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Woman Sends Her Wedding Guests A List Of Rules She Wants Them To Follow, And Many Start Canceling
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Woman Sends Her Wedding Guests A List Of Rules She Wants Them To Follow, And Many Start Canceling

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Reddit user Calm-Blueberry2618 took the saying “My wedding, my way” and cranked it up to 11.

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In a post on the subreddit r/AITAH, the woman explained that she and her fiancé sent a list of rules to the people they invited to their ceremony and began receiving cancelations.

The bride then shared the demands, asking others on the platform if they indeed sounded unreasonable, and instantly got a reality check — pretty much everyone said she and her partner should seriously rethink their whole ceremony.

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    This couple sent their wedding guests a list of rules for the upcoming event

    Image credits:  Felipe Bustillo (not the actual photo)

    But when people began replying with cancelations, the bride started doubting them

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    Image credits: Polina Zimmerman (not the actual photo)

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    Image credits: Olga Korolenko (not the actual photo)

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    Image credits: Justin Clark (not the actual photo)

    Image credits: Calm-Blueberry2618

    Even though “it’s their day,” people throwing the wedding need to keep their guests their top priority

    Of course, when you’re in the midst of planning your wedding and are putting so much time, money, and effort into the whole thing, it only makes sense that you want it to be as fun as possible. Not only for you, but everyone involved as well.

    According to Fallon Carter of Fallon Carter Events, the number one rule couples cannot forget is that they should “lead with generosity and compassion.”

    It’s important to acknowledge the effort guests have made to come to the wedding (some may have even traveled from far and wide) and to be a gracious host.

    Image credits: Samantha Gades (not the actual photo)

    “Communicate gratefulness; make time to say hi to people and love on them as much as you can. There’s so much beauty that comes out of that,” Carter says.

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    Mandatory diets sound like the exact opposite of such an approach!

    At first, it may seem contradictory. After all, the whole world is telling you “This is your day,” but Carter believes if you’re hosting a wedding, you need to think about what your guests want—not just what you want.

    “If you think this day is only about you, elope,” she says. When hosting a wedding party, your guests should be the top priority. Not some props you invite only for the photos.

    So no wonder everyone thinks the author of the post and her partner need to reevaluate their whole plan

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    CanadianDimes
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: you’re getting married, not winning a Nobel prize. People get married every dämn day. No one else is as invested in your wedding as you are, nor should they be.

    Spocks's Mom
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This post makes me so happy I married at the courthouse. The nice arrested couple that came in handcuffs in the middle of the ceremony seemed nice too. 🙂

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a great story! Were they under arrest for crashing someone else's wedding? LOL.

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    Zedrapazia
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I actually found the first one reasonable (phone free wedding is ok, people before the smartphone era could do this too) and having a black color theme. But then it just all devolves into some Looney Tunes büllshit with dresses and pants, maintaining weight, and shooing around a small child. Someone needs to give the wedding couple a reality check.

    Tyke
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    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Before the smart phone era people either had fewer "child free" weddings and generally a lot of people lived closer to family, so weren't leaving their kids with a babysitter who wasn't family. I personally don't find the phone thing reasonable as no way am I making myself uncontactable for what would effectively be an entire day and evening when I have a child.

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    CanadianDimes
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: you’re getting married, not winning a Nobel prize. People get married every dämn day. No one else is as invested in your wedding as you are, nor should they be.

    Spocks's Mom
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This post makes me so happy I married at the courthouse. The nice arrested couple that came in handcuffs in the middle of the ceremony seemed nice too. 🙂

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    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a great story! Were they under arrest for crashing someone else's wedding? LOL.

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    Zedrapazia
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I actually found the first one reasonable (phone free wedding is ok, people before the smartphone era could do this too) and having a black color theme. But then it just all devolves into some Looney Tunes büllshit with dresses and pants, maintaining weight, and shooing around a small child. Someone needs to give the wedding couple a reality check.

    Tyke
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Before the smart phone era people either had fewer "child free" weddings and generally a lot of people lived closer to family, so weren't leaving their kids with a babysitter who wasn't family. I personally don't find the phone thing reasonable as no way am I making myself uncontactable for what would effectively be an entire day and evening when I have a child.

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