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Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.
And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.
Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.
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#1
Imma Use This One Sometime
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#2
Photographer Shaming A Guest
#3
Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...
The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.
Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.
This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.
#4
4 Weddings And A Cat Party
#5
Found On Twitter
#6
Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter
But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”
Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.
She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.
#7
This Is Terrible
#8
What A Hilarious Prank!
#9
I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On
Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.
Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.
“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.
#10
Real Life Soap Opera
#11
Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical
#12
It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know
#13
You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride
Full of Giggles 4 years ago
A glass of red wine and a fake misstep would easily rectify this situation.
#14
Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price
#15
This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!
#16
Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!
#17
We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money
Downunderdude 4 years ago
We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.
#18
A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....
#19
Do Not Talk To The Bride At All
Raine Soo 4 years ago
This is a wedding planner who spelled 'ceremony' as ' seramony'. Ha, ha, ha! There are plenty of other errors, but I've decided not to be a grammar Nazi.
Lauren Caswell 4 years ago (edited)
Seramony...argh(acceptance...admited...) I've worked as a proofreader before, and this is just so awkward to read!
MellonCollie 4 years ago
And not just because of the terrible writing skills!
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Iris Wolfie (づ ◕‿◕ )づ 4 years ago
Me: *comes in wearing ivory, arriving 15 minutes late, dyed hair, wearing full face of makeup, chats with bride, brings $5, toasts with beer, and records during "seramony"*
Troux 4 years ago
Do not wear anything other than a basic bob or ponytail. So it's a nudist wedding?
cybermerlin2000 4 years ago
I seriously doubt this was from the wedding planner. More like a bridezilla pretending to be the planners to dictate the wedding but with the 'No talking to the bride' line I'm more inclined to think its the groom. Besides, a wedding planner who can't spell?
Toujin C'Thlu 4 years ago
Could be a family member trying to take control of the wedding, too.
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Arctic Fox Lover 4 years ago
The next day: You have 35 emails. Subject: Canceling Subject: Sorry, but... Subject: Cancelling Subject: I Am So Sorry Subject: I Am Just Too Busy 30 more...
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
"Seramony"? "Must have $75 cover charge gift"? This isn't a wedding. It's a shake-down.
StardustRainO8 4 years ago (edited)
I get the don't wear cream, white or ivory, but everything else is just over the top. Wow.
WilvanderHeijden 4 years ago
Some points on this list are quite normal, but the majority of the demands is just insane and that's reason enough to avoid the crowd that's willing to accept them.
Dorothy Parker 4 years ago
None are normal. You announce before the ceremony to shut off phones and put away cameras.
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Aria Whitaker 4 years ago
Well, to be fair...the couple are the ones that make the rules...the wedding planner is just the ones that notifies the guests of them....
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Among Us 4 years ago
Ok so the first few were ok and reasonable, like yeah come early so we don't have to waste time waiting, yes, put your hair up, that's fine, don't look like the f***ing bride, yes, it's not your wedding. What are the next ones though, don't "fave" a full face of makeup? Do you mean don't have? No recording, yes ok that's fine I guess. Don't check on FB? Why not? And these last ones are stupid. Don't talk to the bride? Seriously? You invited someone to the wedding and they can't even talk to the bride? Then what's the point? Ok the toast one is ok, yeah I guess but with 75$? So 75$ for attending "Commit sit down for over an hour"?
Katinka Min 4 years ago
Ok, I do support rule 5 (if spelled correctly) and while I always assumed Nr 2 woudl be obviosu, this post shows that it isn't. But the rest? What the hell is this 'DO NOT TALK TO THE BRIDE??? And the entrance fee? I wonder if anybody actually came after this. I know, I wouldn't.
Deidre Snee 4 years ago
I'm not sure I believe that an actual wedding coordinator sent this. Sounds more like it came from the bridezilla hiding behind "wedding coordinator" title.
M Kate McCulloch 4 years ago
all invited guest...ssssssss I asked people to come, said there would be food, said where we were registered, and told them gifts are optional - not required at all "Your presence is your present to us!"
A Random Panda 4 years ago
The bob one literally means that if you don't want your hair in a ponytail, you have to get it cut.
Lisa Larson 4 years ago
"Seramony"? "Acceptance"? Where did this person learn English? As for the "must come with gift 75$ or more....I'd tell them where to put it
Analyn Lahr 4 years ago
How did this person get hired in the first place? Also, those are stupid rules.
