30 People Share Things They Saw At Weddings That Made Them Think A Divorce Was Coming
Weddings tend to bring out a lot of big emotions, screaming, crying, laughter, joy, and tears. But if there are, perhaps a few too many tears at a wedding, perhaps something is up.
So someone asked “What at a wedding screams "This couple will get a divorce within a year"?" and folks from across the ‘net gave their best examples. Guests, wedding planners, photographers, and many others all shared the things they have found to be signs of a marriage already on the rocks. So get comfortable as you scroll through and be sure to upvote your favorite examples. Comment your own thoughts below.
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The violent smashing of cake in the face of a partner who didn’t expect it.
Yep, disrespecting boundaries and enjoying humiliation of your partner is not a good start into a marriage. I remember distinctly the report of a guy who smashed his bride's face into the cake and impaled her on a cake support. Then he whined that she had the marriage annulled. They had both agreed to no cake smashing beforehand. What a surprise that a woman doesn't want to be with a man who breaks promises for lolz and sends her to hospital on her wedding day.
The best wedding cake gag I saw was at my brother's wedding. They shared a fork full of cake each after cutting it and the carefully picked up the whole cake telling everyone "Sorry, no cake for you. It's all gone" (They brought it back)
The success of a marriage is inversely proportional to how many times the bride says “this is MY day.”
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Load More Replies...Anybody else hear that in the voice of the Lord of the Nazgul? "Do you not know death when you see it? This is MY hour!"
If a marriage is thought about in terms of days, it won't have many of them.
I had a co-worker who had dreamt of her wedding her entire life. Find a man, convince him to marry her, & this huge perfect wedding. She chose me even though I was already married. She pushed all of the right buttons without being sexual. It was all about that special day & not much more than that. She was attractive & seemed personable. It took her about 20 years of trying to finally hook "a man".
The bride cares more about the wedding than the marriage.
The groom cares more about getting hammered with his mates than anything else.
Any family member openly belittling or insulting their new in-law.
Either spouse's ex rocking up uninvited.
I spent most of my time walking around and thanking people for coming, chatting politely. My wife didn't get hammered but did drag every woman there up to dance and spent most of it dancing. We met up every hour or so for time outs and to catch up. This is after the meal, toasts, etc, around 7pm.
Exactly, It's one of the reasons I don't understand why people spend so much on weddings. I'm not saying mine was cheap by any means, but it wasn't a several tens of thousands on one day job. It wasn't huge, it was just nice, classy, and beautiful. :) As a couple, the money you may have spent on your wedding can be used on much more important things imo.
My ex-mother-in-law cried at our wedding and said “Oh, I thought no one would ever have him.”. 😳
I’ve been to two weddings where the bride cried because the cake wasn’t perfect. Those two marriages are 0 for 2.
Wow! My cake arrived at our flat and had a fairly large gash in it because of a mishap with delivery. I went "eh, that looks fixable", sent a message to the person who was setting up the party so they could be prepared, and went back to putting on my make up. The cake baker was called April's Baker. Go look them up, their work is GORGEOUS.
assuming the one I found, based in London, is the one you're talking about, their/her work is indeed gorgeous! The pastel tones are lovely and the retro style is brilliant!
Load More Replies...I have a friend who cried about her cake. To be fair, she paid a lot for it and it was butt ugly, nothing like what they agreed. But she had her moment, then pulled herself together because she didn’t want it to spoil her day. She’s been happily married for more than a decade.
Considering how expensive those cakes can be I understand being upset.
Load More Replies...my mom and dad’s cake was completely frozen. the baker forgot to take it out of the fridge or something. they still laugh about it today.
My cousin got married last week. They commissioned a cake that was a re-creation of a specific battle scene in Star Wars. Well, the cake wad 6hrs late and a disaster when it finally arrived. When I realized it wasn't going to be there by the ceremony I knew I had to say something to the bride (I was a bridesmaid and the cake 'point person'). When I told her she took a swig of beer and said, "I'm marrying Jay, who cares about the cake?" She's incredible!! (I still read the idiot the riot act and got their money refunded, though they didn't ask me to).
