Narcissism is mental illness. I think she has borderline personality disorder, too. She needs to be a princess and have others recognize how unique and special she is, or she wants to cancel it all.

@Goldencat; That was Elle bo bella, Attitude Goddess, Queen of the Most Expensive Chair in the House, The Girl Who Terrified Dogs..... She died of mesenteric lymphoma when she was 18. That was about 9 years ago.

Is that your cat ?

Ohh, wow I'm so sorry about that ! I hope she is happy in the world she is now in ! Have a great day !

Might be Narcissistic and Histrionic Personality Disorder

Narcissism is a mental disorder.

Is her last name Trump?

Narcissism is a mental illness? Gtfo. It's a trait, and hiding it behind 'mental illness' only serves as an excuse for inexcusable behaviour.

Narcism is a mental illness

...which might be similar in conclusion.

Hahaha! Yes! :)

No. Entertainment is entertainment. It is her as an individual who made stupid decisions and mentioned that TV show. She would still be just as stupid if she watched The Knick or GoT, which she probably does. I would bet money I’ve seen more Kardashian episodes than she has - I’ve seen every episode and would never act that way or be that dumb. Ironically, it’s the mark of true stupidity to blame a show for someone’s behavior. This reminds me of when 90’s era parents blamed Marilyn Manson for teen suicides and shootings. That’s how you sound, kiddo.

I never had an engagement ring and our wedding bands were stolen about 1 year into the marriage...never replaced. Who needs to have a ring to show they are loved....

Carol, I lost mine when I was pregnant with my third child who is now 15 and hubby's broke about ten years ago. We never replaced ours, either. Just seemed like a useless expense.

Well, yes it is, because mental illness is what *causes* you to be that way. So few people understand mental illness. However, I still don't think people should be subjected to these crazy bastards and suffer them as friends just because they got the mental illness label. It's not a pass to let those people drag you down. People have to watch out for their own well-being. I had a BF with schizophrenia who refused to take his meds and was a paranoid d**k toward me and I got out of it because sure, I felt bad for him, but he was ruining my life and I wasn't going to watch myself go down like that.

That's what I said!!

My parents were the same way. My Dad gave my Mom his mother's ring for an engagement ring - a ring that had huge sentimental value, but little actual monetary value. Their wedding rings were a pair of simple gold bands that they had engraved with their initials and their wedding date. That's it. Cost maybe $400 for the set.

Hey Rachel, I have a sister like that! Agree with you regarding mental illness and not making assumptions that someone must be ill to be like this.

I can't reply to your comment Erica so I'm replying to mine. Yes I'm aware there are personality disorders. What I'm saying here is that it's unfair to throw out that she is mentally ill, as it can stigmatise people with mental illnesses. She could be perfectly fine, and just a rotten to the core spoilt entitled brat. It is not our place to assume the mental state of people as it's not their fault they are that way. My sister is a selfish, self centred nasty piece of work and she doesn't have any disorders. She's just grown up thinking that the world owes her s**t simply by virtue of existing regardless of the values my parents tried to instil in us.

I deal with mental illness daily and I think that it is a way of giving her the benefit of the doubt, not an insult. It would make her a much worse person if she acted this way without it being caused by an illness.

Can we maybe quit diagnosing people with mental illnesses from our armchairs here? Like Rachel said, people with mental illnesses have a difficult time already, and conflating bad behavior with mental illnesses and personality disorders throws people with those conditions under the bus by association.

I am not assuming that a questionable character and a mental illness have anything to do with each other. However, the way this person perceives the world and the way she believes that obviously something was plotted against her gives it a taste of a loss of reality. It _could_ mean that she is at least prone to be not fully sane in the very meaning of the word. To which degree a person is an a*****e and to which degree mentally ill is even for experts not always easy to guess if both fall together. And again, I am not implying that mentally ill people usually exert a selfish behaviour. In fact, I believe it often is quite the opposite.

And I apologize..your sister does not have a mental illness, she has a personality disorder...still treatable though. Suggestion..let her spend a few month in the slums. She may appreciate what she has then. I know it's worked for some people I know. You have to treat people with what I call "privileged disorder" the same as an alcoholic. Let them hit rock bottom and they will sometimes snap out of it.