Shinomi Chan 3 years ago
Putting a 'must' price is already a big yikes, but what the hell? If you invite people, you SHOULD mingle with them! It's a goddamn given! Why invite anyone and not just going to get a certificate instead?
rachel carter 4 years ago
This wedding planner has a lot of spelling mistakes as well as grammar issues.
Karen Loftus 4 years ago
This can’t be real - it’s filled with spelling and grammatical errors. It’s unprofessional. It can’t be real.
Retro Dan™ 4 years ago
1, sure. 2, seems fine, 3's a little eh but I kinda get it, 4, hey grammar, but the point's valid, 5, isn't that just basic etiquette anyway? 6, uh...okay, sure, 7, maybe a little draconian, but 8 WHAT THE F**K ARE YOU SMOKING, 9, do you mean 'exceptions', maybe? And I'd toast with whatever the hell I want, which sure as balls isn't some overpriced alcoholic soda, and 10, I'm not paying a cover charge if I'm not gonna see tits.
Tina-Marie Tarrant 4 years ago
If your Wedding Planner can't spell Ceremony, have or admitted, you might want to find another. This whole message is extremely distasteful, but who gave the Wedding Planner the Rules and Regulations in the first place? It's a wedding not a military coup.
Ann Collingwood 4 years ago
'Seramony'? 'acceptance' - surely you men 'exeptions'...? ....and how dare you ask for a present which has a lower price limit?!
Flavia Slag 4 years ago
Fave a full face of makeup....Fave? No makeup? Can I wear my bathrobe and slippers? Should I brush my teeth? Maybe no shower? Did anyone show up to this wedding? PS I would make it a point to talk to the bride.
Faith Hurst-Bilinski 4 years ago
You cannot spell "ceremony" or "won't" Your opinion is invalid.
Ashley Wright 4 years ago
So many misspellings in wedding coordinator’s ‘instructions,” —how many mistakes is she going to make in her job? “Ali...” sounds completely ignorant. She also sounds like a Nazi.
Imperfekt 4 years ago
I'd probably show up in bright luminescent white with full clown makeup, hair done up with ribbons and bows and super curly, carrying a long neck bottle of beer and a $2.00 bill as the gift and would immediately start chatting up the bride even if I had to yell across the room to get her attention.
Luuta 4 years ago
And "if you want to be admitted", not or, not "admited". This has got to be fake!
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Abigail Kreiss 4 years ago
Aside from the terrible spelling, the tackiness having to demand hair and dress codes would make me re-think even marrying into this group.Ew!
Michelle C 4 years ago
So do we toast with the Remy or not??? since we can't accept it...or did you mean exceptions
Lululoohoo 4 years ago
is this real? the spelling, the grammatical errors, the rUeLZ are a complete dumpster fire.
Toujin C'Thlu 4 years ago
I'd call the wedding planner and ask if they actually sent this out.
Yvonne Blau 4 years ago
What does no. 9 mean, I don't get it. Otherwise it sounds like great fun!
Raine Soo 4 years ago
Everyone toasts with Remy Martin French cognac fine champagne.
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Gahhh This Is Bad
#21
Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?
#22
Wedding Guest Shaming
#23
Yikes Yikes Yikes
#24
Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day
#25
“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”
Downunderdude 4 years ago
Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.
#26
Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit
#27
$250 Min Gift To Attend
#28
Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time
Downunderdude 4 years ago
No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.
#29
She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride
IlovemydogShilo 4 years ago
Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”
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KombatBunni 4 years ago
My partner and I are going to wait until it’s safe again to have our wedding. Not sure when that will be but we are 100% certain that we don’t want to risk anyone’s heath..I have no issues with waiting :)
CamlikesCookies 4 years ago
That may have been a hard decision to make, but it was the right one :)
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Cecilia Bivald 4 years ago
I got the sudden urge to have a wedding where everyone is in white dresses and I’m dressed in black.. how’s that for a white wedding?
westwing 4 years ago
Man, There are a lot of selfish, willfully, ignorant hillbillies getting married who get their health advice from Donald Trump, a guy who isn’t smart enough to take care of a hamster....LOL
Steve 4 years ago
Actually, Mama Panda has as a point. Guests wearing wedding dresses, demanding huge gifts, tying puppies to tables and 97% of the rest of this has nothing to do with Trump, just bad taste
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Cathelijne van Weelden 4 years ago (edited)
Sometimes I feel a lot of people are putting way too much emphasis on all the external display and rules on how a wedding should be. In the end the only thing that it is all about is love.... Not the amount of people, how big your cake is or your car. It's about the love between 2 people nothing more and certainly nothing less...