My wedding cake was simple like a traditional birthday cake, and I had already ordered a big cake in this bakery previously. It just was ugly. No decorating skills. Even a 12 yo could have done this. I just said 'meh, I know it will be delicious'. It was.
Drunk bride or groom BEFORE the wedding.
Yes. I was matron of honour for a friend who was absolutely legless when I arrived before the wedding to help her get ready. If the JP who officiated had not been a personal friend of hers, they would not have been allowed to marry with her in that state. Didn’t last very long.
They have done everything the family wanted but not what they wanted as a couple.
Unless they eloped secretly and now are happy to let the families do whatever they want for the "wedding".
Oh the rows with my mother trying to control who came. I'm paying, I choose, I know she's your sister but her husband's an arsehole and can be massively offensive so they're not coming. End of.
Snarky jabs being included in the wedding vows. “I can’t believe I got stuck with someone who leaves the toilet seat up” etc just reeks of poor communication and resentment, not quirkiness
It's also disrespectful to the guests. That's not what they came to hear.
i saw the WORST vows on youtube... the groom went on and on about sex stuff in front of his two young daughters... mentioned how hot margot robbie was and how he'd leave his wife for her... but ONLY her, guess that was supposed to be sweet? and ended it all by "letting her choose" whether she wants to be a twinkie or a toaster strudel on their wedding night?! yeahhh... BARF. and her vows started with "i know i'm no model..." and she was beautiful!! like what has this man done to you?? get OUT while you can!!! anybody disrespects me and my family like that, i'm walking back down the aisle the other way......
Am I the only one that doesn't care about the toilet seat being left up? I leave it down so what's the difference? Inconvenient either way.
My cousin looked like he was at a funeral when he got married. Never saw him smile except for pictures and it seemed so fake. He got his marriage annulled within 3 weeks. We found out years later that he found out less than an hour before the wedding that his bride-to-be was sleeping around with her ex. My cousin didn't call off the wedding because he felt like he would disappoint everyone who traveled so far to see him.
Poor guy :< It had to be devastating finding out too late that his soon to be wife is a hoe.
He wouldn't have disappointed everyone who traveled so far to see him, SHE was the one who disappointed HIM and everyone who traveled so far to see him. At least the guy would have had family with time off and travel plans already made to surround him, support him, and love on him. Screw her...oh, wait, that's her ex's job now.
He should have called it off. Hard as it might have been, I think people would have accepted his reasoning, and it is still way easier than going through a legal divorse afterwards where she can "steal" half of your money/stuff. If he can't face his family on the day, then don't show up and call the "bride" instead.
If the wedding is annulled - it is like it never happened - she or he will get nothing from the other.
Load More Replies...Our photographer made us select people who made us laugh and then dragged them round with us for the photos. Even hungover grumpy me managed to crack a smile while bring roasted by our mutual friends standing behind the photographer.
Better yet, break up with her on the alter, and invite everyone to the reception to celebrate your narrow escape.
At a wedding years ago. The best man’s speech ripped the bride apart to an uncomfortable degree and the groom clearly loved it. The bride not so much, they didn’t get past 9 months. The best man and groom are still good friends.
The best man is gay, but in the closet, and very much in love with the groom. The groom loves having a good friend who's always there, but doesn't have a clue his best man is gay.
The best man could also be a rude, loud, and toxic straight guy. There are some of those around.
Load More Replies...The mother of the bride and the best woman both tore me a new one in their speeches and then my family heckled me during mine.
Older brother had his wedding on a tropical Island and at least 20 of us attended. The morning after the wedding she was seated alone on a beach crying while he was riding Quad bikes with his buddies lol
If one of the spouses can't even make the other the main focus during their honeymoon, and rather goes to a joyride while the partner is crying alone, that's definitely a sure sign the marriage was a mistake.
I agree. If the spouse is fine with the other spouse doing so, great. Crying on the beach is a pretty clear sign she was not.
Load More Replies...It seemed funny at the time of the wedding. The best man pulls the groom away from the bride to go fishing & drinking. A fun thing to do at weddings. I've known a couple of women who's husbands did just that in the marriage. Loveless marriages.
The bride or groom trying to scoot away from the other, and avoiding physical contact. I used to work as a DJ and when I saw this I knew the relationship was in trouble.
