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Person Shares The Rudest Wedding They’ve Been To, Where Guests Got Divided With Stamps On Their Hands And Were Served Different Meals Accordingly
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Person Shares The Rudest Wedding They’ve Been To, Where Guests Got Divided With Stamps On Their Hands And Were Served Different Meals Accordingly

Person Shares The Rudest Wedding They've Been To, Where Guests Got Divided With Stamps On Their Hands And Were Served Different Meals Accordingly“It Was So Uncomfortable”: Newlyweds Divide Wedding Guests Into Two Groups With Hand Stamps, Serve Drastically Different Dinners Accordingly“Her Family Couldn’t Afford A Nicer Meal”: Confused Wedding Guests Are Divided Into Two “Levels”Wedding Guests Get Divided Into Groom's And Bride's Side, Groom's Gets High-End Meals, Bride's Gets Deli TrayWeddings Guests Are Really Confused After They Are Divided Into Two “Levels”Wedding Guests Are Left Confused And Uncomfortable After Bride And Groom Split Them Into Two Groups For Dinner“Two Levels Of Wedding Guests”: Bride And Groom Serve Significantly Different Dinners, It Makes The Guests Super UncomfortableWedding Guests Get Divided Into Groom's And Bride's Side For Dinner, Leaving Them Uncomfortable And Confused“Two Levels Of Wedding Guests”: Bride And Groom Make Their Guests Uncomfortable By Serving Them Different DinnersWedding Guests Are Served Different Food Depending On Which Side They Are From Because Groom's Family Is Richer Than The Bride's
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A recent wedding has been making headlines on Reddit for a unique and controversial reason. The groom’s parents refused to pay for guests invited by the bride, making the couple serve different meals to their invitees and causing quite a bit of discomfort at the venue.

One of the people who witnessed the whole ordeal, Redditor Pistalrose, described how it all went down to the platform’s community ‘Wedding Drama‘ and their post is a testament to the challenges that can arise when families are forced into an alliance.

A lot can go wrong during a wedding

Image source: ILev4us (not the actual photo)

But this one was torn apart by financial tensions between the parents of the groom and bride

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Image source: moniquewray (not the actual photo)

Image source: Pistalrose

If the groom’s parents wanted more control over the wedding due to their bigger financial contribution, they should’ve negotiated with the other involved party

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Image source: Drew Coffman (not the actual photo)

Wedding etiquette expert Lisa Lyons, who has been in the industry for about two decades, thinks the guest list should be devised with the couple’s sensibility and budget in mind.

“Would it make sense to you and your fiancé to have 300 guests at a wedding, or is that something that would make more sense for someone else in your family to do, and you would feel most content with 75? Financially speaking, you can account for the number of wedding guests that you have to provide food and beverage for, along with your venue fees to account for 50% of your budget,” Lyons explained.

So it sounds like the wedding Pistalrose attended had it completely backward — it was not the guest list that was put together according to the funds but the ceremony itself catered to the number of people who were coming.

Back in the day, this groom’s parents probably would’ve had the deciding vote for the names. “Traditional etiquette dictates that the persons hosting the wedding determine the guest list,” Lyons said.

But that’s become a thing of the past. “Modern etiquette, I dare to say, dictates a transparent conversation between the couple and their families to determine that each set of parents gets one-third of the wedding guest list, and the couple gets the remainder.

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And they probably could’ve worked something out together

Image source: Samantha Gades (not the actual photo)

However, the fact that the guests had totally different experiences seems radical even to this day.

As we mentioned in our recent article Bride’s Dad And His “Moral” Girlfriend Demand Her Wedding Is Entirely Vegan, So She Un-Invites Them, it’s normal for the parents to contribute unequal sums. Although the lady’s folks are the ones who usually dig deeper into their pockets.

According to BRIDES, if they are following tradition, the groom’s family is traditionally responsible for the bride’s engagement ring and wedding ring(s), all groom attire, groomsmen gifts, boutonnieres, and corsages for the appropriate wedding party and family members, the officiant’s fee, the marriage license, rehearsal dinner costs and transportation and lodging for the groom’s family and groomsmen.

The bride’s family is expected to bear the brunt of the expenses including the wedding dress, bridesmaids’ gifts (bridesmaids are still expected to buy their own dresses), the wedding planner or coordinator, the invitations, the flowers, the wedding reception, photography, the groom’s wedding ring, music, any pre-wedding day meals for the wedding party and transportation and lodging for the bride’s family and bridesmaids, as well as transportation for wedding guests, if needed.

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If one side of the family offers to pay for a majority of the wedding and they expect to have more say when it comes to the wedding guest list, décor, wedding and reception location, and even the menu, everyone should make sure these types of expectations are clear from the get-go to avoid surprises like the one we just read about.

People had a lot to say about this strange situation

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Labellesouris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think if my parents had done that to my fiancé, I would have said "never mind" and we would've paid for the wedding, whatever we could afford. Or just call the whole thing off.

Caro Caro
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it demeaning, making me wonder why the groom didn't put his foot down and say "the wedding is all or nothing - don't insult my bride or in-laws".

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Liz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s so bizarre. My close friend’s dad paid for his entire wedding because his family is more well-off than his wife’s family. And there was no weirdness. Just two families joining together.

Susan Marie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow how awful. If anything, why not cut out co-workers to save money. Personally I'm kind of annoyed at how many events like this I've felt the need to attend over the years, for people I never saw again once I left the job, anyway. But I guess that's beside the point. You can't treat your guests differently based on who invited them. It's the groom's parents' fault for being so petty, but the bride and groom didn't have to go along with it.

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Labellesouris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think if my parents had done that to my fiancé, I would have said "never mind" and we would've paid for the wedding, whatever we could afford. Or just call the whole thing off.

Caro Caro
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it demeaning, making me wonder why the groom didn't put his foot down and say "the wedding is all or nothing - don't insult my bride or in-laws".

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Liz
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s so bizarre. My close friend’s dad paid for his entire wedding because his family is more well-off than his wife’s family. And there was no weirdness. Just two families joining together.

Susan Marie
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow how awful. If anything, why not cut out co-workers to save money. Personally I'm kind of annoyed at how many events like this I've felt the need to attend over the years, for people I never saw again once I left the job, anyway. But I guess that's beside the point. You can't treat your guests differently based on who invited them. It's the groom's parents' fault for being so petty, but the bride and groom didn't have to go along with it.

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