Steve 4 years ago
Weddings in India can last over a week, and sometimes they invite everyone in town. Not just a US thing
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
The marriage matters, not the wedding. IMHO. Weddings are one day. Go say the vows, in a nice outfit, then have lunch, and spare yourselves and the world all the drama.... Did it that way, no regrets!
Helen Haley 4 years ago
Why does everyone seem to think that getting married means you can be a diva, the world owes you something, or that you can shake people down for presents?
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
So many people have lost sight of the fact that it is the marriage, and not the wedding, that is the most important thing here. So, if you were going to have a big wedding that happens to fall during quarantine, go ahead and get married, even if by Zoom. Then later, once the threat has passed, have the ceremony and party. Who cares if it’s not exactly your real wedding day—-it’s still a celebration of your marriage!
Kathryn Patterson 4 years ago
That is what my daughter and son-in-law did!
Load More Replies... Mohammad Azhaan 4 years ago
We have a family in our neighbourhood (18 members) who come to every family wedding with the whole crew, eat graciously and as a wedding gift, give us an envelope full of 10 Rupees ( $0.14 ). I mean if you want to be stingy, just dont give anything, why such meagre sum as if we are broke beyond means?
Viviane 4 years ago
These posts range from questionable taste on the part of the bride and groom (relatively harmless) through the inconsiderate (restrictive rules and/or demands for expensive gifts) to the truly dangerous. I'd attend the first, reconsider the second and definitely skip the third.
Eulalie Grace 4 years ago
My spouse and I had a nice wedding with good friends and family in attendance. didn't ask for anything - got nice gifts anyway. What people could afford, or not. Didn't care - just wanted everyone who was there to be there. Had an open bar - BIG HIT! Great food, family style. And lots of FUN! We just celebrated 25 years this summer. How long are these lovely ladies (🙄) and that crazy gun-toting maniac and his blushing bride going to be together?
Flavia Slag 4 years ago
And we wonder what's going wrong in the world. "But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, ..." 2 Timothy chapter 3. Let those who have ears understand.
Isle_of_stressed_pilots 4 years ago
I have a story! My mothers friend (lets call her Sarah) was planning on getting married to her fiance (James). Now, Sarah has been through her fair share of grief, one instance being that her niece (katie), who she was REALLY close with, had died of cancer earlier that year. To make matters worse, Sarah is a nurse and had been caring for Jane during most of the time Jane was in the hospital. But during Jane's funeral, the song "Ave Maria" played, so Sarah obviously has some bad memories and emotions attached to the song. Now, you must know that the mother of the groom-to-be (MIL for short) is VERY controlling and traditional. So she insisted that "Ave Maria" needs to be played as the bride is walking down the aisle. Sarah was very stern and chose a different song to be played (as she should, because it's her wedding, not MILs). Well MIL literally went out of her way and told the organist to play Ave Maria. The organist obviously refused, so MIL BRIBED THE ORGANIST with hundreds of $...
Steve 4 years ago
Easy way to make this appropriate is to have another funeral for MIL after the wedding
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Tracy Wallick 3 years ago
Some of the women in white strike me as attention-seekers, but I've read articles about some women who made an honest mistake and didn't realize wearing white to a wedding that isn't yours is a faux pas.
Valerie Anne 4 years ago
My fiancé and I are planning our wedding for a year from now, but if it's not save, we'll get married with our parents and a best man/maid of honor and have a party when it's safe.
Kathryn Patterson 4 years ago
Good for you, Valarie Anne! That's what my daughter and son-in-law did this past May 15th. Party will be next May!