Oh, that and avoiding eye contact with one another. Not a great sign...
"pranks" on the wedding day. I used to sing in my church choir (a Catholic church at that, marriage is a sacrément and a Big Deal theoretically) and the groom couldn't wait for the pranks to begin - he did the naff "help me!" gag written on the soles of his shoes. We had a bird's eye view from the choir loft. Half the room snickered, the other groaned, and the priest was just 😑.
In France, if you do such jokes you won't be married, church or not church. Consent is taken very seriously, and if you dare answering no as a joke, you'd rather book another wedding (and you'll have to wait for 3 weeks by law).
I attended a wedding where the officiant asked the groom if he were entering into the marriage of his own free will and without reservation. The groom responded, "So far nothing's been free and we had to make reservations for everything." I thought it was hilarious, but I found out years later from the groom that the officiant came *thisclose* to refusing to continue.
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The groom or bride caring more about being with their friends and getting high/drunk than actually being with their spouse. Saw this at a wedding i helped out once where the groom f****d off for the half the wedding to get high with his friends. Bride had zero clue where they went and was super angry. They got divorced.
Or where the bride and groom hardly talk to each other. Went to a wedding once where the bride and groom barely talked to each other and never really showed any excitement or whatever.
Those are bandaid weddings. The relationship is already crumbling and the wedding is meant as a fix it. They think that when they get married, everything will change for the better. Sometimes it gets even worse and when the wedding doesn't work they have bandaid kids.
You must be a carpenter because you're very good at hitting a nail directly on the head, ma'am :D
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Recently it was the bridal party having to beg my SIL to come out of the house to go to her wedding.
I don't get why so many people get married when they don't want to or to people that don't make them happy. Like, I get there can be other factors (e.g culture and religion), but I mean outside of that.
Sometimes, they feel that they *have to* get married, even if they know that their partner isn't "the one". I.e. they were with their partner for the last 10 years, they know that it doesn't work, but the perspective of ending the relationship, thus having to change their whole life seems more frightening than continuing an okay-ish relationship. Especially if the other partner is still in love and wants to get married.
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His vows are all about her… and so are hers.
Went to one like this... so painful to witness. His vows were basically "I love you despite all the things you do that drive me crazy" and hers were "I'll try every day to love you as much as I know you love me"
They have no concern arguing for an extended amount of time in front of other people over the smallest of things.
Groom screwing one of the bridesmaids. (yes I've seen it)
It's wild that people do this. Aren't bridesmaids/groomsmen often friends/family? Even if the bride or groom is a pos, I can't imagine doing that to a friend or vice versa.
It seem to happen way to often. How hard can it be to keep your pants on until the wedding night?
Or "WHAT"!!! (They should've sold copies of the video at the reception.)
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When the parents on either or both sides run the whole damn show. It's often an omen.
When the groom’s very pregnant ‘friend’ that no one else knows shows up. I think you can probably see where this is going. A distant family member of mine isn’t the brightest in the bunch.
Omg your spouse having friends!!!??? RED FLAG, IMMEDIATE BREAKUP NECESSARY!!!!!!
I took it that since nobody else on either side knows who she is, that she’s not actually his ‘friend’. Having friends is fine. Having babies with them, not so much.
Load More Replies...The kiss at the end of the ceremony is awkward and poorly done. Most typically seen at severely religious weddings where the couple has barely had any physical contact or intimacy and are mostly getting married because they want to have sex. Having grown up Baptist, I've seen many of these and often wonder how terrible, weird, and disappointing the wedding night must be.
I would imagine these are the marriages between two people who vow to have their first kiss be their wedding kiss. I will never understand them, but they have a right to exist.
As a Roman Catholic, I was brought up believing I should enter marriage as a virgin, though kisses certainly would be allowed. Well... I never married, but... let's say I grew up ;)
Load More Replies...I can't imagine marrying anyone without knowing if we were sexual compatible.
1000 times this. Now your married. Aaaaannd now you find out you're sexually incompatible. Enjoy your annulment or misery, or both.
Load More Replies...How does an awkward kiss in a room full of people = a divorce coming? Two people who have never had sex before, regardless if it’s their wedding night , will still awkward and weird. Neither of them knows what they are doing.