The fact that your sister grew up thinking the world owes her s**t by the simple virtue of existence regardless of what you or your parents do and that this outlook makes her a mean nasty person...that IS a mental illness. And psychiatrists will classify it as a mental disorder because a mental disorder is any behavior that doesn't fall with in the norm of human behavior. Some of it you are born with, some you learn along the way. Most are treatable and I expect at some point your sister will snap out of it when someone she really really loves rejects her for her behavior. And while I agree that this woman is probably not mentally ill (just a byotch,) she does have a personality disorder that needs to be addressed. You are comparing apples to oranges. Same area of mental health..different labels.

There is a whole group of mental illness that are called "personality disorder." People with personality disorder have a fundamental problem with reality testing, personal boundaries, and maintaining mood stability. This doesn't excuse their behavior, but it helps get some insight into it. These people are treated with a combination of medicines and Dialectical Behavior Therapy. It is a life long condition. As long as they work on themselves and are held accountable for their actions, they have a little chance of living a high quality life. Since you yourself struggle with mental illness, I'm confident that you know that mental illness has a broad range of illnesses, so of them difficult to understand (even by the clinicians).

That is literally impossible to diagnose from a Facebook post, even one as absurd as this. If you were actually trained in mental health you would know that.

Oh come on I'm diagnosed with BPD and I can not understand any of her behaviors at all. She's just... ahhhhhh not from this planet.

And holy c**p carol emry youre a fking moron! You cant cure a mental illness. She doesnt have a mental illness its a personality problem. Who the hell are you to tell that person what their sister has?!! Wtf are you a dr? Ive had a mental illness for over 15 yrs since i was a kid and i think I would know what it is.

Also, probably hocked the ring.

There are whitish/pinkish cultures that do the money thing as well. The same occurs for funerals and the birth of a child for many, many, many cultures. It's the village helping people carry the load during times of joy and times of sadness.

Why does it matter what color you are?

WTF does being a "brown girl" have to do with this?

I’m a brown girl planning a wedding. I’m definitely not inviting more than 15 people maximum though. Weddings are personal, I only want the most important people in my life around. No distant relatives, old friends or coworkers. That always seemed weird as hell to me. I don’t expect anyone will get expensive gifts for us but I guess it’s possible. Any gifts or no gifts at all is cool with me.

She kept the money from the foolish family members that DID give her money. Tradition and decency dictate that all gifts should be returned if nuptials are cancelled. But of course she is a greedy self-centered twat, so...

Perhaps they thought she was joking. How did someone like that not show her true colours before?

That`s $74 actually. Yeah, it might not seem much, but the average salary in Russia is just around $600, so 5000 rubles is quite a generous gift for a wedding.

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5000 rubles is not even $60

Stupid thing to get into debt for. I knew someone who got married at the same time I did. Flashy, big job. Several months later the marriage was over. All that money spent on a marriage and now they had to pay for the divorce. Just for that one big special day. I have one big special marriage.

Not true, I loaned a small amount to my friend for his marriage, coz he wanted to hire a balloon artist to entertain kids, but he was already over-budget and was kinda sad that he wont be able to do it. I offered to pay the artist, everyone was happy in the end, specially the kids. No harm done and by no means "he has no business getting married in first place"! And I got the my contribution back after few months, without even asking about it.

@Ladies - I don't see a problem with that, but your friend wasn't asking you to pick up the tab for the food, wine, clothing, venue, etc for a wedding that he couldn't afford in his wildest dreams. Entertaining the kids at a wedding (ours was child free - mostly because most of our friends don't have kids), is crucial.

True, as I never Gift my friends money on weddings, except one time, instead I had Gifted Box of condoms- All size and flavors, I had gifted bed sheets with custom prints of bride and groom faces and all sort of weird stuff, just for fun and everyone seems to enjoy it.

Normally in countries like America, money gifts are given but not normally a grand. Normally around $100

I am rooting for you.

You'll be great - sounds like this crazy bride could use your skills!

Her families most likely federally subsidized farm, where she nets more profit if her crop fails than if it is successful. Got an aunt and uncle that live that way of his families land.

Thank you BC! Fingers crossed I make it through the whole program.