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reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee 4 years ago
I was confused about the negative reaction to most of the posts, then realized i cant read
KombatBunni 4 years ago
My partner and I are going to wait until it’s safe again to have our wedding. Not sure when that will be but we are 100% certain that we don’t want to risk anyone’s heath..I have no issues with waiting :)
CamlikesCookies 4 years ago
That may have been a hard decision to make, but it was the right one :)
Load More Replies... Cecilia Bivald 4 years ago
I got the sudden urge to have a wedding where everyone is in white dresses and I’m dressed in black.. how’s that for a white wedding?
westwing 4 years ago
Man, There are a lot of selfish, willfully, ignorant hillbillies getting married who get their health advice from Donald Trump, a guy who isn’t smart enough to take care of a hamster....LOL
Steve 4 years ago
Actually, Mama Panda has as a point. Guests wearing wedding dresses, demanding huge gifts, tying puppies to tables and 97% of the rest of this has nothing to do with Trump, just bad taste
Load More Replies... Cathelijne van Weelden 4 years ago (edited)
Sometimes I feel a lot of people are putting way too much emphasis on all the external display and rules on how a wedding should be. In the end the only thing that it is all about is love.... Not the amount of people, how big your cake is or your car. It's about the love between 2 people nothing more and certainly nothing less...
Steve 4 years ago
Weddings in India can last over a week, and sometimes they invite everyone in town. Not just a US thing
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
The marriage matters, not the wedding. IMHO. Weddings are one day. Go say the vows, in a nice outfit, then have lunch, and spare yourselves and the world all the drama.... Did it that way, no regrets!
Helen Haley 4 years ago
Why does everyone seem to think that getting married means you can be a diva, the world owes you something, or that you can shake people down for presents?
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
So many people have lost sight of the fact that it is the marriage, and not the wedding, that is the most important thing here. So, if you were going to have a big wedding that happens to fall during quarantine, go ahead and get married, even if by Zoom. Then later, once the threat has passed, have the ceremony and party. Who cares if it’s not exactly your real wedding day—-it’s still a celebration of your marriage!
Kathryn Patterson 4 years ago
That is what my daughter and son-in-law did!
Load More Replies... Mohammad Azhaan 4 years ago
We have a family in our neighbourhood (18 members) who come to every family wedding with the whole crew, eat graciously and as a wedding gift, give us an envelope full of 10 Rupees ( $0.14 ). I mean if you want to be stingy, just dont give anything, why such meagre sum as if we are broke beyond means?
Viviane 4 years ago
These posts range from questionable taste on the part of the bride and groom (relatively harmless) through the inconsiderate (restrictive rules and/or demands for expensive gifts) to the truly dangerous. I'd attend the first, reconsider the second and definitely skip the third.
Eulalie Grace 4 years ago
My spouse and I had a nice wedding with good friends and family in attendance. didn't ask for anything - got nice gifts anyway. What people could afford, or not. Didn't care - just wanted everyone who was there to be there. Had an open bar - BIG HIT! Great food, family style. And lots of FUN! We just celebrated 25 years this summer. How long are these lovely ladies (🙄) and that crazy gun-toting maniac and his blushing bride going to be together?
Flavia Slag 4 years ago
And we wonder what's going wrong in the world. "But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, ..." 2 Timothy chapter 3. Let those who have ears understand.
Isle_of_stressed_pilots 4 years ago
I have a story! My mothers friend (lets call her Sarah) was planning on getting married to her fiance (James). Now, Sarah has been through her fair share of grief, one instance being that her niece (katie), who she was REALLY close with, had died of cancer earlier that year. To make matters worse, Sarah is a nurse and had been caring for Jane during most of the time Jane was in the hospital. But during Jane's funeral, the song "Ave Maria" played, so Sarah obviously has some bad memories and emotions attached to the song. Now, you must know that the mother of the groom-to-be (MIL for short) is VERY controlling and traditional. So she insisted that "Ave Maria" needs to be played as the bride is walking down the aisle. Sarah was very stern and chose a different song to be played (as she should, because it's her wedding, not MILs). Well MIL literally went out of her way and told the organist to play Ave Maria. The organist obviously refused, so MIL BRIBED THE ORGANIST with hundreds of $...
Steve 4 years ago
Easy way to make this appropriate is to have another funeral for MIL after the wedding
Load More Replies... Tracy Wallick 3 years ago
Some of the women in white strike me as attention-seekers, but I've read articles about some women who made an honest mistake and didn't realize wearing white to a wedding that isn't yours is a faux pas.
Valerie Anne 4 years ago
My fiancé and I are planning our wedding for a year from now, but if it's not save, we'll get married with our parents and a best man/maid of honor and have a party when it's safe.
Kathryn Patterson 4 years ago
Good for you, Valarie Anne! That's what my daughter and son-in-law did this past May 15th. Party will be next May!
Load More Replies... reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee 4 years ago
I was confused about the negative reaction to most of the posts, then realized i cant read
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