I think the point was more on it being a sign they never kissed before that point. Intimacy is a good way to tell if there is chemistry (not just sex but kissing and cuddling hand holding) if couples barely have contact they wont know how compatible they are. Heard a story where a couple did this. Barely hugged never even held hamds it was all "until marriage"come wedding and the few months to come after they both bad the other was at kissing (they both felt nothing) marriage fell apart.
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The groom's mother wears a white dress.
My husband's mother wore a black dress that made me think of a funeral (with small touches of white fortunately), and the face she made... Happily together for 25 years
So did mine. That woman never liked me. The best day of my life was when I realized that I could cut her out of my life after my husband died (the cutting out part, not the dying part)
Load More Replies...A mother wears a white dress to her son's wedding for only one reason. It's a declaration of war.
When either the bride's or groom's mother wears a white dress. If either father wants to wear a white dress, well.....
Well, That's ANOTHER Matter ENTIRELY. But Hey, "YOU DO YOU"!!
Load More Replies...It's a matter of respect towards the bride and not trying to get all the attention during which should be the bride and groom's day.
Load More Replies...I went to a wedding where the groom spent the whole night playing on his phone while the bride met all the guests and chatted with everyone. They lasted six months.
Because she married a child, not a man. Playing on a phone during your own wedding?!
Sounds more like he's an introvert and she's not. Hiding behind a phone in stressful social situations is a soothing thing, keeps you from freaking out. Don't I know...
Load More Replies...I have been a wedding photographer, and there’s several factors that makes me think that the marriage is not going to be very happy. Many times they probably won’t divorce because the wife have been conditioned to think it’s the norm, but she won’t be happy. Some of the red flags I have seen are: - When the groom has been up drinking the night before, showing up with a hangover in church and being in a bad mood for the reception because of it - When they spend no time together at the party, only interaction when people force them because of traditions. Often they are splitting up with their separate friend groups and the groom will be drinking with them - When the groom doesn’t give a speech or makes a very half hearted one he didn’t put much effort into. Makes me sad every time - when they have their kids there and the wife is the only one responsible for them - when the bride is nagging, in a bad mood and is correcting the groom several times throughout the wedding - when the groom smashes wedding cake in the brides face without consent, laughing about it when she looks hurt
My cousin got married last week, he didn't make a speech; he was too busy showing off his wedding band, when he looked away from her long enough to remember the rest of us were even there!
Load More Replies...Neither my husband or I made a speech, and we spent the reception apart. It was important to me to dance the night away and it was important to him to spend some time with all his friends and family that he doesn't get to see as often. You have to be able to do things separately. We spent the whole day before the 6pm reception together and have been together for 14 years.
No speech from my husband either, it was traditional for the best man to give the speech back in our day-1972.
Can we normalize throwing the glass of wine/champagne at the groom during the toast?
I really don't remember any of the speeches - and i know my husband did not make one - 42 yrs
I've observed that a woman who has a "wedding book" ready when she meets a guy, will be married quickly and divorced even faster.
It is a complete plan for how HER wedding is going to be -all she needs is a "Ken doll" to play the part of the groom.
Load More Replies...We have someone in our family who had a rebound marriage. No sooner did he divorce his lovely first wife, he knocked up & married another woman. That marriage last a little over a year. He then marries a 3rd time & he deserved the psycho. After that marriage went sour, he made the comment "I need to find another wife". That side of the family does not speak their mind. Not me. I yelled at him & told him that he needs to fix himself before he marries again.
I attended a wedding where the ex-girlfriend was invited as a guest. At some point accusations were made of pre-wedding infidelity; and at the reception there was a fight between the aunts of the bride and groom. The groom left the site and I had to go and bring him back to the reception. It was a real mess. Marriage lasted about 2 years.
I was (one of) the ex-girlfriend(s) who was invited to the wedding. We dated in HS and remained good friends well after. I was there to support my friend, linked up with some of our other buddies and had a great time; his other ex (also from HS...he dated her after me), despite it being YEARSSSS since they'd been together, while she didn't ruin anything per se she definitely made it a bit awkward when she sat through the ceremony then left the venue in dramatic fashion, holding back tears...she did not attend the reception. It was a lovely wedding; I met and became friends with his wife that day. They've been married nearly 20 years now and still going strong! So it's not always bad when "the ex" is invited. 😜
The quality of the toasts. If they’re s****y or too one sided, there’s no hope.
