonely and single

2points

PandaMonium 3 years ago

I'm sorry you feel lonely. This last year has been an especially difficult one to meet people. I hope happiness finds you soon.

1point

Snake of Eden 3 years ago

1point

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

The wedding is ONE DAY. The marriage is ... well, hpefully more than one day.

1point

Demi Zwaan 3 years ago

1point

Dora Marie 3 years ago

1point

N G 3 years ago

1point

Glen MacLeod 3 years ago

0points

Batwench Premium 3 years ago

White Wedding Dress is a fairy recent tradition, blame Queen Victoria https://www.historyextra.com/period/modern/history-weddings-rings-bridesmaids-why-white-wedding-dress-traditions/

0points

Elizabeth Molloy 3 years ago

27 years married. We did none of those things; no fuss, little expense. It's about the marriage, not the wedding.

0points

Joy 3 years ago

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Mertimo 3 years ago

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JessG 3 years ago

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Sori 3 years ago

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Logic and Reason 3 years ago

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Nia Loves Art 3 years ago

Do what you want, don’t do what you don’t want. Other than releasing the pigeons (don’t do that) these are all down to personal preference, not right or wrong.

0points

Kizito 3 years ago

Where are the pics? BP needs to stop posting like this. Whatever happened to the pictures.

0points

Carrot Stick 3 years ago

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0points

Stille20 3 years ago

I don't think these are "ditch-worthy". Basically some people want to throw out the whole thing... good for you, but someone else may value the tradition.

0points

Lea S. 3 years ago

That's the point. None do these brides said no one else should do these things. They just said they weren't.

4points

Thorfin Wolfsbane 3 years ago

Is anyone going to say it? - Weddings themselves are old fashioned, useless traditions

-1point

elStiJneriNO 3 years ago

nope, nobody seems to be saying that

1point

Eslamala 3 years ago

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Bre 3 years ago

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Nikki Sevven 3 years ago

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Felix Feline 3 years ago

That's a myth. Birds can safely eat rice.

6points