When my wife’s cousin got married, the maid of honor talked about their long friendship for about ten minutes and ended the speech with “and I don’t know Groom very well, but if Bride picked you then you must be a good guy!”
The best man’s speech was worse. “When Groom told me he was marrying Bride the first thing I said was…what are you thinking?!” And then a long pregnant pause before we went on to say some more positive stuff. About the groom. And the pause was very, very long. To the point where it was clearly not just a joke.
They divorced after maybe 18 months.
So yeah, I feel like s****y toasts are an indicator that things weren’t meant to be.
My MIL made a terrible speech about us checking in with ourselves to see if we were still happy together. She had a horrific divorce. We smiled like it was a normal speech because we knew it was coming. Points for us: my husband is very familiar with how NOT to act in a relationship!
When they're too happy as if they have reached their lifetime goal, usually it's a shut up marriage and won't last. If they're happy because they're celebrating their love with their loved ones but act as if the wedding won't make a huge difference in the already existing relationship, it can last
yep the wedding shouldn't be the goal, but the beginning. The real celebrations should be 25 years, the 50 years etc. Getting married isn't the hard part, it is the time after that where you have to put in the work, and where you can celebrate your achievements AFTERWARDS.
I agree. There should be a LOT more about the "happily ever after" part then the starting ceremony.
Load More Replies...My sister and brother in law got engaged 2 weeks after they met, married after a year. Their wedding was on a very small budget, home made wedding dress, home made cake, small venue afterwards for the reception. The only thing they splashed on was renting the local historical hall for the actual ceremony. People were told to wear whatever made them comfortable, the only stipulation was 'no hats'. As most of their friends are burly biker people there was a lot of ripped jeans and leather jackets etc but neither of them cared. All they cared about was celebrating their marriage with their loved ones. They are still happily married 25 years later. My sister says the only regret about the actual wedding was that she didn't get a professional photographer, just collected photos from the guests afterwards.
Haha! This just made me realize that we viewed our wedding as a necessary formality, and we were both relieved when it was over. Getting ready to hit 30 years
Happiness is a travel, not a destination. Think about it...how often did you want something really really really bad and did everything you could to get it and once u got it, u grew bored of it fairly fast, cuz now you don't have any more goals to pursue.
When the guests all guess how long it will last, usually it lasts forever. Isolation is a hell of a drug.
Yes. First time I heard about this I thought that it must be a joke. Why do people do this and why is it supposed to be funny?
Load More Replies...I think that having a wedding instead of a civil ceremony is the first step to divorce.
I knew a couple who met & got married two weeks later. A gorgeous looking couple. Two weeks later the police & ambulances showed up. They beat the living daylights out of each other. Lost touch with her. The guy went thru multiple marriages with very unattractive, very dumb foreign women who only cared about getting a green card.
sooo basically every couple in every episode of 'bridezillas' ever? yup sounds about right!
Stuff like this makes me want an arranged marriage. Not sure if many Jewish matchmakers do lesbian weddings but that sounds like it might work better: outside observer matches you with someone based on your personalities, you see if you’ve got any interest in them, and the love comes later. Sounds like much less drama.
Yes. First time I heard about this I thought that it must be a joke. Why do people do this and why is it supposed to be funny?
Load More Replies...I think that having a wedding instead of a civil ceremony is the first step to divorce.
I knew a couple who met & got married two weeks later. A gorgeous looking couple. Two weeks later the police & ambulances showed up. They beat the living daylights out of each other. Lost touch with her. The guy went thru multiple marriages with very unattractive, very dumb foreign women who only cared about getting a green card.
sooo basically every couple in every episode of 'bridezillas' ever? yup sounds about right!
Stuff like this makes me want an arranged marriage. Not sure if many Jewish matchmakers do lesbian weddings but that sounds like it might work better: outside observer matches you with someone based on your personalities, you see if you’ve got any interest in them, and the love comes later. Sounds like much less drama.
